Discussion in 'Sistas Online' started by ladyscorpio, Jan 2, 2017.
Don't let people ever tell you that raising a child isn't hard. Here I am, six months postpartum and:
- My marriage is a mess. We haven't gone on a date since we've had the baby. We argue constantly.
- I haven't had sex since having the baby because I'm tired all the time and my husband would rather play video games.
- I breastfeed and I hate it because hormonally it takes me all over the place. When I tried to stop breastfeeding, my son refused to take formula so I'm back to square one.
Some days I don't even want to be a mom. I haven't felt this low in a long time. Yes, the psychologist needs to see a psychologist. I hate this...
its OK...this is NORMAL
Your a GREAT mom and a great wife
and being surrounded by people and social media and TV and movies that claim it is ALL PERFECT after the baby aint helping
Your both out of rhythm. He isn't sure how to give you what you need and you don't really feel up to ANYTHING like now
and it OVERWHELMING
again it NATURAL your HUMAN and he LOVES you.
most do NOT understand just how stressful and just how much of a physical and emotional time consuming thing breastfeeding is...
EVERY baby is different.
Get a good pump and encourage your husband to take over some of the feeding.
While STILL a chore, expressing for a few weeks will give you SOME freedom and allow you some breaks while also weening the baby off.
(the baby may not like the taste of the formula you may have to experiment with a few)
Hopefully you have a good relationship with your pediatrician or ob/gyn...
maybe even speak to a lactation consultant (even though I know some of them can make it MORE stressful and pressuring but there some really good ones too)
You are a GREAT mom...
and even SUPER MOM feels like running into a dark corner and hiding.
And it is good it is safe it is NORMAL to speak to someone about how you feel.
It is NOT a sign of weakness no stigma
it just shows how MUCH you love yourself your baby your husband your relationship and your family.
you can PM me WHENEVER you want.