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hsm2448

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How do I explain to my girl, who I actually do love, that sometimes i need time with myself. She is always at my place. Most of the time I don't mind but sometimes a nigga just wanna be by myself ya know? Thing is that I know sometimes she is somewhat insecure, the way she put it is that she feels very "vulnerable" because of how much in love she is - so I wanna be cautious that she doesn't get the feeling that I just dont enjoy her company.

Thanks
 
Try dicking her down every time she stop by, I mean every time. Hard. She may start staying away.

Now, if she a freak then you fucked literally and figuratively.

Or how about a serious discussion leading to setting up a sched. She pick the day or two in the week or month to leave a brother the fuck alone.

Good luck.
 
I think you should tell her exactly how u typed it. That's what's wrong in relationships today to much sugar coating shit.
 
PC Freak said:
I think you should tell her exactly how u typed it. That's what's wrong in relationships today to much sugar coating shit.
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PC Freak said:
I think you should tell her exactly how u typed it. That's what's wrong in relationships today to much sugar coating shit.
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This is the best thing that you can and should do...


hsm2448 said:
She is always at my place.
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Also, you need to figure this out. It is great that you guys are together, but doesn't she have other things to do to occupy her time so that she is not always at your place? Doesn't she have errands, hobbies, other activties, shopping, things to do with friends, etc., so that she is not constantly there?
 
This is a delicate issue because you stated she feels vulnerable & that she is somewhat insecure. 1st you have to tackle that. What makes her feel insecure? Is it pain from past relationships? Is it something that she needs from you that you are not giving? And that is not a negative thing, it could just be a problem with communication. Also a woman who has insecurities, you have to be careful of the circle she keeps. negative friends or people who are not happy themselves around her will only create a toxic situation.
Next-tell her that you are a man and can not be her sole source of joy & happiness. She has to have a life of her own in order to truly appreciate what she has in you. Tell her you love her and because you do, that she needs some activities and "her time" because you want to appreciate always what you have in her. Trust me as one who requires a lot of attention from any man in my life, I know this could be a delicate topic of conversation. But that is how I would want someone to tell me.
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hsm2448 said:
How do I explain to my girl, who I actually do love, that sometimes i need time with myself. She is always at my place. Most of the time I don't mind but sometimes a nigga just wanna be by myself ya know? Thing is that I know sometimes she is somewhat insecure, the way she put it is that she feels very "vulnerable" because of how much in love she is - so I wanna be cautious that she doesn't get the feeling that I just dont enjoy her company.

Thanks
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Noir said:
This is the best thing that you can and should do...




Also, you need to figure this out. It is great that you guys are together, but doesn't she have other things to do to occupy her time so that she is not always at your place? Doesn't she have errands, hobbies, other activties, shopping, things to do with friends, etc., so that she is not constantly there?
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I may have worded that a bit wrong. I mean she has a good job, works hard, and lots of family in the city (I have no family in this city), so it's not like she's just bumming around. Just feel a little smothered at times thats all.
 
Men need space. She should understand that.

She feels insecure, you should understand that.

Depending on how stringent she is. This will pass. Sometimes women see over time. Oh he'll stay around and won't hurt me. Sometimes they don't. You need to make the decision on if you're going to or not. Make the decision on if you're willing to be patient with her to get over it. Or not.
 
swiftandsilent said:
She will never understand this, it will not turn out well. :smh::smh:
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She has to be made to understand, her insecurity is what will destroy the relationship. No one wants to be smothered, that's a form of control.

Relationships are built upon trust, her being constantly in his presence is not going to secure her place in his life. How he goes about explaining his feelings is what's going to be key. As PC Freak wrote he gas to tell her, its obvious he's not happy.
 
swiftandsilent said:
She will never understand this, it will not turn out well. :smh::smh:
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Then this will end as most relationships do.

Going as it is, this will end. Speaking honestly and sensitively is the only way to improve this situation.

WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff said:
Men need space. She should understand that.

She feels insecure, you should understand that.

Depending on how stringent she is. This will pass. Sometimes women see over time. Oh he'll stay around and won't hurt me. Sometimes they don't. You need to make the decision on if you're going to or not. Make the decision on if you're willing to be patient with her to get over it. Or not.
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Mo-Better said:
She has to be made to understand, her insecurity is what will destroy the relationship. No one wants to be smothered, that's a form of control.

Relationships are built upon trust, her being constantly in his presence is not going to secure her place in his life. How he goes about explaining his feelings is what's going to be key. As PC Freak wrote he gas to tell her, its obvious he's not happy.
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:yes:
 

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