Sistas What Do You Really Want From A Man

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

I'm A Man And I Got Female Friends And They Always Tell Me All They Want From A Man Is Him To Be Faithful, Honest, Loyal, Dedicated To Taking Care Of His Business And Loving.

I Consider Myself Too Fit All Those Qualities And Then Some Realtalk.

But What Do You Ladies Want From Us

 

[Iron]

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[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

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I Ain't Wit The Goldigging.

 

[Lady-Wiz]

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seriously though
as long as the guys is showing his best sincere intentions to make me happy I'm happy.

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

seriously though
as long as the guys is showing his best sincere intentions to make me happy I'm happy.

That's Sounds Cool I Respect That.

 

[Iron]

seriously though
as long as the guys is showing his best sincere intentions to make me happy I'm happy.

I've seen your myspace page if i remember correctly your a BPI graduate like myself. Did you go to the game this year?

 

[Jam_Jam]

I require that a man be faithful, employed, God-fearing and I must be attracted to him. The problem I have is that I think I'm a little too picky. I was considering getting married again, but realized I would be making a mistake. He lives in another state and we still talk, but I don't know what the future holds where he is concerned. I talk to quite a few men but I am only physically attracted to two of them. One of the two is not as financially stable as I would like. The other one has some type to jheri curl in his hair and is a little overbearing. Over the last few months I have gone on at least one date a week, but I just haven't found anyone that really interests me on every level. Why is it so hard to find someone that satisfies all of our basic needs?

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

I require that a man be faithful, employed, God-fearing and I must be attracted to him. The problem I have is that I think I'm a little too picky. I was considering getting married again, but realized I would be making a mistake. He lives in another state and we still talk, but I don't know what the future holds where he is concerned. I talk to quite a few men but I am only physically attracted to two of them. One of the two is not as financially stable as I would like. The other one has some type to jheri curl in his hair and is a little overbearing. Over the last few months I have gone on at least one date a week, but I just haven't found anyone that really interests me on every level. Why is it so hard to find someone that satisfies all of our basic needs?

See Just Like You Said You Might Be Too Picky There Are Alot Of Guys That Might Be Unattractive To You But Are Really Good Guys You Just Have To Give Them A Chance.

Long Distance Relationships Usually Don't Work You Might Want To End That Now Before It Turns Into Something Not Good Overtime.

It's Not Hard To Find Someone That Fit Your Basic Needs You Just Have To Be Patient And Weight Your Options And That Person Will Come Along.

 

[Lady-Wiz]

I've seen your myspace page if i remember correctly your a BPI graduate like myself. Did you go to the game this year?

no I wanted to but I had to work

 

[Mt. Yukon]

I require that a man be faithful, employed, God-fearing and I must be attracted to him. The problem I have is that I think I'm a little too picky. I was considering getting married again, but realized I would be making a mistake. He lives in another state and we still talk, but I don't know what the future holds where he is concerned. I talk to quite a few men but I am only physically attracted to two of them. One of the two is not as financially stable as I would like. The other one has some type to jheri curl in his hair and is a little overbearing. Over the last few months I have gone on at least one date a week, but I just haven't found anyone that really interests me on every level. Why is it so hard to find someone that satisfies all of our basic needs?

Too many damn needs. Im an atheist, so I run into problems on that front ALLOT!!! Does it really matter as long as he has morals and is respectful??? I dont bash religion until someone comes at me, so contrary to popular belief, were dont disrespect other people. Another problem I see with your post is that you "talk" to quite a few men, but are only attracted to two of them. Why??? I mean be cool with them, but why do you "talk" to them if your not interested, and hell you said you dont like ole boy with the curl so why is he even an option??? The other isnt financially stable??? Does he have a job and his own shit??? I mean I made like 36grand last year, but Im 24, with no kids, a car thats paid off, and yeah I caught a good deal on my condo, but unless you saw my bank statement youd swear I was ballin. Would that be stable even though I only made 36k??? Only you really know if your being too picky, but as long as the brutha (Im assuming) is gainfully employed and not leaching off of you why the fuck do you care how much HE makes. If your doing your thing and hes doing his, how much he makes shouldnt be an issue. As a man I know damn well Im not gonna find too many females on my level at my age, so I just say, are you cute, do we click, do you have a job, a car, and a place to stay. You met those requirements then we can talk and I dont run into all the problems you listed. At some point you have to strike a happy medium between what you want and whats feasible.

