The 80/20 rule

[sakinnuso]

I agree and to me accepting someone's flaws and annoyances (we all have them) is about compromise not settling. No grown up should even be seeking perfection in anyone in anyway. Settling to me is about being fearful- you're too scared to examine your needs (not wants- there's a difference), and too fearful that you won't find someone that fits them so you take whatever crumbs left on the table. If you forfeit personal satisfaction for a false sense of security then its going to be what it's going to be so don't cry about it later because nobody made you make that settling bitch move. Adults have CHOICES.

And Izayoi gets some anime love for this one, too. Real talk.

 

[KW13537]

I agree and to me accepting someone's flaws and annoyances (we all have them) is about compromise not settling. No grown up should even be seeking perfection in anyone in anyway. Settling to me is about being fearful- you're too scared to examine your needs (not wants- there's a difference), and too fearful that you won't find someone that fits them so you take whatever crumbs left on the table. If you forfeit personal satisfaction for a false sense of security then its going to be what it's going to be so don't cry about it later because nobody made you make that settling bitch move. Adults have CHOICES.

We also live in a world where amost everything is disposable, even people and relationships. Real relationships take real hard work at times, and there are a great many benefits if both parties work at it.

 

[damured]

how so true that rings and to add women want a gentleman thats fairly a dumbass when they start out because there mother who had been played and betrayed and is bittr no tells her to get all she can from him then move on . an d because a lot of men aare in the home with these bitter people that rubs of ion them and thy think that all women are bitches ans all the di=o is complain so both start out with a fucked up view of what is the right thing to expect in a mate . so later women start to take out the bad on the good man that is in their life now for the bad one that is not in their life so then they ruin the good man they have and have to again settle for the 20pct that they had before and men think that just because she isnt sucking like a porn star and looks like halle berry tht he can get better and forget that she has all of that in side of her

 

[DaleMabry]

how so true that rings and to add women want a gentleman thats fairly a dumbass when they start out because there mother who had been played and betrayed and is bittr no tells her to get all she can from him then move on . an d because a lot of men aare in the home with these bitter people that rubs of ion them and thy think that all women are bitches ans all the di=o is complain so both start out with a fucked up view of what is the right thing to expect in a mate . so later women start to take out the bad on the good man that is in their life now for the bad one that is not in their life so then they ruin the good man they have and have to again settle for the 20pct that they had before and men think that just because she isnt sucking like a porn star and looks like halle berry tht he can get better and forget that she has all of that in side of her

No disrespect but this would be a solid post with a little punctuation.

 

[Chicutie]

Why do men, and women too, settle for 20%?

Why do some men go for just what a woman looks like and women for what a man can provide financially?

Doesn't it matter that she doesn't cook?
Doesn't it matter that he cheats?
Doesn't it matter that he/she is lazy?

Why aren't we happy with 80%?


BTW, I got this from a scene in Tyler Perry's "Why Did We Get Married?" where the male characters discuss the 80/20 rule.

I think people settle for the 20%, because the 20% looks good. The 20% sometimes looks like a good copy of the 80%. For women, 20% is that man we think is perfect because he has a good job and looks good. I think many people think that that's are the only components of man, that make him a good catch. . and yes that's a good starting place. But there is so much more.

I'm going to be honest. I have been caught up in the 20% before. But not for long. After a while that 20% is meaningless. Whether that 20% be good sex. . or looks. So I will say learning to look for the 80% is a learning experience. It definitely was for me. I've learned over time that looks doesn't matter all that much. I'm not saying I will date someone I'm not attracted to. . . but what I'm saying is. . you don't have to perfect and a lot of people (men and women) are looking for that perfect person look wise. . and maybe they exist but most of the time personality and other qualities will heavily out weigh looks. . .

 

[Benjamin Check]

Why do men, and women too, settle for 20%?

Why do some men go for just what a woman looks like and women for what a man can provide financially?

Doesn't it matter that she doesn't cook?
Doesn't it matter that he cheats?
Doesn't it matter that he/she is lazy?

Why aren't we happy with 80%?


