The Official BGOL " All About Women" Thread....

[Naha-Nago]

that's what most cats don't understand, esp. white dudes.

when they find-out their lady is fucking someone, they say, "I'm gonna kill that motherfucker... for fucking my wife. that's my wife!!"

so, let's say he does... and gets away with it.

but guess what? he's gonna have to kill again because instead of getting rid of the problem (unfaithful wife), he attacked the 'symptom.'

so, he's gotta kill again... and again... and again.

this nicca will end-up with multiple murders cause his wife's a little slut.

bottom line: if she wasn't raped, SHE WANTED TO GET FUCKED BY ANOTHER MAN. PERIOD. END OF STORY.​

why can't young cats understand that? when a woman wants to give-up the pussy, ain't nothing you can do.

women, whether single or married, will ALWAYS pop the question on men... "what does all this fucking mean?"

i ran into an old high school flame that was married (but separated), and after about 6 months of 'play time' with me, she decided to try and make her marriage work; so she went back to hubby.

she never popped the question on me... she just said: "i made a committment to this man, and we need to make this work. as for me and you, our 'story' had to have an ending... and this is it. i am still married to him."

what can you say to this?

my point: not all women are emotionally fucked-up and stressed because they have a guy on the side. some want/need the attention of a man and are mature enough to handle their situations.



how do you 'sound like a pimp?'

don't fall into the traditional role of thinking when it comes to fucking and relationships.

see, some cats are conditioned to think:

1. men are the aggressors.
2. women are always the poor, helpless, innocent 'victims.'
3. women can't help but get fucked by some slick bastard... who took advantage of her poor soul.
4. if she's giving up the pussy, it's because the guy enticed her... and because she's a woman, she couldn't resist.

to those 4 statements, i say...

you niccas have a LOT of growing up to do.

1. WOMEN ARE AND CAN BE SEXUAL PREDATORS!!!
2. women can be aggressive... they like to fuck, and they will pursue the man they want to fuck.
3. they are NOT weak little innocent victims; they are humans with a sex drive, and if they're not getting hit right, they will creep.



pay close attention at: 1:30

pay close, close attention at: 4:00 to 6:00. let Nina break women down for you, i.e., WOMEN ARE JUST AS AGGRESSIVE AS MEN; THEY JUST GO ABOUT IT IN A DIFFERENT WAY.

sounds like somebody's wife done got tossed around.

why the fuck you so bitter, nicca? i'm not fucking your wife... and if i was, YOU'D NEVER KNOW, cause women are slick like that.

i suggest you bury your anger and learn a few things about women before getting personal against me for where i stick my dick. men who monitor another man's dick activity are fags. and wishing i 'get clapped' over some pussy... well, that's just pussy on your part.

like i said, IF YOU CARE TO READ, sometimes, women lie. sometimes women are sluts. sometimes, women just like a new dick to ride.

this includes MANY WOMEN you know.

'somebody's wife' may be separated, unhappily married, dealing with a cheating husband, or just out to fuck cause her pussy got hot or because she's attracted to the guy.

who the fuck are you to judge me? ​

you the type of nicca to call me 'scum' but in your spare time, you're caping for, saving, and praising a woman who willingly came to MY house to give up her MARRIED PUSSY. they're not victims, they're willing partners.

respecting their marriage is MANDATORY for them... but it's OPTIONAL for me. understand?

with that said, nicca fuck you and 4 more niccas that look like you.






some of these niccas are moist like bitches reading these threads.

60% of men cheat and about 40% of women cheat. meanwhile, almost 55% of marriages fail, and of those that end in divorce, 70% are due to FINANCIAL issues, not infidelity-as most marriages 'survive' infidelity.

almost none survive the partner fucking with the money.

*two cents*

 

[Naha-Nago]

BUMP FOR KNOWLEDGE.

*two cents*

 

[Naha-Nago]

my approach has always been what i call "burka style."

it's a simple method... take AWAY the smile, tits, nice ass, lovely complexion & hair, and ask the broad:

WHAT ELSE DO YOU HAVE TO OFFER ME?​

my point is that these broads will 'blind' you with those tits, squeezing pussy muscles and round, firm ass... making niccas buy rings & pay bills out of weakness.

then, you find yourself sprung on a broad that really ain't shit when you "boil off the water."

this is why you see doctors, lawyers etc. (see Obama) with average to below average (LOOKING) women... it's because those women are a pleasure to be around and bring a LOT to the table, most of which is their attitude and personality.

short term: we all WANT a halle berry.
long term: we all NEED a michelle obama.

*two cents*

 

[Naha-Nago]

Thought this was related to the dicussions on this thread


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Male Sexual Priorities

December 7 2011

You already know that men and women have different and often conflicting priorities when it comes to sexual relationships, and you’ve probably heard the simple version a million times:
•Men want to spread their seed into as many women as possible without having to commit their resources to the women.
•Women want to extract resources from as many men as possible without having to commit their womb to those men, and accept only the seed of the (one or a few) men with the best genes and/or social position of power.

And you’ve probably heard the slightly less simple version too, with the competitive element included:

- Male sexual priorities include:
•Impregnating lots of women
•Preventing other men from impregnating those same women
•If in possession of a surplus of resources, helping as many of one’s offspring survive as the surplus allows

- Female sexual priorities include:
•Being impregnated only by the men with the best genes and/or the best social position (to be inherited by her children)
•Extracting resources from as many men as possible to help her offspring survive
•Preventing other women from being impregnated by and extracting resources from those same men

These are sort of like the “basic equations” from which the well-known variations of “alpha” and “beta” reproductive strategies can be calculated. but, have you ever actually done that calculating? Have you ever thought of what a man’s or woman’s priorities look like in real life, if you rank them from “first choice” to “last choice”? Or do you just have a sort of fuzzy picture of what sexual success or failure for either sex looks like?

Being clear about what the various options look like in practice and being able to instantly recognize them in the people around you will tell you a lot about a particular person’s sexual market value, and more than likely, their general level of happiness and attitude to life, and to you – in other words, how you can expect to treat them and how you can expect them to treat you.

It’s hard to try to apply theoretical concepts to real people in front of you, so let’s make it easier by drawing a clear picture of the levels of sexual success as they appear in practice…

Male levels, organized by priority from greatest success to least – meaning that a man is always naturally inclined to choose the highest option on the list that he can achieve. (The names I made up, just to make it easier.) I’ve also included a comparative rank on the conventional alpha-beta scale:

1.The king – This man monopolizes a multitude of women (preferring ones with less previous sexual experience, of course). The defining elements of the “king” role are that he has sexual access to a multitude of women and prevents other men from having sexual access to these women. This is, biologically speaking, the ultimate peak of male sexual success. An obvious example of “the king” would be one of those ancient emperors who’d have guarded harems all around his kingdom – houses stocked with virgins for his private use only. A modern-world example would be the “office heartbreaker” type of guy (think George Clooney in any movie), the man who has tons of women pining after him and effectively denying themselves to all other men as he rotates them through his bedroom on a metaphorical conveyor belt. Rank: super alpha.

2.The secret agent – This man, while he has practically unlimited opportunities for sex with a multitude of women, lacks the ability to guard them against other men. Much of his sex happens “on the low”, through “other men’s women” stepping out on their boyfriends and husbands with him (which is why I think the “secret agent” label is so suitable). His sexual success, biologically speaking, is still great, but not as great as the king’s, because he has to share the reproductive capacity of those women with other men. Classic example: James Bond. A more everyday example: that thug who sells weed on your local college campus. Rank: super alpha.

