Any female care to share a bad experience they've had in a relationship. Without naming names or getting too personal would you care to share or is it too hurtful and your not willing to talk about it? The reason being is because I believe we all learn from our past mistakes in order to have a clear path in the future.
Let's talk about it
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I believe in talking about it...if you cant talk about it or it hurts too much to talk about it then you obviously didn't learn anything.
I believe we all learn from our past mistakes as well 
I have been in several toxic relationships of which I am not ashamed of nor do I feel anger towards the men. I made the choice to stay in several bad relationships out of boredom and feeling sorry for the men I was with. Many women wont admit that but I will.
1st scenerio: His dad told me the 1st time I met him that in order to have anything pure & loving with his son that his son would need to get some help with his lying and self destructive behavior. I felt sorry for him and thought, I will be the one to help him! I didnt listen. I was caught up in the attention he showed me, how willing he was to do anything I said and then how opposite he was from anyone I had been with. And when I tell you Worst mistake of my life. Lies, lies, lies...I mean lied about the smallest of things! And then there was the cheating....Never with women who were on my level but gutta-hood-chicks with dollar signs in their eyes. The 1st few times I thought it was something I was doing....But around the 5 and 6th time I was like this
He lived and continues to live in a fantasy world where he likes to look like a victim(hmmm his dad told me that too!). He hurt me until the point I became numb. I had to make the decision to leave because I knew that wasnt love and yes he did need help. I had to come to realize I am a grown woman who deserves a grown man I have children and do not need a man who is more needy than my children. Plus he just turned me off. I a someone who can get pass looks based on how you treat me. But if you treat me like trash or hurt me I cant even lay in the same bed with you. So before I decided to cheat I made the decision it was over.
That was a while ago, but a valuable lesson was learned. Feeling sorry for someone doesnt mean you have to stay with them. You 1st gotta love yourself enough to know you have to be happy and the best thing you can do for a person with self destructive behavior is love them from afar & let them get them self together.
What doesnt kill you only makes you stronger
1st scenerio: His dad told me the 1st time I met him that in order to have anything pure & loving with his son that his son would need to get some help with his lying and self destructive behavior. I felt sorry for him and thought, I will be the one to help him! I didnt listen. I was caught up in the attention he showed me, how willing he was to do anything I said and then how opposite he was from anyone I had been with. And when I tell you Worst mistake of my life. Lies, lies, lies...I mean lied about the smallest of things! And then there was the cheating....Never with women who were on my level but gutta-hood-chicks with dollar signs in their eyes. The 1st few times I thought it was something I was doing....But around the 5 and 6th time I was like this
He lived and continues to live in a fantasy world where he likes to look like a victim(hmmm his dad told me that too!). He hurt me until the point I became numb. I had to make the decision to leave because I knew that wasnt love and yes he did need help. I had to come to realize I am a grown woman who deserves a grown man I have children and do not need a man who is more needy than my children. Plus he just turned me off. I a someone who can get pass looks based on how you treat me. But if you treat me like trash or hurt me I cant even lay in the same bed with you. So before I decided to cheat I made the decision it was over.
That was a while ago, but a valuable lesson was learned. Feeling sorry for someone doesnt mean you have to stay with them. You 1st gotta love yourself enough to know you have to be happy and the best thing you can do for a person with self destructive behavior is love them from afar & let them get them self together.
What doesnt kill you only makes you stronger
Staying with someone who you feel sorrow for or you deem to have some dormant potential that never get proven to exist.
Even better, staying with someone because you feel as if they're da best looking or best acting person you can acquire. Double LOL.
People are crazy, I learned that... and people wonder why I am the way I am.
Anyone ever had exes try to hit you up, not wanting SHIT... but rather to see if you respond or if you're feeling a pinch from ya'll seperation?... man, I hate that shit with a passion. When you send "Bitch... kick rocks" then YOU'RE labeled scorned. Nah.. I just never fall for the okie doke. Nobody needs nobody... and I never go back with open arms. TOOOOOO many options and its great when you are not at fault.
