Need some relationship advice

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You have to think about the reason or reasons why it didn't work.

Depending on the reasons that it didn't work, that can help you get over it.
It was very toxic. The love wasn’t reciprocated. Not to mention, when I had the stroke, she wasn’t there for me. I got tired, packed up my bags, and left. I had enough. But I’m feeling guilty because she pulled some hoe shit and had her friend contact me and I ended up cussing them both out.
 
How have you guys handled a breakup? Especially when you wanted it to work and it didn’t.
I've been on both sides of the fence. I've been sad and I've been happy. Honestly, you'll get over it in time. There's plenty of fish in the sea. Take some time to yourself. Do shit by yourself. One morning, you'll wake one happy ass mufucka! I no longer get so emotionally invested in relationships anymore. If it's over, I move on. Good luck with your situation though.
 
I've been on both sides of the fence. I've been sad and I've been happy. Honestly, you'll get over it in time. There's plenty of fish in the sea. Take some time to yourself. Did shit by yourself. One morning, you'll wake one happy ass mufucka! I no longer get so emotionally invested in relationships anymore. If it's over, I move on. Good luck with your situation though.
Thank you, brethren. I am going to focus on my goals and dreams.
 
It was very toxic. The love wasn’t reciprocated. Not to mention, when I had the stroke, she wasn’t there for me. I got tired, packed up my bags, and left. I had enough. But I’m feeling guilty because she pulled some hoe shit and had her friend contact me and I ended up cussing them both out.
Thank you for the explanation, now I can explain my first response. Because if was over due to cheating then my advice would've been different.

But the best way for you to handle this specific breakup, is to realize that all the reasons that you stated why it didn't work. Is comfort in knowing that she wasn't the one for you.

Yes you "Wanted" it to work, but you two weren't compatible and it was only a matter of time before you had enough and would leave.

If you stayed together two more years, you'd still have those exact same issues for another two years only to waste two more years of your life.

Yes you wanted it to work, but in the end she wasn't the one for you and wasn't gonna change.

No matter how much you wanted her to.
 
It was very toxic. The love wasn’t reciprocated. Not to mention, when I had the stroke, she wasn’t there for me. I got tired, packed up my bags, and left. I had enough. But I’m feeling guilty because she pulled some hoe shit and had her friend contact me and I ended up cussing them both out.
First and foremost, I hope that you are doing well health wise and have either fully recovered or are making great progress in your recovery from the stroke (one of my best friends had a stroke in May 2023, and he is still trying to recover from it, but he is making good progress).

At this point in your life ask yourself this question:

"How does she enhance my life?" If she's stressing you out and you feel that the "love" is unrequited is that a situation you really want to be in?
 
When you realize a bitch will always need you before you will ever need her, brawds become expendable.
I am married and I love my wife with everything in me, if she decide to leave tomorrow, I would be upset, until I came to my senses and realized it's her loss.
 
I know it's cliche, but time will help.
Eventually, the soul tie will melt and you'll understand and appreciate why it didn't work, & you'll genuinely want them to find their happiness.

Or, after time you'll both see what you missed in each other isnt out in the world and decide to give it another go. However, you might forget that they left, but never forget how. If she ripped your heart out leaving remember that, because she will do that shit again. Good luck and stay dangerous.
 
No shit

I moved to a different city and started dating this one chick.

Thought that she was the one. Got engaged, moved in with her, then all was good for a minute.

Then...her mom moved in. Then her brother moved in.

I didn't care. I was going to make it work. I was in "love".

Eventually, she kicked me to the curb. I was hurt and confused.

When she broke up with me....I ran through a lot of escorts.....a lot.

Then she came back around some weeks later...to bring me something....I ended up fucking her.

I was excited and thought that we were back on.

She was like.....nawwwwwwww. I was hurt again but focused.

Then I cut her off. Eventually, she sent me an email saying that she wanted to get back together.

I never responded.

I found a new chick.

The new chick and I have been married for 14 years and we have a couple kids.

She eventually got married and has a son.

Moral of the story....if it's meant to work it will work. If it is not meant to work it wont.

A relationship should be relativity easy and without drama...remember that
 
Thank you for the explanation, now I can explain my first response. Because if was over due to cheating then my advice would've been different.

But the best way for you to handle this specific breakup, is to realize that all the reasons that you stated why it didn't work. Is comfort in knowing that she wasn't the one for you.

Yes you "Wanted" it to work, but you two weren't compatible and it was only a matter of time before you had enough and would leave.