3.The politician – This man’s sexual opportunities, while not unlimited, are still in a league above average. He’s likely to have a wife and primary “official” children for whom he provides resources, while carrying on whatever amount of affairs with interns and secretaries he finds opportunity for. His sexual success isn’t as great as the secret agent’s who can bed new women constantly without having to hide from a wife, but it’s still well above average. Classic example: whatever congressman was caught in a sex scandal last week (there seems to be a never-ending stream of them). Friendly neighborhood example: that guy in your subdivision whom everybody’s wife smiles at when they pass him on the street. Yeah, he’s getting around. Rank: alpha.

4.The bachelor – This is the average man before he gets married. He’s gone through a string of girlfriends, maybe a few one-night-stands, and he could keep doing this if he wasn’t dumb enough to fall into the next category… Classic example: every main character in a college movie ever. Everyday example: most of your college buddies. Rank: beta.

5.The faithful husband – He’s got his one woman, possibly all to himself (but also likely, she might be cheating on him with one of the higher-ups). Nobody wants to have an affair with this guy. He discovers to his dismay that his sexual prospects in marriage are even worse than they were before. Classic and real example: your dad. Rank: beta.

6.The beggar – This man is lucky to even be able to catch himself an (ugly) girlfriend or a (drunken) one night stand. He goes through dry spells longer than an Arizona interstate, and is the originator of the expression “getting lucky”, because that’s what sex is for him. Classic example: the main character’s fat friend in every college movie ever. Real-world example: a World of Warcraft player. Rank: sad beta.

7.The eunuch – To women, this man is not a man in the sense that counts. Consequently, he has no sex (unless he pays for a hooker, or kidnaps some chick and locks her up in the basement). Likely, he’s developed a deep hatred for women for this reason. Classic example: high-school shooter. Common example: a competitive World of Warcraft player. Rank: omega.


Female Sexual Priorities

December 8 2011

Yesterday, we learned to identify sexual success in men – what the life of an “alpha” or “beta” actually looks like. Now, let’s do the same with women.

Female levels, organized by priority from greatest success to least – meaning that a woman is always naturally inclined to choose the highest option on the list that she can achieve. (The names I made up, again, just to make it easier.)
1.The queen – The ultimate female fantasy is to snag the apex alpha male, the metaphorical king of the metaphorical hill (in practice, the highest-status male in her social circle) and get this man to commit exclusively to her. This is the plot of pretty much every romance novel for a reason. In real life, this pretty much never happens. You may be fooled into thinking this happens by women married to CEOs, political honchos or Tiger Woods, but usually it’s just that the women don’t know (or refuse to admit) how many interns the husband is screwing behind their back. Classic example: the queen in a Disney fairy tale where married couples stay faithful to each other. Extremely rare real-life example: the wife of the extremely rare type of man who through some strange stroke of luck managed to land a high-status career/social position despite being such an incredible beta that nobody wants to have an affair with him.

2.The Hillary Clinton – This is what happens in real life to women who try to be The Queen: they face the all but impossible task of keeping their husband’s interest against younger, hotter and more enthusiastic competition. The next best thing to having an alpha husband all to herself, she still gets to enjoy having an alpha husband as long as she looks the other way when he pounds the office intern(s). Classic example: guess. Everyday example: Your boss’s wife.

3.The cheating wife – Unable to catch herself an alpha husband, this woman is forced to settle for the commitment of a beta – but that doesn’t mean she isn’t going to be compelled by her instincts to collect the seed of an alpha on the sly and have her unworthy-to-reproduce husband foot the bill for its college tuition. Awesome example: the girl in this post, (except she couldn’t keep her mouth shut about it in the end). Regular example: your friends’ hot wives or girlfriends.

4.The faithful wife – Terrifyingly aware that a beta husband is the best she can do and that she’s lucky to have even that, and not attractive enough for an alpha to bother even fucking her on the side, she’s stuck with having to actually have her beta husband’s kid, but at least she’s got him to help raise it. Classic example: the women in those “Eat Pray Love” type movies about disappointing marriages. Everyday example: your friends’ less than attractive wives or girlfriends.

5.The slutty spinster – Unable to finagle any decently sort-of-okay man to commit to her, this woman goes into full denial mode, riding the cock carousel at maximum blast and pretending that it makes her happy. Cries herself to sleep at night (whether she’s alone at the time or not). Classic example: Carrie Bradshaw. Real-life example: any DC lawyer chick.

6.The cat lady – Unable to finagle any decently sort-of-okay man to commit to her and not even pretty enough to fill the hole in her heart with tons of anonymous cock, she accepts her fate and gets a cat… and then another… and then another… Classic example: the main girl’s fat best friend in any romantic comedy (come to think of it, those movies are kind of mean). Real-life example: that woman you’ve seen at the office every day for three years and never even contemplated talking to.

Modern feminist culture is doing a number on a lot of women, convincing them that being the slutty spinster is actually going to make them happier than finding a husband, and robbing them of their short window of opportunity to do that… and by the time they realize they were lied to, it’s too late. A sad, sad fate, to be sure. On the plus side, this means a lot of the hotter girls who, in times past, would have been married off and unavailable somewhat less available are free to wander around looking for a carousel to ride – and that could be you!

Now, let’s look at how these scenarios play out in a woman’s head when you’re gaming her and how you can use this knowledge to your advantage…

Games People Play


December 9 2011

Armed with a working model of male and female sexual market positions – the roles people play according to their options in the sexual market – we can begin to form a picture of the stories they tell themselves and how we might, if we so desire, fit into those stories.

From the perspective of a man intending to have sex with a woman (which, if you’re 90% of the readers of this website, is your perspective) the important thing is to identify the role that your target female sees herself in, because that will tell you what kind of role she’s ready to welcome a man to play in her little story.

Everybody has a story – not their real life story, mind you, but the story they tell themselves to make themselves feel like they aren’t just completely fucking irrelevant. Depending on that story, there’s room for certain kinds of characters and not for others.

Let’s go through the female sexual market levels starting from the top and find the role you’ll want to play opposite each type of girl:

•With The Queen, you’re either the singularly greatest man on Earth, or you’re no one. If she’s married or “in a relationship” (a made-up phrase that Facebook has tricked us into thinking actually has a real world meaning), forget her. She thinks her husband is all that and whether that’s denial or just ignorance makes no difference – her self-image is so deeply caught up in this fantasy that she can’t sleep with you without committing spiritual suicide. The good news is that true queens are extremely rare in nature.

•With The Hillary Clinton, things are much easier because she’s a pragmatist. She pretty much knows how it is with her man, so she’s unlikely to have any qualms about cheating with you and calling it what it is. The bad news is that by the time women reach this level of self-acceptance, they’re usually past their expiry date.

•Moving on to The Cheating Wife, the first type in this list that you’re likely to actually run into in real life and find attractive enough to pursue, the important thing to know about her is that she’s not a pragmatist. She’s never going to admit wanting to have an affair with you, she wants it to “just happen”. You’ll need to create an opportunity, because she’s not going to help you – that would be admitting her intentions to herself. A corporate conference out of town is fantastic, a “spontaneous” drink after a yoga class is good, but anything that lets her cheat without actually making her think “gosh, I’m about to go cheat on my husband now” will fit the bill. (Also, I know somebody’s going to want to email me about how horribly immoral I am to covet another man’s wife… save it. I don’t believe that marriage means anything, and neither does your cheating wife.)

•With The Faithful Wife, your chances are again on the slimmer side – not that she’s impossible to seduce, but she’s scared of getting caught and it’ll quite possibly be more work than it’s worth, seeing as how this type of woman isn’t likely to be more than barely attractive, if that. From an investment standpoint, not recommended.

