why or why not?
Prenups, would you sign one or have your S/O sign one..
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YES a prenup is necessary.It might seems like a cynical thing to do but the reality is people change over a course of time and shit happen.I don't think it is fair that a person work so hard to achieve certain things in life then get it snatch away by some divorce lawyer.There should be a way to protect a portion of his/her assets in a marriage.
Yes I would sign a Prenup if I had millions to protect. Nothing against my future mate but business in business. The same way you would never go into a business with a friend with out the proper documents because friendships can go sour just like relationships and you want to protect your assets from emotional trauma
He's not talking about you being the one with the advantage.
Would you sign a prenup if YOU were the one who didn't have the money?
I would sign one but I wouldn't ask a man to sign one.
What's mine is ours when we become married.
What's mine is ours when we become married.
of course...
but what "if" it came to an end. would you want to support a grown capable individual for the rest of your life?
What I look like given a chick half my trap; like she wrote half my raps... - Jay Z
I'd make her sign it twice and initial next to the beginging, errors, date, and name. With a notery, and lawyer present!
I'd make her sign it twice and initial next to the beginging, errors, date, and name. With a notery, and lawyer present!
Same here. I would have my spouse sign a pre-nup.
I would sign and and my future wife will sign one.
If anything happens she will be taken care of financially but she ain't getting half.
If anything happens she will be taken care of financially but she ain't getting half.
Yes I would. I understand that business is business. But since it is business I would negotiate the prenup so that I came away with s few dollarsHe's not talking about you being the one with the advantage.
Would you sign a prenup if YOU were the one who didn't have the money?
To hell with the money, I'd sign your pre-nup as long as it stated that you are required to wear boy shorts, tights, or nothing to bed every night...
Whether I like it or not, if its owed it's owed.
I wouldn't want my ex to live in a manner that he wasn't accustomed to. If I ever loved him in the first place, I wouldn't want him to suffer.
I know you wouldn't want him to suffer, but do you want him to maintain that lifestyle at your expense?
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I aint signing shit
but if I were rich I'm sure he'd sign it
I aint signing shit
but if I were rich I'm sure he'd sign it
Prenups only make sense if one spouse makes a great deal more than the other. If you make 60k and your wife 50k its silly to have a prenup cuz your bringing pretty much the same thing to the marriage and you are building things together. The majority of people who marry have similar finances so a equal split is pretty much means no one loses anything. Now if one spouse makes a great deal more than the other (pro athletes) a prenup should be given serious thought. Especially if she came along after the big money was acquired. I would then do like Tony Gonzales (KC Chiefs) and have a committment ceremony. I would that the majority of folks screaming the would get one should choose a mate who has goals and drives as you. If you select a spouse who only wants to sit at home and spend your money you chose unwisely and deserve what you get.
Dlateshow
Dlateshow
Prenups are good for anyone. I am in the preliminary stages of a divorce and my lawyer came to me saying that my soon to be ex-wife had a large amount of money in a 401k that I am entitled to have half of (damn good lawyer).
I can care less about the money ( I just want out ). But this shows that without one your shit could be gone before you even realise it.
But I am damn sure gonna let him use that threat to get her off my back.
I can care less about the money ( I just want out ). But this shows that without one your shit could be gone before you even realise it.
But I am damn sure gonna let him use that threat to get her off my back.
WRONG!
That is the general idea of what people think prenups are made for.
Keep thinking like that and you will be that 50 yr old,divorce and living in your mother's basement.A guy that makes 60K probably needs a prenup more than a guy that worth 10 mil.At least if the guy with the 10 mil,if he loses 5 or 7 mil he still end up with 5 or 3 mil.Unlike a man that makes 60K practically ends up nothing after those lawyers clean him out.I see situation where some men get their pension snatched away from them.Not to mention state to state the laws are different you lucky if you are left with quarters to pay for a cup of tea.
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Not quite. You can be comparable in income but if one or the other has been more frugal, and the other is a spendthrift with no assets while the frugal one brings assets, savings, investments into the marriage, then if they split, the person who brought all of those assets into the marriage shouldn't lose them just because they were married.
I have to disagree with you here.
What if they're making 100k together but the husband starts his own business and begins to make 10x what she makes without her help?
Because he wasn't rich at the time he didn't get her to sign a pre-nup and he's fucked.
Yes I'd have her sign that shit and when she signs it I'll have Pastor kerney Thomas yell out "Gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawd!!!!!!!!" when she does it.
