Stop the shaming of Single black mothers

[WorldEX]

It is damn appalling and wrongly fully disgusting to blame the deteriorating conditions in domestic issues relating to family values single parenthood. If you stop to think of big picture, you will see that these issues are only in relation to "Western Countries".
There are millions of single parents all over the world with worst living conditions than any American city and the crime is far less.

Does 4.47% of the world population thinks they only ones that have single mothers?

Across the industrialized world, about 15.9 percent of children live in single-parent households. The United States is at the higher end of the single-parent spectrum, with 25.8 percent of its children living with just a mother or a father..

http://economix.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/03/10/single-parents-around-the-world/

UK, Latvia, Belgium, and Estonia has more single moms taking care of child than USA, but crime rate in those countries are far less. But yet everyone bring up social issues only relating to black women as single mother.

It is time to stop bashing single black mothers, regardless of social position; the issues has to pointed to USA social and educational system that is not fairly distributed to those area to eliminate the problem.

You don't see the big picture? If these particular bum ass black women would stop having all these kids in single parent households (77%) then we wouldn't have all these gutter trash bitch niggas shooting everyone over everything.

It's not the kids who have 2 parents who are committing these crimes. It's the poor black kids who were raised by some boot leg, bum ass, welfare, no g.e.d having piece of shit black woman.

Most of these women don't give 2 shits about their kids, thats why they are running around shooting everyone up. THey have kids so they can get welfare, food stamps, child support, section 8, etc... Basically they have these kids so they don't have to work.....

 

[smiffnwessun]

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[RoadRage]

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Don't give a fuck about the rest of the world, but when I see black women feeding their toddlers nothing but sugar, drinking and smoking in front of their babies, beating them and not caring for them correctly, then turn around and have three more.. Then have to sit back and watch her babies grow up and kill, rob and rape black children of parents who are really trying..

 

[34real]

Re: Stop the shaming Single black mothers

Single black mothers

On here its like a rule for some to blame everything on black mothers or black women period.I can't call it...

 

[RoadRage]

Re: Stop the shaming Single black mothers

On here its like a rule for some to blame everything on black mothers or black women period.I can't call it...

Black women have to take on more responsibility because men and women are not created equal. Here is a good example why, If 10% of the women are fucked and 10% of the men are fucked up, you can only have at most, 10% fucked up parents..
If 10% of the women were fucked up and 70% of the men are fucked up, you still would have at most 10%.
But if 1% of the guys are fucked up and 70% of the women, well if they are all fucking that 1% you can have as much as 70% fucked up rate...
The rate of bad parenting follows the % of fucked up women, not that of men.. So this is why their standards should be higher.

 

[bromack1]

Re: Stop the shaming Single black mothers

On here its like a rule for some to blame everything on black mothers or black women period.I can't call it...

Thats because the foundation of a stable society begins with a stable family unit.

In other words, if the primary family can't raise children, then the dregs of the society will.

Its a fact of life.

 

[bromack1]

Re: Stop the shaming Single black mothers

Don't give a fuck about the rest of the world, but when I see black women feeding their toddlers nothing but sugar, drinking and smoking in front of their babies, beating them and not caring for them correctly, then turn around and have three more.. Then have to sit back and watch her babies grow up and kill, rob and rape black children of parents who are really trying..

Yep... you should see the "garbage" parenting that takes place in Atlanta.

 

[sirwoodz]

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- an entire article to basically say

"other women in the world are single mothers tOoOooOooo!"

this shit is silly.

 

[Cross]

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Don't give a fuck about the rest of the world, but when I see black women feeding their toddlers nothing but sugar, drinking and smoking in front of their babies, beating them and not caring for them correctly, then turn around and have three more.. Then have to sit back and watch her babies grow up and kill, rob and rape black children of parents who are really trying..

I've never on this forum or any other blamed black women for the problems that exist in our community but I c/s this statement especially the bolded, that practice boggles my mind.

 

[code_pirahna]

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Black women have to take on more responsibility because men and women are not created equal. Here is a good example why, If 10% of the women are fucked and 10% of the men are fucked up, you can only have at most, 10% fucked up parents..
If 10% of the women were fucked up and 70% of the men are fucked up, you still would have at most 10%.
But if 1% of the guys are fucked up and 70% of the women, well if they are all fucking that 1% you can have as much as 70% fucked up rate...
The rate of bad parenting follows the % of fucked up women, not that of men.. So this is why their standards should be higher.

