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Question: What is the "perfect" age to get married?

DaTakeOver

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Wassup everyone, the reason why I am posting this question is because, looking throughout this society we live in, I notice there are more single people (those who are unmarried), than ever before. People who are 25 and older, who never been married. And talking to some people, they say a person should settle down, when they reach their mid-late 20's or early 30's, yet I know people who are 40 and older who never been married either. So why is age such a big significance for marriage? It's like if a person is 25 and older or not married, they are either labled as "crazy" or "he/she is in the closet".

Plus, with divorce being so common (and costly), some people have a serious phobia for marriage, because if you try to settle down with someone, who you thought was "right" for you, then find out later on, they weren't the person whom you thought they were, people can easily be devasted, and fear to have another commitment again with someonelse. No one wants to end their life on earth, miserable, alone and unhappy, so my other question too, "Is marriage for everyone"?
 
There is no perfect age take as long as you must.It might sound a little corny but to me marriage is not a joke and I think it's something spiritual. Your dedicating the rest of your life to one person. People get married for all the wrong reasons. I think that society places too much emphasis on marriage especially when children become involved.
In a perfect world getting married would be something that you only do once. I don't understand why people rush to get married. What's the point?
People don't take the proper amount of time to mature and get to know themselves. Thats why so many marriages run afoul. How are you going to become one with another completly different person if you aren't one with yourself?

And no. Marriage is not for everyone.
 
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Bigirl. Why are you being such a big love hater? What happens if you meet your soulmate?
 
Iron said:
Well then i guess you ain't gonna meet 'em then.

And you'll most likely die feeling old and lonely. :dunno:











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We are all born alone and we all die alone. We all sleep alone and wake up alone even if someone is in the bed next to us.
 
bigirl said:
We are all born alone and we all die alone.
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Not if you have a twin. So that's only half a truth. :D

bigirl said:
We all sleep alone and wake up alone even if someone is in the bed next to us.
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It's not hard to understand what your saying, But I don't really feel that way. I can see if you were being indifferent. If you were that, atleast you'd have hope. But just being flat out cold... :smh: what happens when you'r in a relationship? You don't show any affection? It's just all about sex, getting your nut? Because you can do that by yourself. So what's the point of even interacting and becoming intimate with another person?
 
Iron said:
Not if you have a twin. So that's only half a truth. :D

It's not hard to understand what your saying, But I don't really feel that way. I can see if you were being indifferent. If you were that, atleast you'd have hope. But just being flat out cold... :smh: what happens when you'r in a relationship? You don't show any affection? It's just all about sex, getting your nut? Because you can do that by yourself. So what's the point of even interacting and becoming intimate with another person?
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They all turn on you eventually. So at this point I am done. A piece of paper doesn't change a fucking thing. I am tired of the charade and I trust no one. :hmm:
 
bigirl said:
They all turn on you eventually. So at this point I am done. A piece of paper doesn't change a fucking thing. I am tired of the charade and I trust no one. :hmm:
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so basically you have become the angry black woman....

mad at the world, huh....
 
bigirl said:
what happens if there is no such thing?
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It will find you someday if you let it.

I may not have had much luck in the love department, but I do strongly believe there's "someone for everyone."

I am still in the dawn of my life, so this may be my inexperience talking, but I'll choose to remain optimistic and hopeful.
 
Da Don said:
so basically you have become the angry black woman....

mad at the world, huh....
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If thats what you wish to call it, so be it. I really don't care. I am just tired of all the bullshit and users and deceitful people. I have given too many people too many chances, faith and trust and my well has run dry. I am not going to give anyone the opportunity to fuck me over again. Me and my dogs are just fine over here. We have a good time.
 
bigirl said:
If thats what you wish to call it, so be it. I really don't care. I am just tired of all the bullshit and users and deceitful people. I have given too many people too many chances, faith and trust and my well has run dry. I am not going to give anyone the opportunity to fuck me over again. Me and my dogs are just fine over here. We have a good time.
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oh gawd please don't tell me your going to be "that lady" with the 20 dogs and 40 cats....
 
Da Don said:
oh gawd please don't tell me your going to be "that lady" with the 20 dogs and 40 cats....
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actually my plan when i have my yard fenced in was to have more dogs. my pit got herself knocked up by a golden retriever and had the mixed litter. i kept one. i want her to have a pure breed litter and keep a next one and continue the bloodline. my dogs don't like cats at all so no cats. i wouldn't mind having some rabbits and monkeys tho.
 
bigirl said:
If thats what you wish to call it, so be it. I really don't care. I am just tired of all the bullshit and users and deceitful people. I have given too many people too many chances, faith and trust and my well has run dry. I am not going to give anyone the opportunity to fuck me over again. Me and my dogs are just fine over here. We have a good time.
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NO ONE CAN RIDE YOUR BACK UNLESS YOU ARE BENT OVER.
HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED WHY YOU SEEM TO MEET ONLY THESE TYPES ?
MAYBE ITS NOT ALL THIER FAULTS.
JUST CURIOUS

TO ANSWER THE QUESTION
I SAY BETWEEN 25 AND 30 ARE PERFECT TIMES.
YOU HAVE TIME TO ESTABLISH YOURSELF AS A PROFESSIONAL
AND ITS THE PERFECT TIME TO START A FAMILY WITHOUT GOING INSANE
TRYING TO CARE FOR SMALL CHILDREN AT AN OLDER AGE.

