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Maybe i'm just ovulating right now...and i'm pretty smoked up. But why i got told by this single guy that he had to go iron his clothes(i assume for work tomorrow). And earlier another friend fella of mine was telling me how he had to make himself spaghetti. And when i heard this i was just like "awwwww".

I felt bad for them. They had nobody to care for'em.

So, how do you guys do it? What do you tell yourselves? Have you ever experienced a woman doing those types of things for you? If you did, did you miss them when they were gone?

I cooked just about every meal my husband had for years. Ironed his clothes. Washed his clothes. Magically made his socks appear. lol "They're just there. The magical sock fairy puts new socks in my drawer." :hmm:

And i remember his friends would always be like, "i wish i had that." So when you no longer have it what's there?

Is it a deep longing? Is it something you just sort of? Push to the back of your head?

Married guys how does it feel from having to do those things yourself to not?
 
Legacy_Infinity said:
Magically made his socks appear. lol "They're just there. The magical sock fairy puts new socks in my drawer." :hmm:
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:lol:

I dont think many of these guys have come across women like that ... and if they did she probably didn't have a phat enough ass so they passed her by:rolleyes: lol its her fault ya know ... cuz her ass wasn't big enough lmao
 
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So doggish i take it to mean, you're ok with not having home cooked meals or being taken care of intimately? Did you ever wonder what it would be like? Did you have it before?
 
Legacy_Infinity said:
So take out and cleaning service is better than attention from a woman?
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What makes you think single men don't get attention from a woman? I mean if he ever decided to get married he'd have to be getting some attention from a woman somewhere right?
 
Legacy_Infinity said:
So take out and cleaning service is better than attention from a woman?
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i guess what you consider attention and what i consider attention are two different things. if i want a made to do my laundry cook all my meals and be available for my immediate needs i'll hire one. all that have a hot meal when i come home from work blah blah blah is not really what i want or "require" from a mate. my grandmother is 80+ years old and even she didnt cook 7 nights a week.
 
TRUST ME.. YOU'RE THE LAST OF A DYING BREED.....:smh::smh::smh:


alot of women i come across are just plain lazy..... and it's sad too
 
I'm about to be single again in a few days. I'm just not that good at being a boyfriend. It's a tough thing to face, but single life ain't all bad. You don't have to answer to anyone, you can focus more on your career, do the things you want to do all the time and so forth.

The people I feel bad for are people stuck in loveless marriages where they just go through the motions of being a couple. No home cooked meal or free drycleaning is worth that. That was never my situation, thank God.
 
yureeka9 said:
What makes you think single men don't get attention from a woman? I mean if he ever decided to get married he'd have to be getting some attention from a woman somewhere right?
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Ah yes my use of the word "attention" was inappropriate. Attention meaning, the intimacy and care a woman shows for you by doing those things for you. You can't get that from the take out place. Or the chinese guy doing your dry cleaning. But i mean that's the point of this thread.

Maybe you do. Enlighten me if you would?
 
I can do all that shit myself and have no problem doing it. I have had a woman do it before and its nice but it doesnt matter alot to me cuz I have done all that kind of stuff myself for so long it doesnt matter. I'm used to doing it​
 
Crown&Coke said:
I can do all that shit myself and have no problem doing it. I have had a woman do it before and its nice but it doesnt matter alot to me cuz I have done all that kind of stuff myself for so long it doesnt matter. I'm used to doing it​
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Same here.


If you were so good at all these things OP, why the divorce?
 
doggish_098 said:
i guess what you consider attention and what i consider attention are two different things. if i want a made to do my laundry cook all my meals and be available for my immediate needs i'll hire one. all that have a hot meal when i come home from work blah blah blah is not really what i want or "require" from a mate. my grandmother is 80+ years old and even she didnt cook 7 nights a week.
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So you place no value in homecare? Or very little value? So you consider it maid service?
 
Dannyblueyes said:
I'm about to be single again in a few days. I'm just not that good at being a boyfriend. It's a tough thing to face, but single life ain't all bad. You don't have to answer to anyone, you can focus more on your career, do the things you want to do all the time and so forth.

The people I feel bad for are people stuck in loveless marriages where they just go through the motions of being a couple. No home cooked meal or free drycleaning is worth that. That was never my situation, thank God.
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You value those other things more? I can vibe with that.
 
Crown&Coke said:
I can do all that shit myself and have no problem doing it. I have had a woman do it before and its nice but it doesnt matter alot to me cuz I have done all that kind of stuff myself for so long it doesnt matter. I'm used to doing it​
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Would it be something you rather it be? You doing it instead of someone else? Did you ever have it?
 
Legacy_Infinity said:
So take out and cleaning service is better than attention from a woman?
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Why?
So they can hold it over your head the first opportunity they get when they are upset?
You know how it is when you ladies got the slick talk just flowing like wine...
Besides, I can cook, clean, iron, and do it all just as good, if not better than you sisters in some cases.