BTW, I got this from a scene in Tyler Perry's "Why Did We Get Married?" where the male characters discuss the 80/20 rule.

The only thing that matters is your looks/dna. Its about BREEDING, I'M IN IT FOR THE SPECIES. NOT FOR LOVE. Will my kids be healthy/handome/athletic? if I dont think they will, we wont do the do. I dont sleep with ugly/chicks with family cancer history or diabetes. Why, so My kid can run the ill risk of it? I'm lucky enough to not have any of that crap in my family history/dna, and I expect the same of the person I am going to FULFILL THE PURPOSE OF LIFE WITH!
Were focused on the wrong 80% in my world the 20% is the 80%, cause love and cooking, and monagamy, only affect the current generation (in terms of dna). I sleep with/choose women for thier looks first, abiities second. I can cook, I can clean, And prefer to do it my self so its done right. Look good, have kids. Thats your job. enhance my image as a man, and nurture our coming generation, Ill handle the bills..........

 

[hawk919]

I'm married now but when I was dating I cheated on my girl one time. I dont know nothing about no 80/20 rule but the reason why I did it because she was fine as hell, nice titties, phat ass, good personality and she showed me more attention, and she liked to fuck. My girl at that time was on some bullshit and she even admitted that. Girls have cheated on me before, they blamed it on my mood swings and not giving them attention (which was true) but in the end who really cares anyway

 

[Izayoi]

I think people settle for the 20%, because the 20% looks good. The 20% sometimes looks like a good copy of the 80%. For women, 20% is that man we think is perfect because he has a good job and looks good. I think many people think that that's are the only components of man, that make him a good catch. . and yes that's a good starting place. But there is so much more.

I'm going to be honest. I have been caught up in the 20% before. But not for long. After a while that 20% is meaningless. Whether that 20% be good sex. . or looks. So I will say learning to look for the 80% is a learning experience. It definitely was for me. I've learned over time that looks doesn't matter all that much. I'm not saying I will date someone I'm not attracted to. . . but what I'm saying is. . you don't have to perfect and a lot of people (men and women) are looking for that perfect person look wise. . and maybe they exist but most of the time personality and other qualities will heavily out weigh looks. . .

I think you make some excellent points Cutie and as much as women are accused of only going for money- uh dick and a pretty face i.e. LUST will lead you astray, just as sure anything. Sista's front sometimes I think and don't admit it, but it's true. As you mentioned though, the shine is only going to last for so long on new dick so then what you got left? A good man or tarnished dick- hmmm.

However, I think anyone would be rather foolish for committing to someone he/she has no sexual chemistry with. Sex is a way to bond even down to the hormonal level with the release of oxytocin (you know all about that Cutie ) Life is hard enough and its a good feeling when you can count on coming home to a pleasant environment, spending time with your family, and getting you some at the end of the night.

We also live in a world where amost everything is disposable, even people and relationships. Real relationships take real hard work at times, and there are a great many benefits if both parties work at it.

All I'm saying is don't make extra work for yourself by "settling." Compromise and having a realistic outlook on love and relationships yes, settling NO. It's a disservice to you and the person you are settling for.

 

[SuperGenius]

I agree and to me accepting someone's flaws and annoyances (we all have them) is about compromise not settling. No grown up should even be seeking perfection in anyone in anyway. Settling to me is about being fearful- you're too scared to examine your needs (not wants- there's a difference), and too fearful that you won't find someone that fits them so you take whatever crumbs left on the table. If you forfeit personal satisfaction for a false sense of security then its going to be what it's going to be so don't cry about it later because nobody made you make that settling bitch move. Adults have CHOICES.

I've been saying this for the longest...co-sign again. I've been guilty of this as well in the past, and i've had to make my own adjustments.

people settle for the 20% because they lack the will power and personal fortitude necessary to create the life they want. If you know your mind does not have control over you dick/pussy then you should not be married.

co-sign this as well. My cousin is a perfect example of this....and now he's suffering financially over this because of the woman he married.....KRS-1 said it with best: "You can't trust a big butt and a smile".