•The Slutty Spinster is fast becoming the most common type of female (in the bangable age bracket, anyway), thanks to feminist culture, so this is where the major part of your efforts are probably going to be directed. Like Wal-Mart, these women tend to be low-cost, low-quality, and utterly interchangeable. The bread and butter of PUAs the world over, they are (lamentably) the “normal” girl of our time. Their prime driving delusion is thinking that they actually enjoy casual sex, so play it straight and simple as I’m sure you already know how.

•If you find yourself in pursuit of The Cat Lady, it’s time to reevaluate your standards.

But where, in this admittedly dismal view, does the pretty and good “girl next door” fit in? You know, that girl you’d actually want for more than a disposable cum dumpster?

She’s a bit difficult to find (in this model as in real life), and this leads many upstart players first exposed to the depraved side of female nature to conclude in sadness that she doesn’t exist. But she does – she’s rare in the wild, but she’s around.

The good girl is someone who wants to be a queen, thinks she’s on her way to becoming a queen (but actually probably isn’t), and is trying (often unsuccessfully) to resist the tempting slide into societally approved slutty spinsterhood.

She believes in the Disney stuff so she’s definitely not a pragmatist, which (in a rather mean twist of fate) is exactly what makes her so sweet and lovely. The great challenge is to enjoy your time with her without hurting her at the end, when her fantasy inevitably has to give way to reality. You need her to care enough, but not too much. It’s a balancing act between managing her expectations enough that she doesn’t expect you to marry her and ride off into the sunset forever after, but not so much that it ruins her experience of the time she does get to share with you. Or you can just lie, but personally I don’t really like hurting people (it makes me feel bad, damn it) so I’m going to show you the honest path.



*two cents*

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

Movies are always a reflection on life, and so we must learn from them. To learn lessons from other people and their mistakes is the moral of every movie. That is a beautiful thing if it can influence your personal life for the better, but unfortunately, movies also point out some pretty annoying things.

First of all, why are all the bad guys usually the best looking people in the movies? And why do the bad guys always end up with the hottest girls? Of course, this isn’t a problem if you were born with the good looks of Brad Pitt, but most of us were not. I for one resemble Will Ferrell from Old School. Can you imagine Will Ferrell in Troy? How about heart throb Will Ferrell in the movie Fight Club? I think not…

If we are to believe that the bad guy always gets the girl, then it’s safe to say that Brad Pitt is always going to get the girl over Will Ferrell. Of course, we all know that’s not true. Don’t we?

Movies have confused real life men and women. Bad boys in movies are usually tamed by a beautiful woman into becoming a wonderful man. Does this really happen? Real life women seem to think so, and since women in real life adore the bad boy in these movies, real life women start searching for their own real life Fight Club version of Brad Pitt to tame.

Guys, on the receiving end of this ridiculous expectation are now faced with a conundrum. You’re expected to be a hero, a tough guy and a rough n’ tumble bad boy by the women you’re attracted to, but eventually you’re expected to also be a good partner, sensitive, understanding, respectful and a nice guy. How confusing is that? Most men decide to skip the bad boy antics a go straight to being the “nice guy.” After all, that is ultimately what the women want, so you should be good. Right?

Meanwhile the bad boy who lives down the street from you is getting all the ladies. He treats women like crap, is rude to them, doesn’t call them, is disrespectful and the most annoying part is that he has a fan club of other men around him developing.

What the heck is going on here? If you look a little closer, the answer is clear. If you are a nice guy, it is time to pay attention because you’re about to learn something really important.

Let’s face it, bad guys are interesting. They are unpredictable and almost all their actions are worth talking about. When they do something bad, people talk and say, “Can you believe he did that?” On the flip side, on the rare occasion they do something good, people also talk and say, “can you believe he did that?

Bad guys have stray from the straight and narrow world we’re told to live in, almost living by their own code of conduct. Bad boys do what they want. They go where they want. They answer to no-one. In short, bad boys are fascinating creatures who do fascinating things. Nice guys follow the rules, and unfortunately, that’s pretty boring.

Bottom line, what do you get when you combine all of these facets of the bad boy? I’ll tell you: power, strength of character, confidence, bravado, charisma and an immensely interesting personality! All of that = SEXY. This is what a bad boy is. A bad boy is sexy. A nice guy is not. Even if all the qualities that helped the bad boy get to sexy status are bad things, the end result is pure raw attraction and you cannot bend the laws of nature. You cannot help who you like or who you fall in love with.

Okay, bad boys are lucky. But you know who is even luckier? It’s the nice guys and I’m about to tell you why. Women like interesting things and they also love a challenge. Bad boys for all of their sexiness are a challenge for women to tame. What women eventually realize is that you cannot tame something meant to be in the wild, and since all women eventually want that sensitive man (something a bad boy was never destined to be), over time the sexiness of the bad boy will ware off and women will give up on them.

When the women give up on the bad boy, who’s next in line? It’s YOU – the nice guy who learned something from this article. You’ll be there. You’ll be ready. Only this time you’ll have adapted your skills to stray from the lame duck dull boy towards the more desirable qualities of: Power, Strength of Character, Confidence, Bravado and Charisma. You’ll never treat a woman like crap or be disrespectful like the bad boy… that is just classless; but you will be more deliberate and sure of yourself. You’ll be less available and more mysterious. You’ll be less dull and more dogmatic. All of these things will make you more desirable to more women and you had better believe these qualities are super sexy!

Eventually, your nice guy will shine through, and that is OK because that is what women want. Until then however, let the women chase you. Remember, bad boys cannot become nice guys, but nice guys can steal the good qualities from the bad boys and finish in first place every single time.

Happy Dating!

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I think what women and even guys don't realize is that everyone has the inner bad boy...you just gotta know how to pull it out...peep the chicks in the sig..I guarantee these are usually the ones that get passed up due to their nerdy attributes.

 

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Bump ^^^

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS
You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's such a Heartless Bitch for dumping him."

I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like shit, because THEY, the "Nice Guy" have failed repeatedly in relationships. This is akin to the false logic that "Whales are mammals. Whales live in the sea. Therefore, all mammals live in the sea."

If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.

What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys (tm) are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him.

Nice Guys exude insecurity -- a big red target for the predators of the world. There are women out there who are "users" -- just looking for a sucker to take advantage of. Users home-in on "Nice Guys", stroke their egos, take them for a ride, add a notch to their belts, and move on. It's no wonder so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible, when the so often the kind of woman that gets attracted to them is the lowest form of life...

Self-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure.

Nice Guys go overboard. They bring roses to a "lets get together for coffee" date. They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date".

They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her. We are only human, and pedestals are narrow, confining places to be -- not to mention the fact that we tend to fall off of them.

They cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy, because he believes that if she learns about the REAL person inside, she will no longer love him.

Nice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions. They think it's being equitable, but it puts an unfair burden of responsibility on her, and gives him the opportunity to blame her if the decision was an unwise one.

Nice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of comprimising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in". When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, "Everything I did, I did for her.", as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs. A woman doesn't want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner.

Nice Guys think that they will never meet anyone as special as she is. They use their adoration as a foundation for claiming that "no one will ever love her as much as I do." Instead of being a profound statement of their devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: "You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I'm here."

The nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. Even if we no longer continue the relationship, the feelings will continue... But love isn't mutually exclusive. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who have loved her just as much in her past, and will love her just as much in the future. The irony of it all is: "Who would want to go out with someone who was inherintly unlovable anyways?"

