Is Ignoring Somebody the Best or Worst thing to Do?

IS IT BEST TO?

  • TACKLE ISSUE HEAD-ON WITH CONFRONTATION

    Votes: 9 18.8%
  • ABANDON ALL EMOTIONS AND DISTATCH

    Votes: 39 81.3%

  • Total voters
    48
Depends on the person, but me personally, I usually cut ppl off that like confrontation and get their kicks out of trying to get to me. Like some of the other posters said, when ppl say or do certain things and you feed into it, you basically gave them the satisfaction they were looking for. Reminds me of this chick that was feeling me at this old job, all the dudes were thirsty for her, and I was the only one that never gave her attention, which later grew into her attraction towards me. I try not to mess wit chicks I work with though, because my money is more important, so she became extra desperate for my attention, and started doing anything to get it. She was very attractive, I may have bent my rules and gave her the time of day, but she was so immature about the whole shit.





:lol:We all gotta be proud of something:lol::lol::lol:


Some women are so pursued by men that they can't except the fact that you are not interested,(just absolutely refuse to believe it) she may not have really even wanted you for who you are, but just for the fact that she couldn't have you. Once you are conquered:dunno:depends
 
Despite what statistics would show, I'm a educated Black man who has never been arrested or in Jail. I take pride in all that. But sometimes I feel like jail is calling me. The thing I fear most is that someone will say the wrong thing to me at the wrong time and I'll snap, do them harm, and end up going to jail behind it. .

So maybe you don't trust yourself to exercise self control, so you protect yourself and use ignoring as a defense mechanism:cool:
 
I do that now.I'm a scorpio by nature so i can cut off people easy. The woman take that shit to the heart real hard, there's about 5 woman in the workplace i'm at that i don't say shit to anymore and they can't take it.:D To much drama and i can't stand gossip chicks or fakeness. Funny there's a female co worker that i'm cool with, who told me that when she worked with me the day after 3 of the females were giving the evil stare just cause she was talking with me.:smh: Damn those bitches are hating hard:lol::lol::lol::lol:



:lol:if you were cool with them before, that shit hurts and then you gonna go talk to the next chick, you prolly do it on purpose:lol:
 
Silence or better yet indifference is very powerful because it robs that person control of the situation. You see, people who agitate you intentionally have a specific purpose for doing so. If it's your significant other it is usually because they want attention. If it is a friend/colleague it is usually because they are trying to get a rise out of you. When you respond in the manner that they want they win and they in effect control you. This will cause you to become their go-to person when they look to play their silly games. BUT when you use indifference or silence you strip them of all power. They don't get the attention or reaction they wanted so they will try even harder to get that desired reaction/attention or get so frustrated that they want to fight. So to summarize, when you use indifference you put the ball in your court and control any interactions with said person.

What is your definition of indifference, can you give me an example?
 
Indifference is when you don't have a particular thought or emotion about a particular subject/person. You don't love it or hate it because you don't care about it enough to even come up with an emotion. That's indifference to me.



:hmm: <---indifference.
:lol:
 
Indifference is when you don't have a particular thought or emotion about a particular subject/person. You don't love it or hate it because you don't care about it enough to even come up with an emotion. That's indifference to me.



:hmm: <---indifference.

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:lol::lol::lol:

But serious, Peace em out and leave it be. If he keep testin.. then thats somethin else.

werd - if they go out of their way to try to be an adversary u can continue to ignore them or crush their soul into oblivion
 
I used to think that ignoring people was the best way to go about things, but I was taught a lesson recently. I took what I would call a "silly tax loss" from this female. We work for the same company. I argued with her via text for about 2 days back in April over paying me, but then I just called it quits and cut my loss. I've never spoke to this woman again, no calls no text nothing. last weekend I go to this club and she's standing out side, I walked right by her I didn't say a word at all to her. I chilled at the club, and checked out what I wanted to check out then I left and hit another spot.Monday morning comes, and I'm at work doing my thing, then our Loss Prevention guy calls me and asks me to some down stairs. I'm thinking maybe I dropped my work badge some place etc..etc. I get down there the cops are there, and they say the were called by this chick because she felt threatened by me. The cop are pissed because they know it's some BS. But know I'm feeling like I need to not igg this chick, and I need to take some kind of action. So I think now a days a lot of folks are to stupid to understand the blessing of being ignored, and you have to address them.

