Men of SOL: Please Explain

[PainInDAss]

Why do yall play so many games? Why is it so difficult for yall to say what you mean and mean what you say? I just don't get it.

I ask this as I am still reeling from the call from the ex 2 days ago.

HE is the one who broke it off with me. HE is the one who would say all kinds of horrible shit to me just to piss me off(he finally admitted it).

So he invents a reason to call me, this lets me know he misses me (I see right thru it). Then starts talking about "2 people who loved each other so much" and do I remember this and that. Then talking about I the first one he gonna call when he hits NY. WTF? I said please don't. Then when we hung up I wept for over 2 hours and it has had me all fucked up since.

So more specifically why do you guys try so hard to drive away what you want and/or have such a damn difficult time just admitting it? Why you gotta cause so much pain for other people with your bullshit?

seriously, are you missing him or his smile or something, because you were just talking about how he's stalking you. You're still on the topic of him. I'm guessing you're not over him, if so, it sures as hell doesn't look like becuase you're still talking about him. He's a Psychopath who's inches away from commiting a crime and you're entertaining dude in your own head? something tells me that you're still in love with him or who he used to be. Me want what they can't have, and if you prohibit them, then they'll pursue it further.

If he drove you away he's got problems with his moms, it had to come from her becuase she was the one that was his first experience with a WOMAN.

maybe he knew he was falling in love and felt you were too good for his player-ass. he had to get you all pissed so you could let him go instead of just saying "let's chill"

either way, he's not over you, but ask yourself if you're over him?

I'm thinking your not, but if you are, then forgive my prepubescent prediction.

Either way, Good luck. if you're a good woman, he didn't deserve you and you should tell yourself that everyday. You're contemplative, that says alot so........Good luck

 

[APOPHIS]

Bigirl, you really should be asking yourself, "why does this guy still have access to me?"

I mean, if you really wanted to cut him off completely from your life, you would have not answered his phone call in the first place. As a mater of fact, you should have changed your number just to completely break off all form of communication.

You have told us about how much this cat has hurt you before and yet somehow he is still able make you speak to him and bring out these old feelings.

YOU obviously have not "moved on" the way you thought you have.

Perhaps he has some kind of mental hold on you that you can't seem escape from....

 

[mcguyver]

Why do yall play so many games? Why is it so difficult for yall to say what you mean and mean what you say? I just don't get it.

I ask this as I am still reeling from the call from the ex 2 days ago.

HE is the one who broke it off with me. HE is the one who would say all kinds of horrible shit to me just to piss me off(he finally admitted it).

So he invents a reason to call me, this lets me know he misses me (I see right thru it). Then starts talking about "2 people who loved each other so much" and do I remember this and that. Then talking about I the first one he gonna call when he hits NY. WTF? I said please don't. Then when we hung up I wept for over 2 hours and it has had me all fucked up since.

So more specifically why do you guys try so hard to drive away what you want and/or have such a damn difficult time just admitting it? Why you gotta cause so much pain for other people with your bullshit?

That damn leroy. I told you he don't care for you like I do.

 

[nick177th]

Remember what I told you BiGirl, don't let nobody live in your head rent free.

 

[Dannyblueyes]

Why do yall play so many games? Why is it so difficult for yall to say what you mean and mean what you say? I just don't get it.

I ask this as I am still reeling from the call from the ex 2 days ago.

HE is the one who broke it off with me. HE is the one who would say all kinds of horrible shit to me just to piss me off(he finally admitted it).

So he invents a reason to call me, this lets me know he misses me (I see right thru it). Then starts talking about "2 people who loved each other so much" and do I remember this and that. Then talking about I the first one he gonna call when he hits NY. WTF? I said please don't. Then when we hung up I wept for over 2 hours and it has had me all fucked up since.

So more specifically why do you guys try so hard to drive away what you want and/or have such a damn difficult time just admitting it? Why you gotta cause so much pain for other people with your bullshit?

Same reason ex-cokeheads ring their dealer's doorbell and take off before he can answer. As much as they crave that next fix there's a part of their brain that knows it'll bring out the worst in them. Once that latter part takes over they're speeding off while the dealer looks around outside thinking it's the feds fucking with him.

 

[Pure Game]

now im gonna be honest I didn't read alot of the replies

but anybody who gets played should have gotten played, to answer your ?, men play games because women play them

it's obvious in there statements, if I meet a woman and she says "I just broke up with my boyfriend", I know she just wants to fuck, cuz if not why not state that she's single, stating she just broke with her boyfriend only means that they are on hard times and she just wants to fuck u, but keep her man at the same time

my point is, that when u actually come to the conclusion that homeboy was full of shit, ask yourself if u were straight up from the beginning yourself

 

[thevillian]

What I don't understand is why people gotta play games like that.