More than loving the woman in his life, a Nice Guy NEEDS her. "She is my Life, my only source of happiness..." YECH! What kind of a burden is that to place on her? That SHE has to be responsible for YOUR happiness? Get a grip!

Another mistake Nice Guys make is to go after "hard luck" cases. They deliberately pick women with neuroses, problems, and personality disorders, because Nice Guys are "helpers". A Nice Guy thinks that by "helping" this woman, it will make him a better, more lovable person. He thinks it will give him a sense of accomplishment, and that she will appreciate and love him more, for all his efforts and sacrifice. He is usually disappointed by the results.

This ultimately boils down to the fact that Nice Guys don't like themselves. Is it any wonder women don't like them? In order to truly love someone else, you must first love yourself. Too often Nice Guys mistake obsession for "love".

Get this Guys: INSECURITY ISN'T SEXY. IT'S A TURNOFF.

You don't have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to the kind of woman with whom a long-term relationship is possible.

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Sex, Equality, And Kidding Ourselves

"Take Away Reason And Accountability...."

Men of today's older generation grew up in the chivalric miasma of their time, which held that women were morally superior to men, and that civilized men protected women against any available vicissitude. A corollary was that women needed protecting. So common has this understanding been throughout history that one may suspect it of being based in ancient instinct: In a less hospitable world, if men didn't protect women, something disagreeable would eat them, and then there would be no more people. So men did. And do.

Instincts have consequences, particularly when the circumstances requiring them cease to exist.

Because women were until recently subordinate, and in large part played the role of gentility assigned to them, men didn't recognize that they could be dangerous, selfish, or sometimes outright vipers. They were no worse than men, but neither were they better. Men believed, as did women, that women were tender creatures, caring, kind, and suited to be mothers. Males deferred to women in many things, which didn't matter because the things women wanted were not important.

When women came into a degree of power, it turned out that they were as immoral, or amoral, as men, probably more self-centered, and out for what they could get. Not all were, of course, as neither were all men, but suddenly this became the central current. This too followed lines of instinctual plausibility: Women took care of children and themselves, and men took care of women. It made sense that they should be self-centered.

These newly empowered women knew, as women have always known, how to wield charm, and they quickly learned to enjoy power. The men of the old school didn't notice in time. They deferred, and they were blind-sided. They gave gentlemanly agreement to one-sided laws hostile to men.

Political deference became a pattern. It remains a pattern. It probably springs in part from the male's instinctive recognition that, by giving women what they want, he gets laid. Between individuals this worked tolerably well, but less so when applied to abstract groups.

When women said they wanted protection against dead-beat dads, the old school fell for it. They were attuned to saving maidens and the sheltering from life's storms of white Christian motherhood. "Dead-beat dads" was of course that sure-fire political winner -- an alliterative slogan of few words that embodied a conclusion but no analysis. So sure were men that women were the kinder gentler sex that they never bothered to look at the statistics on abuse of children, or the track records of the sexes in raising children.

The romantic elderly male believed -- believes -- that women were the natural proprietors of the young. This led to laws virtually denying a divorced father's interest in his children, though not the requirement that he pay for their upkeep. The pattern holds today. Male judges in family law defer to women, almost any women no matter how unfit, and female judges side with their own. The demonstrable fact that women can and do abuse and neglect children, that a female executive clawing her way up the hierarchy may have the maternal instincts of a rattlesnake, that children need their fathers -- all of this has been forgotten.

The reflexive deference continued. Feminists wanted congress to pass a vast program of funding for every left-wing cause that incited enthusiasm in the sterile nests of NOW. They called it the Violence Against Women Act, and men deferentially gave it to them. Of course to vote against it, no matter what it actually said -- and almost no one knew -- would have been to seem to favor violence against women. A law to exterminate orphans, if called the Domestic Violence Prevention Act, would pass without demur.

There followed yet more male deference to female desires. When women wanted to go into the military to have babies, or a Soldier Experience, men couldn't bring themselves to say no.

When the women couldn't perform as soldiers, men graciously lowered standards so they could appear to. It was the equivalent of helping a woman over a log in the park, the legal and institutional parallel of murmuring, "Don't worry your pretty little head about a thing."

On and on it went. The aggregate effect has been that women have gained real power, while (or by) managing in large part to continue to exact deference and, crucially, to avoid the accountability that should come with power. A minor example is women who want the preferential treatment that women now enjoy, and yet expect men to pay for their dates. In today's circumstances, this is simple parasitism.

Today men are accountable for their behavior. Women are not. The lack of accountability, seldom clearly recognized, is the bedrock of much of today's feminist misbehavior, influence, and politics. Its pervasiveness is worth pondering.

A man who sires children and leaves is called a dead-beat dad, and persecuted. A woman who has seven children out of wedlock and no capacity to raise them is not a criminal, but a victim. He is accountable for his misbehavior, but she is not for hers. It is often thus.

Consider the female Army officer who complained that morning runs were demeaning to women. A man who thus sniveled would be disciplined, ridiculed, and perhaps thumped. Yet the Army fell over itself to apologize and investigate. Again, men are held accountable for their indiscipline, but women are not. Men expect to adapt themselves to the Army, but women expect the Army to adapt to them. And it does. The male instinct is to keep women happy.

Note that a woman who brings charges of sexual harassment against a man suffers no, or minor, consequences if the charges are found to be unfounded -- i.e., made up. A man who lied about a woman's misbehavior would be sacked. He is accountable. She isn't.

Yes, large numbers of women are responsible, competent, and agreeable. Few engage in the worst abuses, as for example the fabrication of sexual harassment. Yet they can do these things. A man cannot throw a fit and get his way. A woman can. Only a few need misbehave to poison the air and set society on edge. And the many profit by the misbehavior of the few.

People will do what they can get away with. Men assuredly will, and so are restrained by law. Women are not. Here is the root of much evil, for society, children, men and, yes, women.

http://www.fredoneverything.net/Accountability.shtml

 

[blackras9]

The law and societal attitudes have yet to catch up with modern female empowerment. They won't be truly equal until they are no longer treated preferentially. Though I have no problems telling my female family members to use it to get ahead without stooping to extremely grimy tactics.

 

[14damoney]

How did I miss this thread? Interesting...

 

[Louis Koo]

Male Sexual Priorities

excellent post.

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

Rules of thumb.

Girls under 18 will believe just about anything you tell them, and will generally want to prove they are a woman by going after any older guy who shows interest that isn't old enough to be their dad.

Girls 19 to 24 typically realize they are desirable and out of stupidity think their looks are immortal. They tend to go for guys with confidence, who have high social value, or just look really good. After all, hot people attract friends.

Girls 25 to 30 start getting wake up calls as they start looking more and more like the meat bag they call a mother. At this point they start to go more for social value than looks, with a realization they don't want to pay for their own meals anymore.

Girls 31 to 40 are typically pissed off they aren't married, and at this point highly value security. A hot bitch in this age group realizes nerds not only have financial stability, aren't as likely to cheat on them, but also have some interest in listening to how she likes it in bed. Having any friends at all is high social value for these ladies.

At 41+ if the guy shows any interest in her over someone younger she'll jump his bones.

At some point in every womans life she realizes she cares about security more than looks, hence the nerd factor.

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

stop putting the pussy on a pedestal

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

Obsession: He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not
By BRIAN BRAIKER

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/romant...rtainty/story?id=13196875&page=1#.Tw5fP6VSSDE

Francesca is a smart, accomplished attractive woman in her mid-30s. A professor of art history and archeology at Rhodes College in Memphis, Tenn., she's the last person you'd expect to act like an insecure middle schooler over some boy she likes.