i feel ya, at my job there was a real pretty chick i had a brief relationship with, after i found out she was crazy i called it off, that didn't sit well, so we had a pretty heated argument on the job that ended up in Human Resources. I was in line to get a nice promotion, I still ended up getting it, but could've fkd that and my job up. Some of the older cats were telling me learn to ignore her, she's bitter, etc....The broad should've been fired but she was fine and had 1 of the supervisors trying to fk her. Anyways I decided to take the grown man route and ignore her and her antics. Since the broad was fine, it was rough because she tried to use her looks to flirt with ngz she use to tell me were lames. So she'd flirt with these ngz she use to never even acknowledge just to get at me and more importantly try to turn them against me. Broad told a mofo my sex wasn't shyt, broad told a mofo that my best friend was a big time dope dealer using his record label as front, she told mofo'z i think i'm all that because of my cars, and that I was always talking bout my money and shyt, she told them I was crazy about her, just lie after lie. All this time I got the text messages and voice messages of her begging me to pick up the phone, cussing because i didn't answer the phone, telling me she thinks she loves me, but I'm trying to take the high road and ignore. I wanted to tell all these mofo'z about her head game, i could've played the voice mail messages, i could've told some of her family secrets, i could have told her best friend all the shyt she use to talk about her, but I was trying to take the high road and also keep my job. It was eating me so bad I was gonna have my home girl whoop her ass, then like i said she was using a couple of weak ass ngz, telling them lies trying to turn them against me.....knowing she never use to talk to their lame asses, so I ended up cutting them off also. It was crazy, she ended up getting fired, she ran her mouth to the secretary and the secretary told HR. It really seems like me ignoring her made her more scandalous, but if I would've stooped to her level I may have been the one that got fired. Just like human resources told me, any little thing can be considered harassment, after our first incident they told us both to report to them if we had any more problems, i didn't and thankfully the broad ended up firing herself. I had 1 more similar incident, but it wasn't as messy and didn't go to hr. But after that I said I wasn't getting involved with any other chicks on the job. Its a big headache, it can cause problems while your in a relationship and it really can cause problems if you break up.

The rule of silence when your dealing with ngz? I use it often. I really fkd this one nga up by refusing to acknowledge him period, I treated him as if he didn't exist, then he gone come to me one day and apologize. The laws of silence works great with corporate ngz and good portion of hood ngz. Unfortunately there's that 1 breed that needs to get disciplined sometimes. But for the most part I always try to reason and be peaceful. Ngz who need to start shyt are miserable and to know their getting under your skin brings them pleasure. Ignore them.
 
I've been walking away from any confrontation and separating myself from people for good who are rude or confrontational, even with "family." And it's been fantastic.
 
there are people on this planet who just want to argue. No matter what you say, they will take a contrary position, because that's what makes them feel good about themselves. So you say left, they will say right, if you say up, they will say down. The issue does not matter, they will be on the other side because there is a need to argue in them (for whatever reason)....

these people are on my ig list. Life too short to argue for argument sake
 
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In some cases, ignoring the problem is the best way. But if you care about the person, sometimes you have to look deeper into the situation because the arguing and whatnot might be a cry for help.
 
That is powerful if she really felt threatened, maybe she did because like I said, "when you are silent, they don't know what you are thinking and what you are capable of"

Nah if so she would have called that Sat night at the club, or on Sunday. She waited until Monday so that she cold get the police involved at the work place.
 
