Single Guys....I feel kinda bad for'em

[Top_Bunk]

Maybe i'm just ovulating right now...and i'm pretty smoked up. But why i got told by this single guy that he had to go iron his clothes(i assume for work tomorrow). And earlier another friend fella of mine was telling me how he had to make himself spaghetti. And when i heard this i was just like "awwwww".

I felt bad for them. They had nobody to care for'em.

So, how do you guys do it? What do you tell yourselves? Have you ever experienced a woman doing those types of things for you? If you did, did you miss them when they were gone?

I cooked just about every meal my husband had for years. Ironed his clothes. Washed his clothes. Magically made his socks appear. lol "They're just there. The magical sock fairy puts new socks in my drawer."

And i remember his friends would always be like, "i wish i had that." So when you no longer have it what's there?

Is it a deep longing? Is it something you just sort of? Push to the back of your head?

Married guys how does it feel from having to do those things yourself to not?

Can't do one w/out the other.
I'ma throw a monkey wrench in this thread instead of making another one.

Maybe i'm just suffering from morning wood right now...and i'm pretty stiffed up. But why i got told by this married woman that she had to go iron his clothes(i assume for work tomorrow). And earlier another friend fella of mine was telling me how she had to make him spaghetti. And when i heard this i was just like "awwwww".

I felt bad for them. They had to care for somebody.

So, how do you guys/women do it? What do you tell yourselves? Have you ever experienced doing these type of things for a man? If you did, did you miss them when they were gone?



Is it a deep longing? Having to come home at a certain time of the day, not being able to allways come and go as you please, Sex gets boring, You're social life suffers, you have to change things about yourself to suit the other, and if you're a girl- you're guy seems to feel like he has 24/7 access to your body?


Is it something you just sort of? Push to the back of your head?

Married guys how does it feel from having to do those things yourself to not

 

[Retired Mizer]

I don't see why you feel bad for them. If they have a woman, she is not supposed to be his mother. And even if he's married, a good guy should know how to do laundry and put together something edible. All single people should have learned basic survival skills. Now how the work is split between a couple is up to them.

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Now,why should we marry again? There isn't any apparent benefit for men and women. Just stay single, bros, and KEEP YOUR OWN MONEY.

 

[Rossini]

I dont think many of these guys have come across women like that ... and if they did she probably didn't have a phat enough ass so they passed her by lol its her fault ya know ... cuz her ass wasn't big enough lmao

Hey we want phat asses, yall want big dicks

 

[Top_Bunk]

 

[bootlegga]

Talk about left field quit whining and man the hell up.

ahh the answer for everything.

 

[followup]

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Now,why should we marry again? There isn't any apparent benefit for men and women. Just stay single, bros, and KEEP YOUR OWN MONEY.

If you think the main benefit of getting married is to have someone cook and clean for you, I agree. Your ass should stay single and sleep with jump offs for pussy. You have no business being ANYBODY'S husband

ahh the answer for everything.

In your case, yes. Because obviously you are going through something to have posted that lame, random-ass comment in this thread. You emotional issues have nothing to do with the OP's question. All this 'woe is me' mess is not cutting it. A man is supposed to be a man.

 

[LoneStar29]

Hey we want phat asses, yall want big dicks

I dont need a big dick ... my pussy is not 12 inches deep ... regular dick sized men can fuck just as good


But anyways @ the OP ... there is alot of bitterness in this thread and it went completely over so many of these boys heads as I knew it would smmfh Complain non stop about how sistas dont "take care" of their man ... got a sista here saying she enjoys that and now all of a sudden its "oh we can do it for ourselves " ... then of course the white girl pics cuz of course they ALL do it ... bunch of fuckin clowns looking for any and every opportunity to hate on sistas smmfh

 

[followup]

don't sweat it. this is the vocal minority. Young-minded 'men'

 

[CPT Callamity]

I'm about to be single again in a few days. I'm just not that good at being a boyfriend. It's a tough thing to face, but single life ain't all bad. You don't have to answer to anyone, you can focus more on your career, do the things you want to do all the time and so forth.

The people I feel bad for are people stuck in loveless marriages where they just go through the motions of being a couple. No home cooked meal or free drycleaning is worth that. That was never my situation, thak God.

^^^This!

Now I've had women who cooked for me but my father taught me how to cook while I was young. I was a latchkey kid....so making my own meals and doing laundry began before I Was 12. It'd be nice to have someone to do it but its not a common thing for most women nowadays. Once frozen meals and Foreman grills came around

 

[Rossini]

I dont need a big dick ... my pussy is not 12 inches deep ... regular dick sized men can fuck just as good

Yall were just in the "does size matter" thread saying you wouldnt mess with a man that has a small dick, so if we pass up women because their ass isnt phat, then yall pass up men because of their inadequate dick size guess we're even

 

[melonpecan]

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Now,why should we marry again? There isn't any apparent benefit for men and women. Just stay single, bros, and KEEP YOUR OWN MONEY.