In all seriousness I dont believe it in divorce.....people think those vows are there for decoration that shit is for life and you should mean it....all of it otherwise don't fuckin' get married. But yes to Pre-nup.
In all seriousness I dont believe it in divorce.....people think those vows are there for decoration that shit is for life and you should mean it....all of it otherwise don't fuckin' get married. But yes to Pre-nup.
All the ones who are saying wrong need to reread my response. You are going with the assumption that your income will increase while hers remain the same or grow at a much slower pace. This is why I say marry someone with the same goals and ambition as yourself. She's coming up as you come up. Also if you make 60k a year I would hope you would not marry a women making 25k a year. That is a reciepe for disaster because you a dumb decision to marry her. Again marry someone who wants the same things in life as you and you will be straight. If shit does not workout you have no problem splitting the assets because you equally help build those assets. You marry a women because she is fine,pretty and has great sex but does not want to do shit but by shop all day and spend her earnings as fast as she makes don't be made when things go sour and she is looking at you for support. If she was looking at you for support while you where married she is going to expect it when you break up. I will say again that you should pick your spouse very carefully because your financial security may depend on it. If you have assets before marriage, a business, A large inhertance, property, childern etc a prenups makes sense because you are protecting your assets. I would venture to guess that most young couples only bring a car, some furniture and maybe some type of pension plan to marriage. There is really nothing protect other than potential future earnings. If your older you have likely attained more assets that may need to be protected. Now if you have childern with your ex spouse you can forget it cuz ain't no prenup is going to save your ass.
Dlateshow
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I didn't have one during my marriage. I gave her everything except our new car and my clothes. Oh, and the emergency fund that noone knew about but me. Just enough to keep me from going under.
Should I get married again, I'm undecided as to whether or not I would get one. I want to believe I would pick someone who would not screw me over, but my last marriage pretty much destroyed that belief. I have a lot more assets than I did then, and my overall net worth has quadrupled. I think the logical answer would be to have one, but somewhere in my mind I want to believe I wouldn't need it.
Call me stupid.
Should I get married again, I'm undecided as to whether or not I would get one. I want to believe I would pick someone who would not screw me over, but my last marriage pretty much destroyed that belief. I have a lot more assets than I did then, and my overall net worth has quadrupled. I think the logical answer would be to have one, but somewhere in my mind I want to believe I wouldn't need it.
Call me stupid.
this is exactly how i feel about it
I would sign one and expect my spouse to sign one too. Point Blank
As far as undermining the marriage, I'm a realist and the odds are against marriage forever. I still hope to be married forever, but I gotta cover my ass.
As far as undermining the marriage, I'm a realist and the odds are against marriage forever. I still hope to be married forever, but I gotta cover my ass.
But if he is the reason for the divorce (infidelity, committed a heinous crime, abusing you and/or kids), despite the fact that you loved him, why feel the need to support him?
If the lavish lifestyle you shared was in part due to the hard work YOU put into it, and he fucks it up, why should he benefit. And as far as the kids, even if custody is shared, there is a way to provide for them without him reaping the benefits.
Back to topic . . . Yes, I would sign one if asked, and if I had considerable assets to protect, would ask my s/o to sign one as well.
If he committed a crime or abused my kids, then there should be evidence of that and the judge will award a settlement or not, accordingly. It shouldn't even get to that point really because he should be jail.
Now if he was just an infidel, that alone isn't enough to not give someone a settlement if that was the agreement. You can put clauses for infidelity in your agreement.
exactly
You have to be careful of the Prenups because they tend to basically protect what you have earned before your marriage . . . anything that you have earned during the marriage is fair game . . . and should be . . .
As for me . . . I have no problem signing a prenup . . . I have a double Masters in Business and Finance and I am more than capable of providing for myself . . . and if my husband and I should divorce . . . he should be more than willing to provide for his children . . . if he doesn't . . . that is where our problems will arise . . .
As for me . . . I have no problem signing a prenup . . . I have a double Masters in Business and Finance and I am more than capable of providing for myself . . . and if my husband and I should divorce . . . he should be more than willing to provide for his children . . . if he doesn't . . . that is where our problems will arise . . .
It's funny to me when I hear guys talking about having a girl sign a "prenup" when they have nothing to start with
Half of nothing is still nothing, ya know?!?
I would sign one, but wouldn't ask my partner to sign one. I mean, seems like I'm undermining the stability of our forthcoming marriage...
Half of nothing is still nothing, ya know?!?
I would sign one, but wouldn't ask my partner to sign one. I mean, seems like I'm undermining the stability of our forthcoming marriage...
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