You'd be wrong.

"I obsess. I use the quantity of contact with my partner as an index of my self-esteem for the day," she said, asking that her last name not be used. "It is rather creepy, now that I think about it, but I'll look to see where someone checked in on [the social network site] Foursquare to find a justification for their silence."

She's not alone. Women, it turns out, tend to find men more attractive the less sure they are about how much the men like them.

Uncertainty itself -- not the thrill of the chase -- might rank among the greatest aphrodisiacs, according to a new study by Erin R. Whitchurch and Timothy D. Wilson of the University of Virginia and Daniel T. Gilbert of Harvard.

Women are apt to find men who might like them more attractive than men who definitely do, according to their paper, "He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not ... Uncertainty Can Increase Romantic Attraction."

"Uncertainty affects our thoughts in general," Whitchurch, who led the research as part of her dissertation, said. "If you can get a person to think about you, you can make that person think they're attracted to you. Uncertainty is one way to get them to think about you."

The experiment was conducted on female undergraduates, although Whitchurch believes, she said, the findings would hold true for men as well. The female subjects were told that the experiment was testing whether Facebook could be used as a dating site.

One group of women were told that four phony male profiles belonged to men that liked them the most. A second group was told they were liked an average amount. A third group was ambiguously told that they were liked either the most or an average amount by the men.

The results: Women did tend to like the men who found them most attractive. The men who were deemed most attractive of all, however, were the ones who were ambiguous on whether they liked the women a lot or just an average amount.

"You're going to think a lot about the uncertainty of that situation," Whitchurch said. As a result, your brain misinterprets its own thinking -- which can lead to obsessing -- as attraction.

Single and successful at 31, Whitchurch herself is no stranger to the phenomenon.

"I hate it," she said. "Obviously, I know the research. But it's still one of those things. And it's annoying."

Technology, she said, only makes things worse for women already prone to stress out over ambiguity. With much of our communication being both easily accessible and virtually instantaneous, the question isn't so much, "Did he get my text yet" but, "Why hasn't he responded?" she said.

"Not only that," she wrote in an email, "but we've increased the way we communicate now too so whereas before there was the good old letter and land-line phone, now we have cell phones that are with people 24/7, emails, texts, FB messages."

It's enough to drive a poor girl to distraction. Just ask Francesca.

She says she knows better, or at least acknowledges that she should. But her most recent relationship was long distance, and the amount of interaction she had with her boyfriend was never good enough.

"He would go five days without responding to an email or a text," she said. "I felt it lowered my expectations of what the level of communications should be. If I got a text that just said, 'Hi,' that would be fine.

"And I'm shaking my head saying that out loud. I'm hella interesting! I have things to talk about."

Fellas, do yourselves a favor: Pick up a phone and see for yourself.

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

John is a real estate broker. He graduated from college and makes a solid six-figure salary. He owns his own condo and goes to Atlantic City once a month to play blackjack.

James has two jobs, in the day as a service rep in Office Depot and as a waiter at night. He doesn't make much but with tips from the restaurant and money from a grant he is able to pay for his online classes.

Jason graduated from high school and works as a cable technician. He makes a moderate salary, enough to keep a roof over his head and food in the fridge for his two sons.

Jo-Jo is an aspiring promoter with a degree in communications but makes the bulk of his money selling marijuana. He makes good money but invests a lot of it into shows for up and coming artists he hopes to manage.

Which one is the dog?
Are education and income enough to determine which guy is gonna get it and split? Are their enviornment and occupation enough to determine which guy has a girlfriend or a wife? Which guy is most likely to use a woman for sex or for money? Which one is most likely to beat a woman's %#&@$!?

There's a reason women aren't more acute in their assessments and end up wondering where the good men are hiding - it's cause there is no freaking surefire way to tell whether or not a man is a dog you gotta roll the freaking dice and hope for the freaking best! This is not a new dilemma, men and women alike have been making poor choices in partners for centuries ever since free willl was established and it wasn't okay anymore to just knock a chick upside the head with a rock and drag her off by her hair saying, "You mine!".

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

QUESTION: How do you cure a disease? Answer – By first, diagnosing the problem and then applying the proper remedy. Which is exactly what I’m about to do.

For years, I’ve watched black women and the media crucify black men and completely dog us out. I’ve seen black women go on TV shows, write books, make movies, etc., all to throw us black men under the bus. They tell the world that we’re all in jail, deadbeat dads, gay, losers, etc. But it’s almost a forbidden topic for a black man to express his dislikes in black women. If he does express his dislikes, he’s called all kinds of vicious names. It’s a double standard. Also, if us black men find love in an interracial relationship, we’re labeled “weak, self-haters, Uncle Toms, etc.” Because of this, I’m gonna speak my mind and tell the complete truth.

There’s a reason why so many black women are single, and it’s not because “there are no good black men.” There are a lot of good black men out here. Black women wonder why they’re single, but they crucify any man that tells them why. If the answer isn’t something along the lines of “because there are no good black men,” they don’t want to hear it. Well — this is where the nonsense ends. You can’t fix a problem without admitting that it exists. So if you’re an open-minded black woman that wants the truth, then continue reading and I won’t tell you anything wrong…

Reason #1 – You’re Asking For Things You Don’t Have To Offer
This is self-explanatory. I see women all the time that are fat, bad attitude, unemployed, broke, have kids, no car, a bunch of guys in her life that are “just friends,” etc. Then they’ll turn around and say they want a man with a job, a car, his own place, no kids, respectful, faithful, who’s tall & slim w/ muscles, etc. This is majority of the women I see. They have a long list of demands that they don’t meet themselves. A lot of women think they’re a great catch because they’re pretty and have great sex. That’s the furthest thing from the truth. I’m gonna break it to you easy…no man in his right mind with all of those things going for him will settle for the complete opposite. It’s that simple. That’s like going to an expensive restaurant and asking them to lower their prices because you can’t afford to eat there.

Reason #2 – The Way You Present Yourself
This is a major problem with most of the women. You can’t dress like a whore, and expect to attract Mr. Right. It’s funny when I used to browse the internet websites and see the women in the pics bent over in front of the camera, half-naked, sexually provocative poses, etc., then will say “don’t hit me up if you’re looking for sex.” Hilarious! Don’t expect to be treated like a lady when you look like a whoree. Secondly, the way you look, speak and act shows that you watch too much TV and listen to too much rap. Not to mention how you’re looking for some ignorant “thug, goon, gangsta, etc.” that you think you can mold into Mr. Right. It doesn’t work that way.

Reason #3 – Material Possessions Can’t Substitute A Good Personality
Here’s where a lot of you are gonna get mad, but it’s the truth. I see women go on and on about their college degrees, how they have their own place, car, job, money, etc. Then it ends there. It ends there because after that, they have nothing more to offer. A lot of you women tend to think that you’re Ms. Right just because you have your own everything. But that’s not true. You still need a great personality. You can easily be Ms. Wrong and still have your own everything. That’s why guys will easily take a woman who’s broke, but has a lovely personality over a woman who’s doing well financially with a funky attitude. Men and men like me encourage you to be able to support yourself, but it’s the attitude that runs men away.

No man is “threatened” by your success, so get that nonsense out of your head. Guys aren’t dating you because material possessions are the only thing you have going for you and nothing more. Besides, no man wants to be with a woman if he has to constantly hear her tell him that she doesn’t need him because she’s “independent.” If you’re so independent and don’t need a man, then why are you complaining about not being able to find anyone?

