Losing Your Virginity - Was It What You Thought It Would Be?

[Jam_Jam]

I was 18 when I lost my virginity. I turned 18 in June and had sex for the first time on December 26 of that year. He was 19, and he was not a virgin. We did it at him mom's house. I remember it being really painful and I was thinking "sex is not so great." Of course it got much better as time passed. Thankfully, he really loved me and I loved him too. We got engaged but I moved away and ended up marrying another man. Although many years have passed, we still talk and care for each other a great deal. I can honestly say he was my first love and I have no regrets about that experience.

Anyone else care to share their experience?

 

[Izayoi]

Totally unremarkable.When I decided sex was one less thing I wanted to wonder about, I did it. Prom night ofcourse! I knew I didn't want to be all strung out on a guy and end up pregnant and dropping out of school so I chose the finest (yes he was fine) dumb as a box of rocks type dude I was talking to at the time. He was sweet though, but I knew because I wasn't feeling him like that I wasn't going to have to go through a whole emotional thing.

I think first times are highly overrated unless you are with someone older and much more experienced that knows what he is doing, but my older brother didn't play that. Anybody much older than me was not making it pass the door- my brother was nosy too so he had a way of finding out even when I tried to sneak. I should probably thank him for being on his job

 

[Iron]

No.


It's not the same for men when they loose their virginity. It's smoother processs ( well for me it was )and we aren't taught like women. No one tells use to treasure our virginity and to wait for the right person.

When i see a person who's still a virgin i tell em that sex is fun, it's a nice thing to do but hold out and wait until they find the right person. Sex is overated ( it is ) and after that first nut they'll be sitting there like this is it. .
Boring


Then they'll roll over for round two.

 

[black again]

Aight, here's my story: I was 17, she was 14, and I was at my buddy's house. His parents were gone, so he went upstairs, and I got to use his basement. To put it mildly, I sucked...not puzzy, I sucked at any attempt at pleasing her. I cracked a nut, but it was awkward..I was fumbling, and generally didn't have a clue. It was a few pumps & bam! That shit damn near scarred me for life I got my mojo goin, after a few times...I went to a porn theater to see how it was done, and then tried practicing, as much as possible. I truly believe that my ineptitude inspired me to learn everything I could about being a beast in the sack.

 

[MartinAsante]

The best...14 seconds of my life.

 

[mcguyver]

Totally unremarkable.When I decided sex was one less thing I wanted to wonder about, I did it. Prom night ofcourse! I knew I didn't want to be all strung out on a guy and end up pregnant and dropping out of school so I chose the finest (yes he was fine) dumb as a box of rocks type dude I was talking to at the time. He was sweet though, but I knew because I wasn't feeling him like that I wasn't going to have to go through a whole emotional thing.

I think first times are highly overrated unless you are with someone older and much more experienced that knows what he is doing, but my older brother didn't play that. Anybody much older than me was not making it pass the door- my brother was nosy too so he had a way of finding out even when I tried to sneak. I should probably thank him for being on his job

We don't have to sneak anymore...... right?

 

[Duece]

I rather not share, because it might make yall look at me differently, but it wasn't terrible and wasn't great, kinda neutral.

 

[charlie dark]

I was 18 when I lost my virginity. I turned 18 in June and had sex for the first time on December 26 of that year. He was 19, and he was not a virgin. We did it at him mom's house. I remember it being really painful and I was thinking "sex is not so great." Of course it got much better as time passed. Thankfully, he really loved me and I loved him too. We got engaged but I moved away and ended up marrying another man. Although many years have passed, we still talk and care for each other a great deal. I can honestly say he was my first love and I have no regrets about that experience.

Anyone else care to share their experience?

Yeah mine was great.
But I'm a guy so I guess it's slightly different perspective.
I wasn't in love I just wanted to loose my virginity.
If I'm honest I just used the girl as a vehicle to loose my virginity.

 

[Hey Julian!]

Well, I was so nervous, I couldnt get it up and it actually took a few more times for me to really get over my nerves and bang it out. Oh, and I remember thinking "DAMN, it not as tight as I thought it would be" I guess my hand fooled me with a tighter grip.

 

[Izayoi]

We don't have to sneak anymore...... right?

Oh boy you trying to Lolita me?

 

[b-ruckus]

I was 18, she was 16 (and one of my best friends girlfriends). I was a little shy growing up and so when she came on to me that's all she wrote. She called me and told me to come by her house because her boyfriend was at work and no one would be home for awhile. However, when I got there she told me her cousin was dropping off her grandmother so we didn't have but an hour or so.

She was pretty experienced for a 16 year-old, OK she was a freak, and took the lead for the most part. She asked me what I wanted her to do to me and what I wanted to do. I told her I wanted to go down on her and judging by her reactions to my "work" I wasn't too bad my first time out. Thank God for my dad's porno stash for the instructionals.

