What you need is a new career, but what I will give you is a cool drink and a massage...
Quit Doing It!!!
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What you need is a new career, but what I will give you is a cool drink and a massage...
I hope you figure it out Bigirl. You are so intriguing to me. I am always surprised how depressed you sound because you seem to live such a rich fulfilling life. With all your knowledge and experience you are a jewel. Good luck babygirl.
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I need to stop ignoring my inner voice when I meet people who give off a negative vibe
Trusting people before they give me a reason to trust them...
I give people the "benefit of the doubt" wayyyyy more than I should...it kind of goes along with what everyone says as being "caring," but, for me, it's really trusting them with what they're going to say and do...
I give people the "benefit of the doubt" wayyyyy more than I should...it kind of goes along with what everyone says as being "caring," but, for me, it's really trusting them with what they're going to say and do...
Seriously...
I need to stop having sex with my ex. I'll stop for awhile, and go right back into the same cycle. I'm back on the bandwagon right now where I'm not doing it... but the temptation usually creeps back... It's bad because the emotions you shared come back.
I need to stop having sex with my ex. I'll stop for awhile, and go right back into the same cycle. I'm back on the bandwagon right now where I'm not doing it... but the temptation usually creeps back... It's bad because the emotions you shared come back.
Seriously...
I need to stop having sex with my ex. I'll stop for awhile, and go right back into the same cycle. I'm back on the bandwagon right now where I'm not doing it... but the temptation usually creeps back... It's bad because the emotions you shared come back.
i have one like that too. been thru 4 or 5 cycles of that with him. its really hard not to. i think the best way is to just not see them.
Seriously...
I need to stop having sex with my ex. I'll stop for awhile, and go right back into the same cycle. I'm back on the bandwagon right now where I'm not doing it... but the temptation usually creeps back... It's bad because the emotions you shared come back.
That is not an easy one... Cause if it is good the two of you are use to each other and know what each of you like... It's like an old couch... It feels good no matter how it may look.
But when it is time to move on ya got to do it!
I had that issue back in the day with an EX that was six years my senior. I learned a lot from her but she was using me and I had to move on… But she looked good and knew how to bring me to those big explosions. I was young in my twenties and she had two kids and knew more about sex than I. After we broke up, we would meet two or three time a week just to get off. As soon as I would start spending more time with a new gal she would find a way to take that time… The only way that I could move forward was to go cold turkey.
Seriously...
I need to stop having sex with my ex. I'll stop for awhile, and go right back into the same cycle. I'm back on the bandwagon right now where I'm not doing it... but the temptation usually creeps back... It's bad because the emotions you shared come back.
Just curious...is it because of the sex, or just the hassle of meeting new people and the whole "starting over" thing, or both
FIRST, check and make sure, YOU are not deluding Yourself, everyone has a certain beauty or skill, you may learn something from this negativity and gain from it(strengthen yourself), if it's really bad, cut it short, but every meeting should have meaning...
Think of the most awful thing you can, but smile at them, when they ask you a question, answer them with another question or talk about the weather, they will recoil and draw back, I guarantee...
No doubt, we are here for YOU. Sounds like you may have a confidence issue? Quitting or not doing something isn't necessarily failure, it's a conscious decision to stop doing something. It can lead bigger and better acccomplishments...
It's an allusion you created for Yourself. Every person is a potential quitter, every activity a potential quit. Some people thrive on the ability to pick up on someone else's quit, and gain from it their quits.
It was kind of both. The sex was EXCELLENT. We were together for a long time, so we knew what the other person wanted. And the starting over thing is scary. when I would meet people, but hold back. Or even he would see I was getting close to someone and start to be the guy I wanted again, and I'd be spending most of my time with him again.. darn him!!!
You feel like everything is ok? Get it under control...?
Equal the plain. If you feel you are being used/abused, deal with people who are only on your level for a while, see how good it feels to be with your peers...
