"Men dont want a ready-made family"

[BaseballKid]

I think I said before. I refuse to date a chick with a kid or kids. Mayne I have been there, done that and got it on my resume. Can't and won't do it ever again in my life.

IMO, if you are brother out here with no kids, don't date, marry, etc., a chick with kid(s). It's the smart play.

An older gentlemen once told me.....Women with kids are a package deal. The only package deal you want when you don't have kids is with your new car, house, etc., that you purchase. Not with a woman.

 

[bgbtylvr]

These automobile therapists gets none of my time.

 

[ShortyCumStain]

I ain't finna play stepdaddy for none of these dawg heauxs. I ain't got no kids so I ain't finna take care or look after nobody else churn.

 

[Dannyblueyes]

I would never date a single mom until I'm up to par with my own children. Even then it's still unlikely.

Biggest concern is that kids mean the ex is still in the picture. Too often unresolved issues=unfound bodies

 

[305]

As a single man who is divorced, if i settle down again, i want a woman who has a kid or 2 and not looking for anymore.
my son will be 17 this year, i'm not looking to start over.
i've always heard dudes talking about not taking care of another man's kid/s and laughed, i am the man i am today because someone stepped up and married my mom who had kids. lately i've been hearing a lot of single women say they don't want a man with kids for the same reason dudes say it:

• you don't have time for me
• i'm not your priority
• i want to experienced all the first things of having a kid together, it's not fun if you experienced them already
• etc

to each is his/her own

Glad that worked out for you. I agree tho that somehow the guy who does do that is a "real man". Who creates this standard? I didnt want a ready family. And would never want to be with a woman that got kids already. but as you said each his her own.

 

[The Plutonian]

Just based of the title, a man will deal and take on whatever he wants to deal with.

Right. When a dude tired of running (cause we don't necessarily give in) he will judge and weigh his options. I've dated a few girls with two kids, some with 1. Some with none. She never addressed the REAL issues and that is the babymama, baby daddy fucking drama. Dudes who didn't want the lady or kid for that matter. I have my limit of 3 kids but if a woman is fine, worth it, worth my time I'll stop running for a min to see wsup. Then again, not everybody wants to be fucking married. Just to divorce anyway. Man fuck that shit

 

[Raeeb7]

There can be a little bit of a double standard when it comes to dating a man with a kid or two versus a woman with the same. I have a girlfriend who married two different men who had a child from a previous relationship and she stepped into the role of step-mom humbly. Mind you, the case may not have been the same if it were the other way around. If you care for the person enough, it may not even come up as a huge factor - or you may not even date her, in the first place, because of your aversion to dating a person with kids. To each his own...

A woman's nature is to nurture there is no double standard.