Reason #4 – You Want Too Much And Don’t Know What You Want
When I say that you ask for too much, that simply means that most of you are living in a fantasy world. You watch too many movies and want too many material things. A lot of you won’t even go out with a guy unless he’s spending money on you. If a guy invited you to his place to watch movies, spend time, talk, etc. and said that he’ll cook a good meal, most of you wouldn’t accept because you’d much rather him take you somewhere and spend money on you. To you all, spending money equals caring. But that’s nonsense. In addition to that, most of you don’t even know what you want in a mate. You ask for a good guy, then when you find him, you play games with him. Then when he leaves because he has no time for your games, you claim that there are no good men.

Reason #5 – You Look Like Precious But You Want LL Cool J
This is easy, so easy that I’m not gonna get deep into it. At least 7 out of 10 BBW’s want a man who’s thin and/or has muscles. Nevermind how they’re pushing 200 or 300 lbs., but insist on having a man who works out everday. If you’re a BBW and you happen to find a thin man that likes you, then more power to you. But if you’re fat and can’t find that thin or muscular man, then you need to either work on losing some weight or find a man that likes big women. You won’t find many men who workout everyday that will date a big woman. So there’s no need for the big women to try to lay the guilt-trip on thin guys who don’t find them attractive. Like I said earlier, either lose weight or find a man who likes big women. The man who likes fat women may not be attractive, but neither are you…so deal with it.

Reason #6 – You Think You’re Strong When You’re Really Antagonistic
This is one of the most important factors of everything listed so far. Black women have taken on this attitude that they call being a “strong black woman,” when in reality, they’re just antagonizing people. Your grandmothers were strong black women. Look at the difference between your grandmothers and yourself and you’ll see a huge difference. The arguing, the vulgarity, the smacking of the teeth, rolling your eyes, etc. doesn’t make you a strong woman. In fact, it makes you weak. The reason is makes you weak is because, ultimately, you’ll end up by yourself.

Many of you are quick to call a guy weak if he doesn’t want to argue all the time and put up with the drama. Call it what you want, but no one in their right mind is going to put up with that. It’s okay to respect other people and treat them as you wish to be treated. It doesn’t make you a weak woman if you respect other people. You’re not gonna find a man of substance until you lost this “strong black woman” attitude.

Reason #7 – Your Dating Priorities Are Backwards
I saved the best for last. Time and time again, I see black women pass up good black men because they’d rather be with the losers, the players, the deadbeats, the drug dealers, etc. They purposely get with these kinds of men, because they have some silly belief that they change him and mold him into Mr. Right. Then after that doesn’t work, she gets pregnant by the guy thinking that’s gonna make him change. When that fails, now she’s a single parent. She repeats this 3 more times. At this point, she has 3 kids with 3 different deadbeats as the fathers.

NOW she’s at a point where she wants to look for a good guy — the same kind of good guy she passed up to be with the deadbeats. She see’s the good guy as the one who’s gonna clean up the mess she’s made. But soon after, she realizes that it doesn’t work like that. After years of not being able to find Mr. Right who’s gonna accept her and her baggage, she goes on and on about how there are no good men. This could’ve easily been avoided had she not PURPOSELY chased after a guy that she knew wasn’t gonna treat her right. Many of you are thinking that this sounds like a stupid female. But guess what? Women are doing this everyday, this person may be YOU. How many times have you ignored a guy who approached you like a gentleman, but yet, gave a response to a guy that approached you in a rude manner? Probably lots of times. Leave the deadbeats alone and go for Mr. Right the first time — not after you have kids and other baggage.

Those are the top reasons why black women are single. The only way to fix these issues is by first looking in the mirror and admitting that they exist. After you’ve done that, now it’s time to work on it. Even if you’ve made some of these mistakes that I’ve mentioned, you can still work on fixing yourself for the future.



This Is Why You’re Single – Black Edition | L.D. Rockefeller Carter | Raw, Uncut & Politically Incorrect (http://ldcarter.com/?p=1205)

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

I'm young and have a nice nest egg. I took her out it wasn't enough. Cooked a Lobster Omelet for breakfast, lunch (Lobster Orzo, steak) dinner wasn't enough. Flowers every month just cause. Hey bey how is your day "why u ask me that all the time?" Because I care. Her: Your boring Me: Why because I don't want to argue over bullshit? Like You and your father do?

I'm currently in a self imposed detox. I need to get healthy before I go into my next relationship she drained me mentally. I'm to the point where seeing sistas smile gives me a headache. At 26 I'm tired of the bullshit. Stop fucking with Pookie knowing he ain't shit.

aye man...some folk just gotta learn the hard way......it's a learning experience....trust me I'm 30 and believe me she'll be back when she rolls around it'll be too late...women so are so fickle...

They like jackasses till the realize they are the jackass

 

[code_pirahna]

aye man...some folk just gotta learn the hard way......it's a learning experience....trust me I'm 30 and believe me she'll be back when she rolls around it'll be too late...women so are so fickle...

They like jackasses till the realize they are the jackass

This....

seriously...never waste time trying to put perfume on shit....

there are a lot of shit women out here....

and they never wake up in time...

 

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[(0_0)..l.. finger]

WHY ARE MANY WOMEN ANGRY?



This may be difficult for some women to accept. So I will take it step by step.



1. What is anger? Physically and biochemically speaking, anger is an adrenal glandular hormonal response that prepares the body to fight or run away. In other words, it is a body response that is a type of minor fight-or-flight response that prepares the body to actually fight or run from a perceived threat or attack.

Thus, becoming angry has similar effects on the body as does fighting or running away. The blood pressure rises, and the blood glucose or sugar level rises, along with insulin, to move more “fuel” into the muscles in preparation for a fight. Also, blood is shunted away from the digestive and eliminative organs. Instead, it is shunted to the head or brain, and to the muscles, again for the purpose of preparing the body for a fight.

This is fine in an emergency, and that is what it is for. However, when it becomes a common occurrence or worse, a lifestyle, it takes a toll on one’s health, which is why the subject of anger is so important to discuss openly and honestly.



2. What is anger on a psychological and spiritual level? Psychologically, anger is non-action, and instead it is always based upon projection of fear, or perhaps another negative emotion such as loneliness. This statement needs explaining.

Action versus projecting. When faced with a difficult situation, one can take action. This is a normal adrenal response. It is a non-reversed response to a situation that is bothering you.

However, another common response is to become angry, instead. This idea is called a reversal effect. Instead of dealing with an issue, one reverses it and tries to send the problem back outside of oneself, blaming others. In this sense, getting angry is a non-action response that seems like action, but really it is not.

Projection as reversal. The nature of all human beings is to project that which they do not want in their lives. To project something means to sort of spit it out of oneself, and assign it or give it to someone or something outside of oneself. This is the essential idea of projection.

For example, I lived in a remote agricultural village in Mexico some years ago for 6 months. The people’s life and livelihood depended upon the rain to water the corn crop. When it did not rain on time, the villagers did several interesting things. They believed that God or Jesus was angry with them, and they prayed to a saint to bring rain. They also became angry at another saint who was in charge of the weather in the neighboring village, and they believed it was his fault that the rains had not come.

This is an example of how projection works. The villagers were very uncomfortable with the lack of rain. Rather than stay with the discomfort, or perhaps take action such as installing a watering system, they projected the problem outside of themselves. They did this by asserting that it was God’s wrath upon them, or that it was the doing of a saint from another village.

In a similar fashion, all human beings tend to project their fears and worries outside of themselves in order to lessen the burden of fear that we all feel at times. We never really know if we will be safe, if we will have enough to eat, a place to live, and so on. Fear is a constant companion for human beings, even those who are wealthy and live in luxury.