This is a true analogy only because one man can impregnate a multitude of women.....

but women can only be pregnant once every 40 weeks

 

[34real]

Re: Stop the shaming Single black mothers

Black women have to take on more responsibility because men and women are not created equal. Here is a good example why, If 10% of the women are fucked and 10% of the men are fucked up, you can only have at most, 10% fucked up parents..
If 10% of the women were fucked up and 70% of the men are fucked up, you still would have at most 10%.
But if 1% of the guys are fucked up and 70% of the women, well if they are all fucking that 1% you can have as much as 70% fucked up rate...
The rate of bad parenting follows the % of fucked up women, not that of men.. So this is why their standards should be higher.

What?please spare me of your example of pure, unadulterated ignorance.

*waves the white flag...peace*

 

[bromack1]

Re: Stop the shaming Single black mothers

It is damn appalling and wrongly fully disgusting to blame the deteriorating conditions in domestic issues relating to family values single parenthood. If you stop to think of big picture, you will see that these issues are only in relation to "Western Countries".
There are millions of single parents all over the world with worst living conditions than any American city and the crime is far less.

Does 4.47% of the world population thinks they only ones that have single mothers?

Across the industrialized world, about 15.9 percent of children live in single-parent households. The United States is at the higher end of the single-parent spectrum, with 25.8 percent of its children living with just a mother or a father..

http://economix.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/03/10/single-parents-around-the-world/

UK, Latvia, Belgium, and Estonia has more single moms taking care of child than USA, but crime rate in those countries are far less. But yet everyone bring up social issues only relating to black women as single mother.

It is time to stop bashing single black mothers, regardless of social position; the issues has to pointed to USA social and educational system that is not fairly distributed to those area to eliminate the problem.

And the statistics also show that the best chances for a child to escape an impoverished childhood is being a part of a two parent family.

Is it all going to be perfect... nope. But this whole issue with single parent black women didn't start until the 60's with Johnsons Great society.

Before that, the unmarried birth rate in the black community was less than 25%. Today, its well over 80%.

Progressivism should not mean the family structure is less important or insignificant. However, it has.

 

[black-n-tan]

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Black women have to take on more responsibility because men and women are not created equal. Here is a good example why, If 10% of the women are fucked and 10% of the men are fucked up, you can only have at most, 10% fucked up parents..
If 10% of the women were fucked up and 70% of the men are fucked up, you still would have at most 10%.
But if 1% of the guys are fucked up and 70% of the women, well if they are all fucking that 1% you can have as much as 70% fucked up rate...
The rate of bad parenting follows the % of fucked up women, not that of men.. So this is why their standards should be higher.

Could being left by the fathers to fend for themselves contribute to being what you consider "fucked up"?

 

[LoneStar29]

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Black women have to take on more responsibility because men and women are not created equal. Here is a good example why, If 10% of the women are fucked and 10% of the men are fucked up, you can only have at most, 10% fucked up parents..
If 10% of the women were fucked up and 70% of the men are fucked up, you still would have at most 10%.
But if 1% of the guys are fucked up and 70% of the women, well if they are all fucking that 1% you can have as much as 70% fucked up rate...
The rate of bad parenting follows the % of fucked up women, not that of men.. So this is why their standards should be higher.

1% to 70% huh?? LOOOL yeah ok

 

[RoadRage]

Re: Stop the shaming Single black mothers

What?please spare me of your example of pure, unadulterated ignorance.

*waves the white flag...peace*

Please, women get paid to take care of their children, even the so called good black mothers be fucking up, allowing their kids to eat massive sweets, let them look and listen to what they listen to.. Always claiming their child can handle it, and that they are both the mother and the father, and how they don't need no man... Its all good until the child fucks up, then its that bad ass kid fault.
Big up to the responsible, real black women doing their thing, but these fuck up bitches got to stop doing what they are doing, or at least not bring another life in the world to suffer for her poor choices..

 

[RoadRage]

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1% to 70% huh?? LOOOL yeah ok

Actually in theory it could be 1% to 99% if they were all fucking the same scum bag and all got pregnant...

 

[RoadRage]

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Could being left by the fathers to fend for themselves contribute to being what you consider "fucked up"?

The problem is they are fucking the same dead beat mother fuckers.... I know plenty of kats in jail, that have 9 or more kids floating around by 9 different mothers...
One fuck up male but 9 fuck up women..

 

[RoadRage]

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Think of it this way, if men got pregnant, how many of yall would allow yourself to get knocked up by a drug addict, drug dealer, or a jobless bitch who has 8 other kids... That shit would be beyond simping... Yet for some women that's considered normal..

