The BGOL Relationship Forum: Let's Create it!!!!!

[14damoney]

Most black men don't want to put their relationship issues out on front street in real life...

That maybe why men die sooner than women , because women talk and release their turmoil while getting feedback...

Many young and older men don't really know the nature of women...

Many men on this board have had relationships gone well, and relationships gone foul...



Since we are making changes, WHY NOT HAVE A "RELATIONSHIP" SUB-FORUM???

In today's world, men have no-one to go to except their fathers and mentors regarding the opposite sex...

How many BGOL-Aliens are on here without fathers???

Women can't step up by themselves and they yearn for STRONG BLACK MEN...

The problem is that you may think you are strong, but in her eyes you may not be (Certain Principles are involved)

BGOL is a place to look at pussy...

It's kind of crazy to me that we have a forum for so much other shit, yet no forum to speak on relationships from a man's perspective...




Should we have a Relaionship Forum???

 

[14damoney]

To really make it work, dudes will need the ability to post anonymously...

What do ya'll think???

 

[kefta]

C/S!

 

[lukas james]

Fuck no.
We don't need that shit.
The last few threads posted about relationship questions are proof enough that :
A. negros will post dumb-ass "relationship advice" questions for the sole purpose of humiliating themselves for attention/post views.
B. there are far too many BGOL'ers who have more relationship advice than actual relationship experience.
C. BGOL has too many kids posing as grown men, cacs posing as brothers, fags posing as straight men and homeless janitors posing as doctors.

It's a little TOO anonymous around here for cats to be seeking out this type of advice. That's like barging in on somebody else's game of Russian Roulette.

 

[kefta]

Fuck no.
We don't need that shit.
The last few threads posted about relationship questions are proof enough that :
A. negros will post dumb-ass "relationship advice" questions for the sole purpose of humiliating themselves for attention/post views.
B. there are far too many BGOL'ers who have more relationship advice than actual relationship experience.
C. BGOL has too many kids posing as grown men, cacs posing as brothers, fags posing as straight men and homeless janitors posing as doctors.

It's a little TOO anonymous around here for cats to be seeking out this type of advice. That's like barging in on somebody else's game of Russian Roulette.

This is some truth though!

 

[14damoney]

Fuck no.
We don't need that shit.
The last few threads posted about relationship questions are proof enough that :
A. negros will post dumb-ass "relationship advice" questions for the sole purpose of humiliating themselves for attention/post views.
B. there are far too many BGOL'ers who have more relationship advice than actual relationship experience.
C. BGOL has too many kids posing as grown men, cacs posing as brothers, fags posing as straight men and homeless janitors posing as doctors.

It's a little TOO anonymous around here for cats to be seeking out this type of advice. That's like barging in on somebody else's game of Russian Roulette.

I think you might be worrying too much because the board will police that shit up real quick.

There are a lot of brothers who won't talk in real life but might in here. We could call the shit "ASK UNCLE BGOL" lol..

There are plenty of cats around here who have tons of experience, and plenty of cats with tons of questions. I think you are being too negative...

 

[smoovejazz]

The only problem is that instead of offering advice, some people would try to clown the one asking the question. It's a shame, though, because it could really be a valuable asset to the board. I just don't think some people would be mature enough to handle it.

 

[knightmelodic]

C. BGOL has too many kids posing as grown men, cacs posing as brothers, fags posing as straight men and homeless janitors posing as doctors.

Yeah, this pretty much says it all. And while it might start off cool, it wouldn't be long before the immature crew arrived. And how can you have a grown man discussion when you're calling another Black man a n*****?

 

[14damoney]

The only problem is that instead of offering advice, some people would try to clown the one asking the question. It's a shame, though, because it could really be a valuable asset to the board. I just don't think some people would be mature enough to handle it.

That's why there should be an anonymous function. Even the most respected of members could get played in real life if they slip. If a member can post anonymously, they could put their issue on the board for feedback while maintaining their respect on the board.

Love is War... Plenty of Captains, Colonels, and Generals on this board to school the soldiers...

Plenty of men are so deep in their own situations that they are ashamed to talk and need an objective view from other men...

The anonymous function should only work in the "Ask Uncle BGOL" forum...

The moderator has to be someone who is sworn to secrecy and extremely responsible regarding anonymous posts...


We could affect society right here on this board through this particular sub-forum (no more skinny jeans)...

We need a place to collect all of the stories that men have been through with women...


... BGOL ran many women off the board years ago. Only the hardiest and strongest of them are still here. I GUARANTEE that if we create a relationship forum for men, women will join just to get a peek. Word gets out quick...

What do ya'll think???

 

[14damoney]

Yeah, this pretty much says it all. And while it might start off cool, it wouldn't be long before the immature crew arrived. And how can you have a grown man discussion when you're calling another Black man a n*****?