To repeat the principle, if one is afraid of something, and does not like the feeling that result from fear, a common response is to project the cause of the fear outside of oneself. Then one can respond to the outside person or force at arm’s length, so to speak. That is much easier than keeping the feeling within. The body’s response to any threat or attack from outside is a mild adrenal hormonal fight-or-flight response that we call anger.

Projecting positive traits. Interestingly, most people also tend to project their greatness or extreme goodness that they do not feel worthy to own or keep for themselves. Instead, they assign it to special ones such as Jesus, Buddha, the president, perhaps, or someone else whom they admire. This is a variant on the same principle. They are basically uncomfortable with the truth about themselves, which might suggest or demand certain actions. So they “spit it out”, or reverse it, and give it to someone who they think better embodies goodness, greatness, unconditional love, or some other positive quality that the person does not want to admit about himself or herself. Too often, this is how the human mind works.

3. How does this relate to women versus men? One aspect is that women are more reversed and more fearful than men. More reversed is an esoteric concept having to do with yin and yang, copper and zinc, and other factors.

Women are more fearful than men for many reasons that I will list because they are important for women and men to understand:

A. Physical and anatomical reasons for fear in women. Women are physical smaller, lighter weight, and weaker in terms of muscles than men. They are thus more delicate creatures than men. This is just a fact. It is not good or bad. It is just the truth.

Also, due to their sexual apparatus, they are far more subject to being raped than men if they are attacked. This is a horror for all women and it is in their minds at all times.

They are also more physically attractive, which makes them subject to what may be called negative attention or ‘being hit upon’ by men.

In many cases, they are also less physically agile than men, so they are more awkward in running away or fighting. To make this worse, in addition, many women foolishly wear fashionable, but uncomfortable clothing that makes it harder for them to run away from attackers. This includes shoes with no arches or high heels, tight pants that make it hard to bend the body, tight blouses that restrict the body, and more. Some are even more foolish and wear revealing clothing that actually attracts the men’s eyes and bodies to them. This which puts the women in even more danger and fear, although they may not realize it. All of this contributes to fear physically.

B. Hormonal reasons for more fear. Female hormones cycle monthly, changing each day. This can be upsetting for young, menstruating women because some of them literally think and feel different on different days. Men do not have to deal with this hormonally-caused perception problem.

Men have more testosterone, a hormone that gives one a feeling of superiority, safety, and confidence. Women have more estrogens, hormones that increase copper and decrease zinc. This combination often gives rise to more spacey and less confident attitudes. This is explained more below.



C. Biochemical reasons for women’s greater level of fear. Women have much higher copper levels than men, and lower zinc levels, in most all cases. Copper stimulates the biogenic amines, which accentuate the emotions. Copper has other enzymatic effects that stimulate the diencephalon or old, animal brain. Meanwhile, men have less of this, and have more zinc in their bodies. Zinc tends to calm and balance the emotions.

Women also have a slower oxidation rate than men, in general. This is related to their hormone levels, particularly estrogen, which slows the oxidation rate, and other genetic factors. The effect is that their glandular system is more sluggish, and generates less energy than men’s glandular system, in general. As a result, women tend to be lower energy creatures than men. This also makes them more scared, as energy is a key to being able to fight back and/or run away from all threats and attacks upon them. This is a critical difference between men and women that is not appreciated nearly enough.

This is enough, I hope, to convince the reader that women are more fearful than men.


4. What does this have to do with anger? As explained above, the main method that everyone uses to deal with fear is to project it away from oneself, and then respond to it with anger. This is just a fact of life. Women have more fear, and therefore they are more prone to anger. This is the entire reason. It is not better or worse, it is just a fact about men and women.

 

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FATHERS AND OLDER BROTHERS DID NOT KNOW HOW TO LOVE THEM PROPERLY


Not loving a young girl properly is very common. Here some may disagree, but I believe that all women want and require the love of a mature, detached, non-sexually involved man in their life. It is a fatherly love that they crave. It is basically the love they have for God, but in human form. Men, of course, need this, too.

Women also want and need an excellent role model so they can grow up properly centered and relaxed, and then they will seek out and be able to identify the right man to marry or mate with so they will remain safe, relaxed and centered. When father or older brother does not provide this role model, young girls become very angry, and it gets worse if they later marry men who are like their father or older brothers.

Many different scenarios of improper love for a daughter are possible, such as:

· Spoiling the child. This is usually due to sexual games, or simple immaturity on the part of the father, or some other kind of ego interplay with the daughter or with the wife, perhaps.

· Father loves his daughter so much he fears harming her in some way, so he avoids loving contact with her. This occurs quite often, in fact, especially if the mother is loving, so the father defers to her for giving the girl hugs and so on. This, I contend, is a big mistake. Girls need the love of a father as well, as it is quite different in effect and feeling from the love of the mother.

· Unavailable in some way. Sometimes the father must be absent for work. At other times, the father is simply emotionally cold or uneducated as to how to express feeling and say the right things, so he feels awkward and withdraws. Sometimes a father is so intimidated by his wife that he just gives up and lives in his own world, allowing mother to raise the children. This is also common and harms the daughters a lot. Some men simply do not relate well to women, due to their own unresolved and unforgiven traumas. This can affect a young girl who cannot understand why her father is distant, or mean, or acts strangely in some way.

· Resentment of Dad by mother that is either taught to the daughter, or the daughter just copies it, distances the daughter from her father. This is also extremely common. She wakes up too late, often, to realize what she or her mother have done to her and how much she misses the love of her father that was, in fact, there for her. This is a common and sad refrain found in middle-aged women who have often had unhappy marriages and cannot figure out why.
· Father may be a bad example – perhaps alcoholic, or a poor provider, or perhaps the cheating type. This can cause tremendous anger in a daughter. It can turn to hatred that separates the daughter from her father.

· Lack of gentleness, or knowledge of how to handle a child. Some men simply do not know how to treat a daughter. This goes for some mothers as well. Women, however, tend to be a little gentler than men, which the children need, especially at a young age.

· Some men do not like having children around, and this can be felt by the children easily. If a man does not like children, he should not have them. The same is true of women, of course.

· Intense sexual attraction between father and daughter. This is often a karmic situation that needs resolution. It is a very delicate matter, as neither the girl nor her father fully understand the attraction and either may subtly encourage it, making it worse. The daughter might parade around scantily clad, for example, not realizing at all what the effect is on her dad. The man may also walk around with just a towel on, or less, not realizing how it affects his daughter. These are delicate matters to resolve carefully with the help of a counselor, if possible and if needed.

· Fathers who physically or emotionally abuse their children, or vampirize them.

· Other. For example, some fathers really wanted a boy, so they take it out on the girl child and perhaps even try to make her into his baseball partner or golf companion. Such aberrations are not uncommon and represent areas of immaturity on the father’s part.

 

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LACK OF UNDERSTANDING OF MEN


Many women do not understand that men are somewhat biologically “programmed” to stare at their breasts and their crotch, and that most men have a lot of trouble changing this programmed behavior. Hating men for it won’t change it.

Also, some women do not realize that men are also biologically programmed to reproduce. Also, women need to understand that most men do not know what love is about, and they confuse sexual desire with love. This is unfortunate, but too many women turn around and hate men for it, when this is not the solution. The solution is to understand biological programming. Then women will keep their bodies well-covered up and avoid tight clothing, lots of makeup, sexy outfits, flirting and other things women do. This will reduce the ways that women tempt men to “fall” for them, which in turn often makes women angry.