It's not always about the money.

IF i got married and IF i got divorced (knock on wood) if we had children then I'd ask for the house. If it was his car before the marriage he can keep it. if we bought it after the marriage it would depend on how ready I'd be able to be financially and if there is public transportation on whether he'd get to keep it or get another one.

Other than that i'd ask for nothing in return.



ya'll is killing me with this 'stay single, keep money' thing. if (as a woman) i wanted a dude simply for his money i wouldn't marry him in the first place, Id just get his money and be done. by the time you get to the alter if you dont realize chick is digging you for your wallet THE DIVORCE AND ALIMONY IS - ON - YOU

 

[LoneStar29]

Yall were just in the "does size matter" thread saying you wouldnt mess with a man that has a small dick, so if we pass up women because their ass isnt phat, then yall pass up men because of their inadequate dick size guess we're even

Whose ya'll??

Cuz I dont remember saying that in that thread ... I was clownin the OP cuz he's an idiot ... I never said anything about passing up men cuz of their dick size

 

[sean69]

thread went from a mature legitimate question to moist in under 2 pages ...

 

[Rossini]

Whose ya'll??

Cuz I dont remember saying that in that thread ... I was clownin the OP cuz he's an idiot ... I never said anything about passing up men cuz of their dick size

You made a generalizing statement so I did the same thing, 4 out of 7 girls in that thread said they wouldnt mess with a lil dick nigga... so dont try to make it seem like we're wrong for turning down a female because she dont got a phat ass.

 

[Retired Mizer]

If you think the main benefit of getting married is to have someone cook and clean for you, I agree. Your ass should stay single and sleep with jump offs for pussy. You have no business being ANYBODY'S husband

In your case, yes. Because obviously you are going through something to have posted that lame, random-ass comment in this thread. You emotional issues have nothing to do with the OP's question. All this 'woe is me' mess is not cutting it. A man is supposed to be a man.

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Apparently you haven't read my earlier post.
I don't need a female for cooking,cleaning or any other domestic chores. I can do it all for myself, even better myself. Most females do such a half-assed job , you might as well do it yourself. Besides, as I mentioned, if you had a lady do those things for you, she'd just hold it over their heads, and would probably just throw it in your face the first time she gets a chance to do so.

I don't need a female to do anything for me, thats why I can afford to be an asshole, and not settle for bullshit. Your pussy(not you personally) is just like any other pussy. It isn't ANY BETTER than the next womans pussy? It is not lined with 24 carat guilded gold! I can always find another young dumb chick to crack open when I want, so why should I commit my life and future financial liability away to someone who brings NOTHING to the table but a pussy? What??

Its not worth it sister.

As I have said earlier, I have the necessary life skills to function without needing a female to perform these chores me. Personally all I got to do is just live my life and age. I guarantee my romantic/sexual prospects won't decrease with age as much as a females will with aging.

So go ahead and continue to shoot your own selves in your bunioned-feet if you want! You need to understand that most men REALLY do NOT care. We refuse to play the new-age female game of marriage by HER RULES.

Bros nowadays just ain't gonna grovel down at the feet of imperfection, and half-assedness with these combative females out here! Life is too short for this type of aggravation, so that's why I say "Just DON'T get married!"

You females don't have to marry either; single,old and bitter is in!

You ain't heard? Pussy's free now!!

 

[Retired Mizer]

It's not always about the money.

IF i got married and IF i got divorced (knock on wood) if we had children then I'd ask for the house. If it was his car before the marriage he can keep it. if we bought it after the marriage it would depend on how ready I'd be able to be financially and if there is public transportation on whether he'd get to keep it or get another one.

Other than that i'd ask for nothing in return.



ya'll is killing me with this 'stay single, keep money' thing. if (as a woman) i wanted a dude simply for his money i wouldn't marry him in the first place, Id just get his money and be done. by the time you get to the alter if you dont realize chick is digging you for your wallet THE DIVORCE AND ALIMONY IS - ON - YOU

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Ms. Mel, normally I'd agree with you 100%, but now you are the exception to the rule. Add to that fact that the current legal system cast assumption of blame on men and penalizes them accordingly in divorce proceedings. Add to THAT the fact that you have women who proclaim loudly and proudly that they ain't doing shit for no man, let along one who committed and MARRIED you, so what exactly is there left for a man in what is left of the disintegrating institution of marriage?