 

[bromack1]

Re: Stop the shaming Single black mothers

Please, women get paid to take care of their children, even the so called good black mothers be fucking up, allowing their kids to eat massive sweets, let them look and listen to what they listen to.. Always claiming their child can handle it, and that they are both the mother and the father, and how they don't need no man... Its all good until the child fucks up, then its that bad ass kid fault.
Big up to the responsible, real black women doing their thing, but these fuck up bitches got to stop doing what they are doing, or at least not bring another life in the world to suffer for her poor choices..

There will always be exceptions to the rule. The one or two that survive the hardships will always be overshadowed by the many that can't handle the responsibilities.

 

[bromack1]

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Think of it this way, if men got pregnant, how many of yall would allow yourself to get knocked up by a drug addict, drug dealer, or a jobless bitch who has 8 other kids... That shit would be beyond simping... Yet for some women that's considered normal..

And you sir.... are absolutely correct.

 

[godofwine]

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I don't trip on the first...except when it is under 18. After that, it's all her fault. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. She should know what to look for, how hard it is, and most importantly to use protection the next time, and if she doesn't she is a dammed fool and deserves her predicament.

The first time you feel invincible then you find out that you are not now the onus is on you. Drive down a street more than once and catch a flat on the same pothole then you are the fool. They should be smarter the next time, not running around with a starting five with no matching daddies.

 

[RoadRage]

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There will always be exceptions to the rule. The one or two that survive the hardships will always be overshadowed by the many that can't handle the responsibilities.

We got to stop living for the exceptions a do what normal people do, that is focus on the %. That ass backward shit is often encouraged by the churches but it is the road to failure..
Thats like looking at a guy who lived to be 90 years old smoking and drinking and expecting to live that long, while ignoring the millions and millions who died young doing the very same thing... But when you are trained to think the lord will bless you, and some how your situation is different, you will ignore the odds and go with your heart.... And chances are this means failure..

 

[black-n-tan]

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The problem is they are fucking the same dead beat mother fuckers.... I know plenty of kats in jail, that have 9 or more kids floating around by 9 different mothers...
One fuck up male but 9 fuck up women..

Those are "alpha" males. Women will always be attracted to men who can protect them, especially in poor areas where they are more susceptible to violence. I guess the "good" ones are too fuckin weak. We need to teach our kids to fight.

 

[water]

It is damn appalling and wrongly fully disgusting to blame the deteriorating conditions in domestic issues relating to family values single parenthood. If you stop to think of big picture, you will see that these issues are only in relation to "Western Countries".
There are millions of single parents all over the world with worst living conditions than any American city and the crime is far less.
http://economix.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/03/10/single-parents-around-the-world/

UK, Latvia, Belgium, and Estonia has more single moms taking care of child than USA, but crime rate in those countries are far less. But yet everyone bring up social issues only relating to black women as single mother.

It is time to stop bashing single black mothers, regardless of social position; the issues has to pointed to USA social and educational system that is not fairly distributed to those area to eliminate the problem.

I'm afraid the points you made in red will not be discussed.

Instead the same people with the same positions will ignore them.


Good post.

I made a similar post in the past and same shit.

It's easier to blame melanin than to look at more determinant factors.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

I'm afraid the points you made in red will not be discussed.

Instead the same people with the same positions will ignore them.


Good post.

I made a similar post in the past and same shit.

It's easier to blame melanin than to look at more determinant factors.

And yours was a good post as well.

 

[gene cisco]

How did they become single moms? Did she get a career, stack some money, find a guy she thought was right, get married, THEN HAVE A CHILD, and then get DIVORCED.......or

Did she get pregnant at 16-23 without a penny to her name by some bum who plays PS3 all day?

These stats only talk about single moms. They don't talk about the men these single moms are choosing to reproduce with. Say what you want, but SOME black women are making some shit choices. There are far too many black women in this country who know the man they reproduced with wasn't shit. The signs were there and they still let him hit raw dog?

And what is this "shaming" bullshit? The black single-mom brigade has the most pull in the black community. There is no shame. Making your life a struggle when it didn't have to be is some kind of twisted badge of honor.

 

[Naha-Nago]

How did they become single moms? Did she get a career, stack some money, find a guy she thought was right, get married, THEN HAVE A CHILD, and then get DIVORCED.......or

Did she get pregnant at 16-23 without a penny to her name by some bum who plays PS3 all day?

These stats only talk about single moms. They don't talk about the men these single moms are choosing to reproduce with. Say what you want, but SOME black women are making some shit choices. There are far too many black women in this country who know the man they reproduced with wasn't shit. The signs were there and they still let him hit raw dog?

And what is this "shaming" bullshit? The black single-mom brigade has the most pull in the black community. There is no shame. Making your life a struggle when it didn't have to be is some kind of twisted badge of honor.

This.

*two cents*

 

[WorldEX]

I'm afraid the points you made in red will not be discussed.

