Lemme ask you ladies somethin....

[Coldchi]

I just got an email from a friend of mine that says....(i'll just copy and past the email and just leave out her name).

"I am 7 weeks pregnant by an ex who I stressed with all my will about safe sex, I told him that I was very fertile and I didnt have unprotected sex what so ever so I was highly surprised when I missed my period...I told him I was pregnant and for a couple days he was supportive about me wanting to have an abortion, I was so upset and basically felt raped that he took advantage of me somehow I guess when the lights were off. ..he admitted it.

So now he wont pick up the phone and is telling me to deal with it. I dont know what to do. Im not in a position to do this alone nor do I think its right. I think that I am a smart, beautiful, outgoing, spiritual and funny woman, but I just get the bad men in my life. ...I dont understand it. I am doing my best to seek financial funding from the state for my abortion which is scheduled for saturday." (i'll end it there cuz it got kinda personal and i could tell she was in tears throughout the rest of the email)

But this is what i want to ask you ladies...even though you're having protected sex with whomever you're having sex with, has a guy ever tried to trap you? I mean are you ladies able to tell when a guy has a condom on or off when havin sex if you're not atually looking down there to see it? Cuz what it looks to me like....this nigga was probably fuckin her with it on, then waited til he hit it from the back or somethin, then took it off...cuz she had no idea whatsoever.

 

[LoneStar29]

That is fucked up

Yeah I've had a couple of men try and trap me before ... tell me shit like "Ooooooooooh you'd make such a great mom" or "I know you're clean" ... lmao ... just so we can have sex bareback

I've never fallen for it ... I'm very vigilent about what goes into my vagina no joke ... I check to make sure it's on then I check after he cums to make sure it didn't break ... every single time ... I don't play

Plus it feels different when there is a condom on or off ... as soon as I felt the super great feeling of flesh I'd know and jump up

There is however one time that I didn't know at all when he took the condom off ... when I realized it I told him I was going to the clinic and if there was even so much as one tiny bump on my pussy I was gonna kill him Lucky for him I came up clean

Damn @ your homegirl I hope she can get through this

 

[keepitreal2]

I agree, that's fucked up.
But you have to pay attention when they want to "change position" or claim they just want to take a minute and "look at it". Watch for when they say things like "we could have some pretty babies", or when you're in the store, they want you to look at everybody's damn baby! My favorite, everytime you don't feel good, they ask "do you think you're pregnant!"

 

[DeSiRe]

men trapping women is a silent but sweeping epedemic...i have ran into it a few times...the comments are really creepy and scarry too cause u dont know if they are going to rape you for a kid or what

i really feel for her cause its scary

i had an ex looked me in the eye while we was doing it and said, "im going to give your first son"

i was like ...get up!!

your friend needs you right now...i hope u are checking up on her

 

[LoneStar29]

It is hella scary Desire

People think cuz I have a kid that turns men off ... it's the exact opposite ... I've had countless men tell me they'd wanna give me a baby on the strength of how they see me take care of my son now ... then there is the promise of "I'll take care of you forever don't worry about it" ... I'm like

 

[DeSiRe]

It is hella scary Desire

People think cuz I have a kid that turns men off ... it's the exact opposite ... I've had countless men tell me they'd wanna give me a baby on the strength of how they see me take care of my son now ... then there is the promise of "I'll take care of you forever don't worry about it" ... I'm like

wow....now thats interesting

i never understood it seriously

i have begun to think its a hustle for some guys...seriously

u got some guys who just like it raw....and dont care about the consequences

but there are alot of cases where they actually want you to birth thier child

i never understood what was to gain from that...especially if there have been little to no talk about marraige

 

[LoneStar29]

wow....now thats interesting

i never understood it seriously

i have begun to think its a hustle for some guys...seriously

u got some guys who just like it raw....and dont care about the consequences

but there are alot of cases where they actually want you to birth thier child

i never understood what was to gain from that...especially if there have been little to no talk about marraige

Keep in mind that these are men who intend to be "playboys" for life ... they don't really wanna get married ... but they want kids ... and they want a good mom for their kids ... they see how I raise my son well ... they see that I work and take care of myself ... they see that I'm clean ... and they see that I don't stress out my sons father ... that's all they need to see ... for them it's a win-win cuz they can be male hoes for as long as they want while knowing their child is taken care of at home regardless ... well this is how one of them explained it to me ...oh and I have "nice hair" so apparently that's a plus

 

[Cleopatra_J]

Wow.. that is straight crazy for your friend...

For the most part, it absolutely does feel different when there is no condom...

It is such a turn off when a guy is trying to hit it raw & its not a mutual decision..

did we both go get tested? NO?
did I decide on an alternate form of birth control? NO..

then you can't hit it raw..

It's more of a turn off when its a guy you have just begun a sexual relationship and they are trying it... Negro I don't know you like that!! Safe sex is the best sex!

 

[jucurious]

hmmm i guess i'm alone in this one BUTTTTTTTTT

I couldn't tell the difference with my ex partly b/c we did the condom thing, then we went raw then tried to go back to condoms...yeah lol

the other part is that iono, i just didn't feel the difference. maybe cuz i get really wet and i'm really into what i'm doing that i didn't pay attention, plus the trust factor.

anyway, i hope your girl gets the strength to get thru this. she just needs to understand, he actin funny now, he gonna be actin funny later so if she decides to keep the baby, she has to be thinkin in dolo mode

but i have def heard of guys tryna get chicks preggo...redic

 

[HoneyDip]

WOW... I hope ur friend will make it through this situation... Ive had guys try to trap me too and Im not with it. I think alot of them try to do it because they are jealous of my plans in life and see me doing well without a kid. I dont even play that game. When dudes start talkin bout how we could have cute kids i chuck them the deuce and be gone lol....


And YES!!!! I can FEEL the DIFFERENCE between condoms and raw

 

[Hollywoodheat]

Wow.. that is straight crazy for your friend...

For the most part, it absolutely does feel different when there is no condom...

It is such a turn off when a guy is trying to hit it raw & its not a mutual decision..

did we both go get tested? NO?
did I decide on an alternate form of birth control? NO..

then you can't hit it raw..

It's more of a turn off when its a guy you have just begun a sexual relationship and they are trying it... Negro I don't know you like that!! Safe sex is the best sex!

.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

It feels different when there is a condom on or off ... as soon as I felt the super great feeling of flesh I'd know and jump up

^^^.............

 

[APOPHIS]

men trapping women is a silent but sweeping epedemic...i have ran into it a few times...the comments are really creepy and scarry too cause u dont know if they are going to rape you for a kid or what

i really feel for her cause its scary

i had an ex looked me in the eye while we was doing it and said, "im going to give your first son"

i was like ...get up!!
your friend needs you right now...i hope u are checking up on her

We live in the era of the bitch-ass-men who do not know the social norms attach to masculinity and/or manhood.

Women act like men and men act like women.

 

[Coldchi]

my sister was raped by her ex boyfriend, and became pregnant as a result of it. luckily the police caught the nigga before i did....but any nigga that pulls some shit like that, is as guilty as rapist imo. i know that the sex can be consensual, but forced conception should be as illegal as rape is. you got niggaz out there doin stupid and outlandish shit, like taking safety pins and poking holes in the condoms before they put em on....and the strangest of all (in which i knew a dude that got a chick pregnant this way)....he was fingering a chick with one hand while jacking off with the other. Ejaculated on his fingers, then switched hands to finger her with the other...thereby inserting semen into her with his fingers. And i know of this because he told me, which i thought was really fucked up. now he's paying child support out the ass. With that being said....just be careful out there ladies.....watch yourselves.