Oh cutie pie I wish I could, but this is actually a sensitive subject for me and to be 100% honest its one of the reasons my engagement fell apart. As a very very experienced Dom told me once when I was just exploring, that if you are someone who is really into D/S and it's a part of your sexuality, if you can't share it with the person you are with then you will always be giving only half yourself. I didn't want to listen back then, but I should have for both my sake and my ex's.
To watch a video is a little misleading because yeah for some people its just variety kink, but for others D/S goes much deeper.
PM me- I can answer what I can, but the rest only you'll know- but be forewarned some doors once you open them can't be closed.
I think its was Nietzche that wrote something to the effect that when you look into the darkness the darkness looks back into you.
LOL- I made it sound sinister, but it's not!

It is a "life" for some people though far more than fucking.