LIFE IS BUT A BLINK
IF YOU WAIT TOO LONG YOU COULD FIND YOURSELF COMING UP SHORT
SOONER THAN YOU THINK
 
MassaQ said:
Men between 33-36
Women between 30-32.
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I agree with this post here. I think, even if a woman has her life in order in her 20s, she should still allow herself some time to live her life and do the "selfish" things she wants to do, like travel, etc. Same for men. Maybe you could knock a few years off for each (like, two years), but, for me, the ranges are pretty on point.
 
I dunno about these numbers. At 37 I am in no way ready nor willing to be married anytime soon. I have been being "selfish" and traveling and doing what I want my whole life and have no intention of giving it up. Maybe if i ran into someone with a similar philosophy and lifestyle I would consider it but then again, that person would probably feel the same way I do about marriage. A piece of paper.
 
bigirl said:
Maybe if i ran into someone with a similar philosophy and lifestyle I would consider it but then again, that person would probably feel the same way I do about marriage. A piece of paper.
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This is the key right here. Someone who has enough of the same beliefs as you to make it work. I also think that piece of paper means nothing, but the marriage and commitment are very important to me and in my culture. So it's something I am getting ready for soon. I think 25 would have been a good age to get married and start having children for me physically, but I wasn't where I needed to be mentally at that time.
 
There is no right age. Dont get married unless you feel you are ready to marry the person you with. When people say they will get married at a certain age, those are usually the ones that end up with the wrong person just because they thought they were old enough.​
 
Crown&Coke said:
There is no right age. Dont get married unless you feel you are ready to marry the person you with. When people say they will get married at a certain age, those are usually the ones that end up with the wrong person just because they thought they were old enough.​
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I gotcha there. So many of my girlfriends (25 years of age or even younger) are getting married now, and I felt that "urge" coming about in me. However, after speaking to older women who are still married (and some who, unfortunately, aren't anymore), they all preach the same song about wishing they had waited a bit longer...basically, they're telling me to cool those urges because that's all they are: urges, not true desire or want.
 
JofromthaNO said:
I gotcha there. So many of my girlfriends (25 years of age or even younger) are getting married now, and I felt that "urge" coming about in me. However, after speaking to older women who are still married (and some who, unfortunately, aren't anymore), they all preach the same song about wishing they had waited a bit longer...basically, they're telling me to cool those urges because that's all they are: urges, not true desire or want.
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I am a pretty young guy and I see women getting married because their friends are doing it or just because a guy asked them. Its crazy.

Somebody once told me: "Dont marry the one you can live with, marry the one you cant live without"

I refuse to get married till I find that in a woman.​
 
I got married at 30... my wife was 27. We dated and were together for 7 years before we made the final plunge. During that time we were both in school and working on out carrers. We both have the same profession and are working together towards a common goal. I tink we did things the right way.. may not be best for everyone but worked for us.
 
APOPHIS said:
It will find you someday if you let it.

I may not have had much luck in the love department, but I do strongly believe there's "someone for everyone."

I am still in the dawn of my life, so this may be my inexperience talking, but I'll choose to remain optimistic and hopeful.
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I have this kind of hopefulness too but. . . I'm starting to think I won't get married. I'm not going to shut myself off from the possibility of it but I just have this feeling it may never happen.
 
APOPHIS said:
Bigirl, You remind me of Lynn from the t.v. show "Girlfriends."
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bigirl said:
never saw it :dunno:
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For some reason you kind of remind of Lynn from Girlfriends too. .. I'm not sure why at all but you just do.



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Lynn is the tall, lighter complected woman with long hair.
 
I married at 34 which was a good time for me. At 34 I was a totally different person than I was at 25. At a younger age is all about me and what I wanted. I had girlfriends but they where never first in my life. I was about hanging with my boys and getting as much girls as I could. I meet my wife at age 27 and she was not first in my life for many years. She stuck with me thru thick and thin and I eventually became tired of dealing with the the same type chicks. It was fun while it lasted but it became time for me to look for a quality relationship. At some point most men will realize have a women who loves you more than you love yourself means a whole lot more than sleeping with 10-20 faceless women. You can never really say what you really want till you have had plenty of what you don't want. It will happen when it happens but never settle for a women just because you find her cute or fine. She has heard these things so many times that her expections will always be more than you can give. Choose carefully and your future will be bright.

Dlateshow
 
Chicutie said:
For some reason you kind of remind of Lynn from Girlfriends too. .. I'm not sure why at all but you just do.

Lynn is the tall, lighter complected woman with long hair.
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I am light but I ain't that light :hmm:
 

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