Ladies: Do you want a man that treats you like your father??

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Its almost common to hear that females are attracted to men that remind them of their fathers in the department on looks and personality. I've dated alot of girls and I always ask about their relations with their fathers and the worst ones are the ones that have no clue or bad mouth their fathers. So ladies do you really want a man that treats you like your father whether good or bad? Also what do yall think made ur mother attracted to your father.

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I always tried to find men that were the polar opposite of my father in terms of looks. I didn't want to fall in love with someone and I wake up and see I just had sex with my dad :smh:.

Oh, I have no idea what drew my mother to my father. I'm not saying he ugly but I don't find myself physically attracted to him. Probably because he is my father. I can say the same thing about my mother and most of my family too...
 
no..my father and I have an iffy relationship..sometimes he's cool as hell and sometimes I'd wish my parents would divorce so I wouldn't have to see him. What I would like though, is a man to have the drive my father has though..if I can say one thing about my pops, the man is indeed a hustler (in a good way)..

what attracted my mother? hhmm...he was 18 and she was 21 and I guess he was pretty cool and she thought he was the shit lol...they dated off and on for years and during that time they always remained cool and held each other down thru out the BS they individually dealt with and then I came into the picture 6 years later :)
 
there are some charaterstics of my father that i admire...not to mention he spoiled the hell out of me

but a man just like my father would not only be creepy...but drive me crazy
 
well my father and I had a great relationship :D

sooooooooooo....hmmmm how do i answer this


ummm i would look for a lot of similar qualities but some differences. what i don't want is another father...but some of his characteristics would be great minus the parent part.

what attracted my mom to my dad....wow i used to hear the story of how they met alllll the time

they both went swimming and my dad and his best friend saw my mom at the pool...(yeah this is gonna get cheesy) so after they finished oogling(sp) my mom they looked at each and tried to swim over to her first. my dad beat the other guy and my mom laughed at him. then he got out the pool dived over her head and came up spitting water from between his teeth (yeah nasty lol) and she started to crack up.

he walked my mom home (or what he thought was home) my mom said she was visiting from Cali (lie hahaha) so after a week or two she told him the truth and wallah. they started to chill all the time, go to NY to see karate flicks, box, smoke and all that together. and the rest is history (full of ups and downs but a great friendship)

my mom was attracted to my dad's sense of humor, looks, morals, he took up for ppl, smile, similar interests, family man, smart, strong willed, witty, and patient. He was also a smooth talker. She loved my fathers father cuz he treated her great (:) awww mi abuelo).

so i hope that answered your question...if not...my bad but it def put a smile on my face to recap those happy memories. :D
 
There are qualities in my father that I would love for my husband to possess: He took care of home first and foremost, he treated my mother with the utmost respect and treated me like a princess. There was nothing he wouldn't do for me. So in a sense, I would want my man to possess those qualities. But as someone said earlier, I wouldn't want to wake up one day and realize that I had fallen in love with my father. So yes to the loyalty, faithfulness, respect and financial security he provided, but it stops there. :itsawrap:
 
I think its natural to gravitate towards a man that reflects one's primary source of male affection (your father).

My father's fine qualities- certainly! He was bright, funny, very affectionate and a great cook and I have many fond memories of that and us.

His other very human foibles and issues- nope! I'm sure he would understand that as well.

Being an adult is about moving on not recreating our pasts- whether that's positive or negative. That's a hard mindset to break through sometimes (for me anyway).
 
I think its natural to gravitate towards a man that reflects one's primary source of male affection (your father).

My father's fine qualities- certainly! He was bright, funny, very affectionate and a great cook and I have many fond memories of that and us.

His other very human foibles and issues- nope! I'm sure he would understand that as well.

Being an adult is about moving on not recreating our pasts- whether that's positive or negative. That's a hard mindset to break through sometimes (for me anyway).


This is my kinda girl!!!I suspect you are a well read person and if my suspicions are right then that would mean you get access to texts and conversations well outside the orbits of more narrowly specialized posters here in SOL, and your ability to speak authoritatively, reflectively and creatively on issues is second to none

damn..at least i have a good quote toady from a sista
 
This is my kinda girl!!!I suspect you are a well read person and if my suspicions are right then that would mean you get access to texts and conversations well outside the orbits of more narrowly specialized posters here in SOL, and your ability to speak authoritatively, reflectively and creatively on issues is second to none

damn..at least i have a good quote toady from a sista

Boro I thank you- you are a gentleman and a scholar :)
I mention that because I (as I'm sure others do) struggle with that. Nostalgia can be a bit of a noose if you let it.
Particularly if your childhood was for lack of a better word "complex." Lol!
 
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