The ethnic background of the author may be somewhat immaterial, given the nature of the ideology she is promoting. Women of all colors have grown to embrace this way of thinking, and they are exploring life's other options on a grander scale than ever before.
The ethnic background o the author in question is anything but immaterial and to suggest otherwise is to be somewhat naive at best or knowingly disingenuous at worst.
The ideology that fueled the thrust and premise of her diatribe are fully rooted within the perniciously misplaced militancy that lies at the core of the feminist movement like a malignant cancer.
No one in their right mind would seek to prevent women from exploring whatever career and educational options they wished to but going by the rhetoric espoused by some of the more rabid feminists, you'd be under the impression that men as a whole, seek to keep all women perpetually down.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
This is especially true of educated women, with professional careers. Note the reference to Michelle being upset with Barack when she became forced to assume a more traditional role in the family. In Barack's words, tensions escalated between them.
That's all dependent on what you personally perceive as being the
"traditional role" in the family.
You cannot have two leaders co-captaining a ship and if indeed, Michelle was aggrieved at having to assume a more
"traditional" role then she would have been more that able to exit stage left from the relationship. Any tensions that may have built up between herself and Barack would have been no different to tensions experienced by married couples all over the world.
My point is this, there is a sisterhood that can (and does) transcend race lines. Not all women are hating on other women. Many are finding common ground, and they are united in their effort to preserve the ideals this author is expounding -- that of indipendence and self-sufficiency.
Once again, the ideas that this author expounds upon are neither honest or open in their approach to observing and understanding what the true nature of the man/woman dynamic is within marriage.
Anyone with an ounce of intelligence knows that the main ingredients that go into making a marriage work are, respect, affection, perseverance, acceptance and compromise.
Without each partner being willing and able to put ego to the side and actively engage supporting each other, there is no basis for the relationship to stand on solid ground and we all know what happens when you build a house on quicksand.
Husbands and wives curtail their independent urges and subsume them for the betterment and coalescing of their union into one synergistic component for the sole purpose of building something lasting and fruitful thus becoming something greater than they would be as singular entities.
And I think men, honestly, are revealing their insecurities about how big a movement this has become. They are too often attacking it, rather than accepting it for what it is. What they really need to do, is learn how to work with it and win their way back into a woman's good graces. Constantly bitching and complaining about it only widens the divide, and makes a woman hunker down even more.
And based on your above stated assumption, it's patently clear that you're very adept at trying to engage in self-serving fantasy generation to support a movement that's as discredited as it's been ineffectual in actually effecting any positive change in the human condition.
Feminism is just like any Western creation for western people who have nothing better to do with their time than coming up with ever more dementedly neurotic ways of destroying the natural order of things with their patented and packaged
"isms".
Michelle and Barack had to work their way through the issues that could have divided them, to get where they are today. This could have imploded long before they'd ever reached their current level of success. Now they complement one another in a way that makes neither subservient or less important. They are truly partners (and she is not a typical housewife in any sense of the word).
Working together for the greater good of the whole is what makes marriage work and as such, should be expected and par the course.
Subservience doesn't come into it unless there's a major dysfunction at the core of the relationship or a failure to recognize the important role that each partner plays in the marriage relationship.
What's the real lesson to learned from them? Are the skills and aptitude they needed to make it work for them transferrable? Can men and women find ways to work together, perservere through thick and thin; or are we destined to contiue to watch the divorce rate soar, along with same-sex relationships and/or single motherhood?
Men and women have been doing all of this since the dawn of creation and I daresay they'll be doing the same well beyond either one of our lifespans.
And please don't tell me you've been emasculated by anything other than your own choice of allowing it to happen -- if indeed you feel it has happened!
Not sure where and how emasculation came into play here or why you've seen fit to mention it but hey, if leaning on that crutch is your thing to elicit an emotional response from moi, lean on.
the point is he realized he was wrong in his assumption and sought to correct his mistake. unlike that brawd in the other thread about single fathers...............