Love? (Don't have to marry for that)
Sex? ( Eh, don't have to marry for that)
friendship? ( A lot of sisters now are not our friends, they act like adversaries, and again we really don't need to marry for this)

I accept the fact that I am going to be along, I don't know why women wont accept reality? As long as marriage exist as it is currently constituted, then I don't see this trend changing at all

 

[Retired Mizer]

thread went from a mature legitimate question to moist in under 2 pages ...

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So it was a "mature" thread when the conversation focused on feeling sorry for grown ass men for not being able to take care of themselves, but it becomes in your words"moist" when men stand up and refute a flawed premise????

I'll join you:

 

[True Real Info]

though its appreciated....a woman has to bring more to the table than what a man can do for himself if he pleases......



some women take hold of those positions as a move of power...not concern....



***sits back and thinks about women spiking the spaghetti and other food with their "juices'***

 

[OnSlaught]

I feel where Clarke is coming from. There aren't too many women that take pride in these things, and even if they do it's not like we can't do these things for ourselves. It would be nice if a woman offered to do these things without then reiterating (holding it over a dude's head) that they did it over and over again.

Like I said before:

Being single is not bad. Like you agreed to disagree with me about loneliness, or rather better put, being alone, I feel it is an integral part in the development of a male becoming a man.

If you ever think about indigenous people, especially our ancestors, the men would go on vision quests and walk abouts for days, sometimes weeks. They had to hunt, kill, cook, clean, live off the land and provide their own for the duration of these tests of manhood. It's only in modern times that man has become accustom to the care of a woman 24/7.

My grandfather taught me how to cook, shoot a gun, box, sew, fix cars, garden and suture, and clean, even though my grandmother did most of the cooking and cleaning.

My point is that I don't think you can be truly appreciative of a woman doing those things you mentioned Legacy if that man hasn't experienced being alone/single himself.

As far as companionship and intimacy, I mean you can find that in a woman without being married to them. It's just how long the woman is willing to be content with that set up. Most aren't down, but men certainly are. IMHO, at that stage, you may as well become married, but to alleviate all stress, get you a will and a prenup and you both will have a peace of mind...


But most women would NOT want to do the last phrase I bolded and highlighted in red...

 

[followup]

thread went from a mature legitimate question to moist in under 2 pages ...

basically I guess they don't get to boo hoo enough on the main board. gotta come over here. Well sorry to tell them they will get more sympathy from the other men

 

[followup]

though its appreciated....a woman has to bring more to the table than what a man can do for himself if he pleases......

some women take hold of those positions as a move of power...not concern....

I agree with the first statement. The second statement: a woman can only do that if a man allows it. For example: some men marry their nice domesticated wife and she cooks for him every night. Let's say one night she gets pissed at him, cooks and doesn't make any for him. He's assed out. Now the first night, he may go get fast food, or whip something quick together for himself. but let her stay mad for a while and he's gonna get pissed. But if he has been sharing in the cooking and she knows that he can fend for himself, she holds no power over him...same with doing his laundry.

 

[DragonXJC]

I agree with the first statement. The second statement: a woman can only do that if a man allows it. For example: some men marry their nice domesticated wife and she cooks for him every night. Let's say one night she gets pissed at him, cooks and doesn't make any for him. He's assed out. Now the first night, he may go get fast food, or whip something quick together for himself. but let her stay mad for a while and he's gonna get pissed. But if he has been sharing in the cooking and she knows that he can fend for himself, she holds no power over him...same with doing his laundry.

Good point.

 

[Crown&Coke]

Would it be something you rather it be? You doing it instead of someone else? Did you ever have it?

I have had it before but it makes no difference to me whether I am doing it or a woman is doing it for me. Long as it gets done. I think its cool for a woman to just up and do it if she wants but otherwise I will do it on my own​

 

[bootlegga]

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So it was a "mature" thread when the conversation focused on feeling sorry for grown ass men for not being able to take care of themselves, but it becomes in your words"moist" when men stand up and refute a flawed premise????

I'll join you:

pretty much.

 

[LoneStar29]

basically I guess they don't get to boo hoo enough on the main board. gotta come over here. Well sorry to tell them they will get more sympathy from the other men

Like I said before its just odd that they complain how we dont take care of them then when we talk to them about taking care of them they say they dont need it ... its like they just want to fight anything a black woman says ... if it was a white or off-white girl then they would be in here praising the woman on how she likes to take care of her man ... these Negroes are just weak

 

[shywriter]

I think the guys in this thread are saying by and large that it would be nice to have a woman to cook and clean but they can manage on their own. I've never had a woman cook for me and only one ever cleaned for me and that was a one time thing, so it's pretty much "can't miss what you never had."

 

[OnSlaught]

I think the guys in this thread are saying by and large that it would be nice to have a woman to cook and clean but they can manage on their own. I've never had a woman cook for me and only one ever cleaned for me and that was a one time thing, so it's pretty much "can't miss what you never had."