It's called "base speak" (speak to the lowest base so that everyone can relate). Don't act like you've never heard the word "nigga" before in a conversation between brothers. You're making mountains out of molehills. "Terms of Endearment" is not the topic at hand right now, save your Preacher-Morality bullshit for another thread...

I'm trying to see if an outlet for men to discuss women issues would be valuable on this board... Stay Focused!

 

[Mt. Yukon]

Honestly what could it hurt??? You filter out the dumb ones and their responses. Allot of the bruhs have some really good viewpoints. Hell you may just get a bunch of basic sense shit, but if enough people say something similar, that may snap out whatever love drunk dude enough to right the ship.

 

[zuluking]

yeah why not , i see no harm , it will be informative and funny

 

[TheDynasty]

No, we don't need more sub forums..we need more members who offer constructive dialogue and points of view. Too many trolls, too many people with agendas, lurkers, etc..to make such a forum worthwhile.

 

[knightmelodic]

It's called "base speak" (speak to the lowest base so that everyone can relate). Don't act like you've never heard the word "nigga" before in a conversation between brothers. You're making mountains out of molehills. "Terms of Endearment" is not the topic at hand right now, save your Preacher-Morality bullshit for another thread...

I'm trying to see if an outlet for men to discuss women issues would be valuable on this board... Stay Focused!

It's painfully obvious you're not as grown as you think you are. No grown men I know insult each other in conversation. To attempt to attack me with "preacher-morality bullshit" is another sign of immaturity, as is a weak ass "base speak" explanation. You prove my point. As soon as I offer an opinion, you respond with some pre-school shit. Have at it youngster, I've already seen your hand.

 

[lukas james]

Sounds like a great idea for an Android app, but it has no business on BGOL.
We already got dudes like Kogalee and others buying anonymity by paying for extra memberships.
Some of the worst examples of misinformation and bad advice on this site come from people hiding behind fake screen names.
You expect there to be an improvement when everybody can do it for free?
If you got something to say, you ought to be able to stand behind your statements, clowning be damned.
Common sense gets drowned out in a crowd of stupid ideas. You can't filter out the idiots, because they're the loudest ones in the room.

The reason why there are hardly any women on the board anymore is because we kinda treat them like shit.
Sure, some of them had it coming, but that's not the point.
Point is, we already have a bunch of mostly useless subforums. We don't really need another one, especially one where people with life problems seek enlightenment from BGOL's Smeagols.
Would this bring more women to BGOL?
Possibly, but the dudes that run them off aren't going anywhere, so what's the point?

That "base speak" concept you're touting translates to one thing. The perceived level of intelligence in the room automatically drops down to that of the dumbest participant. That's why chicks run from BGOL and that's why this is the last place to come for serious relationship advice.

 

[Diomedes3000]

Every homo on the board is going to be in that shit pretending to be a woman. To hard to regulate.

 

[14damoney]

Create a forum for men's relationships, and women will come to give their input too. But they will also learn about the fucked up shit that they do...

 

[lukas james]

Every homo on the board is going to be in that shit pretending to be a woman. To hard to regulate.

Yup, forgot about that part.
A lot of those female BGOL'ers that went missing were actually dudes who got tired of pretending.

 

[14damoney]

It's painfully obvious you're not as grown as you think you are. No grown men I know insult each other in conversation. To attempt to attack me with "preacher-morality bullshit" is another sign of immaturity, as is a weak ass "base speak" explanation. You prove my point. As soon as I offer an opinion, you respond with some pre-school shit. Have at it youngster, I've already seen your hand.

1) I'm not insulting you, just calling out your bullshit...

2) I'm probably older and more mature than you. But you don't recognize that because you're still climbing in life and don't recognize that a term that is used everyday (whether we like it or not) should not be a distraction for the real intent of the post... We are trying to make real men better and more attractive by giving them tools to associate properly with women in today's skinny-jeans /simp world...

If you look at yourself, your EGO has been activated by the word "nigga" and you are totally missing the point of this thread. I have nothing against you and I do appreciate your concern , but it's not as valid as you think it is in this case...

Your input is valuable though. I have now edited the OP because I forgot that NIGGAS like you would be sensitive to the word "nigga" while completely missing the point.

I got nothing but brotherly love for you though. Can we stay on topic now???

 

[14damoney]

Sounds like a great idea for an Android app, but it has no business on BGOL.
We already got dudes like Kogalee and others buying anonymity by paying for extra memberships.
Some of the worst examples of misinformation and bad advice on this site come from people hiding behind fake screen names.
You expect there to be an improvement when everybody can do it for free?
If you got something to say, you ought to be able to stand behind your statements, clowning be damned.
Common sense gets drowned out in a crowd of stupid ideas. You can't filter out the idiots, because they're the loudest ones in the room.