With him, I think its a combination of both things. BTW he is a scorpio

What does that have 2 do with anything. Lemme find out u a scorpio hater....

 

[inflewence]

I can tell you I was that dude a couple of years ago. I didn't know what I wanted, and thought the grass was greener on the otherside. By the time I realized I was really in love with the woman (who was in your position) it was too late. She said the same thing to me. I know she still loved me but I played too much. Although I was very sincere it was too late and I didn't deserve her. Whos to say I really knew at that time what I wanted I put her through too much.

I say that to say this. People are on here saying stop wasteing your time and tears on him, but love is love. Either you are going to hear his bullshit and be there for him, even though it hurts, or your going to say, he don't derserve me and cut him off totally. Those are the only two options. I suggest it is the latter. I am a way better man for it. She taught me something I never knew. I went through life thinking I can get anyone and be with any of my ex's when ever (because I could until her) I wanted. She taught me when you love someone you don't treat them like shit and get away with it. Teach him that lesson. You'll be ok its going to take time and sorry for the book i wrote

 

[SuperGenius]

Why do yall play so many games? Why is it so difficult for yall to say what you mean and mean what you say? I just don't get it.

I ask this as I am still reeling from the call from the ex 2 days ago.

HE is the one who broke it off with me. HE is the one who would say all kinds of horrible shit to me just to piss me off(he finally admitted it).

So he invents a reason to call me, this lets me know he misses me (I see right thru it). Then starts talking about.......

I stopped reading here....this is the reason he still calls u because you entertain the bullshit....

its not a guy thing. thats a broad brush to generalize all men. we all aren't the same..

c/s this

here's a hard question:

if you know he's full of shit then why do you feed into it?

don't take his phone calls..stop allowing him to have your time..

People play games to see just how much they can affect a person.

c/s 100% At some point he felt he was losing your interest, so he's re-investing time and effort to get you back the way he had u......hanging on a string.

What I don't understand is why people gotta play games like that. confused:

With him, I think its a combination of both things. BTW he is a scorpio

Stop looking for answers to the problem when you already know what the solution is...and so what he's a scorpio. Men and women regardless of zodiac sign play these mind games...astrology is NOT the gospel. Being that you 2 have mutual friends, I can pretty much guarntee that whatever you say about him in expressing your feelings gets back to him, which fuels him to keep calling back getting in your head, besides the fact you are allowing it.

Hes not 2 years from the past but a few months from the past and I am vex not from his past actions but because he won't leave me alone. If you want to let me go then let me the fuck go. Don't keep inventing reasons to call and shit. Let me go thru my process. How the fuck I supposed to heal and move on if you keep calling and sending lil messages thru friends?

Again, you already know what you have to do...unless you like him playing on your emotions

I am going to school you on some game. you might not want to hear it but I have to tell you in order for you to understand. A man will never close the door on some pussy.He does not care about you at all.

In this case...c/s. People are only hurt by those they care about...so obviously you were hurt by this dude. He pretty much let the relationship die when he cut you off, so now it's up to you to finish off the job he started....kill it.

 

[LeftyLuchini]

u sure it wasnt drunk dialing?

if so,

disregard and move on.


































but it is sweet to see u are being more Girl than Bi lately..


www.rkellyisguilty.com

 

[Lick]

Why do yall play so many games? Why is it so difficult for yall to say what you mean and mean what you say? I just don't get it.

I ask this as I am still reeling from the call from the ex 2 days ago.

HE is the one who broke it off with me. HE is the one who would say all kinds of horrible shit to me just to piss me off(he finally admitted it).

So he invents a reason to call me, this lets me know he misses me (I see right thru it). Then starts talking about "2 people who loved each other so much" and do I remember this and that. Then talking about I the first one he gonna call when he hits NY. WTF? I said please don't. Then when we hung up I wept for over 2 hours and it has had me all fucked up since.

So more specifically why do you guys try so hard to drive away what you want and/or have such a damn difficult time just admitting it? Why you gotta cause so much pain for other people with your bullshit?

Yo Bigirl,

Some guy are like that (weak) and some of us shoot straight from the hip. Ya get all kinds and it work both ways. If you are done with this guy then do everything you can to expunge his ass from your life and move on. However, if you are still feeling this guy then be straight up with him and tell his ass to man up because life is too short for the dumb shit…
Dude may want the best of both worlds or what ever. But you be straight with him and call it the way you see it… Look in the mirror first and check yourself… Just something I had to do to get things cool on this end if ya know what I’m saying…
Stay up!