Question: As a dad, which decision do you regret most?
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I lost a son in 2020. He was 25 and he was in Law School. I always told him, "Be careful when it comes to women, because they'll trap you. Then you'll be off of your whole program."
Well, he listened. But I realize now that they'll never be grandchildren from him. I struggle with this: "Should I have told him to plant his seed; or should I have told him to focus on yourself, and worry about kids and shit later?"
This runs through my mind everyday... It's haunting really.
Other than that, I have no regrets. I told my children that I love them everyday.
Well, he listened. But I realize now that they'll never be grandchildren from him. I struggle with this: "Should I have told him to plant his seed; or should I have told him to focus on yourself, and worry about kids and shit later?"
This runs through my mind everyday... It's haunting really.
Other than that, I have no regrets. I told my children that I love them everyday.
Being the disher of discipline. Is it any wonder why mommy is the favorite.
Sorry for your lost, that is deep. Thanks for shearing with the Board.
Well its not tool late, I have lots of videos of my kids when they were small.Recording more videos of my daughter when she was starting to walk/talk.
Now she is 7 and is talking back
Not strapping up
Regretting is too easy to do.
We can’t do it all or have it all.
We do the best we can with whatever knowledge we’ve obtained in our life.
With that being said, I am working on things that will hopefully prevent me from regretting. I’m sure I’ll fail in some other area I wasn’t even thinking about though.
We can’t do it all or have it all.
We do the best we can with whatever knowledge we’ve obtained in our life.
With that being said, I am working on things that will hopefully prevent me from regretting. I’m sure I’ll fail in some other area I wasn’t even thinking about though.
Thank you...
Yeap.
The mistakes I made with my 1st, I corrected with the 2nd, corrected even more with the 3rd. Kids don't come with a manual. Each one is different.
If I had to name something, probably not doing more outdoor activities when they were real young. Now, they couldnt care less about fishing, sports, etc.
Thank you...I’m very sorry to hear that Bruh
This was a nice video that I saw on yahoo.
My Man... Sooooo sorry for the loss of YOUR seed. Just find Joy in the rest of your offspring.. I don't want to even imagine.... Be safe Cat, and LOVE on one another!
Sounds like his box is museum ready......
Thank you, Brother. Much appreciated.
Brothers, just love your children. Because it doesn't matter if they are bad or good, they can be taken away, and there's nothing you can do about it.
Love them while you have them.
Sounds like some bitch ass shit to say to you.
You don't need that bullshit brother.
They need to check themselves.
If you weren't a talker back then then you just weren't!
Did they tell you that they loved you back then??
You don't need that bullshit brother.
They need to check themselves.
If you weren't a talker back then then you just weren't!
Did they tell you that they loved you back then??
Got a 4yr old now. No better feeling than picking him up from daycare and he's just so glad to see me... Got a 16yr old nephew and he barely talks or even acknowledge his parents lol.
I know that day will come when my son will be like that. That's why I'm trying to cherish these moments.
Good topic. Love to hear from other fathers.
I know that day will come when my son will be like that. That's why I'm trying to cherish these moments.
Good topic. Love to hear from other fathers.
I'm sorry you went through that. You have my sincere condolences.
Very sorry for your loss brother.
As far as your regret, IMO it worked out best. Yes you would have grandkids, but they would have been without a Father and his wife would be without a husband. You did a great job and even guided a black man to law school. An extremely small percentage has accomplished that. Have you considered counseling?
I have a 18, 6 and 1 year old daughters
Interesting thread
Thank you...
Bruh, this shit right here delivered the knockout blow to me two weeks ago. I considered myself flexible in terms of my parenting style and I would give her the opportunity to try things her way every now and then with the caveat, if it did not work, we are using my approach. The things that I'd tried to instill in my daughter were self-accountibilty, pay attention to the details, don't quit before give yourself an opportunity to learn something new, don't be careless. When she would fail to do those things, I would get on her. The first couple of times, I would be diplomatic in my approach and even when the diplomacy was gone, I wouldn't yell, but we would have a brutally honest conversation. She would tell me my approach was not working, but I would tell her that her approach did not work and this same things were happening consistantly. I would constantly tell her that I love her, but she cannot continue to operate this way because she will be going off to college in a few years. She told me that she no longer wants to stay with me and we barely talk now. This shit has left me dead inside. Her mother and I do not get along, so I am sure that she is happy about this new development.
Not choosing the the right mother for my first born.
she’s doing alright
All state academic
Scholarship and will attend college this fall
she’s doing alright
All state academic
Scholarship and will attend college this fall
Thank you...
Great question... You know, my family is pretty tight knit. So we really leaned on each other. A professional counselor probably could have helped a bunch. But, I'm old school (and maybe a bit ignorant as well) I figured that I'd heal with time. And that seems to be working, even though I have moments of depression.
I think about the comedian who lost his son, and I'm amazed that he started telling jokes again so soon. But, everyone is made up differently.
My son wanted to prosecute crooked cops. He was aggressive and strong. We would have debates in the house, and I didn't agree with him all of the time, but I loved that he could make an argument and defend his position.
It dont have to be like that man. Me and my 14 yr old are real close. I talk to that guy about anything, we pull no punches with each other.
A Father’s role is to provide structure to their offspring rather than being his/her friend. The Mother is likely feeding your daughter BS too. My advice is not to quit. Stay in the game and keep providing influence. I’m curious at what age did you start to see rebellion and what was your timeshare throughout her childhood?
My biggest regret is the soil I planted my seed into. My kid’s mom is irresponsible, an eternal victim, manipulative, and a liar. I’ve spend time,money, and attention reserves on battling to keep my child 50% of the time. It bothers me how much better an influence my child that I have with my wife, than the child I have with my “Babby momma”.
@^SpiderMan^ the age was 15. Timeshare was 50/50 from the time her mother and I split, so 10 years at this point. In fact, I took her mother to court because she would get upset and not want to honor our 50/50 verbal agreement.
I wish I'd fought harder to break through all the media influences that pushed and pulled mine in a direction other than that which I wanted them to go.
I regret giving my daughter every DIsney movie instead of Your Baby Can Read.
The difference between her early development years and my son are night and day.
I also regret not opening up a life insurance policy on my daughter when she was a baby.
The difference between her early development years and my son are night and day.
I also regret not opening up a life insurance policy on my daughter when she was a baby.
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