i feel ya, at my job there was a real pretty chick i had a brief relationship with, after i found out she was crazy i called it off, that didn't sit well, so we had a pretty heated argument on the job that ended up in Human Resources. I was in line to get a nice promotion, I still ended up getting it, but could've fkd that and my job up. Some of the older cats were telling me learn to ignore her, she's bitter, etc....The broad should've been fired but she was fine and had 1 of the supervisors trying to fk her. Anyways I decided to take the grown man route and ignore her and her antics. Since the broad was fine, it was rough because she tried to use her looks to flirt with ngz she use to tell me were lames. So she'd flirt with these ngz she use to never even acknowledge just to get at me and more importantly try to turn them against me. Broad told a mofo my sex wasn't shyt, broad told a mofo that my best friend was a big time dope dealer using his record label as front, she told mofo'z i think i'm all that because of my cars, and that I was always talking bout my money and shyt, she told them I was crazy about her, just lie after lie. All this time I got the text messages and voice messages of her begging me to pick up the phone, cussing because i didn't answer the phone, telling me she thinks she loves me, but I'm trying to take the high road and ignore. I wanted to tell all these mofo'z about her head game, i could've played the voice mail messages, i could've told some of her family secrets, i could have told her best friend all the shyt she use to talk about her, but I was trying to take the high road and also keep my job. It was eating me so bad I was gonna have my home girl whoop her ass, then like i said she was using a couple of weak ass ngz, telling them lies trying to turn them against me.....knowing she never use to talk to their lame asses, so I ended up cutting them off also. It was crazy, she ended up getting fired, she ran her mouth to the secretary and the secretary told HR. It really seems like me ignoring her made her more scandalous, but if I would've stooped to her level I may have been the one that got fired. Just like human resources told me, any little thing can be considered harassment, after our first incident they told us both to report to them if we had any more problems, i didn't and thankfully the broad ended up firing herself. I had 1 more similar incident, but it wasn't as messy and didn't go to hr. But after that I said I wasn't getting involved with any other chicks on the job. Its a big headache, it can cause problems while your in a relationship and it really can cause problems if you break up.

The rule of silence when your dealing with ngz? I use it often. I really fkd this one nga up by refusing to acknowledge him period, I treated him as if he didn't exist, then he gone come to me one day and apologize. The laws of silence works great with corporate ngz and good portion of hood ngz. Unfortunately there's that 1 breed that needs to get disciplined sometimes. But for the most part I always try to reason and be peaceful. Ngz who need to start shyt are miserable and to know their getting under your skin brings them pleasure. Ignore them.

I'm trying to go to the Maxwell/ Erika Badu concert at the garden, i'll read this when i get back
 
Yes it is, and it's also accelerated my college life, cuz I'm in more positions where I meet valuable people as opposed to wasting time with fools. It seems like I get along with everyone.
Beyond just contacts and lifestyle changes it is unbelievable how much dealing with fools can drain your energy - stress is a real killer. Cutting negative people loose is a hard lesson to learn. Its a real trip to see the difference between how things are when you're around supportive positive folks as opposed to assholes. It's only gonna get better for u.
 
I find the sweetest pleasure in ignoring certain people to no end. The subtle torture of it all thrills me. I have no desire what so ever to make space on mind for a great deal of the idiocy and simpleminded tactics and ways of life entertained by far too many.
 
Some women are so pursued by men that they can't except the fact that you are not interested,(just absolutely refuse to believe it) she may not have really even wanted you for who you are, but just for the fact that she couldn't have you. Once you are conquered:dunno:depends

Thats true, I never thought about it like that.
 
Ignoring works up to a point, but most times it doesn't relay the type of closure you may want. Some see it like the intermission in a boxing match, meaning that they see you as gaining your composure and arguments.

I literally find confronting them with a simple statement as 'we should not talk anymore' solves it and then cut them out of your life like cancer..

If that doesn't work, a needle of potassium chloride will
 
i feel ya, at my job there was a real pretty chick i had a brief relationship with, after i found out she was crazy i called it off, that didn't sit well, so we had a pretty heated argument on the job that ended up in Human Resources. I was in line to get a nice promotion, I still ended up getting it, but could've fkd that and my job up. Some of the older cats were telling me learn to ignore her, she's bitter, etc....The broad should've been fired but she was fine and had 1 of the supervisors trying to fk her. Anyways I decided to take the grown man route and ignore her and her antics. Since the broad was fine, it was rough because she tried to use her looks to flirt with ngz she use to tell me were lames. So she'd flirt with these ngz she use to never even acknowledge just to get at me and more importantly try to turn them against me. Broad told a mofo my sex wasn't shyt, broad told a mofo that my best friend was a big time dope dealer using his record label as front, she told mofo'z i think i'm all that because of my cars, and that I was always talking bout my money and shyt, she told them I was crazy about her, just lie after lie. All this time I got the text messages and voice messages of her begging me to pick up the phone, cussing because i didn't answer the phone, telling me she thinks she loves me, but I'm trying to take the high road and ignore. I wanted to tell all these mofo'z about her head game, i could've played the voice mail messages, i could've told some of her family secrets, i could have told her best friend all the shyt she use to talk about her, but I was trying to take the high road and also keep my job. It was eating me so bad I was gonna have my home girl whoop her ass, then like i said she was using a couple of weak ass ngz, telling them lies trying to turn them against me.....knowing she never use to talk to their lame asses, so I ended up cutting them off also. It was crazy, she ended up getting fired, she ran her mouth to the secretary and the secretary told HR. It really seems like me ignoring her made her more scandalous, but if I would've stooped to her level I may have been the one that got fired. Just like human resources told me, any little thing can be considered harassment, after our first incident they told us both to report to them if we had any more problems, i didn't and thankfully the broad ended up firing herself. I had 1 more similar incident, but it wasn't as messy and didn't go to hr. But after that I said I wasn't getting involved with any other chicks on the job. Its a big headache, it can cause problems while your in a relationship and it really can cause problems if you break up.