 

[Tusk]

I think the "Law of Diminishing returns" applies at some point as well. I try to be as realistic as possible, and not get off into some how I would like to see, or how I think things should be. Also you can tell with a few people who is and who is not married, by the wisdom that life has taught them. But anyway, if your not familer with the "law" look at it like this...Your in the desert about to die of thirst, and all of a sudden someone hands you a glass of water....Shit, thats the best damn water you ever had in your life!!!, and the second glass is just about that too. But by the third and fourth glass, its no longer what it was on the first glass....Now when its just sex, cats may put the law like this, "the only thing better than pussy, is NEW pussy." But when it comes to relationships lets face it, Women will NEVER be fuckin satisfied. If your not home, "why you gone so much", if your home all the time.."why you dont go hang out with your friends, all up under me all the time and shit..." If you hit it all the time...."Is this all I am to you??!!!!" If you dont hit it enough...."What other bitch you fuckin??!!" Etc, etc, Now I know I put this all in a crude way, and most will say, "Thats how hoes and chickenheads talk, but put whatever education, and or socio-economic mental level there you want, the same thing will be said in a different way, Why, because we all get used to who we are with, and thats why our eyes wander. The trick with the 20% are, when thier looking all attractive, intelligent, patient, fine, supportive, thats because in the beggining EVERY relationship is like that! Shit if it wasn't we wouldn't even contemplate fuckin with the person to begin with....But!!!...That person who you thought was a winner, or who you THOUGHT grass was greener, finally changes on your ass too Why, cause now thier tired of you, or your tired of them, and all of a sudden thier looking across the street, or around thier job, or at the club for the next, cause thier tired of your ass. Thus leading them to only satisfy 20% of your Overall needs. And NOW you think back to your babies mom, who at her worst, still gave your as more support in yalls relationship than that. One more saying Colin Powell, and I'm out . "Its better to be a FAILURE at somthing or someone you LOVE, than to be a SUCCESS at somthing, or someone you dont. Life is short, as we see all around us. Get as much happiness as you can from the most fullfilling relationship you can, Peace.

 

[Mentor B]

Practicing monogamy conflicts with our sexual nature because people will always be attracted to other people rather than just the person they are currently with---of course, this is no matter how compatible he/she is. Some people are successful in pulling it off and most are not.

I was listening to Tony Scott (radio show here STL), and this woman called in talking about how she was contemplating about possibly having an affair even though she had been married for 12 years with three children. Tony was like, "Alright, what is your husband not doing at home to make you want to cheat?"

Man, she couldn't even complain about the guy and said nothing at all really. She just had lust for another dude. And her realization that the other guy was only interested in her for sex, despite her being married, is what actually turned her on (subliminally admitting that).

That's why tying the knot is a "no-can-do". Can't trust nobody.

 

[dontaz]

If it's only cheating when you're married, why bother having an actual relationship at all? Why not just get together and fuck (which is absolutely okay between two consenting, responsible adults) and save the pleasantries?

And if you cheat in a relationship because you're not married, how can you expect anyone to take you seriously or look at anyone else seriously? That's like saying it's only stealing if someone sees it.

I was under the impression that relationships were supposed to be the precursors to marriage, so if someone isn't acting right in a regular relationship why marry them?

I'm going to be single for a long time, society is all fucked up...

Technically x-factor is right it is not cheating when you are single. Being single and in a committed relationship is a pretend marriage. Pretending is for kids and adults who are denied the ability to have the real thing.

 

[BigUnc]

Only recently heard of this 80/20 rule. My initial reaction was it's some bullshit even though I can't put my finger on exactly why yet.

As a 46 year old black man I can only relate to you what my perspective is. I make no claims as it being the single answer that everyone or anyone should follow.

If you claim that you are a grown man or woman you have to realize that you and only you know what you need, want, will tolerate, and what your willing to give to someone else. After a reasonable amount of time you must put this on the table to be accepted or rejected. The other person must do the same.