If you stayed together two more years, you'd still have those exact same issues for another two years only to waste two more years of your life.

Yes you wanted it to work, but in the end she wasn't the one for you and wasn't gonna change.

No matter how much you wanted her to.
True. Thank you for your perspective.
 
First and foremost, I hope that you are doing well health wise and have either fully recovered or are making great progress in your recovery from the stroke (one of my best friends had a stroke in May 2023, and he is still trying to recover from it, but he is making good progress).

At this point in your life ask yourself this question:

"How does she enhance my life?" If she's stressing you out and you feel that the "love" is unrequited is that a situation you really want to be in?
I’m better. Healing. And you’re right about the enhancement.
 
No shit

I moved to a different city and started dating this one chick.

Thought that she was the one. Got engaged, moved in with her, then all was good for a minute.

Then...her mom moved in. Then her brother moved in.

I didn't care. I was going to make it work. I was in "love".

Eventually, she kicked me to the curb. I was hurt and confused.

When she broke up with me....I ran through a lot of escorts.....a lot.

Then she came back around some weeks later...to bring me something....I ended up fucking her.

I was excited and thought that we were back on.

She was like.....nawwwwwwww. I was hurt again but focused.

Then I cut her off. Eventually, she sent me an email saying that she wanted to get back together.

I never responded.

I found a new chick.

The new chick and I have been married for 14 years and we have a couple kids.

She eventually got married and has a son.

Moral of the story....if it's meant to work it will work. If it is not meant to work it wont.

A relationship should be relativity easy and without drama...remember that
This is true. Unfortunately, we had a lot of drama.
 
It was very toxic. The love wasn’t reciprocated. Not to mention, when I had the stroke, she wasn’t there for me. I got tired, packed up my bags, and left. I had enough. But I’m feeling guilty because she pulled some hoe shit and had her friend contact me and I ended up cussing them both out.
That in itself is huge. Been there, done that. It gets easier after a breakup in most cases. If a mate can't be there when you need them in a situation with health, its not worth it. IMO
 
It was very toxic. The love wasn’t reciprocated. Not to mention, when I had the stroke, she wasn’t there for me. I got tired, packed up my bags, and left. I had enough. But I’m feeling guilty because she pulled some hoe shit and had her friend contact me and I ended up cussing them both out.
Your first 4 words pretty much said it was worth it.. if I put rat poison in your food you gonna keep eating it? No because it toxic.. if I told you to step in a room with harmful gas and breath it in, you going in there? No cause it toxic.. whenever something toxic you go the other way or avoid it if its possible.. toxic will only harm you or possibly kill you, so leave it.. being there’s no blood ties, no kids, there’s definitely no need to risk your sanity/peace of mind over it.. there’s at least 3.9 billion other females out there, you can always find another one or more.. if I offered you 3.9 billion plates of your fave food but 1 out of 3.9 billion was bad for your health are you still gonna eat from it or choose from all the other options? That’s how you look at it toss the bad dish to the side and go find the better 1s
 
It was very toxic
This right here is a need for it not to work at all!! Holding in to someone who is not hiding on to you... nope never a good idea..to move on takes time n space plus eliminate all social media sites with her in it.. meaning delete her as a friend n possibly block her in some instances...
 
Your first 4 words pretty much said it was worth it.. if I put rat poison in your food you gonna keep eating it? No because it toxic.. if I told you to step in a room with harmful gas and breath it in, you going in there? No cause it toxic.. whenever something toxic you go the other way or avoid it if its possible.. toxic will only harm you or possibly kill you, so leave it.. being there’s no blood ties, no kids, there’s definitely no need to risk your sanity/peace of mind over it.. there’s at least 3.9 billion other females out there, you can always find another one or more.. if I offered you 3.9 billion plates of your fave food but 1 out of 3.9 billion was bad for your health are you still gonna eat from it or choose from all the other options? That’s how you look at it toss the bad dish to the side and go find the better 1s
Thank you, man. I like how you worded that.
 
This right here is a need for it not to work at all!! Holding in to someone who is not hiding on to you... nope never a good idea..to move on takes time n space plus eliminate all social media sites with her in it.. meaning delete her as a friend n possibly block her in some instances...
I did. I blocked her on everything, including her phone number. I’m done.
 
No problem hope you use it to motivate yourself into a bunch of new and better female encounters
I’m gonna take this time and focus on myself. I need to get myself together before I entertain anyone else. I don’t want to attract another damaged person who I feel I need to heal.
 
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