They not yours.
Is it ok to discipline step children w/out biological father's consent?
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Fuck you mean nigga the non custodial parent is paying for the child's care and that includes lights and heat and water for the child. Dont matter how the mother decides to distribute it, that man has made an investment and has stock in your
Sprinkle-Sprinke
Sprinkle-Sprinke
You know most of the time it's not like that. For adults yes, you discuss the situation and let him know that if your child acts up, there will be discipline. Plus and money you give your child is for the child. Not my rent or my bills. Clothes, school etc. Unless you're dropping off home cooked meals, doing the laundry and hiring a maid either take full custody or fall back.
I wish a cat would tell me what's going to happen in my house. I'll whoop you and your kids ass and fuck your baby momma in the kid's bed. FOHWTBS
Respect... But that's why I was very clear with my words. You can discipline, but don't put your hands on my kid.
There are waaaaay too many stories out there now of step parents, boyfriends, significant others doing all kinds of shit to kids. And I'm sure in all cases there were warning signs there that went unnoticed.
Step daddies in this thread mad as shit.
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If you are providing for your family, including step kids, you have the right to discipline them. If you can't discipline them, then they should move out and live with their parent.
I've seen this happen a lot. Man and woman get together, and she has kids. Then she goes, "I'll discipline my kids, not you." BULLSHIT!!! If I can pay their health care, feed them, clothe them, and provide shelter for them... I can discipline them. If I can't, "Y'all gotta go."
The best thing though is to not get caught up in that type of situation in the first place though. Or, at the very least discuss it before you guys get serious.
I've seen this happen a lot. Man and woman get together, and she has kids. Then she goes, "I'll discipline my kids, not you." BULLSHIT!!! If I can pay their health care, feed them, clothe them, and provide shelter for them... I can discipline them. If I can't, "Y'all gotta go."
The best thing though is to not get caught up in that type of situation in the first place though. Or, at the very least discuss it before you guys get serious.
We would have to talk about boundaries.I don’t physically punish my kids so no other man will.
Yes it is ok to disipline them just not physical. They not your children!
Feeding them is physical, and they're not my children. Clothing them is physical and they're not my children... etc... If I can't discipline them, then they can't live in my home. It's that simple. If she trust me enough to let her children live with me, then she needs to trust me when it comes to discipline. If she can't, then we won't have a serious relationship where we'll all be living together.
If the estranged step parent is so concerned about someone else disciplining his child, then he needs to make it work with the Mom. Not every Man is going to play games when it comes to Ex's and the children.
I have rules in my home. If anyone lives there, they know what the rules are. Their violation of those rules warrant a consequence.
As I read through these responses, I see why there are so many "steps" who are just wild. And it's usually because of an estranged parent whom isn't doing shit for their child, yet wants to dictate to a new step parent. Get out of here with that.
I told my sons, "Don't get a woman who has kids and an Ex around. It doesn't make sense to welcome misery into your home."
Live with you? You already seem controlling. If you wete not you would have said "live with each other" as opposed to "live in my home"
Chances are you will be living in her home. Most single moms if they live with a new man it is the new man living with them.
Chances are you will be living in her home. Most single moms if they live with a new man it is the new man living with them.
Wrong... I have my own home. I wouldn't ever move into a woman's home, especially if she has kids and an ex. I wouldn't see a reason to buy a home with her, when the home that I already own is comfortable and accommodating. So, when I said, "Live with me." I meant just that. But, the good thing is that would never happen. Because if she has an ex, and they have kids together, them moving in with me would be off of the table. They all can be someone else's headache, not mine. Get your discipline and drama from your estranged ex, since they know so much.
Amen!
That is always been my rule to. I've only broken it four times.
first time she ended up getting back with the dad. Can't be mad about it, but I should have known when every picture she showed me of her son had him in the background.
The second told me that she knowingly slept with a married man because he had a lot of money and then later went after him for every dime of child support she could. I wasn't trying to be the next sucker.
Third one told me stories about her psychotically jealous baby daddy on the first date. I later found out he live less than 10 blocks for me. There wasn't about to be a second date
The last one was angry that her ex husband got custody of the kids. When I pressed on and asked her why she told me it was because they found meth in her apartment that she claims he planted. I planted myself completely out of her life.
The hard part though is that the older you get the harder it is to find women who don't have or want children of their own.
Lets just thank god we are humans and not lions. The concept of a cuckhold/step-dad doesnt exist in their world.
I never knocked a man who raises another man's kids, but thats not for me personally.
I know plenty of cats who been trhough all kind of drama behind doing that. As a result, I made a decision pretty early on that the step daddy thing aint for me.
On a side note, if you getting up there in age you may have to explore other options to widen your dating pool. That could mean possibly dating a woman 1) who is younger, or 2) Interracial........or 3) keep it Black, but date women from other cultures (African, Afro-Latin, West Indian, etc.). Thats pretty much the only ways to widen your pool, which can possibly lower your chances of meeting a woman with a kid.
I never knocked a man who raises another man's kids, but thats not for me personally.
I know plenty of cats who been trhough all kind of drama behind doing that. As a result, I made a decision pretty early on that the step daddy thing aint for me.
On a side note, if you getting up there in age you may have to explore other options to widen your dating pool. That could mean possibly dating a woman 1) who is younger, or 2) Interracial........or 3) keep it Black, but date women from other cultures (African, Afro-Latin, West Indian, etc.). Thats pretty much the only ways to widen your pool, which can possibly lower your chances of meeting a woman with a kid.
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