I try my best to teach my nephews not to NEED a woman. Be self sufficient but that doesn't mean you have to DO EVERYTHING on your own or be expected to. I tell their fathers and friends we need to be able to depend on each other and listen to each other and support each other.
This is a very layered complex emotional conversation with generations of misinformation.
And it is ALL DELIBERATE to fracture the black family.
Because Black men and Women having relationships and I am NOT only talking marriage or sex
I mean just being respectful and loving of each other PERIOD
Will completely destroy the existing racist system of government/culture we live in real fast.