 

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Higher copper and lower zinc

Women have higher copper levels and lower zinc levels than men. Copper enhances ALL the emotions, including anger.

In addition, many girls and women today are copper toxic. In other words, they are overloaded with copper. It begins with getting too much copper in utero from their copper-toxic mothers, today. It is made much worse by vaccines, medical drugs, especially antibiotics, poor quality and deficient diets, vegetarian-leaning diets, and later by the use of some birth control devices that increase copper such as the pill, the patch and the copper or pill IUD.

 

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RESENTING BEING WOMEN


Some women resent their gender. They resent being physically weaker, being treated not as well as men in some ways, and some resent the inconvenience, discomfort and emotional upset of their menstrual cycle.

Few leaders in most nations help women make sense of their unique gifts, abilities and role in life. This has gotten worse as men and women have abandoned traditional roles that at least used to give women more direction and a clear idea of their identity in society.

Every woman must work with these issues and find her true identity in a rapidly changing world with all sorts of strange teachings about sex, motherhood, womanhood and related issues. Until a woman does this, most become angry as their only response to their own confusion and that of most adults around them.

 

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HIGHER INTELLIGENCE AND SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT


This one may seem odd, but some women who are very intelligent are extremely angry because they can see the truth about life around them better than their peers, especially their male peers. They handle this higher awareness or understanding by becoming angry with men and with the world, instead of reaching out, or at least having compassion for those who are less aware.

Some of these very aware young women ignore their own insights and wisdom. Instead, they “go with friends” who are less aware in order to be accepted or liked. However, their sensitivity and intelligence remains, and can lead to terrific anger as they watch others behave in irrational, immature, stupid or dangerous ways.

Others withdraw and just stew in their own anger, and often turn it inward, where it becomes depression. Still others speak out, but it is often with anger and rage, which is also not helpful and makes them worse.

The problem of the more intelligent and more spiritually aware young girls and women is probably the saddest plight. They are the most wonderful young people, whom one wishes to nourish and encourage in their quest for truth and real love. Unhappily, they are often found in dysfunctional homes so the parent do not understand them, they have few good friends, and little contact with spiritually-minded adults who can guide them properly.

Religious schooling or church attendance may help, but may not be enough. They really need a different kind of education, different friends, and adults around them who have a clear head and can see their potential and at least commiserate with them that, yes, most people in the world are very immature, very silly, and often live crazy, dangerous and insane lifestyles. If they had this, they would likely relax and just focus on their own lives and careers without as much anger.

 

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FATIGUE, POOR DIETS AND UNHEALTHFUL LIFESTYLES


As mentioned above, women tend to be more delicate creatures than men, biologically, and they tend to be lower energy creatures to begin with. For this reason alone, they are more affected when they follow toxic and unhealthy diets and lifestyles. Many women, more than men, are thus exhausted and ill today, and this can result in anger.

 

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WOMEN’S ANGER IS OFTEN HIDDEN BECAUSE WOMEN ARE LESS ACTION-ORIENTED THAN MEN


You may say, but how can it be true that women are more angry than men? Women are sweeter and kinder than men, women do not account for most crimes, and they certainly don’t rape anyone and rarely murder people. Women don’t tend to start wars the way men do, and women tend to be less competitive than men. This is all true.

However, these are actions, not anger, though they may be born of anger in some cases. These are simply actions.

Because of their body size, hormones, and biochemistry, women are not as action-oriented as men. They are weaker physically, so they don’t make as good robbers and rapists. They are less often presidents of nations, so they can’t start the wars. Most women stay at home or work in schools or offices, so their anger is expressed differently than that of men.

Action is a constructive response to a need or threat. Anger is simply an adrenal “preparatory action” in response to need or threat. Men, who are bigger and stronger, and who command more power in most societies, tend to respond with action. Women get angry, also, but do not act as much as men do. Men discharge their fears and their upsets through action. Women tend to discharge their fear through anger and perhaps turn it inward and become depressed.

This can cause some women to become irritable, “bitchy”, depressed, upset, or underhanded in their methods of hitting back against those whom they think have hurt them. This can be very subtle and hard to detect. Most of their anger is directed at their mates and their families, because this is where women live most of the time. A lot of their anger is also directed inward, where it causes suppression of emotions, depression and often diseases and emotional upset.

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

Look at some asinine things that come out of women's mouths

This is not hard situation to understand what you must do. You are 39 years old, lots of life to live and people to meet. This relationship will not work. I have met so many nice guys on here, and the same as you, wish they would give me that feeling of wanting them. You cannot change your feelings. Its either there or not there. This year I had to stop seeing two individuals. They had so strong feelings for me, but I had none for them. You couldn't get two nicer individuals. Plus they had similar interests as me. If I could of sprinkle fairy dust over me and made these situations work, I would of. But its not reality.

He deserves someone who cheerish him as much as he cheerish you. Let him go, no matter how much it will hurt you.

On the brighter note, you will find that special person, that you will love, as much as he loves you. I am 53 and still believe this. I wouldn't just settle, and believe me thats what it would be settling. It just won't work in the end.

THIS IS HOW PEOPLE MISS OUT ON THEIR KING OR QUEEN......THE IDIOT DOES NOT REALIZE YOU HAVE TO SETTLE AT SOME POINT....OTHERWISE IT WOULDN'T BE SETTLING DOWN. JUST MAKE SURE YOU SETTLE WITH SOMEONE WITH GOOD HEART AND WILL BE THERE FOR YOU.

 

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*two cents*

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

The Myth: Just because a guy is nice, treats you like a princess and regularly shows you how much he genuinely likes to be in your presence, doesn’t mean that he is the one for you, especially if he doesn’t make your, um, “heart” go pitter-patter. Holding out for the perfect guy, who has all of the “nice guy” qualities with bad boy packaging, and a little more excitement and intrigue is the smart move. You shouldn’t settle, even for the nice guy. Someone better, who has all of the qualities you are searching for, will come along eventually.

Reality: In your 20s, the Nice Guys are lame. In your 30s, they will be the hot bachelor that every woman is clamoring to get. There is no such thing as a nice guy with bad boy packaging. Chances are, the thing that makes the “bad boy” interesting and exciting to you now, are the very things that will have you crying, crumpled up in your bed, questioning your foul judgment later. The older you get, the more you learn to appreciate the Nice Guy.

He may not be aloof (he actually answers when you call or text), he may not be intriguing (he’s interested in meeting your friends and introducing you to his family), he may not be exciting (he doesn’t leave you to wonder about how he feels about you) but he’s there for you. Maybe he’s a little nerdy (he’ll also retire comfortably at 50). Maybe he isn’t the certified “cool guy” that everyone knows (he comes home to you every night) but he’s there for you.

The Nice Guy is the one that actually likes, cares and loves you—learn to appreciate his qualities now, and avoid years of heartache from dealing with an exciting, “cool” guy who will inevitably turn out to be a dumb ass later.

How to Apply the Thing You Just Learned:

Step #1- Honestly assess whether or not you are even remotely attracted to your Nice Guy. If you have even a smidgen of non-platonic interest in him, keep him. Time has a funny way of enhancing feelings. If you’re not interested at all, don’t string him a long and mess him up for the next girl.

Step #2- Stop looking at all of your Nice Guy’s boring qualities. Focus on all of the things that make him a Nice Guy. Before you know it, the boring qualities will seem inconsequential—or even more likely, become what you love the most about him.

Step #3- Stop watching bad romantic comedies and trying to draw comparisons to your own life. Those movies are totally unrealistic. In fact, they are the devil.