As a grown man/woman you must realize that people's needs, wants, etc will change over time, you included. It may be gradual or sudden but you will have no control over it. Can you roll with it?....What if you change?....Do you have the right to demand that your partner deal with your shit?...... for how long?....if you step outside of the established boundaries haven't you changed the rules?.......If so don't you deserve the consequences due?......

I've read some post I could agree with, some I don't, doesn't matter it's not my life. Live it the way you choose.

I'll close with this

To thy own self be true
Do unto others as you wish them to do unto you.


PEACE

 

[femmenoire]

The only thing that matters is your looks/dna. Its about BREEDING, I'M IN IT FOR THE SPECIES. NOT FOR LOVE. Will my kids be healthy/handome/athletic? if I dont think they will, we wont do the do. I dont sleep with ugly/chicks with family cancer history or diabetes. Why, so My kid can run the ill risk of it? I'm lucky enough to not have any of that crap in my family history/dna, and I expect the same of the person I am going to FULFILL THE PURPOSE OF LIFE WITH!
Were focused on the wrong 80% in my world the 20% is the 80%, cause love and cooking, and monagamy, only affect the current generation (in terms of dna). I sleep with/choose women for thier looks first, abiities second. I can cook, I can clean, And prefer to do it my self so its done right. Look good, have kids. Thats your job. enhance my image as a man, and nurture our coming generation, Ill handle the bills..........

Wait, wait, wait.

If she suffered a sickness you wouldn't date her?

That is interesting.

 

[PeerlessMack]

I've never followed the 50/50 or 80/20 rule of dating. To me a relationship should be based on a 200% effort.
100% from me and 100% from her.
Unless child(ren) are put into the equation.

There are many reasons both socially and scientifically why we choose our mates. But like it or not we are still part of the animal kingdom and our survival instinct to mate with the a predominate partner, whether it be physically or socially, is still hard wired into us.

Have you guys seen animal kingdom? If a male lion challenges and defeats the patriarch and take over his rule guess what happens... the lioness' kill their own young (who are off springs of the old king) then goes and give the new king some pussy. It ain't no different than a woman dumping a laid off factory worker for a successful lawyer.

But do you notice the less dominant lions in the pack? They have to eat the leftover scraps off the Zebras and hide in the bush to sneak to get some pussy from mangy ass lioness'. How is that different from a scrub fucking with a hoodrat?

We all have options... challenge the king lion who outweighs you by 100lbs and has 4" fangs or settle with getting dusty ass sex from the flea riddled female lions.

I keep saying.....

MONOGAMY IS A HOAX.

Humans arent BUILT for it. you cheat cuz you MUST.
MEN AND WOMEN.

and....REASON...is not a factor when we select sex partners....INSTINCT is.

Technically he is right. And before people start with the Bible saying it's wrong remember that the human race is thousands of years older than the bible.

 

[dwnsouth]

Can you live with the mood swings forever? i rather live comfortable then put up with attitude. that's why i gave up the 20%. i love peace.

I GUESS I'M GROWING UP

No! I got tired of that shit and started to treat her the same way she was treating me.... A week later she told me she didnt want me around anymore....I was so happy you would have thought I had won some money.

Why didnt I end it first? I believe in people and believed in her when she said she knew she had issues and that she was trying to change for the better..

it only lasted 6 weeks and went from able to deal with to...not wanting to deal with her.

 

[theDisavowed]

I think a lot of people get caught up with one or two things they like in that person and either let themselves be blinded or just refuse to look at the other things until it blows up in their faces. But then by that time your usually stuck the pit trying to dig yourself out.....

 

[michigantoga]

The reality is a simple one: women start out trying to fuck and getting fucked by who they think validates their looks or worth. I.e, men with money, cars or fame. After getting fucked over on the regular, pregnant, dumped, cheated on and ignored, they try to find one the nice guys they've ignored for years to rescue them from their own parental and financial misery. That ain't settling, that's called"Being a dumbass"

Men, on the other hand, start out fuckin lame ducks, chubby chicks, and young dumb chicks until the "ashy to classy" kicks in and hoes who would never speak to them before they could validate their income suddenly wanna holla. So, men settle in the beginning because it is all he can get. Women settle after misusing the pussy and it's power for years until irreversible harm is done and only a simp ass dude will take them and their baggage.