The reason why there are hardly any women on the board anymore is because we kinda treat them like shit.
Sure, some of them had it coming, but that's not the point.
Point is, we already have a bunch of mostly useless subforums. We don't really need another one, especially one where people with life problems seek enlightenment from BGOL's Smeagols.
Would this bring more women to BGOL?
Possibly, but the dudes that run them off aren't going anywhere, so what's the point?

That "base speak" concept you're touting translates to one thing. The perceived level of intelligence in the room automatically drops down to that of the dumbest participant. That's why chicks run from BGOL and that's why this is the last place to come for serious relationship advice.

You present valid concerns, let me address them:

* People like Kogalee are going to do what Kogalee does... A REAL member with an issue will see through the bullshit responses and will only accept those that have been constructed to help his situation...

Most men (although they may be caught up in a bad relationship with a woman) are not dummies...

* I've noticed that with any thread that a member comes out with his own personal life story, the first two pages or so is straight clowning, that's what men do until the serious ones get a sniff of the thread. When the serious ones come through, straight-deep-esoteric-knowledge is dropped...

* Again I propose the "anonymous" function so that dudes won't be called out on shit that could happen to any of us if we're not on point with women. If a guy posts some anonymous bullshit, people will know. Don't underestimate how smart people are on this board...

* Regarding my "base-speak" explanation, it is what it is. Just like many on this board, I talk like that, but will clean it up in certain situations. I value the input of the poster who called it out as a problem, because at the end of the day I think we need this forum I'm proposing. So I adjusted..

Don't overlook a need for the forum just because you don't like me... It's not about me, it's about a outlet for men to talk about their issues...

 

[DJ]

Fuck is wrong with yall tryin to turn a porn board into the Dr. Phil show, gone with this nonsense.

 

[14damoney]

Fuck is wrong with yall tryin to turn a porn board into the Dr. Phil show, gone with this nonsense.

Believe it or not, many are here because they can't talk to Dr. Phil (or someone like him). Keep ignoring the obvious need though Mr. Mackalicious "I fuck 3 different hoes everyday"...

 

[14damoney]

Oh and by the way, the poll is anonymous... No one will see how you voted...

 

[J.E.T.S]

Real talk. We don't need this shit at all. However, HNIC should better organize the forum. Have all the general discussion and shit shooting in a category... and all the porn and naked hoes in another.

 

[Gods_Debris]

It's painfully obvious you're not as grown as you think you are. No grown men I know insult each other in conversation. To attempt to attack me with "preacher-morality bullshit" is another sign of immaturity, as is a weak ass "base speak" explanation. You prove my point. As soon as I offer an opinion, you respond with some pre-school shit. Have at it youngster, I've already seen your hand.

Both of your responses were laced with venom and contempt yet because you don't use the word nigga you think that you are somehow above the fray. Trying to cast dispersion through shaming while trying to play some kind of victim is bogus and two-dimensional as hell. Tone and intent are way more important in communication than the language used as long as a detailed picture of the respondent's intent can be derived. You're playing games.

 

[TIMEISMONEY]

Wouldn't mind

 

[DJ]

So now its BGOL's problem because you cant keep a bitch and we supposed to lend an ear to your sensitive ass ?

Believe it or not, many are here because they can't talk to Dr. Phil (or someone like him). Keep ignoring the obvious need though Mr. Mackalicious "I fuck 3 different hoes everyday"...

 

[thighsneyez22]

This is a great idea. People are social beings. With interactions with others, there are bound to be issues that might need outside insight. I think an advice forum for all relationships in general (ie friendships, parental relationships, co-worker situations etc) might serve more people.

I can say that I have gotten great advice that turned out to be true that I didn't take from BGOL. Even though I didn't take the advice, I would like to think that just getting the advice was enough to hip me to the game & cause less damage in my life.

Everyone thinks it's a bad idea until they have an issue. I mean Reddit already has a pretty good model for this type of forum, but I think we can't discount the wealth of experience from all the members on here.

The anonymous posting feature would be something great to add to that forum if it is possible. Trust, if not only the OP, but the responses could be anonymous, that would be the most popular forum on here.

Also, on other xenforo forums, there are other ways you can rate a posting (like, agree, disagree, funny etc). If that relationship forum got those extra ratings for posts, that might be a way to "upvote" & "downvote" a post. This type or rating would put the particular advice given in perspective for the person who asks for it.

 

[14damoney]

Both of your responses were laced with venom and contempt yet because you don't use the word nigga you think that you are somehow above the fray. Trying to cast dispersion through shaming while trying to play some kind of victim is bogus and two-dimensional as hell. Tone and intent are way more important in communication than the language used as long as a detailed picture of the respondent's intent can be derived. You're playing games.