What you mentioned about what a good woman provides certainly sounds good, but I have little faith in hopes of finding a woman who would give of herself in such a selfless manner. Almost everyone has alterior motives, however innocent you may deem them to be.

With all that being said, I do not by any means, close my mind to the possibility of me finding that ideal woman capable of holding me down because there is always a chance.
 
moms left when i was 6, so me, my bro learned how to keep that house clean and how
to cook. i loved being single, but it got old the older i got. love my wife, but i told her
only thing i'd miss if we got on bad terms would be the pussy cuz i can take care of myself.
 
Legacy_Infinity said:
Maybe i'm just ovulating right now...and i'm pretty smoked up. But why i got told by this single guy that he had to go iron his clothes(i assume for work tomorrow). And earlier another friend fella of mine was telling me how he had to make himself spaghetti. And when i heard this i was just like "awwwww".

I felt bad for them. They had nobody to care for'em.

So, how do you guys do it? What do you tell yourselves? Have you ever experienced a woman doing those types of things for you? If you did, did you miss them when they were gone?

I cooked just about every meal my husband had for years. Ironed his clothes. Washed his clothes. Magically made his socks appear. lol "They're just there. The magical sock fairy puts new socks in my drawer." :hmm:

And i remember his friends would always be like, "i wish i had that." So when you no longer have it what's there?

Is it a deep longing? Is it something you just sort of? Push to the back of your head?

Married guys how does it feel from having to do those things yourself to not?
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Phil Wood said:
TRUST ME.. YOU'RE THE LAST OF A DYING BREED.....:smh::smh::smh:


alot of women i come across are just plain lazy..... and it's sad too
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/THREAD. After the red.:yes:

I'm a single guy. Never been married. And I can cook, clean, iron, etc.

And personally, I agree with Phil Wood...

I'm over 30, live in a big city, and finding a single woman (whether black, white, or other), with no kids, who is ***willing*** to do those things.... is VERY RARE indeed. (keyword: willing)

Unfortunately, only 1 or 2... out of almost every 8-10 GROWN ASS women I meet..............
EVEN KNOW "HOW" TO COOK. :rolleyes:

Can't speak for anyone else... but the majority of women (over 30+ yrs old) in my city that I meet... who know how / or are willing to cook on a semi-regular basis.................................... are all single mothers. :yes:

The only exception in my experience is... latin woman. :yes:
They will hook-up a quick meal in a heartbeat. :D

Go figure. :rolleyes:

Now I meet lots of professional / career-types.
But sorry to say, cooking is never very high on their list of attributes. :smh:

However, if I lived in a small 'college town', or a smaller city, I believe my percentages would improve......... drastically. And/or I might have already found one of the 'dying breeds' of my own.

Just my opinion.
 
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doggish_098 said:
i guess what you consider attention and what i consider attention are two different things. if i want a made to do my laundry cook all my meals and be available for my immediate needs i'll hire one. all that have a hot meal when i come home from work blah blah blah is not really what i want or "require" from a mate. my grandmother is 80+ years old and even she didnt cook 7 nights a week.
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Being single is not bad. Like you agreed to disagree with me about loneliness, or rather better put, being alone, I feel it is an integral part in the development of a male becoming a man.

If you ever think about indigenous people, especially our ancestors, the men would go on vision quests and walk abouts for days, sometimes weeks. They had to hunt, kill, cook, clean, live off the land and provide their own for the duration of these tests of manhood. It's only in modern times that man has become accustom to the care of a woman 24/7.

My grandfather taught me how to cook, shoot a gun, box, sew, fix cars, garden and suture, and clean, even though my grandmother did most of the cooking and cleaning.

My point is that I don't think you can be truly appreciative of a woman doing those things you mentioned Legacy if that man hasn't experienced being alone/single himself.

As far as companionship and intimacy, I mean you can find that in a woman without being married to them. It's just how long the woman is willing to be content with that set up. Most aren't down, but men certainly are. IMHO, at that stage, you may as well become married, but to alleviate all stress, get you a will and a prenup and you both will have a peace of mind...

 
Legacy_Infinity said:
Maybe i'm just ovulating right now...and i'm pretty smoked up. But why i got told by this single guy that he had to go iron his clothes(i assume for work tomorrow). And earlier another friend fella of mine was telling me how he had to make himself spaghetti. And when i heard this i was just like "awwwww".

I felt bad for them. They had nobody to care for'em.

So, how do you guys do it? What do you tell yourselves? Have you ever experienced a woman doing those types of things for you? If you did, did you miss them when they were gone?
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Outside of family...no one's cooked for me. i do my own laundry/ironing/cleaning/mowing, etc. i don't really know how to cook, but i manage.

then again, nobody really cares about black men in that aspect anyway, right? we're just around to take the bullets, and hand over the paychecks, no?