Moral of the story" Men start out nice until fucked over, and women start out mean until fucked over enough to wake up."

Knowledge courtesy of the book :Misinformation: The Female-Perptuated Myths About Men

 

[FIVEFIVE]

Monogamy is not a hoax, it's based on choices you make. You CHOOSE to cheat or stay faithful, whatever the reason.

And reason is the tool you use to make the choice.

Cute. Sorry my dude. You trying to live the lie.

Unless you were raped you always have a choice in choosing who to have or not have sex. Monogamy is about having discipline, self-control, and being loyal to your mate.

Shut the fuck up.

Message board mu'fukas put on they dignified face when posting.

Questions:
1. Are either of you married?
2. Have you cheated?
3. Are you fulla shit or what?

I dont really giva fuck if you answer these, you'll prolly lie anyway to save face.

Humans aren't built for SEXUAL monogamy. You WILL fuck someone else before it's done.

PLEASE. GTFOH.

 

[Costanza]

I think the rule is way too generous in claiming most people get 80% out of a marriage.

 

[harlem1nyc]

Women these days are straight 20%. They are too good to be 80%!!!! Hence white women become the new 80%........Hell, even I'm getting tired of this $hit!!!

 

[BrownTurd]

Why do men, and women too, settle for 20%?

Why do some men go for just what a woman looks like and women for what a man can provide financially?

Doesn't it matter that she doesn't cook?
Doesn't it matter that he cheats?
Doesn't it matter that he/she is lazy?

Why aren't we happy with 80%?


BTW, I got this from a scene in Tyler Perry's "Why Did We Get Married?" where the male characters discuss the 80/20 rule.

There are alot of good dudes in this world. Women hang around good guys all the time. The problem is that woman tend to keep all the good guys as their friends. Alot of woman will say "person X is like a brother to me that is my boy" Your mate should be like your brother & best friend. That is what true love is. All men don't cheat or desire to cheat. The ones that don't cheat 99% of the time the woman has them as their friend.

I don't understand the womans logic behind this. From a physical stand point the "friend" most of the time would be equal or equivalent to the foul men the woman dates. From a security stand point the "friend" most of the time would be on a higher level.

Actually a woman could receive 100% but they for some reason choose not to

 

[Benjamin Check]

Wait, wait, wait.

If she suffered a sickness you wouldn't date her?

That is interesting.

I've never followed the 50/50 or 80/20 rule of dating. To me a relationship should be based on a 200% effort.
100% from me and 100% from her.
Unless child(ren) are put into the equation.

There are many reasons both socially and scientifically why we choose our mates. But like it or not we are still part of the animal kingdom and our survival instinct to mate with the a predominate partner, whether it be physically or socially, is still hard wired into us.

Have you guys seen animal kingdom? If a male lion challenges and defeats the patriarch and take over his rule guess what happens... the lioness' kill their own young (who are off springs of the old king) then goes and give the new king some pussy. It ain't no different than a woman dumping a laid off factory worker for a successful lawyer.

But do you notice the less dominant lions in the pack? They have to eat the leftover scraps off the Zebras and hide in the bush to sneak to get some pussy from mangy ass lioness'. How is that different from a scrub fucking with a hoodrat?

We all have options... challenge the king lion who outweighs you by 100lbs and has 4" fangs or settle with getting dusty ass sex from the flea riddled female lions.



Technically he is right. And before people start with the Bible saying it's wrong remember that the human race is thousands of years older than the bible.

And to drop further knowledge, a lioness wont date a male lion whose whisker rows arent straight, its a sign of genetic defect, cancer, diabetes, blindness.........

