Ladies, if a dude asked you to marry him...
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LoneStar29
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The price isnt that important to me. Yes it should be real though...whats the point of buying a fake?? Like I said I dont care about the price but I know there is some sort of silly rule that some women go by which is it must be worth 2 months of his salary...personally I think thats dumb. Get on his knee yes, but he doesnt need to do anything fancy, I think doing it while we are alone is sweet, I'm not much into the public engagements
I agree with the bold. Public engagement or not depends on the couple, whatever works for you.
Just remember it doesn't have to be diamonds. Other stones like birth stones, fav color, or the stone of your anniversary month works just fine and you get more for your money.
Good example is a gemstone can run you about $200. Put it in a presetting ring and included you can spent like 5 to a G depending on what you got...I'll come back when I get my hand back.
Wow not one but two practical ladies. Props to you both. 
Because I've heard figures like 5K and I'm like...
Good to know there are some women who aren't out for all they can get.
Never knew engagement rings didn't have to be diamonds. But I'm sure the diamond is the preferred gem.
Because I've heard figures like 5K and I'm like...
Good to know there are some women who aren't out for all they can get. Never knew engagement rings didn't have to be diamonds. But I'm sure the diamond is the preferred gem.
Wow not one but two practical ladies. Props to you both.
Because I've heard figures like 5K and I'm like...
Never knew engagement rings didn't have to be diamonds. But I'm sure the diamond is the preferred gem.
Actually for me it's not. My birthstone is a diamond (darn April) so if I want diamonds I want them as a birthday gift and an engagement ring should be about US not ME. Now unless you designing some special, custom intertwining thing of your birthstone and mine or if our anniversary just happen to be in April, I'll pass on the diamonds.
That's just tacky.
Only way I'd do that is if (knock on wood) I'd got a divorce. And I wouldn't be pawning for the money.
Man, that whole '2 months salary' rule is so ridiculous... who came up with that b.s. anyway?
I know a girl that says her ring "must" cost $10K... I'm like are you serious?! Shockingly, she is still single.
Lone & Mel... great to see y'all think it's nonsense too... not surprised to see you two think sensibly tho. (Big hug and 2-hand booty fondle to you both.)
I know a girl that says her ring "must" cost $10K... I'm like are you serious?! Shockingly, she is still single.
Lone & Mel... great to see y'all think it's nonsense too... not surprised to see you two think sensibly tho. (Big hug and 2-hand booty fondle to you both.
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Actually for me it's not. My birthstone is a diamond (darn April) so if I want diamonds I want them as a birthday gift and an engagement ring should be about US not ME. Now unless you designing some special, custom intertwining thing of your birthstone and mine or if our anniversary just happen to be in April, I'll pass on the diamonds.
Just to qualify that 5K figure, my feeling is where are women's priorities today that a ring s/b a certain value? Its not the money its the principle. The ring is supposed to be about the commitment and the love a guy feels for his girl.
LoneStar29
Banned
I think thats tacky as fuck ... I wouldnt do that ... however I know plenty of women who have and will rotfl
I'd like to think that prior to the engagement a man would be smart enough to learn his woman and he should know by then wether that is something she would do or not
Now giving your girl a $30 ring is disrespectful though ... you may as well just skip the ring and tell her you think she's a cheap bitch and slap her as an engagement ... that bothers me alot that men treat women who arent so superficial like we are cheap whores and treat the superficial girls so nice cuz their standards are so high
Man, that whole '2 months salary' rule is so ridiculous... who came up with that b.s. anyway?
I know a girl that says her ring "must" cost $10K... I'm like are you serious?! Shockingly, she is still single.
Lone & Mel... great to see y'all think it's nonsense too... not surprised to see you two think sensibly tho. (Big hug and 2-hand booty fondle to you both.
For real, I'd try to plan a wedding for less than 10k, I'd never in my life ask for a 10K ring.
Now a 10K honeymoon in Fiji or the Seychelles is another story...
Exactly. I don't think it has to be a certain value but if you know it's something that's to be worn for the rest of your days you want your money's worth, right? I've seen some really good bands for $230 with diamonds as accents...
I think thats tacky as fuck ... I wouldnt do that ... however I know plenty of women who have and will rotfl
I'd like to think that prior to the engagement a man would be smart enough to learn his woman and he should know by then wether that is something she would do or not
Now giving your girl a $30 ring is disrespectful though ... you may as well just skip the ring and tell her you think she's a cheap bitch and slap her as an engagement ... that bothers me alot that men treat women who arent so superficial like we are cheap whores and treat the superficial girls so nice cuz their standards are so high
I feel you though Lone, that would bother me too. Just because I'm not high maintenance doesn't mean I don't like nice things...it can be inexpensive long as it LOOKS like it's worth something. But to just be cheap all around like that is just an insult. I understand we are in troubling times but if you don't have the discipline to pick something of QUALITY and work towards it, we don't need to get married.