The rule of silence when your dealing with ngz? I use it often. I really fkd this one nga up by refusing to acknowledge him period, I treated him as if he didn't exist, then he gone come to me one day and apologize. The laws of silence works great with corporate ngz and good portion of hood ngz. Unfortunately there's that 1 breed that needs to get disciplined sometimes. But for the most part I always try to reason and be peaceful. Ngz who need to start shyt are miserable and to know their getting under your skin brings them pleasure. Ignore them.


Damn, I know just what you mean. I was in a similar situation at work a while ago, but it wasn't involving a domestic relationship. It was a girl that I was friendly with at one time and the she turned against me for whatever reason she had against me:dunno: Soon after we weren't cool anymore, i started ignoring her and it didn't make things any better, the bitch started talking about me, telling the men lies about me and telling every little thing i ever told her. I even caught her childish ass making little stank faces behind my back, she didn't know I was looking in the mirror and then she was trying to turn everyone against me, but the minute i stopped ignoring her spoke to her as if I didn't even know what she was doing, she turned into a little child all nervous and shit. Her voice was cracking and she looked so pathetics in my eyes. After that all of that shit she was doing stopped.

Another white chic was doing similar things to me at my job and i was ignoring the shit out of her ass. The more i ignored her, the worst she got. I let it go on so far to the point where I wanted to whoop HER ASS, so I went to HR to protect myself from losing my job, thats how bad it was. And when I confronted her of all the bullshit that i know for a fact she was doing like interfering with my work, she broke down like a little baby and started crying in the office and lied about everything. Then they were looking at me like i'm just a bully(black girl). Ain't that a bitch.:hmm:
 
I find the sweetest pleasure in ignoring certain people to no end. The subtle torture of it all thrills me. I have no desire what so ever to make space on mind for a great deal of the idiocy and simpleminded tactics and ways of life entertained by far too many.

I'm starting to find this in a lot of people. That just goes to show that you never really know who you are dealing with and silence can be scary.:devil:
 
Ignoring works up to a point, but most times it doesn't relay the type of closure you may want. .

True, when I really care about someone, I would like to see some closure.

Some see it like the intermission in a boxing match, meaning that they see you as gaining your composure and arguments.
Yes, that is why I ask the question is it wise to ignore. Should you confront or detatch :confused:
 
True, when I really care about someone, I would like to see some closure.


Yes, that is why I ask the question is it wise to ignore. Should you confront or detatch :confused:

Its based on the person... if they get the hint after you told him/her to back off, or the hint when you are simply not replying from them with the gas face... then you have to confront.

It is easier to confront... for ignoring at times simply bring the hyena out of people... to harass you until you break silence and then they feel accomplished.

with me, once you are labeled as cancerous, you would be happy to get one kind gesture out of me and be happy with the silence.

I would even call a radio station and request 'I don't love you anymore' by Teddy Pendergrass on your favorite radio station for a week and at times, have a dancing bear deliver the message in a public environment. cancer must be cut...
 
I ignore my baby moms all the time and that shit eats the hell outta her cause she knows that she want me to respond to the shit she be saying but I dont give her the satisfaction. She said shit to me that I could of smacked her off the planet for but I know that a wise man don't argue with fools. I do my job as a father and I take good care of my son so fuck what she has to say. So yeah I prefer the silent treatment and like I said in a past post earlier this year.............."I'm Patrick Swayze and she's Demi Moore"

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