I love Black women, especially the dark skinned women...I married one. What gets me is how many Black men talk about Black women like they:
1. Didn't come from one
2. Don't admit that they are at least half/part of the problem
So many Black men, real life and on this board, want to play FOREVER. The whole "I'll get married when I'm 40" thing. That shit is supposed to play out NLT (no later than) 25, but so many men want to contiue to be whores 15 years afer that. That shit is for high school and college age, after that you are supposed to man up and have a family...not just kids.
Black women have gotten tough over the years. Some of them EXPECT to be going at it solo. With most Black women that I have encountered, if you show them that you are going to be a man then they will let you be a man. But you have got to show it. These "I'm gonna play the field until I am 40" guys are good actors, Academy Award-type. They don't come out and say it, because they won't get much if they do. They pretend to be men until either they get bored or some responsibility comes their way. Babies don't keep men. You wanna make a BS man leave, tell him you think you are pregnant. If he ain't gone with the quickness. Some bullshit en have an even dirtier game. They talk a woman into having a kid that they don't want...talk her out of an abortion. Stay around until she gets too far AND THEN they bounce never to be seen again...unless they want some.
From a real Black man's perspective, I implore Black women to watch for signs of a BS man. Don't be hostile or accusatory, just watch for the signs. Every relationship you are in should teach you something about men. From the time you are 13 to the time you die you should learn from every relationship, many times the relationships of friends as well. It is there that you will learn to spot the BS men. Like I said, they are often great actors, and (from many single Black mothers I have heard) the only skills they have is a great mouthpiece and fuck skills. That is it. They tell you what you want to hear and they can serve it up for you.
Being a woman you need to protect yourself from this kinda guy. You will end up a single mother of one, two, three times a pregnancy if you don't heed this. Stop fucking guys unprotected. I don't care if you are on DEPo, the shot, the pill, the whatever. STOP.
Pregnancies ARE ACCIDENTS. 95% of us are here because sex is fun, not because our parents were trying to have kids...disregard what they told you. They might be trying if they had been together for a while before they had you, but otherwise...they were just fucking.
Also, any guy with 2 or more kids by 2 or more babymothers...dump him and dump him fast. I don't care how good the sex is, you will find good sex again. You don't need to risk being baby momma #3,4 or 5 in the process. Babies make you less marketable for good decent guys and most importantly, more desperate. I know guys that told me that the easiest way to score is with a single mother because many have the idea that nobody wants them. They will settle for damned near anything just give them a little PIECE of attention and boom. That's how they think. Aside from this, kids slow you down and keep you from doing what you want to do. If don't pick the right partner you are doing it all by yourself.
Good guys can fuck, too. I am the only guy who has made my wife cum...ever. Up until me she was having sex because she enjoyed it, but she hadn't came until she met me (thank you Vanessa Del Rio and other porn videos).
Look, I could go on forever. The most important thing is SELF Esteem. Don't lose it. Don't get it from some man or anybody else. Remember, YOU are the master of your destiny. Men get sex from you because YOU GIVE IT. You choose, not them. A man ain't getting none from you unless YOU give it. That is the greatest power in the world. Just make better choices. I love Black women, I married one. Her sisters didn't listen to me and now all but the 16 year old are single mother struggling. Struggling to find stable work. Struggling to find babysitters. Struggling STILL to find decent guys. One even told me that "Squares are boring". I asked her if she had a boyfriend and she said yeah. I asked where he was and she said, "In jail". I don't know what you do for excitement, but having a boyfriend or a fuckbuddy that is in and out of jail ain't cool. Change what you are looking for in a man and you will have a better chance at finding it. Being alone with a vibrator is better than being alone and being a single mother.