Wow not one but two practical ladies. Props to you both.
Because I've heard figures like 5K and I'm like...
Never knew engagement rings didn't have to be diamonds. But I'm sure the diamond is the preferred gem.
Most definitely NOT preferred. Some of these women merely want a ring that they can show off to their friends
unfortunate but true. Then they get all pissy at the man because of size and carat. and then wonder why the unions dont last. As for a thirty dollar sapphire if that is all the man in question can afford at the time and his commitment to the woman is real what is the big deal. I mean you could always later on upgrade. I don't see why it would be an insult.
I don't like diamonds so that was never a question MO b you know i like simple the more simple the better. I swear these couples that spend and arm and a leg on just the engagement then the organs on the wedding are crazy....
Peace
LoneStar29
Banned
I feel you though Lone, that would bother me too. Just because I'm not high maintenance doesn't mean I don't like nice things...it can be inexpensive long as it LOOKS like it's worth something. But to just be cheap all around like that is just an insult. I understand we are in troubling times but if you don't have the discipline to pick something of QUALITY and work towards it, we don't need to get married.
Unless your man works at McDonalds there should be no reason why he cant afford more than a $30 ring ... if he does that he is just doing to be cheap plain and simple and that aint cute
It absolutely doesnt need to be expensive but it doesnt need to be cheap plastic either ... there IS a middle ground ... and he needs to find it rotfl
Most definitely NOT preferred. Some of these women merely want a ring that they can show off to their friends
As for a thirty dollar sapphire if that is all the man in question can afford at the time and his commitment to the woman is real what is the big deal. I mean you could always later on upgrade. I don't see why it would be an insult.
I don't like diamonds so that was never a question MO b you know i like simple the more simple the better. I swear these couples that spend and arm and a leg on just the engagement then the organs on the wedding are crazy....
Peace
If he's sincere and that IS all that he can afford, I'd take it with open arms and treat it like it came from the Royal Palace. But -
Unless your man works at McDonalds there should be no reason why he cant afford more than a $30 ring ... if he does that he is just doing to be cheap plain and simple and that aint cute
It absolutely doesnt need to be expensive but it doesnt need to be cheap plastic either ... there IS a middle ground ... and he needs to find it rotfl
The way I see it this is a piece of jewelry that you are suppose to wear to the death. Yeah you can upgrade later but it won't be that ONE ring. And that's ok. But if you can save and get up $150 to $300 you CAN get a decent looking band. I'm not even talking engagement ring right now, just a band. I'm just one of those people that if you are going to do it, even on a budget, do it right the first time cause you might not get a second. I went with so much in my life but as I grew older I realized a lot of what I went without and a lot of what my parents went without. So a lot of what I live by is to not be stuck like they are. THEY said they would get rings later and a ceremony and a honeymoon. It'll be 35 years next year and nothing. You don't have to come big, just come.
Now if dude come at me with one of those rings that sit so high I'm afraid it's gonna snag my clothes and I'll hit it on the wall, and it blinds me with the morning sun, that shit goes back in the box.
My PM is open...
LoneStar29
Banned
Exactly
I'm ok with something small as long as an effort was put into it and it came from the heart
nicely put
Hey Lady Scorpio, yes I know your practical and nobody's gold digger. Would never even hint at that. But not all are practical, some are borderline delusional.Most definitely NOT preferred. Some of these women merely want a ring that they can show off to their friends
As for a thirty dollar sapphire if that is all the man in question can afford at the time and his commitment to the woman is real what is the big deal. I mean you could always later on upgrade. I don't see why it would be an insult.
I don't like diamonds so that was never a question MO b you know i like simple the more simple the better. I swear these couples that spend and arm and a leg on just the engagement then the organs on the wedding are crazy....
Peace
As you stated with expensive weddings, engagement rings, parties then struggling to make ends meet. Some women need to understand the difference between reality and fantasy.
If a woman has the audacity to stipulate her engagement ring must cost $xx,xxx I would tell any man find another woman. It is good to know all women aren't out there just for what they can get.
Thats what am saying if you have to put a price on a ring which is a material thing then what kinda price will you place on the actual relationship.
It should NEVER matter if the ring costs 1$ or 1000$ like I said previous if the thought is sincere and true then it should be accepted without question.