 

[Jam_Jam]

Too many damn needs. Im an atheist, so I run into problems on that front ALLOT!!! Does it really matter as long as he has morals and is respectful??? I dont bash religion until someone comes at me, so contrary to popular belief, were dont disrespect other people. Another problem I see with your post is that you "talk" to quite a few men, but are only attracted to two of them. Why??? I mean be cool with them, but why do you "talk" to them if your not interested, and hell you said you dont like ole boy with the curl so why is he even an option??? The other isnt financially stable??? Does he have a job and his own shit??? I mean I made like 36grand last year, but Im 24, with no kids, a car thats paid off, and yeah I caught a good deal on my condo, but unless you saw my bank statement youd swear I was ballin. Would that be stable even though I only made 36k??? Only you really know if your being too picky, but as long as the brutha (Im assuming) is gainfully employed and not leaching off of you why the fuck do you care how much HE makes. If your doing your thing and hes doing his, how much he makes shouldnt be an issue. As a man I know damn well Im not gonna find too many females on my level at my age, so I just say, are you cute, do we click, do you have a job, a car, and a place to stay. You met those requirements then we can talk and I dont run into all the problems you listed. At some point you have to strike a happy medium between what you want and whats feasible.

I talk to quite a few because I'm friendly with them. Sometimes I go to the movies with them or out to dinner. I'm just not interested in "gettin'" with them if you know what I mean. I was engaged to one of them 8 years ago and we hang out from time to time. One of them is a really good friend that wants more than friendship. One is a guy that I was set up with but I wasn't interested in more than friendship so we keep it friendly. I get along with them so we stay friendly. They just don't light my fire so to speak. The one that is not financially stable lives with his mother. The one with the jheri curl makes me laugh but I don't think he's the one for me. I guess I just refuse to settle for less than what I want. I am actually happy just dating and doing my own thing, but if someone comes along that I just can't resist, I'm down for whatever.

 

[Izayoi]

I require from my relationship with a man the same things as I require from my relationship with anyone- mutual respect, intelligent conversation, spiritual enrichment (not on a Christian level. I'm not a Christian), compassionate autonomy, and honesty.....with the added bonus of getting dicked down hard on the regular if its a man.


At the top of the list though, someone who is genuinely happy with his personal life path about 90% of the time. Bitter people = miserable relationship.

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

I require from my relationship with a man the same things as I require from my relationship with anyone- mutual respect, intelligent conversation, spiritual enrichment (not on a Christian level. I'm not a Christian), compassionate autonomy, and honesty.....with the added bonus of getting dicked down hard on the regular if its a man.


At the top of the list though, someone who is genuinely happy with his personal life path about 90% of the time. Bitter people = miserable relationship.

I Can Respect That.

 

[Lick]

I require that a man be faithful, employed, God-fearing and I must be attracted to him. The problem I have is that I think I'm a little too picky. I was considering getting married again, but realized I would be making a mistake. He lives in another state and we still talk, but I don't know what the future holds where he is concerned. I talk to quite a few men but I am only physically attracted to two of them. One of the two is not as financially stable as I would like. The other one has some type to jheri curl in his hair and is a little overbearing. Over the last few months I have gone on at least one date a week, but I just haven't found anyone that really interests me on every level. Why is it so hard to find someone that satisfies all of our basic needs?

You are not in love...

 

[JofromthaNO]

In no particular order:
- intelligence
- open-mindedness
- sense of humor
- beautiful smile
- good conversation holder

For me, I've never been the type to have many "needs" or "standards" that need to be met by some man. Too many of my SINGLE lady friends (I'm in a relationship, by the way) have too many HIGH standards that they set themselves up for failure when it comes to looking for a man to date.

Also, I say for women that don't know what they want from a man to try dating different men... you don't have to sex them, but just date ones to see what you can and (most importantly) cannot tolerate.

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

In no particular order:
- intelligence
- open-mindedness
- sense of humor
- beautiful smile
- good conversation holder

For me, I've never been the type to have many "needs" or "standards" that need to be met by some man. Too many of my SINGLE lady friends (I'm in a relationship, by the way) have too many HIGH standards that they set themselves up for failure when it comes to looking for a man to date.

Also, I say for women that don't know what they want from a man to try dating different men... you don't have to sex them, but just date ones to see what you can and (most importantly) cannot tolerate.

Dats Wassup On Your Standards It's Good Too Know Females Like Those Things Too And Not Just Chasing A Man For His Money.

- intelligence
- open-mindedness
- sense of humor
- beautiful smile
- good conversation holder

 

[femmenoire]

I like a man who is an independent thinker and not a "cliche".

I like a man who is cultured and worldly, highly intelligent but loves to laugh. He absolutely must have a good sense of humor.

I do like open-minded men who can think outside the box.

I prefer men who are very driven, work hard and play harder, enjoys the finer things in life, is into fitness, knows that eating out can be more han Taco Bell and isn't afraid to go to the doctor and cares about his health. Oh and he must be well groomed and take care of his appearance. A good sense of style (not the cliche) is always a plus.

He has to be honest, loyal, caring and responsible and family oriented.

Physically, I prefer dark skinned men who are at least 6 ft tall but I've always made accomodations in that respect.