 

[INVICTUS3RD]

The reality is a simple one: women start out trying to fuck and getting fucked by who they think validates their looks or worth. I.e, men with money, cars or fame. After getting fucked over on the regular, pregnant, dumped, cheated on and ignored, they try to find one the nice guys they've ignored for years to rescue them from their own parental and financial misery. That ain't settling, that's called"Being a dumbass"

Men, on the other hand, start out fuckin lame ducks, chubby chicks, and young dumb chicks until the "ashy to classy" kicks in and hoes who would never speak to them before they could validate their income suddenly wanna holla. So, men settle in the beginning because it is all he can get. Women settle after misusing the pussy and it's power for years until irreversible harm is done and only a simp ass dude will take them and their baggage.

Moral of the story" Men start out nice until fucked over, and women start out mean until fucked over enough to wake up."

Knowledge courtesy of the book :Misinformation: The Female-Perptuated Myths About Men

THIS IS 4 U!!!

 

[WattDogs]

There are alot of good dudes in this world. Women hang around good guys all the time. The problem is that woman tend to keep all the good guys as their friends. Alot of woman will say "person X is like a brother to me that is my boy" Your mate should be like your brother & best friend. That is what true love is. All men don't cheat or desire to cheat. The ones that don't cheat 99% of the time the woman has them as their friend.

I don't understand the womans logic behind this. From a physical stand point the "friend" most of the time would be equal or equivalent to the foul men the woman dates. From a security stand point the "friend" most of the time would be on a higher level.

Actually a woman could receive 100% but they for some reason choose not to

CO-SIGN THIS TO THE NTH POWER!!

I can speak from personal experience. This ain't nothing but the truth being said.

 

[Imhotep]

BTW, I got this from a scene in Tyler Perry's "Why Did We Get Married?" where the male characters discuss the 80/20 rule.

That is basically a summary of the Pareto Principle, or as it is more commonly known, the 80/20 Rule. The rule comes from Vilfredo Pareto, an Italian economist who noticed that 80% of Italy’s wealth was in the hands of 20% of the population.

The 80/20 Rule points out the imbalance of effects. Just as one person might have several times the wealth as another, one hour spent on a critical project might be worth $10,000 while another might only be worth $20. The goal when using the 80/20 Rule is to maximize the small and powerful twenty percent and reduce the wasteful eighty percent.

Despite the popularity of the rule, few people seem to understand it. I’ve seen hundreds of misapplications and confusions spouted throughout the web and in print. Some of these errors are due to not understanding what the rule means. Others are just my opinion of unfair attacks on an otherwise useful principle.

Here are the worst attempts at using the 80/20 Rule:
1) 80 + 20 = 100

I’ve seen a few times where people try to create a diagram explaining the 80/20 rule with a pie chart. One fifth of the pie chart is labeled 20% and the rest is labeled 80%. While those of us with basic math skills can see how this adds up to 100%, the calculation undermines what the rule is about.
The 80/20 rule argues that 20% of the input creates 80% of the output. Inputs and outputs aren’t the same thing, and therefore can’t be made into the same pie chart. The 80/20 Rule could just as easily been called The 55/3 Rule, if 55% of the results were created by 3% of the inputs.

Don’t get caught up on the numbers. Both 80 and 20 are just examples of one type of uneven balances. The fact that they add up to 100 is a coincidence.
2) 80/20 Applied Recursively

One argument I’ve heard against the 80/20 rule goes like this, “If you keep applying the 80/20 rule, eliminating the wasteful 80%, eventually you’ll end up with nothing.” I suppose the people who argued this point felt they were being clever by using a literal, mathematical interpretation of the rule.
Once again, the numbers here aren’t that important. The actual applications are less mathematical. When you have a limited amount of time, you won’t be able to perform every task possible. The 80/20 Rule suggests you look through all the tasks you normally could perform. Pick the top 20% that create the most results and focus on them. Whatever time you have left can be spent on the less productive 80%.

3) 80/20 to Perfection
Another way I’ve seen the rule misapplied is when building skills. It might take 2 years to become 80% proficient. But in order to get that last 20% of skill you need to invest another 8 years. While this is a fair use of the rule, the advice with skills often goes against the 80/20 Rule. Instead of eliminating the need for that last 20%, you invest most your time to master the last 20%.
The point of the 80/20 Rule is that you should downplay or minimize the inefficient 80% of inputs. There are times, of course, when this rule doesn’t apply. Mastering a skill can be one of those areas where the 80/20 advice is faulty.