I completely agree with you on the demand that a ring should cost a certain amount. I mean really...come on. I don't even wear mine just my band. Not because I don't want to it just gets in the way when working. So why would I have wanted a too expensive "trinket" that I rarely wear. I guess that is my practicality lol
Peace
I am going to hit you guys with a little history. the wedding ring which is so highly thought of now a days didn't really become popular until the 1930's when the diamond merchants came up with a plan to get get money during the depression
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_ring
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Engagement_Ring
Here are some links to check it out for yourselves
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_ring
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Engagement_Ring
Here are some links to check it out for yourselves
I think thats tacky as fuck ... I wouldnt do that ... however I know plenty of women who have and will rotfl
I'd like to think that prior to the engagement a man would be smart enough to learn his woman and he should know by then wether that is something she would do or not
Now giving your girl a $30 ring is disrespectful though ... you may as well just skip the ring and tell her you think she's a cheap bitch and slap her as an engagement ... that bothers me alot that men treat women who arent so superficial like we are cheap whores and treat the superficial girls so nice cuz their standards are so high
Any woman that puts a minimum price on the engagement ring is not ready for marriage.
Agreed! Enough said!
I honestly dont care about an engagement ring....Now my wedding ring for the ceremony?....I will go 1/2 and 1/2 on.
I honestly dont care about an engagement ring....Now my wedding ring for the ceremony?....I will go 1/2 and 1/2 on.
H A how you been sistaand nicely put
Doing well! Expecting my first child next month!
But honestly, I've met females who feel like their ring should cost a certain amount and none of these women have ever been proposed to. I think that says something.
Agreed! Enough said!
I honestly dont care about an engagement ring....Now my wedding ring for the ceremony?....I will go 1/2 and 1/2 on.
Personally, I have two wedding bands one was ridiculously cheap and the other one I'm not even sure how much it cost. That's another thing, why do we need to know how much it cost? How does that conversation go?
"Will you marry me?"
"Yes! Of course! Wait.....How much did this cost?"
I don't understand how one goes about this conversation!
Awww congrats on the lil one H A....am very happy for you and your hubby sista. If you feel like having baby early Oct 28 is a good day 
lol Do you know the sex? Have name picked out yet?
and on the highlighted piece regarding the ring thing......I wholeheartedly agree.
I was talking about this thread with the other half and that was the first thing he questioned regarding the cost. Were women who questioned the cost ever proposed to.
Like I said before if the sincerity is there and the love is there then nothing else should matter.
Peace
lol Do you know the sex? Have name picked out yet?and on the highlighted piece regarding the ring thing......I wholeheartedly agree.
I was talking about this thread with the other half and that was the first thing he questioned regarding the cost. Were women who questioned the cost ever proposed to.
Like I said before if the sincerity is there and the love is there then nothing else should matter.
Peace
Doing well! Expecting my first child next month!
But honestly, I've met females who feel like their ring should cost a certain amount and none of these women have ever been proposed to. I think that says something.
Personally, I have two wedding bands one was ridiculously cheap and the other one I'm not even sure how much it cost. That's another thing, why do we need to know how much it cost? How does that conversation go?
"Will you marry me?"
"Yes! Of course! Wait.....How much did this cost?"
I don't understand how one goes about this conversation!
I'll talk it over with the lil guy and see if he's willing to make his appearance then. He runs the show nowadays lol!
Exactly
I'm ok with something small as long as an effort was put into it and it came from the heart
Even from a black man?
Ya know... this reminds me of something....
About 14 years ago I had a job at a music store in the mall, I worked with this chick that said that she wanted at least a 2ct ring because she can do that for herself. Her rationale was that why would/should she accept less from a man than she can do for herself. I didn't understand it @ 16y/o... but now I do.
Fast forward to about 5 years ago, I was out of town and staying with an aunt. My aunt tried to give me a watch. I'll do my best to describe this watch. IT WAS FAKE. It was metal, but more than that it was... just..... man, "trinket" comes to mind. It looked and felt like some shit that was a free gift at a seminar. Some shit everybody threw away, like it might have cost the company $1 each wholesale, so they gave 'em to employees at some seminar. When she tried to give it to me, it was still in box, I looked at it and
. And I told her, "nawl, you straight" 
She said, "You not supposed to say that. You supposed to say 'thank you'".
I said something like, "Even if I wouldn't wear it?"
Now, my intention wasn't to hurt her feelings, or look a gift horse in the mouth, it was just that I didn't have a watch and this is what she wanted to give me. I'm almost certain she didn't pay for it. And it wasn't even about how it looked. It was about what it was and how it was made.. I would bet dollars to donuts that it wouldn't have made it 3 days on my wrist without being broken. I know because I've had those kinda watches before... when I was a kid and didn't know no better.
Conversely, if one of my lil cousins (12, 13, & 14) had gotten me a digital watch out of Family Dollar with the rubber band.... I'd wear it daily. PROUDLY!
