Ladies...can I get her back?

[Big Business]

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Not hidin' from the fellas, just need some input from a woman's perspective.

Short version:

3 year relationship...150 on a scale of 1-10. Never one break-up, just a few spats that we fixed in less than 24 hours. I screwed up and messed around with another chick after a happy hour. She was woman enough to work through it w/ me an I was man enough to admit what happened.

Months later, things were a bit different and we just drifted apart. I moved to another city and it appeared things were a wrap. We might talk 2-3 times a year now, but it's nothing major. Just a friendly call or text. Well, she's been emailing a lot lately and her job is flying her in for a 3 day conference/training in early January. She'll be living here permanently in March.

I didn't suggest it, but she proposed dinner. I promptly accepted, but played it kool and didn't get all amped about it. Dont know if she's in anything serious right now and I'm just dating...nothing serious!

My question is...is this just dinner or something bigger? However, If there is promise...how should I play it? Go all out and show her how much I miss her or play it off and pretend it's just another dinner?

 

[Benjamin Check]

A real man expresses his feelings and needs in an honest and constructive manner........if you miss her like that, and she's still in contact on the reg, chances are its right. Women don't keep in touch with niggas that have no promise/potential, unless they stuck on stupid. Make sure she aint usin you for familiar dick until she gets settled in town though. Broads are FAMOUS for that!

 

[femmenoire]

You really have to be on your P's and Q's.

If she's doing great for herself, she may just want to show that off and make you see what she's missing and have no other interest but that.

If she's genuine, she may try to see if there is something that can still work between you guys.

Be nonchalant. She is being the aggressor so just let her make the moves and interpret them as they come.

 

[outlaw]

3 year relationship...150 on a scale of 1-10

150 is pretty high
Was "wifey material" ever in your thoughts ... is it now?

 

[NoJusticeNoPeace]

How you start is how your going to finish..Naver chaseum replaceum..

 

[Jam_Jam]

How are you going to rekindle the flame if you can't be honest about your feelings? Are you afraid that you will be rejected? You say that she is sending e-mails and letting you know her future plans. If you want another chance, just tell her. She may be thinking the same thing. But proceed cautiously. You already cheated on her once, and she knows about it. Before you rekindle anything with her, ask yourself whether you can really be faithful. It wouldn't be fair to put her through that again after she decided to renew her trust in you.

 

[Big Business]

Thanks for the info female fam!

 

[BS2011]

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Not hidin' from the fellas, just need some input from a woman's perspective.

Short version:

3 year relationship...150 on a scale of 1-10. Never one break-up, just a few spats that we fixed in less than 24 hours. I screwed up and messed around with another chick after a happy hour. She was woman enough to work through it w/ me an I was man enough to admit what happened.

Months later, things were a bit different and we just drifted apart. I moved to another city and it appeared things were a wrap. We might talk 2-3 times a year now, but it's nothing major. Just a friendly call or text. Well, she's been emailing a lot lately and her job is flying her in for a 3 day conference/training in early January. She'll be living here permanently in March.

I didn't suggest it, but she proposed dinner. I promptly accepted, but played it kool and didn't get all amped about it. Dont know if she's in anything serious right now and I'm just dating...nothing serious!

My question is...is this just dinner or something bigger? However, If there is promise...how should I play it? Go all out and show her how much I miss her or play it off and pretend it's just another dinner?

She don't want you back. She's just looking for dick when she's in town.

 

[HoneyDip]

If You Think You Can Both Work Things Out To The Way It Used To Be Before All Drama Then Give It A Shot. You Never Know What Happens

 

[SuperGenius]

Is that u Billy?

 

[Candee Coated]

I'm still a little lost...I never got the impression you wanted her back until your last sentence and even that is ambiguous to me.

Anyway, being realistic she isn't no longer your lover. So the idea of rolling out the red carpet when you two aren't even on an official "date" is a no-no. Even if she is trying to rekindle something, that could totally turn her off if she intended to initiate the flame.

But I don't see nothing wrong in being nice as in greeting her with a kiss on the cheek, pulling out her chair and holding the door open. I'd even suggest bringing a flower(s) seeing as it's been a while since you've saw her.

Don't read too much into this because sometimes women throw mixed signals unconsciously. It's possible she may have moved on and simply requested dinner out of cordiality or to flaunt herself in front of you.


Do me a favor though will you? Do come back and share the details of how the night went as well the details on the hot drunken passionate love you two made

 

[sexylegz33]

I think it sounds promising. Women won't usually keep in touch if there's no chance of repairing anything. But you shouldn't jump to conclusions. She may just want to let you see what you messed up and let get away. Go to dinner, and see where it goes from there. Make sure you look damn good, be a gentleman, and if she let's you put it on her! Good Luck, let us know how it goes!

 

[lilsexii]

Sounds like she's open to the possibility. She didn't wait until she got there to tell you at the last minute, she told you in advance to make sure you'd be available...she wants to see you. Be honest with her about how you feel - hopefully she'll return the sentiment. You're asking us if you can get her back...make sure you ask her, too. At this point you have nothing to lose.

 

[OnSlaught]

I'm still a little lost...I never got the impression you wanted her back until your last sentence and even that is ambiguous to me.

Anyway, being realistic she isn't no longer your lover. So the idea of rolling out the red carpet when you two aren't even on an official "date" is a no-no. Even if she is trying to rekindle something, that could totally turn her off if she intended to initiate the flame.

But I don't see nothing wrong in being nice as in greeting her with a kiss on the cheek, pulling out her chair and holding the door open. I'd even suggest bringing a flower(s) seeing as it's been a while since you've saw her.

Don't read too much into this because sometimes women throw mixed signals unconsciously. It's possible she may have moved on and simply requested dinner out of cordiality or to flaunt herself in front of you.


Do me a favor though will you? Do come back and share the details of how the night went as well the details on the hot drunken passionate love you two made

Is this who I think it is??