Ladies... what's the most important thing you look for in a man?

[Stick2dascript]

1. Independence, no mommas boy or guys who live at home.
2. Charisma, guys with good personality and a good sense of humor.
3. Ambition, otherwords his income and his plans for the future.

Reply by picking a number if possible.

Thanks.

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[Dyasha_Devine]

1. Independence, no mommas boy or guys who live at home.
2. Charisma, guys with good personality and a good sense of humor.
3. Ambition, otherwords his income and his plans for the future.

Reply by picking a number if possible.

Thanks.

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2...boring personality and no laughter..does not keep my attention! Independence and income can always be worked on.

 

[mailboxpimp]

1. Independence, no mommas boy or guys who live at home.
2. Charisma, guys with good personality and a good sense of humor.
3. Ambition, otherwords his income and his plans for the future.

Reply by picking a number if possible.

Thanks.

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i dont live @ home but dont see how this could be a bad thing.... some people live @ home to help out.....most american raised women see this as a problem....never understood that....

 

[onyxfemme]

3-Ambition a man with no drive or hope for the future cant do anything for me.

 

[melonpecan]

i dont live @ home but dont see how this could be a bad thing.... some people live @ home to help out.....most american raised women see this as a problem....never understood that....

I don't have a problem with it at all.

3-Ambition a man with no drive or hope for the future cant do anything for me.

This was what I was thinking. I'd pick three just for the word ambition alone...I need you to have some about your money because we would have to work towards goals (I mean in the long run) but just to have some in general is a must. Charisma is not that important to me because it might be your lack of egotism that I find charming. The only reason why I can't pick one is because I can't equate what comes before and after the comma in the same need. Just because you live with your parents doesn't make you any less independent if you take care of your own business.

 

[dHustla]

I don't have a problem with it at all.

The only reason why I can't pick one is because I can't equate what comes before and after the comma in the same need. Just because you live with your parents doesn't make you any less independent if you take care of your own business.

Well stated. Why do you think many women have that perception of men that live with family?

 

[melonpecan]

Well stated. Why do you think many women have that perception of men that live with family?

Because I think if a woman see a man they want a MAN. They don't want a momma's boy - they don't want a moocher - they want a MAN that is going to DO WHAT HE NEEDS TO DO and take care of himself. Some chicks I see round here look for that because if he can take care of his business, (which may or may not include his kids), then he can take care of them when they get pregnant. Wrong mentality but I see it.


I'd see it as an opportunity to get what you want: save some money for a down payment on a home, you could be in school, you could be clearing some debts, trying to start a business, taking care of your parents...you are showing MAN qualities. Long as your family isn't a problem I'd let you continue to live your life until we might be ready to take that next step in our relationship. Chicks these days (and some in my generation) look for the wrong shit in men /relationships until it's too late then we want to cry about it when we can't find it in another man. I'm guilty of it too, but I learned my lesson. Thing is dudes don't speak up can call women out on their bullshit when they want to yap yap about how some dude is living their life BEFORE she came in the picture...and then we get those typical problems that keep playing themselves out on Maury, Cops, local news, etc. over and over again...

 

[HoneyDip]

1,2,&3

I want a guy who is independent and doesn't have to rely on me for everything. They can do for themselves if need be. I also want that same guy to have a great personality to keep me entertained. When things get boring it makes the relationship boring. If he can always keep me laughing even if the jokes are lame then Im good with that. And I also need him to be ambitious because I am. Whatever I say Im going to do I do. I need for him to have future plans and work towards them even if they dont succeed, at least they tried. Income depends. I like a dude who has an income but he doesn't have to be a doctor. As long as he has a job and can maintain it for longer than 90days I'm happy.

These are all the qualities that my hubby has which is why I'm happily married and in love with him

 

[melonpecan]

^^^

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

I don't get the whole...it's ok to live home with your parents thing. How is this ok? Thats a bad bad sign. 3 should take care of 1 to me. An ambitious man won't be living at home.

