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Parents, How Many of You Demand Your Kids Respect Other Adults?

cocobeauty

cocobeauty

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My reason for asking is because I hear so many kids address adults by their first name without putting a title on. My childrens friends are allowed to call me by my first name, but they have to say Ms "CoCo." I corrected one of their friends and I got a call from the mom and she said her daughter don't have to address me as Ms, and she thinks just saying my first name is acceptable, and she was pissed. So I told her to keep her child away from my house, and I meant it.

My children even have to say yes ma'am and no ma'am or they can say a simple yes or no, but yeah and nah is not acceptable. My kids are so use to it that I can introduce them to someone just by name and they automatically know to put a handle on it.

So my question is how many make their kids respect others and do you all notice the amount of disrespect by kids now?
 
I was just thinking about this.

I do not get this idea of having kids call you by your first name. They aren't your peers. WTH is that about?

Parents just don't seem to parent anymore.
 
femmenoire said:
I was just thinking about this.

I do not get this idea of having kids call you by your first name. They aren't your peers. WTH is that about?

Parents just don't seem to parent anymore.
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I wish I had recorded the call of that parent today. She left me with my mouth open at her ignorance.
 
Shit.. I'm grown and I still address some older women as Ms./Mrs.. I don't know. especially if they give off that motherly appeal.. I cant help it. Growing up I can only think of one adult I was allowed to not call by Ms.. my grandmother did not play that...

I don't have kids.. but I'd damn sure make sure they use handles.. even if the other adult didn't want it, i'd still make them...

I hate that my little cousin, he's like 3-4 doesn't get that I'm an adult and he can't hit me back.. or talk back and my aunt doesn't correct him.. That irks me...
 
There is a school called "The Children's School" in Atlanta where they teach that nonsense. One of the kids I coached tried that one time and I ran his damn legs off after I got in his ass about respecting adults. He now refers to every coach at Ben Hill as Coach *insert name*. His mom used to give me these greasy looks, but she let that go. I would have had my teeth slapped down my throat if I would have ever addressed an adult by their first name. I don't play that and neither will my kids...
 
I don't have children, but when I do I'm going to enforce this. But right now, I make my students address me as mister, but my nephew and stepkids call me by my nickname.

I don't mind the nickname, that's the name that I generally give to strangers (associates, co-workers, employers). My birth name is unique, and people generally have a hard time pronouncing it. So, if I'm not close to someone I make them call me by my nickname even if they try to pronounce my birth name.

Now if my nephew or stepson call me by my birth name, I'll correct them quickly.
 
destrehan said:
what do yall think about stepchildren and how they should address the step parent?
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You know that is a hard one, because early in the relationship the kids call them Ms or Mr. such and such. But I think that is one where a comfort level has to be reached between the stepparent and the child
 
I never tripped off of this until I moved to the south. Never in my life (and i grew up in Cali) did I have to address anyone by Ma'am or Sir. If my mother or someone else called me I always said "yes", but never "yeah or what" because that was unacceptable. I was never disrespectful to any of my mother's friends, but I called them all by their first or nicknames.

My son started calling his teachers ma'am and sir at school, but I don't make him call me ma'am or call my friends ma'am or sir (he's known all of my friends since birth). My child is a very smart and respectful child and I don't believe that not using ma'am or sir makes him disrespectful.

Now if I called him and he said "what", then I'd have a problem with that.
 
i demand that, the same way my parents demanded it of me. ma dukes would have slapped the taste out my mouth if i did it any other way.

i got a little cousin that calls his pop by his first name all the time. i be want kick his dads ass for that shit. kids need that foundation of respect to move forward in life. lask of respect for others is one of the biggest problems facing our kids today.
 
I have two kids they are still babies 2 years old and 2 months. But when I am talking to my daughter about a grown up I call them Miss or Mister so and so, or if they are like family (my best friend) aunt chris and aunt tinder. I don't play that. Now if that person doesn't want my kids to say that to them then that's different, but they have to learn that respect is given in order to get it.
I had to teach my daughter that the hard way the other day.
 
When I was little I hated it because I didn't understand it and other kids around me in school didn't do it. I grew to understand why my mom and dad taught us that and now I expect it from anybody's kid.

Sir, Mister, Uncle, Brother, Son, Daddy ... I earned them titles!

I teared up when my play daughter suddenly stopped calling me uncle and called me Daddy.
 
mk23666 said:
When I was little I hated it because I didn't understand it and other kids around me in school didn't do it. I grew to understand why my mom and dad taught us that and now I expect it from anybody's kid.

Sir, Mister, Uncle, Brother, Son, Daddy ... I earned them titles!
I teared up when my play daughter suddenly stopped calling me uncle and called me Daddy.
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word!! when my step daughter stopped calling me "dig it" and called me daddy i was proud as hell. i knew i was doing my job.