And lastly, he should have some sexual skills and love to eat pussy...if he fucks like Justin Slayer does on screen, I may try to lock him down.

 

[kimchifunk]

The one with the jheri curl makes me laugh.....

no shit, if he still rockin a curl he gonna make you laugh, yo momma laugh, perfect strangers.... hell, he make people point and stare too. a walking fire hazard and you want a nigga to light your fire? you and him both be burnt up.

naw, but for real, this is a real ass topic me and my homeboy was talking about the other day. if you look at the statistics, after you take out the brothers locked down, the brothers shot, the brothers strung out, the brothers with no job, what possibilities are left for black women? then you look at the fact that the upward mobility of the black woman is much faster than the black man's as it stands, you really have no other alternative, but to seek an older man. fuck it, i don't wanna rant, but this has messed up the whole dynamic of black male-female relationships.

somebody that empowers you with their presence, is supportive, listens to you, and is willing to coordinate plans for a better future is what you need. you being ahead of the other person financially is not reason enough to discount him. if he is trustworthy, fiscally responsible, honest, has good judgement, and can handle having a woman who makes more money than him, i'd say consider him no matter how much you gotta change his pillow case.

 

[superman2004]

this has been talked about hundreds of times and plenty of times already on BGOL
Many of which they look for end up being contradictory. Do you really need to ask?

 

[AristotlesOwn]

I like a woman who is an independent thinker and not a "cliche".

I like a woman who is cultured and worldly, highly intelligent but loves to laugh. She absolutely must have a good sense of humor.

I do like open-minded women who can think outside the box.

I prefer women who are very driven, work hard and play harder, enjoys the finer things in life, is into fitness, knows that eating out can be more han Taco Bell and isn't afraid to go to the doctor and cares about her health. Oh and she must be well groomed and take care of her appearance. A good sense of style (not the cliche) is always a plus.

She has to be honest, loyal, caring and responsible and family oriented.

Physically, I prefer any shade of brown woman who is at least 5'4'' ft tall but I've always made accomodations in that respect.

And lastly, she should have some sexual skills and love to have her pussy eaten...if she fucks like Jasmine Cashmere does on screen, I may try to lock her down.

Maybe next lifetime Femme - I like where your head is at.

I'll co-sign this and change some things around and...voila. That was a good template.

 

[femmenoire]

Maybe next lifetime Femme - I like where your head is at.

I'll co-sign this and change some things around and...voila. That was a good template.

Hahaha. Seems like we got alot in common.

 

[jedimasta]

For me, I've never been the type to have many "needs" or "standards" that need to be met by some man. Too many of my SINGLE lady friends (I'm in a relationship, by the way) have too many HIGH standards that they set themselves up for failure when it comes to looking for a man to date.

May I ask how successful\attractive your lady friends are?

Those high standards might be a defense mechanism to keep them from taking a critical look in a mirror or being critically analyzed by someone else. They might have those high standards because they don't think too highly of themselves and don't want to get hurt for not meeting their ideal mate's high standards.

Just a thought.

 

[Jam_Jam]

I have grown so much as a person that I have put myself on a pedestal. I will not apolize for it. Settling for less than what you want only leads to contentment. Contentment is just not enough for me. I see nothing wrong with having high standards. All I want is my equal and I believe that is what most level-headed women want.

 

[Thick Johnson]

Speaking on all your fantasies is appreciated ladies.

Thank you.

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

I like a man who is an independent thinker and not a "cliche".

I like a man who is cultured and worldly, highly intelligent but loves to laugh. He absolutely must have a good sense of humor.

I do like open-minded men who can think outside the box.

I prefer men who are very driven, work hard and play harder, enjoys the finer things in life, is into fitness, knows that eating out can be more han Taco Bell and isn't afraid to go to the doctor and cares about his health. Oh and he must be well groomed and take care of his appearance. A good sense of style (not the cliche) is always a plus.

He has to be honest, loyal, caring and responsible and family oriented.

Physically, I prefer dark skinned men who are at least 6 ft tall but I've always made accomodations in that respect.

And lastly, he should have some sexual skills and love to eat pussy...if he fucks like Justin Slayer does on screen, I may try to lock him down.

Eat Pussy Huh? Well You Would Have To Feel My Needs Too In Order To Get That Done It's Only Fair.

Never Compare A Porn Star To A Regular Guy My Uncle Is A Porn Director He Told The Actors Have To Take Certain Pills That Make Them Go For A Long Time.