 

[DeSiRe]

I don't get the whole...it's ok to live home with your parents thing. How is this ok? Thats a bad bad sign. 3 should take care of 1 to me. An ambitious man won't be living at home.

i agree

i understand bad things happen sometimes we all need help getting back on our feet

but when it is a trend or a long term thing...its an issue

i dont wanna go over to his house and deal with his mamma and everybody else who lives there every time i come over

there is no privacy...even though someone may have their own room

u cant just walk around bucked naked and fuck anywhere...thats shit i like doing and thats why i live alone

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

i agree

i understand bad things happen sometimes we all need help getting back on our feet

but when it is a trend or a long term thing...its an issue

i dont wanna go over to his house and deal with his mamma and everybody else who lives there every time i come over

there is no privacy...even though someone may have their own room

u cant just walk around bucked naked and fuck anywhere...thats shit i like doing and thats why i live alone

The way i see it, if you don't have your own place to stay then no matter what you say to me you're under your parents thumb. You're still not going to be a MAN. And mainly because you're still going to take your parents into concideration and be aware of your parents. You can't have a girl over because, "moms might wake up".

All that economic struggles stuff is bullhocky to me. Yes everyone does have economic hardship but you know what? You should be focused on THAT instead of trying to get some chick.

Gain focus and priority order.

 

[melonpecan]

i agree

i understand bad things happen sometimes we all need help getting back on our feet

but when it is a trend or a long term thing...its an issue

i dont wanna go over to his house and deal with his mamma and everybody else who lives there every time i come over

there is no privacy...even though someone may have their own room

u cant just walk around bucked naked and fuck anywhere...thats shit i like doing and thats why i live alone

That there is awesome.

I know a couple of people right now living with the 'rents cause they are poor physically. That would actually be a turn on for me because that shows they are nurturing.



I'm not saying dude living with moms is a deal breaker but if he has a plan and living there is a means to an end, you gotta respect that...long as he actually in motion and not parked in front of the tv.

 

[largebillsonlyplease]

I don't get the whole...it's ok to live home with your parents thing. How is this ok? Thats a bad bad sign. 3 should take care of 1 to me. An ambitious man won't be living at home.

there are 2 different kinds of live at home
there are the bums
and there are the ones that move back in to take care of everything.

when my pops died i moved back in because they were lost without him. not saying they couldn't pay a bill or anything because they could they just missed the presence too much and i was the closest thing.
so i did move back in, and i provided that presence (as well as money) until they were ready to try and get back to some sort of normalcy..

i wasn't a bum...i was still in school and working at the time and i could have had my own apt... BUT me being at home was more important to me as opposed to me being out there to catch some chicks


i do agree with the under the thumb rule though cause even though i was paying the way and even though i didn't have to be there, out of respect for my mom i didn't do things like i ran the shit... that's just human nature though. if a dude is talking to his mom reckless and disrespecting the house when others are there then that's not a dude you want to talk to anyway... or at least i feel that way about chicks..

one thing i learned YOUNG was that mothers and daughters fight and fall out ALL THE TIME don't get in the middle of it and don't co-sign anything
just let her talk
then tomorrow when she's buddy buddy with her mom again don't even trip

 

[ladyscorpio]

man yall American women are spoiled as hell.......




carry on




Peace

 

[melonpecan]

man yall American women are spoiled as hell.......




carry on




Peace

Please explain LS!

 

[Eclipse99]

Is it ok to date a guy or be attracted to him if:

1) He has a full time job with benefits
2) He's also currently in school pursuing his Doctor's Degree
3) No kids
4) Has his own money
5) Has a house but rents it out to save money and make some extra income while in school.
6) But.. He stay's with his mother for the time being while he's in school. Plus, he pretty much pays the bills at his mother's house.

Just want to know how do the ladies look at men that are in that similar situation, also the guy is over the age of 25

 

[Rick Ronson]

Money....... labeled as security tho

i dont live @ home but dont see how this could be a bad thing.... some people live @ home to help out.....most american raised women see this as a problem....never understood that....

They can't take over if it ain't your shit

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Is it ok to date a guy or be attracted to him if:

1) He has a full time job with benefits
2) He's also currently in school pursuing his Doctor's Degree
3) No kids
4) Has his own money
5) Has a house but rents it out to save money and make some extra income while in school.
6) But.. He stay's with his mother for the time being while he's in school. Plus, he pretty much pays the bills at his mother's house.

Just want to know how do the ladies look at men that are in that similar situation, also the guy is over the age of 25

What type of house is it? It was brought to my attention by a ladyfriend of mine who considers himself living at home with his mother, but really he lives in above garage apartment.

Now which are you talking about? I believe a man should have a place of his OWN. Like his house, his kitchen, his living room, his bedroom. No mom coming in unexpectedly at all. No sick mother in the next room, that if you're hittin it you feel all weird cuz she can hear you.(this happened to me )

Each grown man needs his own space to be a grown man IN.