Anyway, we gave each other oral and she got on top and rode me until the damn phone rang Now she was getting nervous about her cousin coming by so we stopped.

Not a great first time, but not that bad either. We made up for it a few more times until my friend started to get suspicious about us and so we stopped messing around. Little did she know she had created a monster!

 

[SWATLANTA]

To be honest, I was relieved that it was over with. I was too nervous to enjoy anything. I think I blacked out. It lasted a full five and a 1/2 strokes...

 

[b-ruckus]

...I think I blacked out.

You were under some serious pressure huh?

 

[SWATLANTA]

You were under some serious pressure huh?

Hell yeah...

 

[mcguyver]

We don't have to sneak anymore...... right?

Oh boy you trying to Lolita me?

18 and up.

 

[bigirl]

Haha we were just fooling around in the bushes outside a convent of all places. We were really heavy petting then he says "you know we could be having serious sex right now". I was like alright. It was just a chance to try it. I was curious. It was both our first times and it hurt like hell so I ended up beating the shit out of him and leaving him in the bushes I remember thinking as I left "that was the dumbest shit I ever did. that shit sucked. why do people want to do that? people are retarded" Then after that I refused to try it again for several years. Then I had a really hot older guy who knew what he was doing and I got it. LOL.

 

[sexylegz33]

I was 19 when I lost my virginity. Two months before my 20th birthday. It was painful and I did not enjoy it at all! I was like, what the hell is every body talking about?! He was also a virgin, but we really did love each other. We ended up staying together for 10 years and since we were so comfortable with one another we were open to exploring each other's bodies and being completely uninhibited. I feel that you can get more experience from a long term committed relationship than you can from several different partners. The first time was not so good, but it got much much better with time.

 

[thoughtone]

I was 18 when I lost my virginity. I turned 18 in June and had sex for the first time on December 26 of that year. He was 19, and he was not a virgin. We did it at him mom's house. I remember it being really painful and I was thinking "sex is not so great." Of course it got much better as time passed. Thankfully, he really loved me and I loved him too. We got engaged but I moved away and ended up marrying another man. Although many years have passed, we still talk and care for each other a great deal. I can honestly say he was my first love and I have no regrets about that experience.

Anyone else care to share their experience?

Do these feelings for your "first love" in any way intrude on you giving yourself to someone else completely? Be honest.

 

[DarkCity]

My first time was tragic. I was 14 she was 17 It was the summer and I didn't go t work so that I could go over her house when no one was home. We were watching "Sisqo's Shakedown" on MTV ( I know I'm young, 22) and one thing led to another. I tried to go down on her and she pushed me off in 60 seconds then she rode me for about 3 minutes and got up and started to cry. That shit was tragic. The whole time I was thinking THIS IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING. But once I lost my virginity it was like opening the flood gates. I definitely got better with experience. Now I look at sex a lot differently than a lot of dudes i think because of my first experience.

 

[femmenoire]

He was 22 and I was 16.

I was trying to be all bad because my two closest friends had fucked him and raved about his dick.

But I knew he was older so I made it seem as though I had been around the block. I mean I kinda had. I had tried penetration twice before hand with 2 different dudes but it hurt too much to go all the way.

I didn't let him know that though.

So homeboy gets me pretty aroused. The other 2 had never gotten me wet like he did.

So he commences to fucking me and I feel a pain but it was an oddly good pain. And I feel the wetness but I think it's me.

When he finishes he's like "Oh shit! You got your period? You might want to handle that."

And I was thinking to myself "So this is what poppin your cherry means"?

So he wiped me down and kissed me and I told him that I had to go and buy some pads. I walked to the train station with a weird sting between my legs but I was happy as hell.

 

[jay1984]

nope i didnt even bust!!!!!

 

[Jam_Jam]

Do these feelings for your "first love" in any way intrude on you giving yourself to someone else completely? Be honest.

I can honestly say no. As time passed the feelings for him became less intense. I will always love him, but I am not in love with him. He always treated me like a queen and that is what I grew to expect from men. I am grateful that my first was such a good person. He got married a few years after we broke up and he is still married.

 

[the_future420]

nope i didnt even bust!!!!!

Me either. But I did go at it for a good little while (at least 20 minutes) so thats somethin to be proud of. I was too nervous to bust, cuz I went over there (decided to skip school that day) and I caught her moms leavin out for work, so she knew what was up. I was scared as hell moms was gonna pop back up. It didnt help that every 2 minutes my girl would swear she heard somebody coming up the steps.

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

I Lost Mines When I Was 13 In Middle School But My First Sexual Interaction With A Girl Was When I Was In Elementary School.