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

no shit, if he still rockin a curl he gonna make you laugh, yo momma laugh, perfect strangers.... hell, he make people point and stare too. a walking fire hazard and you want a nigga to light your fire? you and him both be burnt up.

naw, but for real, this is a real ass topic me and my homeboy was talking about the other day. if you look at the statistics, after you take out the brothers locked down, the brothers shot, the brothers strung out, the brothers with no job, what possibilities are left for black women? then you look at the fact that the upward mobility of the black woman is much faster than the black man's as it stands, you really have no other alternative, but to seek an older man. fuck it, i don't wanna rant, but this has messed up the whole dynamic of black male-female relationships.

somebody that empowers you with their presence, is supportive, listens to you, and is willing to coordinate plans for a better future is what you need. you being ahead of the other person financially is not reason enough to discount him. if he is trustworthy, fiscally responsible, honest, has good judgement, and can handle having a woman who makes more money than him, i'd say consider him no matter how much you gotta change his pillow case.

It's Alot Of Good Black Men Out There Maybe You Just Looking In The Wrong Places.

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

May I ask how successful\attractive your lady friends are?

Those high standards might be a defense mechanism to keep them from taking a critical look in a mirror or being critically analyzed by someone else. They might have those high standards because they don't think too highly of themselves and don't want to get hurt for not meeting their ideal mate's high standards.

Just a thought.

Co-Sign, It Does Happen Like That Sometimes.

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

I have grown so much as a person that I have put myself on a pedestal. I will not apolize for it. Settling for less than what you want only leads to contentment. Contentment is just not enough for me. I see nothing wrong with having high standards. All I want is my equal and I believe that is what most level-headed women want.

I Agree You Want Someone With High Standards I Feel The Same Way Cause When I Get Married Someday I Want To Know That I Am Marrying The Right Person And We Are Compatible But Sometimes The Person You Least Expect Might End Up Being Someone You Would Marry.

 

[femmenoire]

Eat Pussy Huh? Well You Would Have To Feel My Needs Too In Order To Get That Done It's Only Fair.

Never Compare A Porn Star To A Regular Guy My Uncle Is A Porn Director He Told The Actors Have To Take Certain Pills That Make Them Go For A Long Time.

It's not about how long he is fucking. It's about how he fucks. He gets in deep, he moves women in all kinds of positions to reach every crevice of a woman. Just talking about it turns me on.

He reminds me of a lover that I had who was just like him. God the sex was amazing. I still wonder where this dude is.

 

[kimchifunk]

It's Alot Of Good Black Men Out There Maybe You Just Looking In The Wrong Places.

naw bruh, i'm looking for a good woman just like you, but i'm at odds trying to weigh my ideals of a perfect woman versus a real woman whose presence harmonizes with my own, keeps me interested, and with whom i can continue to grow and build.

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

naw bruh, i'm looking for a good woman just like you, but i'm at odds trying to weigh my ideals of a perfect woman versus a real woman whose presence harmonizes with my own, keeps me interested, and with whom i can continue to grow and build.

Well Ok Speaking For Me I Would Rather Find A Real Woman Cause Perfect Women Be Kind Of Stuck Up And Conceited And I Ain't Into That What. It's All In What Your Prefer.

 

[jedimasta]

I have grown so much as a person that I have put myself on a pedestal. I will not apolize for it. Settling for less than what you want only leads to contentment. Contentment is just not enough for me. I see nothing wrong with having high standards. All I want is my equal and I believe that is what most level-headed women want.

See that's what I'm saying. I'm not calling you out in particular, but some women might be overestimating their "value."

There's nothing wrong with high standards as long as their realistic in accordance with what you bring to the table.

 

[JofromthaNO]

May I ask how successful\attractive your lady friends are?

Those high standards might be a defense mechanism to keep them from taking a critical look in a mirror or being critically analyzed by someone else. They might have those high standards because they don't think too highly of themselves and don't want to get hurt for not meeting their ideal mate's high standards.

Just a thought.

Personally, I think these women (all single again...lol) are good looking, "smart" women. However, I do think, like men, they are afraid of rejection and being vulnerable. Lord knows I'd hate to put myself "back out on the market" and have to find a man I'd be comfortable being "vulnerable" with all over again.

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

Personally, I think these women (all single again...lol) are good looking, "smart" women. However, I do think, like men, they are afraid of rejection and being vulnerable. Lord knows I'd hate to put myself "back out on the market" and have to find a man I'd be comfortable being "vulnerable" with all over again.

Being Afraid Of Rejection Is Someone That Has Low Self Esteem Of Themselves And It Shouldn't Be That Way.

 

[Jam_Jam]

See that's what I'm saying. I'm not calling you out in particular, but some women might be overestimating their "value."

There's nothing wrong with high standards as long as their realistic in accordance with what you bring to the table.

I am very realistic and I have set my standards pretty high. If I date a man that is not on my level (which I have), my friends never let me hear the end of it. But's that good because they help remind me of my worth. I am not rich by any means, but I have my own home, two cars, two college degrees, beauty, brains and compassion for others. You either love me or you hate me.