Would you consider cheating wrong or a mistake? A friend of mine recently caught his lady in bed with someone else and when he confronted her, she said she made a mistake. Thoughts? Opinions?
Is cheating wrong or a mistake?
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You make a mistake and knock over a cup of juice
you make conscious decisions to fuck someone.. can it be a bad decision, yes, can it be a decision you regret, yes, can it be a decision that you only regret cause you were caught in the act and the repercussions can be negative for future scenarios, yes.. but it wasn’t a mistake like some accidental shit
you make conscious decisions to fuck someone.. can it be a bad decision, yes, can it be a decision you regret, yes, can it be a decision that you only regret cause you were caught in the act and the repercussions can be negative for future scenarios, yes.. but it wasn’t a mistake like some accidental shit
A slight correction
I’m not condoning cheating but if you’re going to go that route, don’t do it around places your wife or people she knows be around. I have slept with two married women when I was younger one of them I smashed in her husband house. I was young and silly back then but as I got older, I knew not to do that shit again. Oh one more thing when I used to do deliver furniture and it’s a lot of lonely housewives out there. You better make sure your wife is happy before you go off to work man because people like me could come around and well you know what could happen.
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one time spontaneous thing...benefit of the doubt. multiple times and/or serious planning involved...no mistake.
he Treats his wife pussy like a thrift store.. he don’t want it unless somebody else was using it first
Is it really cheating if it aint raw?
Good lawd.
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Depends
If a woman does it, it’s wrong
If a man does it, the reasons for doing so need to be considered
If a woman does it, it’s wrong
If a man does it, the reasons for doing so need to be considered
Depends on the type of relationship.
Monogamous: nope
Polyamorous: yes, it can be
Married: nope
BF/GF or BF/BF or GF/GF: yes, it can be
Nope: meaning it’s not a mistake it’s it’s a decision
Yes: meaning it can be a mistake
Monogamous: nope
Polyamorous: yes, it can be
Married: nope
BF/GF or BF/BF or GF/GF: yes, it can be
Nope: meaning it’s not a mistake it’s it’s a decision
Yes: meaning it can be a mistake
If she’s not getting sexually pleasured right at home is it wrong if she goes out and finds pleasure instead of being sexually miserable?
now if a dude did the same what’s the difference?
Yes she mad a mistake by sleeping with another person if she valued her relationship. "She" made the mistake, but it wasn't a mistake.
She made a conscious decision to meet a person. Make plans to sleep with a person.
Chose to take her clothes off, crack them legs open to get fucked.
The true mistake in her mind is her man finding out.
She made a conscious decision to meet a person. Make plans to sleep with a person.
Chose to take her clothes off, crack them legs open to get fucked.
The true mistake in her mind is her man finding out.
all I know, is that if I get cheated on, no excuses will be taken
She can buy some sex toys if she needs more pleasure
We’re men, of course that’s what we’d say!
And guess what? Women say the exact same thing from their perspective.
Yeah, she sucked his dick by mistake .... 
Cheating is not a mistake.
You're making a CONSCIOUS CHOICE to betray/hurt someone you are in a relationship/marriage with. (Even if they don't know and never find out).
- It's not a mistake.
- It's a deliberate choice.
Folks can try to "justify" or "absolve" themselves by calling it a mistake. But it's still making a choice to hurt someone who trusts you...
You're making a CONSCIOUS CHOICE to betray/hurt someone you are in a relationship/marriage with. (Even if they don't know and never find out).
- It's not a mistake.
- It's a deliberate choice.
Folks can try to "justify" or "absolve" themselves by calling it a mistake. But it's still making a choice to hurt someone who trusts you...
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If she told you use your hand or a fleshlight if you need more pleasure or aren’t sexually satisfied at home would you agree or go get the fuck out here?
He doesn't consider it cheating......
In LS, his situation is considered Ethical Non-Monogamy
I get where you’re coming from 100%. I got a whole side of my family that has women who are on a certain type of time. Trust me. All I’m saying is, I ain’t going for that shit.
cheating is a choice and a character defect.It ain't no fukkn mistake ☺
Be honest from the start, tell her you won't be monogamous, and give her the choice of whether that is acceptable to her.
if it is cool, if it isn't move along and find somebody that's okay with how you want to live.