But Losing My Virginity Was Cool Me And The Female Took It Slow It Was Her First Time As Well It Was A Beautiful Thing I Still Talk To Her And We Still Remember It.

 

[MissStarKitty]

It was depressing. I was 16 about to turn 17 the next month. He was 17, he told me he wasn't a virgin (later I found out he was). But it was extremely boring, we started out kissing and then all of a sudden this big ass ninja is on top of me thrusting talmbout "IS THAT GOOD BABY"

I was like huh?
He obviously didn't care if I felt good or not because he was just pumping and pumping like a damn rabbit
And then when he was finished had the nerve to ask me was it good...???
Then lit a blunt and started smoking...

I thought to myself: "Damn I'm breaking curfew for this shit. I'mma be grounded for at least a month and I didn't even enjoy this shit"

 

[RashaansGirl]

It was one of the most pathetic experiences of my life. So pathetic that I will only reveal it on an anonymous porn board.

I was a junior in HS. He was too. In the beginning, we were just pals. Then it turned emotional. For me, anyway. I let him squeeze my tits. And He let me stroke his dick. We kissed & flirted all the time. Whoop-dee-doo.

So one day we ended up at his house. He told me to come with him down to the (unfinished) basement. (imagine a cold, dark, cement room that smelled like mildew.) My dumb, vulnerable, silly ass did. He threw his tongue down my throat. He then told me to lay on a pile of (dirty) laundry on the floor. And just like a young girl crying out for negative attention, acceptance and approval, I did.

He removed my panties, fingered me for 10 seconds and then penetrated, unprotected. It hurt, but apparently not enough for me to tell him to stop. About 1 minute later, he pulled out and squirted what seemed like a gallon of cum on my stomach. He so elegantly wiped me off with a towel from the pile of laundry. Bastard. Then I went to the bathroom and saw why they called it "Busting the cherry". Total time elasped: 4 minutes.

He was young and dumb and so was I. Therefore, I have no regrets. It was the 1st of many important, powerful life lessons about men, relationships & self-worth: If you allow a ninja to treat you like dog-shit....he will. Period.

Today, we no longer talk, but we have mutual friends. He is married to a celebrity wife. I see him on TV from time to time. From what I understand, he regularly has affairs and has several children by other women. Oh-fucking-well.

 

[SinaminDelite]

It was bad.

So bad that I hardly remember it. All I do remember is that I was 16, he was 18, he sweat like a hog, and it was over in about 3 minutes.

 

[KINGFROMQUEENS]

for me it was better than i could have imagined. the girl was a little older than me and had experience . i was 13 and did not know what the hell i was doing , but i knew i wanted to do it again and again. it would be 3 years before i got any again . that was a long 3 years. lol

 

[blackmouth]

i was 14, home alone and playing my atari game-the one with the pac man that didn't turn his head.

then, a knock on the door; it was regina (17 yrs old) from the project bldg across the way. she KNEW my parents were not home and wanted to come in to play atari.

next thing you know, she's telling me, "let's do it."

after a full 25 seconds, i busted a nut in her and thought i broke my dick. she just sat there laughing at me and told me i would be OK.

5 min later, i was still humping on her from behind as she tried to put on her clothes. my back was curved like the letter "C," and my ass was moving like the energizer bunny on crack AND a case of red bull.



she never fucked me again but takes pride in the fact that she broke me out the gate. we're still friends 20 yrs later.

 

[DaMack]

i was 14, home alone and playing my atari game-the one with the pac man that didn't turn his head.

then, a knock on the door; it was regina (17 yrs old) from the project bldg across the way. she KNEW my parents were not home and wanted to come in to play atari.

next thing you know, she's telling me, "let's do it."

after a full 25 seconds, i busted a nut in her and thought i broke my dick. she just sat there laughing at me and told me i would be OK.

5 min later, i was still humping on her from behind as she tried to put on her clothes. my back was curved like the letter "C," and my ass was moving like the energizer bunny on crack AND a case of red bull.



she never fucked me again but takes pride in the fact that she broke me out the gate. we're still friends 20 yrs later.

so pac-man moved backwards then?


at the second bold

 

[Izayoi]

It was depressing. I was 16 about to turn 17 the next month. He was 17, he told me he wasn't a virgin (later I found out he was). But it was extremely boring, we started out kissing and then all of a sudden this big ass ninja is on top of me thrusting talmbout "IS THAT GOOD BABY"

I was like huh?
He obviously didn't care if I felt good or not because he was just pumping and pumping like a damn rabbit
And then when he was finished had the nerve to ask me was it good...???
Then lit a blunt and started smoking...

