Spin-off. Women I got a question for you...PHONE NUMBERS!!!

[bigreg2007]

When do you expect a chick to call after you give her your phone number?

Do you have a cut-off time in which YOU'RE no longer interested if she calls after such and such amount of hours or days?

And before you answer...peep....

 

[followup]

(no lesbo)

I expect a man to call within 2 days after getting my number, preferably the next day. Yes, I feel the man should call first. No, I do not give my number to you if I'm not interested. When you call you better have something to talk about and nothing too serious--asking all about my family and personal stuff.

 

[bigreg2007]

I think i worded this "spinoff" all wrong Follow......at any rate thanks for the reply.

What I meant was...

"Men...how long is too long for a chick to wait to call you AND do you have a cut off day"

AND

"Women...how long do you wait [to call] and WHY?"

 

[onyxfemme]

I cant lie I wont call a guy unless he calls me 1st...He doesnt call me eh....oh well........OMG reality just set in.....I AM SINGLE AGAIN

 

[LoneStar29]

I usually call with 2 days ... if I am interested I want to get to know him soon

 

[CT's Finest]

I cant lie I wont call a guy unless he calls me 1st...He doesnt call me eh....oh well........OMG reality just set in.....I AM SINGLE AGAIN

Look out fellas she's on the prowl...

 

[melonpecan]

I cant lie I wont call a guy unless he calls me 1st...He doesnt call me eh....oh well........OMG reality just set in.....I AM SINGLE AGAIN

Look out fellas she's on the prowl...

Onyx, don't look. They will follow.



Hmm...waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy back in the day I'd call whenever I wanted to...usually just to say the sun went down.

 

[DeSiRe]

ill text within 2 days to see how the vibe is

how well we hit it off initially and how well our text convo is will determine how soon i call after that

 

[SuchATease]

I usually call with 2 days ... if I am interested I want to get to know him soon

Word, when I was single I only gave my number out to guys who I was interested in so I'm def. calling cause I'm trying to get to know him better and potentially make him mine!

 

[bigreg2007]

I usually call with 2 days ... if I am interested I want to get to know him soon

Nice.

I cant lie I wont call a guy unless he calls me 1st...He doesnt call me eh....oh well........

Interesting, why is that? Is this you being old-fashion or power play?

ill text within 2 days to see how the vibe is

how well we hit it off initially and how well our text convo is will determine how soon i call after that

This is where I live. I use to do the "wait until a certain time past" when i was younger. Now it is absolutely based on the vibe i get from her. I love to text too..haha. Its so informal that there is no pressure behind it, even if you text them within hours of meeting.



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Thanks for the responses ladies.

I am suprised though that so many of you actually "get" numbers as in approach, let me not assume:

Do you guys actually approach the guy for the number or is it that he offers his biz card or number after some conversation

 

[onyxfemme]

No power play-just me being old fashioned^^^^

I could never approach a guy for his number....Weird..But I will send a drink to him and his boys if we are out in a bar setting.

 

[Mo-Better]

Mo playing the roll of "The Devil's Advocate." Why the games? Why does the guy have to always call first? What difference does it make who calls who first? If the 2 of you felt strong enough to exchange numbers it shouldn't matter who calls first.

Ladies you calling first is not a sign of desperation or you being easy. So go ahead and make that call. Nor is a guy calling first a sign of being hard up or needy. Hell if the chemistry was there call the same day.

As for the time limit.... I hate rigid guidelines. Setting guidelines can mean missing out on a meaningful relationship. Just like I had a life before I met you so you. You can't expect someone to put their life on hold just because you enter into their lives. If the interest is there the call will come.

I believe in letting matters take their own course. If she wants companionship she'll call and vice verse. No time limits, no pressure if its meant to be it will be.

 

[followup]

that's how I like it. I don't know why, but to me it's just natural. Men are stronger and men should be providers and they should be the pursuers. I like for him to be the dominant one (most of the time). And that is from day 1. Not saying I have a problem saying what I want/like, but he has to do what he has to do.

 

[dHustla]

No power play-just me being old fashioned^^^^

I could never approach a guy for his number....Weird..But I will send a drink to him and his boys if we are out in a bar setting.

punk

 

[onyxfemme]

Naaaah just a "punk maker"

punk

 

[dHustla]

Naaaah just a "punk maker"

 

[classydread]

If I don't talk to the guy within a week us exchanging numbers, I lose interest. I figure if we were really into each other, we would both be anxious to contact each other sooner.

 

[dHustla]

Naaaah just a "punk maker"

Oh, you saying you put the ball in his court and if he don't make the play then he's the punk, huh?

I see you.


And you won't make me a punk

This ain't whatcha want!

 

[dHustla]

Now who's the punk?

 

[GET YOU HOT]

They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.” Carl W. Buechner

Communication is paramount, so I think you pretty much set the tone, if you ask for the number. Call within 24-48 hours, otherwise, you probably need to think about your interest or intent. If it takes too long, a woman will lose interest.

ME
I love to call him, but if I can't, I like to send a nice text or email, to let him know, I am thinking about him...