???

Okay, you don't like my response to him...

Are you also one that I can label as "not getting the bigger picture?"

Judge me all you want, but I'd appreciate it if you judge the purpose of this thread more...

 

[Gods_Debris]

???

Okay, you don't like my response to him...

Are you also one that I can label as "not getting the bigger picture?"

Judge me all you want, but I'd appreciate it if you judge the purpose of this thread more...

I wasn't talking to you I just didn't quote both of his posts. If I was talking to you I would have quoted you. Put down the cross I was just pointing out the hypocrisy of his assertions.

In the balance of things I wouldn't be participating in said forum but I don't have any objection to it's existence either.

 

[14damoney]

So now its BGOL's problem because you cant keep a bitch and we supposed to lend an ear to your sensitive ass ?

I keep saying it ain't about me...

Since you want to go gutter, what if I told you "I could take your bitch???"

Not trying to start shit with you though, just putting your ass back in a respectful mind-frame.

The "Adjustment Bureau" is a real tactic when it comes to relating to women. It also applies to ho-ass dudes, but I'm not accusing anyone of anything...

Love is War, and the soldiers need information. Let's create a forum for it...

 

[sherminator]

I wouldn't be opposed to it, but rather than a forum, let's just keep a running thread, the official relationship thread, if you want to get on or offer advice do so if not then avoid it, the part that worries me is cats will come in og predator pimping or not taking it serious. Some dudes have serious questions some dudes don't have a deep experience with multiple women. Look every cat on here has not fucked 100's of dimes and cut women off for having an opinion different from there's some dudes are in real life critical shit, I never put it past being able to help someone one day but if you do it I bet it gets more vies and replies than some think

 

[14damoney]

This is a great idea. People are social beings. With interactions with others, there is bound to be issues that might need outside insight. I think an advice forum for all relationships in general (ie friendships, parental relationships, co-worker situations etc) might serve more people.

I can say that I have gotten great advice that turned out to be true that I didn't take from BGOL. Even though I didn't take the advice, I would like to think that just getting the advice was enough to hip me to the game & cause less damage in my life.

Everyone thinks it's a bad idea until they have an issue. I mean Reddit already has a pretty good model for this type of forum, but I think we can't discount the wealth of experience from all the members on here.

The anonymous posting feature would be something great to add to that forum if it is possible. Trust, if not only the OP, but the responses could be anonymous, that would be the most popular forum on here.

Also, on other xenforo forums, there are other ways you can rate a posting (like, agree, disagree, funny etc). If that relationship forum got those extra ratings for posts, that might be a way to "upvote" & "downvote" a post. This type or rating would put the particular advice given in perspective for the person who asks for it.

She gets the idea. and she gets it despite all of some of the negative responses...

This woman has already been a die-hard member for years...

Women usually have a more developed ability to compare one thing with another because their brain is built to determine the more dominant force...

That's why women are better built for MULTI-TASKING while we are more built for focused hunting...


In so many words I've been trying to tell ya'll ass that there is psychology behind this shit... But some of you keep getting distracted...


I already told ya'll that women will come to peek if we open a sub-forum like this.. THIGHSANDEYES has been watching this thread because she knows it needs to happen too. But she's waiting for ya'll to finish clowning...


IF A BLACK MAN CAN BE TAUGHT TO HANDLE A BLACK WOMAN PROPERLY, THE WHOLE RACE WILL IMPROVE...

Let's create a forum for black men relationship issues. If BGOL is ever going to EVOLVE (besides format), THIS IS THE DIRECTION IT SHOULD HEAD TOWARDS...

LET'S BE THE REAL BARBERSHOP OF THE INTERNET!!!

 

[14damoney]

I wasn't talking to you I just didn't quote both of his posts. If I was talking to you I would have quoted you. Put down the cross I was just pointing out the hypocrisy of his assertions.

In the balance of things I wouldn't be participating in said forum but I don't have any objection to it's existence either.

Okay, my bad, thanks...

 

[thighsneyez22]

I wouldn't be opposed to it, but rather than a forum, let's just keep a running thread, the official relationship thread, if you want to get on or offer advice do so if not then avoid it,

I think that is a good idea however it caused me to think back on the last few relationship questions that were asked here.

Both went over 7+ pages in a few days. got way more responses than the the porn posted during the same time.

With all that input, people kept asking the same questions over and over because the answers kept getting buried. People do not like to read a wall of text and invoke General Powell at any chance they get even for one single post. I know you are coming from a good place, but this Behemoth Relationship post would undoubtedly be a nightmare to make logical sense of. I mean, imagine if you had two issues being posted at the same time how convoluted that would get.