Because they thought about big cuz and went out of their way to spend ANY money on me. Not give me some shit that was laying around about to get thrown away
or that they found With all that said, I understand what that girl was saying so many years ago. In considering the thought, one has to take into account how much thought and effort was really put into it.
Also if the person is giving me something they don't want, something they want me to have, something I would get for myself, or something they know I would get/do for them.
And those are in order. The last 2 are the most sincere to me.
My ring was 50$. It was a tattoo. His and her name around the ring finger. Don't get on your knee. I don't understand the point of it. You shouldn't care about the cost. You should care about the meaning behind the sentiment. The meaning behind the moment. Worrying about the cost of a ring is old hypocritical tripe.
ALL WOMEN SAY THAT SHIT. "OHH IT DONT MATTER AS LONG AS HE LOVE ME!"
they say the right shit leading up to the marriage then 2 years later she realizes that fairy tale princess fantasy shit aint real, they both stopped working out, dude lost his freakiness, no more eating her out for 2 hours and she start dodging the nut, her homegirl ridin clean in a baby pink range rover, she single so she can go out whenever she want, hoppin on dicks at her leisure meanwhile you chilln at home on saturday nights watching Martin and Girlfriend reruns on a Dynex flat screen (dude didn't wanna pay the extra 1000 for the Sony), and u start hating him because he didnt at least hit u off with a big rock that you could admire, u goin on craigslist to buy a used microscope, ur husband comin home on some "oh whats this babe? u goin back to school?" and u respond with "nah nigga i just wanna be able to see that sorry as rock u gave me", nigga huffin and puffin and shit, smacked fire out you, and now u sittin there with a fat lip. was it really worth it?
they say the right shit leading up to the marriage then 2 years later she realizes that fairy tale princess fantasy shit aint real, they both stopped working out, dude lost his freakiness, no more eating her out for 2 hours and she start dodging the nut, her homegirl ridin clean in a baby pink range rover, she single so she can go out whenever she want, hoppin on dicks at her leisure meanwhile you chilln at home on saturday nights watching Martin and Girlfriend reruns on a Dynex flat screen (dude didn't wanna pay the extra 1000 for the Sony), and u start hating him because he didnt at least hit u off with a big rock that you could admire, u goin on craigslist to buy a used microscope, ur husband comin home on some "oh whats this babe? u goin back to school?" and u respond with "nah nigga i just wanna be able to see that sorry as rock u gave me", nigga huffin and puffin and shit, smacked fire out you, and now u sittin there with a fat lip. was it really worth it?
Most definitely NOT preferred. Some of these women merely want a ring that they can show off to their friends
As for a thirty dollar sapphire if that is all the man in question can afford at the time and his commitment to the woman is real what is the big deal. I mean you could always later on upgrade. I don't see why it would be an insult.
I don't like diamonds so that was never a question MO b you know i like simple the more simple the better. I swear these couples that spend and arm and a leg on just the engagement then the organs on the wedding are crazy....
Peace
Me and my girl are the complete opposite.Im spending around 20K on the ring and around $80 on the wedding(courthouse).The ring is something she will have for the rest of her life to symbolize us.A wedding ceremony is really for the guests.
You know what....Last night I was asked, if I asked you to marry me and the ring was from Walmart...Would you accept it?
I told him, you may want to wait and get to know me better, because if you knew me I mean really knew me...You would know that you wouldnt even have to worry about me accepting something from the heart, wearing it proudly and showing it off regardless of where is came from. He was like I am working 14 hour days to make something special happen for you...I told him, the fact that you would want to do something like that for me is what matters to me...
Men believe it, some women...Especially those of us that are older just dont care about stuff like that. Especially those of that that can buy things for our self. Having said that...Again my actual wedding wrap that I would wear-OMG!!!!!!!! I am sorry I wouldnt feel right for a man I am wanting to marry to purchase that by himself. I am wearing it everyday, the least I could do is go 1/2 and 1/2 on it!
I told him, you may want to wait and get to know me better, because if you knew me I mean really knew me...You would know that you wouldnt even have to worry about me accepting something from the heart, wearing it proudly and showing it off regardless of where is came from. He was like I am working 14 hour days to make something special happen for you...I told him, the fact that you would want to do something like that for me is what matters to me...
Men believe it, some women...Especially those of us that are older just dont care about stuff like that. Especially those of that that can buy things for our self. Having said that...Again my actual wedding wrap that I would wear-OMG!!!!!!!! I am sorry I wouldnt feel right for a man I am wanting to marry to purchase that by himself. I am wearing it everyday, the least I could do is go 1/2 and 1/2 on it!
Rick Ronson
Banned
The rings should match in cost or no deal
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