Instead the same people with the same positions will ignore them.


Good post.

I made a similar post in the past and same shit.

It's easier to blame melanin than to look at more determinant factors.

Thanks kayanation.
(Kinnear 1999). Over 40 percent in Botswana and Barbados. In countries such as Ghana, Kenya, Rwanda, Cuba, Puerto Rico, Trinidad, and Tobago more than 25 percent of households are headed by women. America is not poor by world standards, most of these so call areas are 100X richer than most African villages. But is the difference? Why the sting is ready to shame black single mothers?

 

[Lexx Diamond]

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Don't give a fuck about the rest of the world, but when I see black women feeding their toddlers nothing but sugar, drinking and smoking in front of their babies, beating them and not caring for them correctly, then turn around and have three more.. Then have to sit back and watch her babies grow up and kill, rob and rape black children of parents who are really trying..

That's some serious shit. I have witnessed that type shit first hand and it's a fucking epidemic. I got some family in a spot called Stony Brook in Riviera Beach Florida and that's how most of the women I met down there are living. Shit is beyond wild. There are so many chicks with multiple baby fathers. There are also so many fathers with criminal records who are not employed and hustling drugs while shacked up with a chick living off section 8.

It's fucking crazy. I have seen so much verbal and physical abuse of children that it's disgusting. I saw a little girls tooth get knock out by her mother over some simple shit. The bitch is in her 20's and got four kids by four different dudes. She still doesn't know exactly who the fathers are. As for the abuse I don't know when it became the norm for these young Negros to referrer to males as bitch. Chicks out here bitching out their sons at the top of their voice and calling little boys bitch.

There is even a raggedy whore around there who dropped her 1 month old while arguing with a bitch. The baby died and DCF took the rest of her kids. She'll get them back though. The place is constantly visited and monitored by DCF. Ho's leave their kids in the apartment and sneak out to the club or go hang out. Shit is wild man. Fucking wild. Just typing about the shit and remembering it is upsetting.

 

[Louis Koo]

Earned Income Tax Credit really pays off if you have more than one child.

 

[cnc]

How did they become single moms? Did she get a career, stack some money, find a guy she thought was right, get married, THEN HAVE A CHILD, and then get DIVORCED.......or

Did she get pregnant at 16-23 without a penny to her name by some bum who plays PS3 all day?

These stats only talk about single moms. They don't talk about the men these single moms are choosing to reproduce with. Say what you want, but SOME black women are making some shit choices. There are far too many black women in this country who know the man they reproduced with wasn't shit. The signs were there and they still let him hit raw dog?

And what is this "shaming" bullshit? The black single-mom brigade has the most pull in the black community. There is no shame. Making your life a struggle when it didn't have to be is some kind of twisted badge of honor.

Bang bang

 

[water]

And yours was a good post as well.

Thank you Sir.


The posters don't realize that if melanin is the determinant, there is nothing anyone could do.


Now the social conditions?

That shit is like cats and water.

No one wants to touch that.

 

[water]

Re: Stop the shaming Single black mothers

That's some serious shit. I have witnessed that type shit first hand and it's a fucking epidemic. I got some family in a spot called Stony Brook in Riviera Beach Florida and that's how most of the women I met down there are living. Shit is beyond wild. There are so many chicks with multiple baby fathers. There are also so many fathers with criminal records who are not employed and hustling drugs while shacked up with a chick living off section 8.

It's fucking crazy. I have seen so much verbal and physical abuse of children that it's disgusting. I saw a little girls tooth get knock out by her mother over some simple shit. The bitch is in her 20's and got four kids by four different dudes. She still doesn't know exactly who the fathers are. As for the abuse I don't know when it became the norm for these young Negros to referrer to males as bitch. Chicks out here bitching out their sons at the top of their voice and calling little boys bitch.

There is even a raggedy whore around there who dropped her 1 month old while arguing with a bitch. The baby died and DCF took the rest of her kids. She'll get them back though. The place is constantly visited and monitored by DCF. Ho's leave their kids in the apartment and sneak out to the club or go hang out. Shit is wild man. Fucking wild. Just typing about the shit and remembering it is upsetting.

You described some social conditions.

How do we go about changing the conditions?

 

[code_pirahna]

I could give some credit to the argument about not shaming single mothers....

if the folks making the argument would give them their fair share of blame....

You folks exonerate them from all responsibility....

and that s where I get pissed....take your fuckin capes off and tell the damn truth.

 

[richlove]

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On here its like a rule for some to blame everything on black mothers or black women period.I can't call it...

Probably because this is b.g.o.l. Where else would the members know more about black woman?