However, by recommending the opposite of the 80/20 rule, you can’t really claim the 80/20 rule is in practice here. That would be like saying, “haste makes waste,” is the same advice as, “he who hesitates is lost.”
4) “But I still have to do it…”

An argument I’ve heard against the 80/20 rule frequently goes like this, “Sure some tasks are less valuable than others, but that doesn’t mean they don’t need to get done.” Answering e-mails, making phone calls or having meetings may appear wasteful, but they still need to get finished, right?

This argument has an element of truth, but it conceals a bigger lie. The truth is that, yes, there are things that need to get done even though they aren’t wildly important. If I stopped answering e-mails I might miss opportunities, have my network degrade or lose important messages.

The bigger lie is that you have no control in adjusting where time gets spent. If e-mail isn’t that important, your goal should be to reduce the time you spend on it. If meetings aren’t contributing, you should have shorter meetings. If your hands are really tied an you have no control over how your time is spent, what’s the point of reading productivity blogs like this anyways?

How to Really Use the 80/20 Rule
1. Pick an area of your life where you feel there is an imbalance of effects. This won’t be true of all areas, but many situations are out of balance (money, time, health and possibly even relationships).
2. Try to identify the key 10, 20 or 40 percent of inputs that are creating most your results. This could be the 10% of time that creates the most returns. It could be the 40% of relationships that create the most happiness for you.
3. Find ways to emphasize the key percentage. Spend more time in those activities. Place them first in your schedule. Meet up with your key friends more often. Invest more of your money in the best expenses.
4. Find ways to downplay or eliminate the rest. Get rid of activities that don’t have a high payoff. Stop spending time in relationships that don’t create enough value. Stop wasting money on investments that aren’t giving you a greater quality of life.

 

[CervixThumper]

If you find the perfect person leave them alone because you don't deserve to be with them, you'll only fuck them up.

Relationships are about finding someone whose shit you can deal with, and they can deal with yours. It's about compatibility.

The only thing that matters is your looks/dna. Its about BREEDING, I'M IN IT FOR THE SPECIES. NOT FOR LOVE. Will my kids be healthy/handome/athletic? if I dont think they will, we wont do the do. I dont sleep with ugly/chicks with family cancer history or diabetes. Why, so My kid can run the ill risk of it? I'm lucky enough to not have any of that crap in my family history/dna, and I expect the same of the person I am going to FULFILL THE PURPOSE OF LIFE WITH!
Were focused on the wrong 80% in my world the 20% is the 80%, cause love and cooking, and monagamy, only affect the current generation (in terms of dna). I sleep with/choose women for thier looks first, abiities second. I can cook, I can clean, And prefer to do it my self so its done right. Look good, have kids. Thats your job. enhance my image as a man, and nurture our coming generation, Ill handle the bills..........

This is a ridiculously ludicrous basis to form a RELATIONSHIP off of. If the only function that you were going to perform was to breed, then this would be a valid premise. The best physical specimens aren't the most successful in the human realm. You can have no family history of heart disease, cancer, stroke, high blood pressure or a host of other physical abnormalities and still die of congestive heart failure at 31 if you eat steak everyday, drink a ton, do coke repeatedly, and never exercise.

To carry your theory to its logical conclusion we should be killing babies with down syndrome at birth, and not allowing genetic carries of any genetic abnormality to breed.

Finally, because of genetic mutations, genetic recombination, and the very process of sexual reproduction all your safety policies account for shit. If you get with a woman who has a perfect genetic history, any damaged sperm of yours can meet with a damaged egg of hers and end in tragedy. You could end up with a son with an extra Y chromosome. You could have a perfectly healthy zygote initially, and it starts to split, but doesn't do it completely, and you have Siamese twins.

Unless you're breeding in a lab, and monitoring all these conditions, all your safety measures are for shit. They are not ensuring anything, merely lowering the chances.

Enhancing your image as a basis of a relationship...