Ladies could you Forgive a Cheater ?

[Kazoo]

Ladies could you forgive your significant other cheating on you?

And is there a level of cheating you would and wouldnt tolerate?

for example - you find another ladies number

a woman you dont know calls his place


he got somebody else pregnant


he got naked pics of another woman (taken at his place) on his computer (and the date is recent)


he never used condoms and now he does with you

 

[femmenoire]

It depends on the person and the situation but generally I'd say no. Well eventually, I could forgive but not forget.

I mean, I could still be friends with the guy especially if I cared deeply for him, but I wouldn't trust him.

 

[elchoccolatte]

Like Chris Rock said, They can have all the evidence in the World!!!, They want a "Fucking Confession"...

 

[Chicutie]

I think I would try to forgive depending on the situation. But I feel like once cheating has occurred, it's hard to truly forgive and not have the suspicion in the back of your mind as you try to move forward in the relationship.

 

[thismybgolname]

he never used condoms and now he does with you

how is this cheating?

 

[Crown&Coke]

After somebody in the relationship cheats, its never the same. Even if they try to act like it, its always in the back of your mind.​

 

[BrownTurd]

It depends on the person and the situation but generally I'd say no. Well eventually, I could forgive but not forget.

I mean, I could still be friends with the guy especially if I cared deeply for him, but I wouldn't trust him.

He will be back doing the samething.

 

[Pussy Krook]

A woman will never forgive a man for cheating. Thats like giving her the ultimate trump card.

 

[ladyscorpio]

A woman will never forgive a man for cheating. Thats like giving her the ultimate trump card.

So you speak for all of us then Mr Krook?

 

[Criptonite187]

Like Chris Rock said, They can have all the evidence in the World!!!, They want a "Fucking Confession"...

Ask Usher

 

[Pussy Krook]

So you speak for all of us then Mr Krook?

When I've had a woman my lady didn't know call me or my lady found a number in my wallet I never heard the end of it. Mind you I hadn't been caught cheating after that every time I got into an argument they would bring that shit up. Ya'll never forget shit like that.

 

[mcguyver]

When I've had a woman my lady didn't know call me or my lady found a number in my wallet I never heard the end of it. Mind you I hadn't been caught cheating after that every time I got into an argument they would bring that shit up. Ya'll never forget shit like that.

 

[Cleopatra_J]

I have tried to do the forgiving, but that betrayal is hard.... And forgiving doesn't equal forgetting. There are different levels of cheating, but all that shit does hurt.

 

[Noir]

he never used condoms and now he does with you

how is this cheating?

If a man is supposedly in a monogamous relationship with a woman and they had agreed not to use condoms (they were both medically cleared of any STDs, etc., and she may be on another form of birth control) and suddenly he starts to use condoms, it implies that he is fooling around with another woman whose STD status he may not be sure of, and is being careful not to "bring anything back" to his main woman.

 

[Miss_Toni]

My man has cheated and knows thats the 1st and last time he can ever make that mistake with me. A man has only one chance to fuck up on certain things.

"he got naked pics of another woman (taken at his place) on his computer (and the date is recent)" and "he got somebody else pregnant " are reasons for death by "bobbitting".

I know he has numbers of female's he's friends with, and some of them im not too comfortable with, but then again, im friends with my ex's, so what can I say?

 

[DDDiva]

Depends on the situation and the extent of the relationship and how much is invested in it. However, if he gave me an STD or got another chick pregnant, I think that would be what I wouldn't be able to forgive. To me that shows that while it's already bad enough that he is cheating, that he is careless with my life and his own. And I wouldn't want to deal with the potential BM drama.

 

[onyxfemme]

Forgive yes...Forget..HELL NO! Ask my husband, he cheated on me in our dating stages. The mistake was made. damage was done but we are now married. Like I said I will forgive, but all women were born w/ a 3rd eye so no I dont forget. I stored it in memory and keep it there as a reminder. He made a mistake, hell so have I. But I looked at the entire situation. If I thought he was continuing to cheat on me, we wouldnt be married now. Plus I am a get even type of person. When he did his dirt, I did mine. Yes it was immature........BUT THAT ASS NO HE BETTER NOT SLIP UP AGAIN....If my grandma didnt teach me nothing else, she taught me "A man that loves you, cant bear the thought of you w/ another man. It will literally drive him sick and crazy"...And it did*Insert evil laughter here*

**message to my husband** You know to keep your heart, dick and money at home dont you? BTW I saw a vintage 3ct diamond ring on Ebay that I want. Also a french maid costume at Priscilla's...Can you go pick it up for me?

