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This girl I been seeing for a few months mother just passed. Funeral is tomorrow. I'm thinking I should go, but on the flipside, I've never met her fam or mother and feel like it might be too much for me to handle. But I'm thinking I look like an asshole if I don't show.

Anyone ever dealt with this?
 
This girl I dated a while back cousin had passed and I told her I would attend but that I wasn't going to walk in with her because we were'nt married and it was really a family thing, but I sat in the audience and when the family was walking out she passed by and smiled and I winked my eye back. It made what was a sad day for her a lil bit better and I got to eat some good ass food and got some that night as well.
 
If that's your woman and she asked or wants you to go, you should. But it sounds like you two aren't communicating.
 
Can't hurt to go if you have the time. Just sit in the back and be present as a show of support. I mean, it's her mom. If nothing else, give ole girl a card, a hug or somethin'.
 
NahLaterz said:
Can't hurt to go if you have the time. Just sit in the back and be present as a show of support. I mean, it's her mom. If nothing else, give ole girl a card, a hug or somethin'.
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Cosign. I could see if it was an uncle or aunt. Her mother = she's going to be a mess. It doesn't hurt to show up and be supportive. If you've been seeing her a few months, that's the least you could do. I don't understand the "too much for me to handle" part of your question..She lost her mother, and you're thinking about what you can't handle? WTF?

Also, I agree with Divine, perhaps you should talk to her instead of the BGOL crew....
 
El Pirate Del Caribe said:
Cosign. I could see if it was an uncle or aunt. Her mother = she's going to be a mess. It doesn't hurt to show up and be supportive. If you've been seeing her a few months, that's the least you could do. I don't understand the "too much for me to handle" part of your question..She lost her mother, and you're thinking about what you can't handle? WTF?

Also, I agree with Divine, perhaps you should talk to her instead of the BGOL crew....
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She's a mess, me telling her I feel uneasy going will only make her feel worse.
 
El Pirate Del Caribe said:
Cosign. I could see if it was an uncle or aunt. Her mother = she's going to be a mess. It doesn't hurt to show up and be supportive. If you've been seeing her a few months, that's the least you could do. I don't understand the "too much for me to handle" part of your question..She lost her mother, and you're thinking about what you can't handle? WTF?

Also, I agree with Divine, perhaps you should talk to her instead of the BGOL crew....
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BGOL knows all. :hmm:
 
divine said:
Maybe u should talk to her instead of niggas on a porn board.

If u don't want her to be ur woman why u worrying about it?
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:lol:

on the real though, if she didn't ask you to be there stay your ass home and watch football or something. or if u actually like her, and i know that in bgol land i'm crossing the line into full blown simpdome - maybe do something nice for her/have a surprise to cheer her up when she gets back.
 
You fucking the shit out of her but u cannot show your respects at her mother's funeral.....:smh:

She is not your steady girl but she is at least a friend.

You are a grown man...

All u have to do is show your face at funeral home. Stay in the back. You do not have to view her mother. Dress nice and take off your hat. You dont feel comfortable, break out after 30 minutes but make sure she sees you.

This is going to be very tough for her and seeing your face may make her feel nice... even though u may dump her soon. But you did the right thing that day.....

funerals are tough....:hmm:

wait a minute...
you never met the family...
you may be the simp on the side and she doesn't want you to be there anyway...
just goofin....

Go!!!!
 
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go to the funeral,,, palm ol' girls booty inside the church,,, then leave half way thru the ceremony if it gets boring,,, chicks love that shit,,,
 
I didn't go to my girls moms funeral. We hadn't been together that long but I wasn't feeling the death scene.
 
If ya'll been spending a significant amount of time together and money on each other, I would probably go. Seems like ya'll got at least a little friendship going on as well as fucking.
 
I think if you really cared about her, you should go and pay your final respects/say your last goodbye. If you were just fucking and don't care about her, don't feel obligated to go.
 
I guess it just makes too much sense to ask her how she feels about it. Did she give you all the details (address, time, etc) as if she wants you to come? What makes you think she even wants you there? I guess you would know the answers to these questions if you just communicate with her :dunno:
 
Listen if you have doubts about that bitch I say don't go. There will be nothing but drama there. Are you sure you want to deal with people being hysterical, rolling on the floor, crying, stomping their feet, fainting, etc? THis is what black women do in funerals. For some reason they need to make the funeral about their loss rather than the dead persons life.:rolleyes: If you aren't serious about that ho do yourself a favor and stay home and play call of duty or something.
 
MR.BIG said:
This girl I dated a while back cousin had passed and I told her I would attend but that I wasn't going to walk in with her because we were'nt married and it was really a family thing, but I sat in the audience and when the family was walking out she passed by and smiled and I winked my eye back. It made what was a sad day for her a lil bit better and I got to eat some good ass food and got some that night as well.
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do this ^^^
 
yeah had it happen to me a few years ago.. was dating this chick for about 3 months... her uncle died from cancer and I had never met her family... but I showed up at the funeral as support for her and all..

I basically gave the "glad I am finally meeting you but sad its under these circumstances..." family was cool and it went over well
 
Did she even ask you do go, or is she talking like you're supposed to be going? If she's assuming you're going then, and you want a relationship with her then you need to go I mean it's not like you're going to be up there with her family, just sit somewhere in the back and let her know you're there. If she hasn't said anything about you going, or isn't implying it in conversation then don't go.

I mean, if you don't want to do and she does want you to go, what are you going to tell her? You're mom just died, but I wont support you at the funeral because it's not proper etiquette. Might as well start searching for a new girl if that's the case.
 
a chic u dated while back, why u simping? Ahh I take it u are trying to get back with her? This would be the best time to get some pussy now that her walls are down
 
Flawless said:
a chic u dated while back, why u simping? Ahh I take it u are trying to get back with her? This would be the best time to get some pussy now that her walls are down
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Nah, I'm dating her now.

But I'm going to go. That's the least I could do. I'll hang at the back and give a ;).
 
bighurt2k7 said:
Nah, I'm dating her now.

But I'm going to go. That's the least I could do. I'll hang at the back and give a ;).
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Good job. I hate funerals too, but honestly its not your family so you shouldnt feel any 'emotions' about the ceremony. Just being there will give you points with her. Console and reap the benefits.
 
If I were you dude I'd go and like Mr. Big said just sit alone. Then maybe drop some food off at the families house. Maybe a bucket of Chicken from KFC or something. Do one or the other or both!
 

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