Give respect to get it, thats an important lesson when raising a child.
 
good 4 u. :yes: i keep telling folks that kids are kids. when you see an ignorant, foul mouthed ingrate look for the host - the guardian. note, i did not write "parent". they are not synonymous.:angry::smh:
 
cocobeauty36 said:
My reason for asking is because I hear so many kids address adults by their first name without putting a title on. My childrens friends are allowed to call me by my first name, but they have to say Ms "CoCo." I corrected one of their friends and I got a call from the mom and she said her daughter don't have to address me as Ms, and she thinks just saying my first name is acceptable, and she was pissed. So I told her to keep her child away from my house, and I meant it.

My children even have to say yes ma'am and no ma'am or they can say a simple yes or no, but yeah and nah is not acceptable. My kids are so use to it that I can introduce them to someone just by name and they automatically know to put a handle on it.

So my question is how many make their kids respect others and do you all notice the amount of disrespect by kids now?
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The way things are getting out of hand these days, kinda hard to call your mom ma'am or dad sir when they are a kid themselves...
 
xfactor said:
The way things are getting out of hand these days, kinda hard to call your mom ma'am or dad sir when they are a kid themselves...
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not if that mom or dad gives they kids a reason to respect them. it starts with respect for self.

but i understand you cause i was at family court the other day and i would have had a hard time respecting some of the people in there calling them selves parents. People its court, leave the damn slippers at home.:smh:
 
i dont believe addressing someone by mr or mrs means you respect them respect is so much more than the way you address someone. I have friends with kids and i dont want to be known as mr or uncle or any of the other things. Then again you dont want to be addressed as hey shithead either. I just believe it is all about how you say something not always what you say.
 
My daughter is going to be 12 in a month. I have never allowed her to call any of my friends by their first name. It is always Ms. or Mr. Growing up, I never called my mother's friends by their first name. Most of my friends that are parents do not demand that their children use a title before an adult's name. They also let them slack in many other ways. Then they want to feel embarrassed when the child gives them lip in public or gets into something at school with a teacher. I'm not saying this is always the case, but respect needs to start at home. I'm all over my daughter's case right now about the word what. I hate when she says what to me. That word was never allowed out of my mouth as a child. It is YES, or EXCUSE ME? A big part of our problem today is we don't demand respect from our kids like our parents or grandparents did.
 
WOW...

No comment, but I do know of some very disrespectful youngin's...

None of them are mine, God be thanked...

One...
 
Fuckin Right .... I Try To Teach Them To Respect There Elders In Any Situaton They Are Still Young But They Starting To Get It
 
cocobeauty36 said:
My reason for asking is because I hear so many kids address adults by their first name without putting a title on. My childrens friends are allowed to call me by my first name, but they have to say Ms "CoCo." I corrected one of their friends and I got a call from the mom and she said her daughter don't have to address me as Ms, and she thinks just saying my first name is acceptable, and she was pissed. So I told her to keep her child away from my house, and I meant it.

My children even have to say yes ma'am and no ma'am or they can say a simple yes or no, but yeah and nah is not acceptable. My kids are so use to it that I can introduce them to someone just by name and they automatically know to put a handle on it.

So my question is how many make their kids respect others and do you all notice the amount of disrespect by kids now?
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Good thought I hate being called Mr (insert first name) when I was coming up we called friends parents mr johnson or mrs johnson last names only. I have to correct the children of my friends all the time because we are close I think they get into that Aunt Uncle mentality thing
 
I teach my daughter to shake everyones hand when she meets them for the first time.

Yes ma'am, no sir to any adult no matter what.

Being disrespectful to anyone, no matter the age will result in her getting popped directly in her mouth.
 
nappy said:
I teach my daughter to shake everyones hand when she meets them for the first time.

Yes ma'am, no sir to any adult no matter what.

Being disrespectful to anyone, no matter the age will result in her getting popped directly in her mouth.
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You know my children have been taught the same thing. And what's really strange that I didn't teach, is that my daughter shakes your hand and looks you dead in your eyes when she speaks.

It makes me feel good, because I think of her going on interviews and knowing how important it is to know how to present herself. Ok she's only 15, but that time will come real soon. My son has a strong grip anyway, but he's a lil shy.
 
I agree with Ms COCO 100% .. I grew up in Jamaica and i grew up respectin' my elders or my mother would beat my ass ...so its second nature for me (even those that i dont like ) and even now (im 31) i still show people older than me respect ... i have a 6 year old Princess and i try to teach her the same thing ..but in my case its not that easy ....she doesn't stay with me she stays with her mother and grandmother most of the time and they dont agree with most of the things i have to say about manners and respect so she gets confuse with what they tell her she can do and what i try to teach her ... :(:angry: ..... im pretty sure it has something to do with the fact that i grew up in the islands and her mother grew up in a white american home and that she aint grow up with her dad either
 

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