 

[Mo-Better]

Forgive yes...Forget..HELL NO! Ask my husband, he cheated on me in our dating stages. The mistake was made. damage was done but we are now married. Like I said I will forgive, but all women were born w/ a 3rd eye so no I dont forget. I stored it in memory and keep it there as a reminder. He made a mistake, hell so have I. But I looked at the entire situation. If I thought he was continuing to cheat on me, we wouldnt be married now. Plus I am a get even type of person. When he did his dirt, I did mine. Yes it was immature........BUT THAT ASS NO HE BETTER NOT SLIP UP AGAIN....If my grandma didnt teach me nothing else, she taught me "A man that loves you, cant bear the thought of you w/ another man. It will literally drive him sick and crazy"...And it did*Insert evil laughter here*

**message to my husband** You know to keep your heart, dick and money at home dont you? BTW I saw a vintage 3ct diamond ring on Ebay that I want. Also a french maid costume at Priscilla's...Can you go pick it up for me?

Better remind him no icing! Wouldn't want you with 30 degree burns.

 

[onyxfemme]

Better remind him no icing! Wouldn't want you with 30 degree burns.

You know what.................................I am mad at you at this moment!

 

[onyxfemme]

it happened to me 5 months ago w some chick from his job he was friends with. it seriously bothers me still but i didn't think it was enough to throw away 5 years.

later i found a picture of the girl on the internet, she wasn't even good looking. red nylon wig, no hips no ass no tits with a 4 yr old in the same apartment when they fucked. i was like, how could you consciously mess w a chick who brought dudes she barely knew for a month around her kid? i email the girl and she like I HAVE A LOT GOING FOR ME, I'M CARAMEL I'M SEXY and i'm like why did he have to mess w a dopefiend looking hoodrat who answers phones for a living.

the biggest question i asked was, how do i judge myself after forgiving him. the second was to him, if you wanted to mess w the chick why not just tell me the truth instead of put my life in danger, even though he used condoms, i still went and had every test done bc she told me he wasn't the only one she was messing w. he is apologetic to this day but im not sure if its worth all the worry and negativity

Why do you think he went to the hoodrat who answers phones for a living instead of coming home to you?

 

[Shadow]

Why do you think he went to the hoodrat who answers phones for a living instead of coming home to you?

She is adamant about something she won't do that he knew the hoodrat would...

 

[outlaw]

My man has cheated and knows thats the 1st and last time he can ever make that mistake with me. A man has only one chance to fuck up on certain things

Ok so your answer is yes!
stop trying to sound all big and bad
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[Kazoo]

Funny thing is I think most Women would forgive Cheating
But most Men will not - seems like a lot of women almost expect "All Men are Dogs " - just dont bring any drama home to me



Why do Men cheat ? Usually its not even the Sex - its the thrill of the chase - unless your're dealing with a frigid Woman or shes too busy to meet your needs

 

[TBone]

I could'nt . When someone cheats, there are a lot of mental and moral barriers they have to deliberately knock down. in other words, its not an accident. If they can cheat, then they are not worth someone who cares enough about them to not cheat. To whom much is given........

 

[Pussy Krook]

I have a question. Whats the difference between forgiving and forgetting? To me if your never going to let me forget about it then you don't forgive me.

 

[outlaw]

Funny thing is I think most Women would forgive Cheating
But most Men will not - seems like a lot of women almost expect "All Men are Dogs "

Was about to say the exact same thing! Men aint havin naan parts of that shit. Fuck forgiving
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[onyxfemme]

She is adamant about something she won't do that he knew the hoodrat would...

BINGO!
I wont lie, that is pretty much what happend in my situation. I am not saying it was my all my fault because he should have came to me and spoke to me about his feelings. I was consumed w/ trying to fix problems for my friends, talking to my girls all night letting them cry on my shoulder. I would be so tired and stressed from them and work that they became my priorities. Next thing I realized was it had been months since me and my then boyfriend had sex or even a date. And guess who was telling him what he wanted to hear and doing what he wanted her to do. A hoodrat. She was a slick one too. It started off as someone he could confide in, next thing you know she was sucking his dick for groceries. There is a such this as a "clean up" women.
Never underestimate a hoodrats hustle. She comes from a long generation of "ho-ing". You laughing at her and she is laughing at you. Believe it!
That is why I preach 2 things to people who want to make their marriages work 1. COMMUNICATE 2. MAKE YOUR SEX LIFE A PRIORITY!

