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I got this friend who is a nice friend, but she can be off the hook in her personal life. She was with this brotha for a few years and they had threesomes together before. One time it was them and a guy and several times it was them and a girl.

Anyhow, later she found out he had been messing around with this chick behind her back. She got furious and ended the relationship.

I never said anyting to her, but if they had threesomes together all the time, does she really have the right to get mad??? :confused:

I don't know if the girl he was messing with was just sexual or they were building a relationship, but from everything she told me, it seemed sexual.

Do you think couples who practice "alternative lifestyles" have the right to get angry or jealous if one of them strays? Just a thought.
 
Re: Should she be mad????

Well generally the rules in those lifestyles is that everyone participates. Because for some men and for some women, watching their mate with someone is a turn on. It defeats the purpose if you're not getting turned on because you've been kept out of the loop.

Now if you're swinging, then your partner should be able to accept that their mate may leave for their "swapped" partner should it happen. But generally, those who swing know what they want.

Alternative lifestyles have never been for the weak at heart.
 
Re: Should she be mad????

femmenoire said:
Well generally the rules in those lifestyles is that everyone participates. Because for some men and for some women, watching their mate with someone is a turn on. It defeats the purpose if you're not getting turned on because you've been kept out of the loop.

Now if you're swinging, then your partner should be able to accept that their mate may leave for their "swapped" partner should it happen. But generally, those who swing know what they want.

Alternative lifestyles have never been for the weak at heart.
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The nail on the head.:yes:
 
Re: Should she be mad????

Lola said:
I got this friend who is a nice friend, but she can be off the hook in her personal life. She was with this brotha for a few years and they had threesomes together before. One time it was them and a guy and several times it was them and a girl.

Anyhow, later she found out he had been messing around with this chick behind her back. She got furious and ended the relationship.

I never said anyting to her, but if they had threesomes together all the time, does she really have the right to get mad??? :confused:

I don't know if the girl he was messing with was just sexual or they were building a relationship, but from everything she told me, it seemed sexual.

Do you think couples who practice "alternative lifestyles" have the right to get angry or jealous if one of them strays? Just a thought.
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It all depends on what the rules were… If they did not set them, that was the first mistake!
If it was something they did as a couple he should have respected that part of their relationship and never did it without her knowledge.

Now would he be pissed if she made love to the guy they did it with and he was not there? They did it all together so it’s no big deal right? Not like she has never sucked his dick or had him up in all of it…. Right?
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Yo tell your girl holla at me, lol. i ha to say it before someone beats me to it. But seriously She does have a right because what they both agreed to do together was still based on trust. He violated that. However, my question is if shorty is down for you liek that why go behind her back?
 
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Lola said:
I got this friend who is a nice friend, but she can be off the hook in her personal life. She was with this brotha for a few years and they had threesomes together before. One time it was them and a guy and several times it was them and a girl.

Anyhow, later she found out he had been messing around with this chick behind her back. She got furious and ended the relationship.

I never said anyting to her, but if they had threesomes together all the time, does she really have the right to get mad??? :confused:

I don't know if the girl he was messing with was just sexual or they were building a relationship, but from everything she told me, it seemed sexual.

Do you think couples who practice "alternative lifestyles" have the right to get angry or jealous if one of them strays? Just a thought.
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i don't think she is wrong. when they brought other people into their bed it was a joint thing that they did together within the relationship. her man stepped outside of the relationship and got it on without her knowing or condoning it.


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Re: Should she be mad????

She has every right to be mad, since a lot of women seem to get involved in those types of relationships as a way to keep a man from staying. It is that whole concept of "playing together". By playing alone he violated her "trust". In reality she needs to be given my screenname and pm me on the low as I understand the importance of "trust" and "trusting". :D
 
Should she be mad????

I got this friend who is a nice friend, but she can be off the hook in her personal life. She was with this brotha for a few years and they had threesomes together before. One time it was them and a guy and several times it was them and a girl.

Anyhow, later she found out he had been messing around with this chick behind her back. She got furious and ended the relationship.

I never said anyting to her, but if they had threesomes together all the time, does she really have the right to get mad??? :confused:

I don't know if the girl he was messing with was just sexual or they were building a relationship, but from everything she told me, it seemed sexual.

Do you think couples who practice "alternative lifestyles" have the right to get angry or jealous if one of them strays? Just a thought.
 
Re: Should she be mad????

Hell yeah!!!!

You have to be honest about everything in any romantic relationship. And the fact that he went behind her back means he lied. So yes, she has the right to be mad because he lied. . .

you make swingin sound so bad. . . .I mean ask yourself this, is it ok to rape a prostitute??
 
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I think she can't be mad. When you open up your sexual relationship to include other people you have to take that with the notion that sometimes they will stray without you. I think she took a gamble and lost.. she can't be mad..
 
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yeah, it is all how you play that card. But, we don't know the whole story. Lot's of twist and tangles in a relationship like that. I would bet that it is even more than just sex with someone else that led to the ultimate conclusion...
 
Re: Should she be mad????

I think she should be mad to a certain extent but not surprised. People that involve themselves in threesomes have to know that it might end up in that situation.
 
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Cleopatra_J said:
I think she can't be mad. When you open up your sexual relationship to include other people you have to take that with the notion that sometimes they will stray without you. I think she took a gamble and lost.. she can't be mad..
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SEXY_SCORPIO said:
I think she should be mad to a certain extent but not surprised. People that involve themselves in threesomes have to know that it might end up in that situation.
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True. Opening a committed relationship to others can lead to someone being left in the cold...
 
Re: Should she be mad????