I thought to myself: "Damn I'm breaking curfew for this shit. I'mma be grounded for at least a month and I didn't even enjoy this shit"

Starkitty I'm sorry for laughing but that's some horrible dick if it had you thinking about curfew. "Was it good?" Can't believe he asked that.

 

[Bushmon]

Disclaimer:
This was over 20 years ago I was truly “Young dumb and full of Cumm”……………
I lost mines in a cemetery. Yes a cemetery. Jamaica W.I. around Christmas time one year. I was walking this much older chick from a church social of all things. She was around 20 I was 14. The short cut to her house ran through a cemetery of all places.

Here is how it went down:
My young naive ass thought I had game, so I persuaded her to kiss and let me get a little feel as we walked. She surprisingly put up no resistance. She even went as far as to slip off her panties and put them back on, only on one leg (a pro move as I later found out). By the time we reached the short cut in the cemetery I was harder than a bamboo tree. Before I knew it she had cocked up under a tree and invited me in. Although I had no clue as to what the fuck I was doing, I faked it very well. If you ever watched a Jamaican Dance Hall video you know exactly what I am talking about. I slid into her with ease and did what came natural to me, “whine up mi self”. I can’t say it was good or bad. I was in shock. First I couldn’t believe it was happening more so to the fact of where it was happening. When I broke it was the sweetest sensation I have ever felt (side note: I had never jacked off before this event). I have spent the last 20 + years sexing and flexing, but I guess you will never experience that sensation as to when you first broke water.
Now for the Funny Part:
When reached her house I kissed her and thanked her. Walking home the blood finally returned to my big head, ohh shit, I realized I hit this chick raw. I ran home took a shower, and then proceeded to pour LISTERINE on my raw dick (thinking I would kill the germs). I nearly passed out from the pain.

 

[SuperGenius]

^^^^@ the Listerine




Welp! My first experince of losing my virginity was horrible, it was in October....but it an experience in the summer of the previous year is when I almost lost my virginity, but that near experience was even worse. I was with this chick who was also a virgin who my cousin hooked me up with who in turn was messing with her girlfriend...and they too were virgins. So u had 4 virgins who got together and decided that we would all lose our virginity this summer...

So we were at my cousin's crib in Bronx River while my aunt was at work...I was in one room with shorty and my cuz was in the another with his chick. I swear, I could not get it in for shit....and that's because I was trying to put it in without looking on some fake smooth shit. This dumbness went on for about a half an hour till my cousin knocked on the door cause his moms was coming home soon, so her and I decided to try again another time. After they left we exchanged stories...bottom line, we were still virgins.


We all got together about 2 weeks later and this time my cousin and I were determined to get in....so me and shorty went into one room and my cousin went off with his shorty in another, and it was the same shit for me, I could not get in and even worse locate her pussy hole....next thing I hear a knock on the door...my cousin calls me out and tells me his good news...
he lost his...now i'm under extreme pressure to get my dick in, because I didn't want to walk out there still a virgin after hearing that shit. Well, after another 20 minutes, she stopped me "Let's just stop" she said "It's too hot and i'm sweating". So, after a couple of more "please baby please" I finally gave up. Youngblood like me was rejected like a mofo.....


After we got dressed, my cousin pulled me to the side smiling, not cause he lost his virginity, but because he saw the dejected look on my face. After I told him I couldn't get in he cracked the fuck up. So we all go outside and stand in front of his building...I can't remember the name of the song it was from, I think it wsa Salt N Pepa, but the next thing I hear is her singing: "I'm stll a virgin, please don't hurt me". Man that was it, they all cracked up on me, and I knew then that I wouldn't get another chance to try and hit that up....it wasn't until October of next year when I finally lost it with another chick who was also a virgin. So when my buddy found the hole, I inserted the head with thoughts of last summer (FINALLY!!!), and all I heard was a loud scream like someone had been shot. We stopped, and that's when I thought to myself "After all that shit I went through last year, this is what it's like"?!?

 

[Bushmon]

Just had to Bump this one.

 

[Chicutie]

I was 17 and I lost to my high school boyfriend who was 19. We had been together since I was 15, and I'm pretty sure he wasn't a virgin though he claimed to be at the time.

Honestly being that he was my boyfriend, you would think that it would have been more of a memorable experience than it was but I wasn't.. .
I'll leave it where we did it because it's slightly embarrassing. But I remember I wasn't really nervous, we had done everything up to sex, and I thought this would be some new exciting experience. . .

So we were on the floor, I got on top and put it in. I didn't hurt at all. . I actually went in really easily (he was really small) and it probably lasted about 2 minutes at the most. The biggest mistake was not using a condom. . . I can remember being so disgusted at the fact he came in me. . . That was all I could think about for weeks because I was so scared that he may have gotten me pregnant. What can I say. . young and dumb. I didn't have sex again until I was 19.