 

[onyxfemme]

I have a question. Whats the difference between forgiving and forgetting? To me if your never going to let me forget about it then you don't forgive me.

I cant answer this for everyone. But for me forgiving is saying. Okay, yes you fucked up and it is okay. I am not gonna hold that against you. Lets move forward.

Not Forgetting (again for me) is saying ok, I remember what you did, I am not going to dwell on it but yeah I remember. You fucked me over once? Shame on you. You fuck me over twice? Shame on me because now there is a trend. We talked about it, I worked on some things and so did you. Fuck you I am ghost.

Does that make sense? Sorry if it doesnt, again that is just me. All women are not the same and I respect that. I dont knock and female for her decisions or choices. I just always suggest that we as women look w/i ourselves for what we try to point out in others.

 

[Shadow]

^^^^And with that, friends, we conlcude tonight's presentation of the OnyxFemme show!!!!!

Thread closed. OF spit that knowledge for most of you. Unfortunately, some of you will still be lost though.

 

[Pussy Krook]

I cant answer this for everyone. But for me forgiving is saying. Okay, yes you fucked up and it is okay. I am not gonna hold that against you. Lets move forward.

Not Forgetting (again for me) is saying ok, I remember what you did, I am not going to dwell on it but yeah I remember. You fucked me over once? Shame on you. You fuck me over twice? Shame on me because now there is a trend. We talked about it, I worked on some things and so did you. Fuck you I am ghost.

Does that make sense? Sorry if it doesnt, again that is just me. All women are not the same and I respect that. I dont knock and female for her decisions or choices. I just always suggest that we as women look w/i ourselves for what we try to point out in others.

Thanks for the response. I understand what you're saying. I only give anyone two chances to fuck up them I'm gone. You should never forget so you won't be taken advantage of not to hold it over a person's head. That shit is unhealthy for you and the relationship.

 

[MTL]

After somebody in the relationship cheats, its never the same. Even if they try to act like it, its always in the back of your mind.​

Co-sign

 

[Izayoi]

BINGO!
I wont lie, that is pretty much what happend in my situation. I am not saying it was my all my fault because he should have came to me and spoke to me about his feelings. I was consumed w/ trying to fix problems for my friends, talking to my girls all night letting them cry on my shoulder. I would be so tired and stressed from them and work that they became my priorities. Next thing I realized was it had been months since me and my then boyfriend had sex or even a date. And guess who was telling him what he wanted to hear and doing what he wanted her to do. A hoodrat. She was a slick one too. It started off as someone he could confide in, next thing you know she was sucking his dick for groceries. There is a such this as a "clean up" women.
Never underestimate a hoodrats hustle. She comes from a long generation of "ho-ing". You laughing at her and she is laughing at you. Believe it!
That is why I preach 2 things to people who want to make their marriages work 1. COMMUNICATE 2. MAKE YOUR SEX LIFE A PRIORITY!

Amen.If one is faltering the other usually falls apart as well.

Thank you always for your wise words pretty lady.

 

[ladyscorpio]

I cant answer this for everyone. But for me forgiving is saying. Okay, yes you fucked up and it is okay. I am not gonna hold that against you. Lets move forward.

Not Forgetting (again for me) is saying ok, I remember what you did, I am not going to dwell on it but yeah I remember. You fucked me over once? Shame on you. You fuck me over twice? Shame on me because now there is a trend. We talked about it, I worked on some things and so did you. Fuck you I am ghost.

Does that make sense? Sorry if it doesnt, again that is just me. All women are not the same and I respect that. I dont knock and female for her decisions or choices. I just always suggest that we as women look w/i ourselves for what we try to point out in others.

This is why I got some mad love for this lady right here. She knows what it is. Nothing but the truth lays right in these lines.

 

[Eva Hornae]

Like Chris Rock said, They can have all the evidence in the World!!!, They want a "Fucking Confession"...

 

[Mo-Better]

This is why I got some mad love for this lady right here. She knows what it is. Nothing but the truth lays right in these lines.

Yeah she is one of the few and you too of course.