I say yes she had a right to be mad...he wasn't open with her. Most couples who have an "open" relationship or are swingers, have some type of agreement/rules set in place. I am assuming they agreed not to sleep with others without one another's consent, therefor, she has a right to be mad.
 
Re: Should she be mad????

it depends on the agreement her and her partner had...

if they both agreed that they would swing but still remain exclusive then yes...she has every right to be mad...because he did not keep his word

and if thats the case she also has the right to be upset that this was all done behind her back

however...if there was no agreement...no she has no right to be upset
 
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That happens a lot in that kind of lifestyle, it's like opening pandora's box.
 
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DeSiRe said:
it depends on the agreement her and her partner had...

if they both agreed that they would swing but still remain exclusive then yes...she has every right to be mad...because he did not keep his word

and if thats the case she also has the right to be upset that this was all done behind her back

however...if there was no agreement...no she has no right to be upset
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Co-sign plus what if the shoe was on the other foot. Seems he was benefiting most since the 3 some was mostly with other females.
 
Re: Should she be mad????

I kind of asked this question before and got kind of ridiculed for it.

Can three people have a meaningful relationship?

The answer was a overbearing no. The reason is this shit right here. People can't be honest about this shit. The whole reason for bringing that other person in is to spice up YOUR shit. Not to branch out. But most people do it because it is a convenient way of cheating. :smh:
 
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LeroyDibiase said:
I got this friend who is a nice friend, but she can be off the hook in her personal life. She was with this brotha for a few years and they had threesomes together before. One time it was them and a guy and several times it was them and a girl.

Anyhow, later she found out he had been messing around with this chick behind her back. She got furious and ended the relationship.

I never said anyting to her, but if they had threesomes together all the time, does she really have the right to get mad??? :confused:

I don't know if the girl he was messing with was just sexual or they were building a relationship, but from everything she told me, it seemed sexual.

Do you think couples who practice "alternative lifestyles" have the right to get angry or jealous if one of them strays? Just a thought.
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OMFG, this is my post I did a while ago...it's exactly copied and pasted by this fool. Seriously dude, what is wrong with YOU??? I mean really, WTF?

http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=209353&highlight=mad
 
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LeroyDibiase said:
I thought you had me on ignore?????
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I never said I put you on ignore, but that's a good idea. :)

Why don't you answer the question...why would you find a post I did over 9 months ago and post it as yours?

What is wrong with you?
 
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LeroyDibiase said:
I got this friend who is a nice friend, but she can be off the hook in her personal life. She was with this brotha for a few years and they had threesomes together before. One time it was them and a guy and several times it was them and a girl.

Anyhow, later she found out he had been messing around with this chick behind her back. She got furious and ended the relationship.

I never said anyting to her, but if they had threesomes together all the time, does she really have the right to get mad??? :confused:

I don't know if the girl he was messing with was just sexual or they were building a relationship, but from everything she told me, it seemed sexual.

Do you think couples who practice "alternative lifestyles" have the right to get angry or jealous if one of them strays? Just a thought.
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She should get mad! For some reason people think that swinging is a "free for all" and it's not!

Swinging or any thing involving other people in the relationship is about COMMUNICATION and RULES. The couple make the rules before they enter the act. Rules such as: HONESTY, TRUST and RESPECT. All these need to be discussed before hand.

Can you fuck the person if the other is not there?
Is it only a one time thing?
Are we fucking friends or strangers?
If friends how will it affect our relationship?
and more...but most people/couples don't and relationships end.
 
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Lola said:
I never said I put you on ignore, but that's a good idea. :)

Why don't you answer the question...why would you find a post I did over 9 months ago and post it as yours?

What is wrong with you?
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Soooooo, you're a fucking liar then???

Lola said:

This message is hidden because LeroyDibiase is on your ignore list.


Here we fucking go again......

This stupid MOFO is still posting to me and I have him on ignore. Let me guess---my thread is stupid, right? You've said that a million times. Find something else to do fucktard!

WHY THE FUCK WON'T YOU PUT ME ON IGNORE IF YOU HATE MY POSTS??? YA DUMB ASS!

Nothing is more funny than a fool like you who claims they hate every post, but you have your bitch ass up in every post I make.

I swear, you must do a search on Lola to find my posts. Damn son, why would be so consumed with what Im typing. :confused:

Pathetic...just pathetic I tell you. :smh::lol::smh:
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What's pathetic is lying about putting someone on ignore.
 
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Umm,just one quick question if you have him on ignore how are you able to respond to what he said:confused:
 
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SEXY_SCORPIO said:
Umm,just one quick question if you have him on ignore how are you able to respond to what he said:confused:
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hmm maybe its just me but i don't see lola post a lot on this side

soooooo


someone prolly told her about the thread and she took him off ignore to see what was going on...and the rest is history (well...the rest is on this page :lol::hmm:) i'm going 2 bed :yes::yes:
 
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jucurious said:
hmm maybe its just me but i don't see lola post a lot on this side

soooooo


someone prolly told her about the thread and she took him off ignore to see what was going on...and the rest is history (well...the rest is on this page :lol::hmm:) i'm going 2 bed :yes::yes:
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Lola ain't got no damn friends. I think you need to brush up on your reading comprehension skills. She admitted in this thread that she DIDN'T have me on ignore, but it was a good idea, but I linked to another post where she previously stated I was on ignore. So she's a lying, no-necked, linebacker-shoulder having, James Brown look-alike.

Lola said:
I never said I put you on ignore, but that's a good idea. :)

Why don't you answer the question...why would you find a post I did over 9 months ago and post it as yours?

What is wrong with you?
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