Sent Collect from the Fulton County Correctional Facilty using pay phone.
Even better, staying with someone because you feel as if they're da best looking or best acting person you can acquire. Double LOL.
People are crazy, I learned that... and people wonder why I am the way I am.
Anyone ever had exes try to hit you up, not wanting SHIT... but rather to see if you respond or if you're feeling a pinch from ya'll seperation?... man, I hate that shit with a passion. When you send "Bitch... kick rocks" then YOU'RE labeled scorned. Nah.. I just never fall for the okie doke. Nobody needs nobody... and I never go back with open arms. TOOOOOO many options and its great when you are not at fault.
Sent Collect from the Fulton County Correctional Facilty using pay phone.
*watching*
I have been in several toxic relationships of which I am not ashamed of nor do I feel anger towards the men. I made the choice to stay in several bad relationships out of boredom and feeling sorry for the men I was with. Many women wont admit that but I will.
1st scenerio: His dad told me the 1st time I met him that in order to have anything pure & loving with his son that his son would need to get some help with his lying and self destructive behavior. I felt sorry for him and thought, I will be the one to help him! I didnt listen. I was caught up in the attention he showed me, how willing he was to do anything I said and then how opposite he was from anyone I had been with. And when I tell you Worst mistake of my life. Lies, lies, lies...I mean lied about the smallest of things! And then there was the cheating....Never with women who were on my level but gutta-hood-chicks with dollar signs in their eyes. The 1st few times I thought it was something I was doing....But around the 5 and 6th time I was like this
He lived and continues to live in a fantasy world where he likes to look like a victim(hmmm his dad told me that too!). He hurt me until the point I became numb. I had to make the decision to leave because I knew that wasnt love and yes he did need help. I had to come to realize I am a grown woman who deserves a grown man I have children and do not need a man who is more needy than my children. Plus he just turned me off. I a someone who can get pass looks based on how you treat me. But if you treat me like trash or hurt me I cant even lay in the same bed with you. So before I decided to cheat I made the decision it was over.
That was a while ago, but a valuable lesson was learned. Feeling sorry for someone doesnt mean you have to stay with them. You 1st gotta love yourself enough to know you have to be happy and the best thing you can do for a person with self destructive behavior is love them from afar & let them get them self together.
What doesnt kill you only makes you stronger
All I can say is wow.
Well my take on relationships is everybody lie. We lie for all sorts of reason. What we have to understand is what's the purpose of lying. Are we lying to the other person to protect them or to deceive them. Well to make it clear lets look at an example. Whenever somebody does something you do not agree with how often do you check them on it. If you let the situation pass without saying a word then you just lied to yourself and that individual. Yes, we could have told the truth and be honest, but sometimes we rather keep things cool without starting fights. Well I for one believe this happens soo much that people create a habit of lying all day and all the time. If somethings is bothering you then speak up. We all need to stop trying to spare the other person feelings out of fear. We are silently killing ourselves and good relationships without even knowing it. Now me for instance is not a perfect individual. I also avoid things by over looking them without expressing my true feelings. Why do I engage in this behavior; it just maybe the reason why 99 percent of us do. It could be we want to sacrifice our anger or objections for the greater good. Now the hard question is: how long can this last before it becomes a problem? After soo long these feelings build until they exploded then you have something major on your hands. What you have is a person that has been lying to save face or save the relationship. In my opinion it's not a good behavior but something all of us do. To be continued
It's true. I dated people that were not even on my level just for entertainment purposes. I wont lie. BORED Then for a moment I had "caping" syndrome where I wanted to save the men I was dating because no one else had been there for them. The thing about growing up and maturing is not looking at the fact that I messed up-but looking at why I did it so it doesnt happen again. Plus we have to take fault for our own mess ups. You wont see me crying and mad because I made mistakes. I knew what I was doing back then but eh....I really didnt care.
My 20's...I was something else...
My 20's...I was something else...