*shrug*
 
I have a wife who does all that, and it's cool. Before getting married, I handled my business and had plenty of companionship. My home was quiet and comfortable. I also had someone come in to clean up from time to time. I did laundry and never had a problem with socks. Like I said, I have a wife who does all that and it's no big deal. I appreciate it, but sometimes I think she has lost some of her identity, trying to look out for me. Our house is not always comfortable or quiet. I had to learn how to compromise, and also how to listen, and when not to listen. Situations change daily, and what you like today, you might not like tomorrow. Alot of guys are single because they want to be, so don't feel bad for them.
 
I don't see why you feel bad for them. If they have a woman, she is not supposed to be his mother. And even if he's married, a good guy should know how to do laundry and put together something edible. All single people should have learned basic survival skills. Now how the work is split between a couple is up to them.
 
Legacy_Infinity said:
Maybe i'm just ovulating right now...and i'm pretty smoked up. But why i got told by this single guy that he had to go iron his clothes(i assume for work tomorrow). And earlier another friend fella of mine was telling me how he had to make himself spaghetti. And when i heard this i was just like "awwwww".

I felt bad for them. They had nobody to care for'em.

So, how do you guys do it? What do you tell yourselves? Have you ever experienced a woman doing those types of things for you? If you did, did you miss them when they were gone?

I cooked just about every meal my husband had for years. Ironed his clothes. Washed his clothes. Magically made his socks appear. lol "They're just there. The magical sock fairy puts new socks in my drawer." :hmm:

And i remember his friends would always be like, "i wish i had that." So when you no longer have it what's there?

Is it a deep longing? Is it something you just sort of? Push to the back of your head?

Married guys how does it feel from having to do those things yourself to not?
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I haven't really consistently had that kind of care since I moved out of my mother's house at 18. That is something different than what you're talking about here, but in terms of having someone cook, clean, and maintain a welcoming home environment, I think it's kinda the same. Mothers, are not the same as a girlfriend or wife, but in each case you do get the feel of a woman's touch and presence in the home. That is something that is nice to have. When it comes to the woman you have chosen to be with she can and will provide many of the things a man needs. It's not always about making sure the place is spotless and that dinner is hot and ready when he gets home. Sometimes it's about the fact he knows a good woman is at home to hold it down when he needs and wants her to do so. She has his back, and he's got hers. Relationships are about give and take. Matching each others effort. So, as a men we can go out in to the world and do what we have to to earn a living, but it is nice to have a woman with you to share your experiences with. If you don't have that on a day to day basis you can miss it and even hope to have it again, but you can't dwell on it. I always tell folks that looking for love doesn't help you find it any faster. So, until you get that again, you've got to keep on pushin. Do what you need to eat, have clean clothes, etc. That could be learning to cook, washing and ironing, and just keeping your place in order. All those things along with whatever other work you have to do mentally and/or physically to improve yourself as a man will help attract women. No one wants to be alone, but for the period of time you are alone I think it's important to grow and learn. By the time you get someone new you'll be better equipped to handle things...
 
Legacy_Infinity said:
So you place no value in homecare? Or very little value? So you consider it maid service?
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i'm not saying that but women go around pounding on their chest screaming about how they are independent women, so i am going to pound on my chest about being an independent man. i dont need or require a woman to cook clean and do my laundry for me. i can wash my own clothes i can't cook very well and the dry cleaners presses a shirt better than any man or woman can do at home, and cleaning your own toilets works wonders for a mans aim.

it is cool that you did those things for your dude, but you came in here with your A-cups poked out like if it is not being done you are missing out on something.
 
Legacy_Infinity said:
Maybe i'm just ovulating right now...and i'm pretty smoked up. But why i got told by this single guy that he had to go iron his clothes(i assume for work tomorrow). And earlier another friend fella of mine was telling me how he had to make himself spaghetti. And when i heard this i was just like "awwwww".

I felt bad for them. They had nobody to care for'em.

So, how do you guys do it? What do you tell yourselves? Have you ever experienced a woman doing those types of things for you? If you did, did you miss them when they were gone?

I cooked just about every meal my husband had for years. Ironed his clothes. Washed his clothes. Magically made his socks appear. lol "They're just there. The magical sock fairy puts new socks in my drawer." :hmm:

And i remember his friends would always be like, "i wish i had that." So when you no longer have it what's there?

Is it a deep longing? Is it something you just sort of? Push to the back of your head?

Married guys how does it feel from having to do those things yourself to not?
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Being single didn't start to suck until baout 2 weeks ago when i remembered the hassel one has to go through in finding someone right for you. That shit is frustrating. About two weeks ago is when i realized it wasn't just my macadocious game that got her (ex), but she pulled me in too wit her game. And i run into a lot of boring passive, speak when spoken to bitches that expect me to be determined to win their heart when they haven't given me a reason to be determined. So that's the part that's boring....going through all these weak females i see on avg. along with the ones that want to waste niggas time. (gotten kinda better at weeding the chicks that want to waste time though)

So yeah it sucks but not for the reasons you named. I dont mind cooking for myself or doing my laundry it's just a matter of me having the time. Being single has it's pro's & it's cons. Although i'd like that right about now, it wouldn't be best for me. I'm too young to get into anything serious.
 

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