I fully agree Shy I think there's a lot of emotions being thrown around in here unnecessarily on both sides (male and female).

Anyway, how have you been?

 

[sean69]

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So it was a "mature" thread when the conversation focused on feeling sorry for grown ass men for not being able to take care of themselves, but it becomes in your words"moist" when men stand up and refute a flawed premise????

I'll join you:

pretty much.

The OP started the thread with a suggestive title that would draw folks in (typical thread starting strategy, nothing new here) and pretty clearly stated her OPINION about the situation (made sense to me where she was coming from) and asked the fellas to chime in. This aint "War of the Roses" but ya'll go ahead and draw whatever conclusions or inferences of intent that makes you feel good and while you're -ing, here...

 

[LoneStar29]

^^^^^

Spoken like a man who has had good women in his life ... its obvious some of these guys dont have what it takes to rope one

 

[doggish_098]

where did the op disappear to

 

[CT's Finest]

where did the op disappear to

Good question. Maybe she's been busy the last day or so...

 

[SuchATease]

Hmmm, Props to you guys who know how to take care of yourselve - although that is nothing to give props for as you should as an adult know how to take care of yourself but nevertheless it's good reading that you guys are self-sufficent. I can only assume here but I do take care of home cook, clean etc. but I think my mate gets the most fulfillment out of knowing that I'm always there. If he gets a joke in his head he wants to share he knows I'll listen, if he's had a bad day and wants to vent he knows I'm there....When I was single I didn't have that, I mean I had male friends but in risk of being called crazy a lot of thoughts I kept to myself. But in a relationship that person "gets you" and those thoughts and feelings that you had to keep inside you can share with someone and it's okay....

Also, he loves that when he's sick it's somewhere to say "are you okay, what you need" A chick that's ya jumpoff of "friend" isn't going to be over your place feeding you soup and fluffing your pillow...I'm appreciate when he does the same for me and know that my homegirls and mother are too busy with their own lives to take care of me....

And lastly you build lasting memories - although I'm the last person who needs anyone to go anywhere with me it's always nice to have someone I care about there with me experiencing it with me. You create memories which deepen your relationship and bond....

So yeah sometimes I do feel kinda bad for single folks...

 

[SuchATease]

I feel where Clarke is coming from. There aren't too many women that take pride in these things, and even if they do it's not like we can't do these things for ourselves. It would be nice if a woman offered to do these things without then reiterating (holding it over a dude's head) that they did it over and over again.

Like I said before:

Being single is not bad. Like you agreed to disagree with me about loneliness, or rather better put, being alone, I feel it is an integral part in the development of a male becoming a man.

If you ever think about indigenous people, especially our ancestors, the men would go on vision quests and walk abouts for days, sometimes weeks. They had to hunt, kill, cook, clean, live off the land and provide their own for the duration of these tests of manhood. It's only in modern times that man has become accustom to the care of a woman 24/7.

My grandfather taught me how to cook, shoot a gun, box, sew, fix cars, garden and suture, and clean, even though my grandmother did most of the cooking and cleaning.

My point is that I don't think you can be truly appreciative of a woman doing those things you mentioned Legacy if that man hasn't experienced being alone/single himself.

As far as companionship and intimacy, I mean you can find that in a woman without being married to them. It's just how long the woman is willing to be content with that set up. Most aren't down, but men certainly are. IMHO, at that stage, you may as well become married, but to alleviate all stress, get you a will and a prenup and you both will have a peace of mind...


But most women would NOT want to do the last phrase I bolded and highlighted in red...

:raises hand: I am one of those women who will sign a prenup when I get married. I have acquired throughout my lifetime possessions that in the event of a divorce I want to walk away with - my home and future property being one of them. Now what we acquire during our marriage should be split or sold with the proceeds being split between us if we get divorced.

 

[SuchATease]

....my bad lol

 

[melonpecan]

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Ms. Mel, normally I'd agree with you 100%, but now you are the exception to the rule. Add to that fact that the current legal system cast assumption of blame on men and penalizes them accordingly in divorce proceedings. Add to THAT the fact that you have women who proclaim loudly and proudly that they ain't doing shit for no man, let along one who committed and MARRIED you, so what exactly is there left for a man in what is left of the disintegrating institution of marriage?

Love? (Don't have to marry for that)
Sex? ( Eh, don't have to marry for that)
friendship? ( A lot of sisters now are not our friends, they act like adversaries, and again we really don't need to marry for this)

I accept the fact that I am going to be along, I don't know why women wont accept reality? As long as marriage exist as it is currently constituted, then I don't see this trend changing at all

I had this really thought out response and I was almost finished with it and then my browser sent me back...and I lost it . I'm going to have to come back in here when I can think straight and not so heated.