I know you was trying to be facetious, but this is a real problem in my family.
I few weeks ago I sent a KS video about women not knowing how to date to my older sister (44y/o) & older cousin (45y/o) in a group chat, after watching they both admitted that they had made mistakes in how they chose partners for most of their life. It's easy to point out the problems, but a bit harder to examine the causes & possible solutions.
We didn't get to this point overnight, and it's not all on women. Fatherless homes play a role, why are/were these home fatherless? There is a litany of causes for the fatherless home issue. Poverty also plays a part, both material poverty & mental poverty. And we know there are several systemic roots to our socioeconomic issues.
Solutions:
Hard work, accountability, doing more than your part, changing habits, behaviors, decisions, & speech.
In order for me to stop the cycle of dysfunction in my family I have to pull the weight of the men that didn't carry theirs. All my uncles, my grandfather, weak Fredo ass cousins... smh I have to be solid for the women in the fam with daddy issues, a lack of respect for men in general due to never being able to depend on a man, and example of consistency & high character for the youngins, and accessible for advice or assistance to all.
Since my cousin was killed by police in April, its a lot to manage & juggle, while staying balanced myself.
I'm built for it tho.
I know I want to break the cycle and its not easy or fast, it takes work.