 

[Rick Ronson]

A bright future is attractive as a mothafucka

 

[Eclipse99]

What type of house is it? It was brought to my attention by a ladyfriend of mine who considers himself living at home with his mother, but really he lives in above garage apartment.

Now which are you talking about? I believe a man should have a place of his OWN. Like his house, his kitchen, his living room, his bedroom. No mom coming in unexpectedly at all. No sick mother in the next room, that if you're hittin it you feel all weird cuz she can hear you.(this happened to me )

Each grown man needs his own space to be a grown man IN.

Just a regular house. Has own room, etc.. I don't think a dude should be doing something with a female if his moms home though.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Just a regular house. Has own room, etc.. I don't think a dude should be doing something with a female if his moms home though.

Right, lol he shouldn't be doing anything with a woman with moms home. But then you have to worry about moms COMING home.

Alot of guys be like but...i need pussy still even though...i'm broke. I don't understand why you're even thinking about ass and you're broke!

 

[Rossini]

I don't understand why you're even thinking about ass and you're broke!

 

[PC Freak]

1,2,3

 

[Max Headrom]

Well, I won't say I live with my folks because I helped pay for the house and put a lot of money into it so, it's "our" house. I do everything I want to do that I could do if I was living alone. Plus, I like interaction with people and and hate when shit is too quiet...lol Moms is a teacher and works a lot and my dad is legally blind so, I take care of a lot of shit he can't do. Plus, my little 17 year old sister is special needs. I cook everyday for the family so when moms get home and is tired, she doesn't have to worry about cooking.


BUT, I make my own money, I'm a very successful musician and I do music for a living as far as producing, I have my own band and I tour with different known artist. I make enough to live on my own and be cool but, making sure my family is cool means more to me than anything. And if you really think about it, being selfless is one of the main things you would want in a partner if you planned on being with them and eventually marrying them. I'm not really tripping on what women think at this point about me because, a relationship for me is off the radar. I'm still young, I travel the world and it really wouldn't make sense to be tied down.


Moral pf the story and I tell people this all the time, do what works for YOUR life. If someone really fucks with you for you, they can see what type of person and character you have no matter what situation you're in. And I said all of that to say to some of the women that think it's a problem, every ones situation is different so, don't judge based on what things look like on the surface

 

[Izayoi]

Well, I won't say I live with my folks because I helped pay for the house and put a lot of money into it so, it's "our" house. I do everything I want to do that I could do if I was living alone. Plus, I like interaction with people and and hate when shit is too quiet...lol Moms is a teacher and works a lot and my dad is legally blind so, I take care of a lot of shit he can't do. Plus, my little 17 year old sister is special needs. I cook everyday for the family so when moms get home and is tired, she doesn't have to worry about cooking.


BUT, I make my own money, I'm a very successful musician and I do music for a living as far as producing, I have my own band and I travel tour with different known artist. I make enough to live on my own and be cool but, making sure my family is cool means more to me than anything. And if you really think about it, being selfless is one of the main things you would want in a partner if you planned on being with them and eventually marrying them. I'm not really tripping on what women think at this point about me because, a relationship for me is off the radar. I'm still young, I travel the world and it really wouldn't make sense to be tied down.


Moral pf the story and I tell people this all the time, do what works for YOUR life. If someone really fucks with you for you, they can see what type of person and character you have no matter what situation you're in. And I said all of that to some of the women that think it's a problem, every ones situation so, don't judge based on what things look like on the surface

That's great Max. Everybody situation is different. I don't really have a problem with someone staying with family, saving money and pooling resources, especially in this economy. Most of the non-american families I know (even the really successful ones like the doctors etc) live with at least one other family member (often a parent) in the home to either help them (like an older parent) or the parent stays to help the couple raise their children. I also know some younger people who stay to help their parents who have lost jobs in the recession.

 

[Max Headrom]

That's great Max. Everybody situation is different. I don't really have a problem with someone staying with family, saving money and pooling resources, especially in this economy. Most of the non-american families I know (even the really successful ones like the doctors etc) live with at least one other family member (often a parent) in the home to either help them (like an older parent) or the parent stays to help the couple raise their children. I also know some younger people who stay to help their parents who have lost jobs in the recession.

Indeed! I think one of the main problems with the black community is families aren't really what they used to be and people have become very selfish. Granted, some families can't stick together because of various reasons and I get that but, more unity in families, the greater the possibility of raising a great human being who can pass it along to the next generation. I just hope someday the cycle is broken so one day the phrase "niggas/bitches ain't shit" can be heard far and few in between

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