Sanaa Lathan: 'I'm Not Gonna Be With Somebody For The Sake Of What It Looks Like'

[Entrepronegro]

Why Sanaa Lathan Isn't Rushing Marriage: 'I'm Not Gonna Be With Somebody For The Sake Of What It Looks Like' | Essence

Why Sanaa Lathan Isn't Rushing Marriage: 'I'm Not Gonna Be With Somebody For The Sake Of What It Looks Like'

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If you’re trying to rush Actress Sanaa Lathan down the aisle, don’t. She isn’t rushing herself. The Nappily Ever Afterstar opened up to Health recently and revealed that although she’s very happy being single, she isn’t opposed to the idea of getting married one day. “I always wanted—and I dream about having—a life partner, but I am completely happy, and I love my freedom,” Lathan candidly shared. “I do date, but I do not want anything less than something that’s amazing,” she said. “And if it’s not gonna be that, I’m just gonna keep being my free-spirit self. I was talking to a friend of mine who’s around my age, and there is a thing when people look at you, and they’re like, “So…” as if you’re failing because you’re not married. I have so much love in my life. And maybe I will have a life partner. But I don’t know.” As it relates to her outlook on life, the actress admitted that with–or without–a life partner, she will always choose herself over just being in a relationship to say she is in one. “I love about not being wrapped up in the fairy tale. It’s kind of [the message] you’ll see in Nappily Ever After—saying, ‘You know what? I’m whole already. I don’t need somebody to complete me.’ So if there is that person who is a partner out there, then bring it on. But I’m not gonna be with somebody for the sake of what it looks like.”

 

[RoomService]

She’s had a great career. She’s 54 years old and still very attractive. Unfortunately, she had to make a significant sacrifice for her acting career: remaining single and not having children. It definitely cost her something—or perhaps she never wanted kids or a life partner in the first place.

 

[ORIGINAL NATION]

Kizzy in " Roots " just could not see herself with a man that bows to white power. Her dad had put in her we never give up on overcoming the devil.
She has had success in the white man's world. But there has got to be another side to this.

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

Really

admirable

woman

 

[^SpiderMan^]

She’s had a great career. She’s 54 years old and still very attractive. Unfortunately, she had to make a significant sacrifice for her acting career: remaining single and not having children. It definitely cost her something—or perhaps she never wanted kids or a life partner in the first place.

Plenty of successful actresses were able to get married and have kids. I don't know a woman that appears truly happy that has never been married or had kids at 54. Marriage and kids add so much depth to life. Even if successful, 50 year old single women are very lonely.

 

[Entrepronegro]

Plenty of successful actresses were able to get married and have kids. I don't know a woman that appears truly happy that has never been married or had kids at 54. Marriage and kids add so much depth to life. Even if successful, 50 year old single women are very lonely.

True

 

[bbuzzard]

She’s had a great career. She’s 54 years old and still very attractive. Unfortunately, she had to make a significant sacrifice for her acting career: remaining single and not having children. It definitely cost her something—or perhaps she never wanted kids or a life partner in the first place.

Hmmm...

 

[Fuckallyall]

Just another leftover woman, who happens to be prettier than most. Remember, when women get money, they tend to be much worse with sharing than when men get money. Also, we all pay, whether it's with money, time or options, we all pay.

 

[dasmybikepunk]

She makes a great point. Folks so worried about who's married but still Refuse to acknowledge the huge amount of married people who are miserable.

Or the 50% or more who will divorce.

Nothing wrong with being single as long as you want to be can't love somebody else happily forever after if you can't love yourself the same way.

Jmo

 

[osirianprncpl]

The only thing she said is that, "Yes, I'm lonely, but I'm selfish, and if someone doesn't come along that takes pride in kissing my ass and not expecting the same in return, then sobeit. " Damn shame though. She has a face a man could wake up to for a lifetime.

 

[dugington]

I joke to my wife that Sanaa is my real wife. She says, "Well your wife is a drunk who bit Beyonce for no reason."

Maybe she just crazy.

 

[ORIGINAL NATION]

After dating Spike Lee she ended up in the movie “LIFE”. I guess she is a real business lady.

 

[Chiyo]

She cant keep a man.

 

[xfactor]

She cant keep a man.

At this point, she’s aged out. But in reality, in her industry, it would hurt her career to be married unless it is to a cac. No demographic swirls more in the entertainment industry than a sista. Probably upwards of 85% (including the dykes).

 

[doug777]

I don't know a woman that appears truly happy that has never been married or had kids at 54. Marriage and kids add so much depth to life. Even if successful, 50 year old single women are very lonely.

Despite women often being recognized for their struggles, men actually commit suicide nearly three times more than women.

 

[doug777]

The only thing she said is that, "Yes, I'm lonely, but I'm selfish, and if someone doesn't come along that takes pride in kissing my ass and not expecting the same in return, then so be it. " Damn shame though. She has a face a man could wake up to for a lifetime.

Actually, what she's saying is, I don't need you to worry for me cause I'm alright, go ahead with your own life, leave me alone.

 

[^SpiderMan^]

Despite women often being recognized for their struggles, men actually commit suicide nearly three times more than women.

Not surprising. Men have alot of pressure to protect, provide, mentor and raise. We are not afforded the ability to redirect responsibility when we come up short. Our struggles aren’t recognized or acknowledged to the same degree as women. We are expected to just overcome our struggles like “real men”.

 

[osirianprncpl]

Actually, what she's saying is, I don't need you to worry for me cause I'm alright, go ahead with your own life, leave me alone.

That's got to be the dumbest shit I've ever read a Simp type. Wait...I had to come back and make an edit. How in the fuck are you on a porn message board, objectifying the shit out of women, and you're a ghotdamn male feminist (maybe)? Ironing ya cape whilst at the same time male gazing a woman's panties?

 

[cashwhisperer]

Actually, what she's saying is, I don't need you to worry for me cause I'm alright, go ahead with your own life, leave me alone.

ignore that shit bruh, do you

 

[Da Backshot Champ]

The only thing she said is that, "Yes, I'm lonely, but I'm selfish, and if someone doesn't come along that takes pride in kissing my ass and not expecting the same in return, then sobeit. " Damn shame though. She has a face a man could wake up to for a lifetime.

Damn, this describes 90% of women with their Master's.

 

[bgbtylvr]

Plenty of successful actresses were able to get married and have kids. I don't know a woman that appears truly happy that has never been married or had kids at 54. Marriage and kids add so much depth to life. Even if successful, 50 year old single women are very lonely.

This well-stated. I know 3 really cool, successful women between 40-55 who all regret doing this. All they have is memories and mad bodies. I wouldn’t commit to any of them solely because the pain I know they harbor. They need to get their asses into therapy because if they find a man it won’t last—the damage is done.