Right vs. Happy

[CT's Finest]

Nothing to respond to. CT didn't say anything.

Tell me how that operates in the context of a relationship.

He did say something. It's right there in the post. That's saying something. You responding like you did is 1 of the things i was curious about how people would respond.

Typing words doesn't equate saying something.
I can't respond or form a response to nothing. Tell me how you use this philosophy in life.

That seems kind of rude. lol. He said what he thought

This is what he thinks and feels about the topic. Dang man.

Dave, what's the problem man? I made a statement about the topic, but related it to something I heard in an audio book. Simply stated, there is an element of ego involved in wanting to be right (all the time). That's in general with all of us. As defined in the book, our egos are what drive us to be right, make our point, etc. Now, take that general statement and apply it to relationships. It's the same thing. So, removing, and/or checking the ego when dealing with anyone, especially a significant other will lead to peace/happiness in the situation. We need to understand when being right is not in our best interest.

 

[cb71109]

It all depends on what you want to be happy or right about.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

Dave, what's the problem man? I made a statement about the topic, but related it to something I heard in an audio book. Simply stated, there is an element of ego involved in wanting to be right (all the time). That's in general with all of us. As defined in the book, our egos are what drive us to be right, make our point, etc. Now, take that general statement and apply it to relationships. It's the same thing. So, removing, and/or checking the ego when dealing with anyone, especially a significant other will lead to peace/happiness in the situation. We need to understand when being right is not in our best interest.

CT
Don't let my brusque nature come across like I have a problem with you or your philosophy. I don't. On the point of it, I agree fully. What I'm saying is it's meaningless without practical application. People can, and do, go on and on about how they feel and think. It's far more helpful to know what they do. How those same feelings and ideas have worked when they applied them to their day to day existence.
If the idea, ultimately, is to pick your battles, I'm on board fully. But if the idea is one party, be it the man or woman (though it seems like we're just talking about the woman here) should just get their way in the name of peace and "happiness", I submit that the other party will not be happy or at peace, particulary if that other party doesn't recognize or appreciate the sacrifice of ego that partner is making. Then they just become a doormat. I've seen it up close and believe me, my boy is not happy.

 

[CT's Finest]

CT
Don't let my brusque nature come across like I have a problem with you or your philosophy. I don't. On the point of it, I agree fully. What I'm saying is it's meaningless without practical application. People can, and do, go on and on about how they feel and think. It's far more helpful to know what they do. How those same feelings and ideas have worked when they applied them to their day to day existence.
If the idea, ultimately, is to pick your battles, I'm on board fully. But if the idea is one party, be it the man or woman (though it seems like we're just talking about the woman here) should just get their way in the name of peace and "happiness", I submit that the other party will not be happy or at peace, particulary if that other party doesn't recognize or appreciate the sacrifice of ego that partner is making. Then they just become a doormat. I've seen it up close and believe me, my boy is not happy.

OK. I gotcha. What you said here makes sense as well. Good points. I agree that doormat situations are not good for anyone.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

It all depends on what you want to be happy or right about.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

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