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Tell a 26 year old young man something.

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Somewhat of the same thread as posted <a href="http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?p=3292126#post3292126">here</a> but with a slight twist.

Had I listened to some of the advice that I was given when I was younger I would probably be on a different path in life.

I'm appreciative of where I am right now but I know that you gotta listen to the older folks to avoid time wasted on trial and error.

Granted it's good to learn certain things on our own but we should be able to learn from mistakes of previous generations.

This thread is geared towards women that have been involved in different stages/ages of a mans life and have wisdom that they're willing to share because they've either seen growth or a lack of.

What are some of the pitfalls that you see young black men my age falling into and what do we need to do to better ourselves & families?

I'm not just talking sexually but in general terms.

Also the thread isn't just for women because I will probably get more serious responses over here than on the main board.
 
I'll help with this one.

Keep your living expenses to a minimum while you are young and have less responsibilities.....so that you can place a percentage of your income into a business entity. Not just a small business, but the nuts and bolts of a small business; get a tax ID, get incorporated, file business taxes, etc. etc., knowing how to do this will become invaluable later in life, realistically pursue your life's passion and see if you can make is happen.

Find the people you can trust with your life, and keep them close. You don't have to keep your enemies close these days, they always are right in front of you.

When you find a good woman that loves you (really loves you), lock her down. If you did find her and let her go, get her azz back! A good woman is hard to find these days!

Hope that helps a bit!
 
nappy said:
Somewhat of the same thread as posted <a href="http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?p=3292126#post3292126">here</a> but with a slight twist.

Had I listened to some of the advice that I was given when I was younger I would probably be on a different path in life.

I'm appreciative of where I am right now but I know that you gotta listen to the older folks to avoid time wasted on trial and error.

Granted it's good to learn certain things on our own but we should be able to learn from mistakes of previous generations.

This thread is geared towards women that have been involved in different stages/ages of a mans life and have wisdom that they're willing to share because they've either seen growth or a lack of.

What are some of the pitfalls that you see young black men my age falling into and what do we need to do to better ourselves & families?

I'm not just talking sexually but in general terms.

Also the thread isn't just for women because I will probably get more serious responses over here than on the main board.
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Thanks for starting this thread...I am interested to hear the responses as I myself, am 26 also.

ATLKP, thanks for that drop too...:yes::yes:
 
Realize that a lot of that thug/playa/pimp talk is bullshit. Especially recognize it as bullshit on BGOL.
 
Master your needs versus your wants. Once you figure this out you are free and clear.

Use a budget to help you plan your finances and have a savings account or investment account. The earlier you start the earlier you can retire.

Your friends help to shape your life so if they are taking away from you and have nothing positive to give you demote them to buddies or acquaintances.

Set up goals in life and work towards them. They need not be grandiose plans but have a direction that you wish to go in.

Take your time and enjoy life no matter what comes at you. Try always to be positive and look for the silver lining no matter how dark the clouds may be.

If you accept bullshit from anybody you will soon be buried under it so keep your bullshitometer on low.

Oh and the golden rule do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
 
AlexandMorgan said:
Master your needs versus your wants. Once you figure this out you are free and clear.

Use a budget to help you plan your finances and have a savings account or investment account. The earlier you start the earlier you can retire.

Your friends help to shape your life so if they are taking away from you and have nothing positive to give you demote them to buddies or acquaintances.

Set up goals in life and work towards them. They need not be grandiose plans but have a direction that you wish to go in.

Take your time and enjoy life no matter what comes at you. Try always to be positive and look for the silver lining no matter how dark the clouds may be.

If you accept bullshit from anybody you will soon be buried under it so keep your bullshitometer on low.

Oh and the golden rule do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
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25 year old man...I live by most of these thanks for all the advice or words of wisdom from the older heads. Peace
 
only advice i can give will sound "cold"

1. do it on your own. don't allow anyone to help or put themselves in a position where they can come back and say "they struggled with you".

2. be ready to leave a woman at the drop of a hat if she does/says anything which may deter your goals...
 
Da Don said:
only advice i can give will sound "cold"


2. be ready to leave a woman at the drop of a hat if she does/says anything which may deter your goals...
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Good advice. Only thing I would add is be ready to drop ANYONE friends family etc. that deter you from your goals.
 
Temujin said:
Good advice. Only thing I would add is be ready to drop ANYONE friends family etc. that deter you from your goals.
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I like that! but I tell my sons:

No one can take care of you better than you.

Your only friend is you!

Don't trust anyone onebutyourself, so ifyou fail your the only one to blame.

if you want something you have to sacrifice to get it

A lazy man don't eat.

a fool is a man don't that keep making the same mistake, a wise man is one that learn from his mistake and move on
 
Temujin said:
Good advice. Only thing I would add is be ready to drop ANYONE friends family etc. that deter you from your goals.
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I like that! but I tell my sons:

No one can take care of you better than you.

Your only friend is you!

Don't trust anyone onebutyourself, so ifyou fail your the only one to blame.

if you want something you have to sacrifice to get it

A lazy man don't eat.

a fool is a man don't that keep making the same mistake, a wise man is one that learn from his mistake and move on
 
Oh yeah money does not bring happiness. Sounds cliche and it is, sorta. Money can buy food and pay bills and grant u a lot of access to material things but money or the lack of does not ultimately dictate whether you are happy. You dictate whether or not you are happy.

Happiness is one of the hardest emotions to define because it means so many different things to people. But simply put if you are miserable and broke give you money and you will be rich and miserable.

It may not make sense to some but to others it will.
 
Please minimize baby mommas.:(

I see a lot of very young brothers not with one but many and it really puts a strain on them and their kids.

Know yourself, your higher power whatever you believe and NURTURE yourself before you try to nurture many many seeds, because you can not give what you don't have spiritually, emotionally, or materially.

I would give the same advice to a young lady actually.
 
You generally have your 20s to figure out who you basically are and what you want out of life. By your 30s you need to be out of "evaluate / plan" mode and in "build / act" mode.

So try and get all your wanderlust and experimentation done by then (not just sexual on all levels) because if you are in your 30s and you have no fucking idea who you are and what you want out of the world, you're losing valuable time. And your energy and ability to bounce back from losses of any kind drops steadily at that point.

Oh and realize your friends will not mean nearly as much to you in 10 years as they do now, and you may only have one or two out of those dudes / chicks steady in your mix.

All kinds of reasons why, but damn if it aint often true.
 

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