Be honest from the start, tell her you won't be monogamous, and give her the choice of whether that is acceptable to her.
if it is cool, if it isn't move along and find somebody that's okay with how you want to live.
its never a mistake for a woman....there is always precipitous actions/thoughts that proceeded the deed. She entertained the conversation, the stolen moments alone, the texts/sexts, the secret thoughts of a woman spurred on by her lecherous desire for excitement and new thrills. its in their nature to want that thrill then its only when they get caught that they exhibit remorse.....she doesnt really regret it, she regrets getting caught....the woman that truly regrets it, shows remorse, demonstrates it through her actions without being told.
i have learned by being on both sides of the coin and let me tell you that women all fantasize about the same shit we fantasize about but few rarely act on it without initiation from their friends, another guy, or their current situation/opportunity for improvement. they can be selfish insidious creatures one side and beautifully made/heaven sent on the other....they human, subject to the same failures that we are.
However, the keys are being regretful versus remorseful. know that difference. the circumstance around which she cheated is a huge difference...one night drunken stand...maybe bc there was no previous actions to set up the play. but outside of that...that shit was not a mistake. that statement is straight out the cheaters handbook. along with trickle truth ....if she got caught IN HIS/THEIR HOME.....it wasnt a mistake, it was a choice bc there is NO WAY A WOMAN WOULD BE COMFORTABLE ENOUGH TO BRING A STRANGER INTO HER HOME, INTO HER RELATIONSHIP BED, AND FUCK HIM WITHOUT HER BEING VERY COMFORTABLE WITH HIS PRESENCE. which means there was previous long term contact...meaning weeks, months or even years. In my younger days, i unknowingly crossed some lines that i would never cross then nor again. and always drew the line at sex in another person home/bed. saw the reality of one of the cats i went to school with who caught his wife in bed with her lover when he got sick and came home early. dude was knee deep in his lady and he murdered her and dude. he was a good and hard working brother though, and he just snapped. now guy is sitting in prison for years for a trifling ass bitch...and let me tell you...your bitch can be trifling too...never be too naïve or put her too high on a pedestal to know that she wouldnt do you dirty. its only on the brink of disaster that most people change....but for women, they will push the gas going over a cliff to prove a point (thelma and louise that shit)....i say let them. only when they lose you do they realize the grass aint greener, they lost the 80% fukn around with the 20% and that dude aint shit bc he pursued and fukn a married woman in her marital bed. IF HE WILL DO THAT WITH YOU, HE WILL DO THAT TO YOU. its only a matter of time.. ...how you get them is how you keep them.
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Perhaps it’s both. 
cheating is never a mistake,it's something people do because their lacking something first within themselves where cheating can be a confindence buster to help make you feel that someone else still wants this which is more of a female thing and a lot of men do it for pure sport like hunting.
They have a million and one songs about cheating where you think it's something cool do to like "My side peice" and all of that shit but in reality there's an ugly side to cheating because if a woman is an habitual cheater nine times out of ten she's not to be trusted and her character is flawed like a motherfucker and the day will come where no man wants her besides for a goodtime but she'll have to settle for the low hanging fruit even for that.Then you have men who cheat and have cheated too many times over the years but he's how that's going to bite him in the ass because if or when he gets sick his good woman/wife may not have no sympathy and your kids will follow her lead with no empathy towards you in your time of need because the shit you done many moons ago.
We all get old and there comes a point where no one wants you and you don't want nobody.....
It's more that goes into that but be mindful for the things you do,like in that Tyler Perry Movie in your time of need,she'll get even and be gone.
They have a million and one songs about cheating where you think it's something cool do to like "My side peice" and all of that shit but in reality there's an ugly side to cheating because if a woman is an habitual cheater nine times out of ten she's not to be trusted and her character is flawed like a motherfucker and the day will come where no man wants her besides for a goodtime but she'll have to settle for the low hanging fruit even for that.Then you have men who cheat and have cheated too many times over the years but he's how that's going to bite him in the ass because if or when he gets sick his good woman/wife may not have no sympathy and your kids will follow her lead with no empathy towards you in your time of need because the shit you done many moons ago.
We all get old and there comes a point where no one wants you and you don't want nobody.....
It's more that goes into that but be mindful for the things you do,like in that Tyler Perry Movie in your time of need,she'll get even and be gone.
If she cheat im out. I'm too old to be fighting over some pussy. If she tired of me and want to bounce just let me know, and go ahead and bounce. Don't understand fighting and killing over someone. And no I'm not taken you back, lose my number.
If you touch my kids that's a different story.
If you touch my kids that's a different story.
Thanks for the responses.