I know EXACTLY what you're going through. I went through it too with my ex girl, and as a man I never thought it would happen to me. For years my cousin has told me that "one day, watch! It's gonna happen to you"....he was right. It did.
For awhile after her and I broke up, I fell for the okidoke over and over with the hopes of getting back together, until I just got tired of it because it would have the same ending everytime...me being alone again. At that point I started to take control of myself and for everyday I wasn't with her missing her, I flipped it as everyday i'm not with her is another day i'm getting over her and the less contact I had with her the better.
You'll probably always have a special place in your heart for him based on what his potential could have been, and there's nothing wrong with that, but in the end nobody has ever won a grand prize based on potential, and YOU are the grand prize. In you own time, you'll realize that enough is enough. You are that grand prize and he doesn't deserve to win it.
Seriously...
I need to stop having sex with my ex. I'll stop for awhile, and go right back into the same cycle. I'm back on the bandwagon right now where I'm not doing it... but the temptation usually creeps back... It's bad because the emotions you shared come back.
Realize that he is using YOU, if you can't detatch from the emotional part, consider the possibilities of looking to a future, just as meaningful, with someone else...
Hold out for as long as you can with the new man, when you have establish a relationship, cut ol' boy off dry, put him off, ignore his calls, delete his number, don't talk about him to your new man, finally... fuck/make love to the new man and make it count...
Great thread Get You Hot. Keep doing your thing 
Yeah, get out there and meet people, if YOU love to do something put on your armour and do it.
Chicken wings are delicious. I like them bbq'd, buffalo wing sauce-hot to very hot, sometimes with blue cheese or ranch dip, carrots and celery, lots of napkins! Boneless wings stuffed with glass noodles, green onions and cooked in oyster sauce-with saki, teryaki wings and tempura veggies, baked season salted chicken wings with cold beer...
As for watching too much porn, sheesh, rent some new releases or old ones, invite a girlfriend, be nice, cook for her, fix her a drink, laugh and fuck
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I care too much. And as cool as it is to care, it can hold you back sometimes from focusing on you. Need to learn to take more time for me and focus a bit more on my wants and needs.
And that procrastination shit is the Devil
Had a major issue w/ that last year and I damn near caught a breakdown from that shit. Only way I maintained was by hittin the gym daily. Thought I had kicked it, but had s slight relapse the other day that I know is gonna come back for me in a few weeks. I'm planning on talkin to a counselor to get to the root of this bitch. Drastic times call for drastic measures.Nice an interesting thread GYH
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I care too much. And as cool as it is to care, it can hold you back sometimes from focusing on you. Need to learn to take more time for me and focus a bit more on my wants and needs.
And that procrastination shit is the Devil
Nice an interesting thread GYH
Realizing, there is something better, out there for you to accomplish, fight for your true potential, set small goals up and grow gradually.
Jack of all trades, master of none...
I know how tough it is, many of us give so much(caring), we feel drained and withdraw at other times, balance is needed. Get some rest, do things that improve your life and don't spread yourself too thin...
Retroactive quitting
You stopped doing something a while ago, suddenly you come to that realization. Continue the quit or go back to what you once did.
Malcom X
Born Malcolm Little on May 19, 1925, in Omaha, Neb., he eventually dropped his surname and replaced it with X, symbolizing the rejection of his "slave name."
He said he chose "X" because, "To take one's 'X' is to take on a certain mystery, a certain possibility of power in the eyes of one's peers and one's enemies…
The 'X' announced what you had been and what you had become: ex-smoker, ex-drinker, ex-Christian, ex-slave."
Born Malcolm Little on May 19, 1925, in Omaha, Neb., he eventually dropped his surname and replaced it with X, symbolizing the rejection of his "slave name."
He said he chose "X" because, "To take one's 'X' is to take on a certain mystery, a certain possibility of power in the eyes of one's peers and one's enemies…
The 'X' announced what you had been and what you had become: ex-smoker, ex-drinker, ex-Christian, ex-slave."
