Im tired of girls getting fat!!

[badboyyawdie]

Why is it everytime time I get with a with a girl at first she's fine and everyone wants her. Then she gets comfortable and gains wait. What am I doing wrong? How do I tell her im tired of her looking fat. Its like she's happy weighing as musch as me and im 6' 225, she's 5'8 200lbs wtf. When I met her she was 130.

 

[superman2004]

Why is it everytime time I get with a with a girl at first she's fine and everyone wants her. Then she gets comfortable and gains wait. What am I doing wrong? How do I tell her im tired of her looking fat. Its like she's happy weighing as musch as me and im 6' 225, she's 5'8 200lbs wtf. When I met her she was 130.

i hear ya, one rule of the game is that you always have to be proactive, thinking ahead and controlling a woman's thinking process for the better... i lay the groundwork early. first off, i date nothing but petite to just below average size women. knowing that there is a chance down the road of them picking up weight, i talk about how i like petite women and that i don't date big women etc... i talk about working out, eating healthy etc... with good convo flow, not just dropping it all at once.

so she gets the idea of what i like and knows im into fitness eating healthy etc... all the women i've dated and currently date get into changing their diet for the better and they don't get big on me. if you don't establish the groundwork early, it will bite you in the ass later i.e your current situation.

for example, it's no different if you like watching football on saturdays and sunday's if she knows that you like football on the weekends and you are passionate about it and you tell her from the get go that this is you, no complications later. but if you don't establish that up front and that's who you are, she will be bitching down the road on sunday and telling you to get your ass and do some chores on saturday or some other stuff

 

[dollabill]

Just like supa said, you gotta put in some groundwork so she know's if she starts slackin then your liable to bounce!

 

[James Cooper]

Why is it everytime time I get with a with a girl at first she's fine and everyone wants her. Then she gets comfortable and gains wait. What am I doing wrong? How do I tell her im tired of her looking fat. Its like she's happy weighing as musch as me and im 6' 225, she's 5'8 200lbs wtf. When I met her she was 130.

Be encouraging, try not to insult her and workout with her.

If its in your personality let her know that she's still attractive because if you dont her esteem will get lower and she will continue to run to food...

Im a personal trainer and alot of Sistahs always complain that their guy doesnt care or show them attention so guess who's the guy thats always complimenting them...Yeah her trainer!!

So make sure you participate with her...I wish yall well!!

 

[superman2004]

For real black, supa said you gotta put in some groundwork so she know's if she starts slackin then your liable to bounce!

exactly

reminds me of a situation over the summer when i met this woman who is cute. and she asked me about an hour after i hit it, what do i think about her weight. i told her that i think she's average... she thought that she was petite. she weighs no more than about 137. boy that crushed her ego. but im up front. i don't fake shit. she asked i told. she didn't trip. she was like whoooa, i better lose some weight. how can i lose the weight? i told her that she doesn't look bad, but she's a tad over petite status lol lol lol. so she took initiative and dropped like 7 pounds to date

 

[JD Walker]

Why is it everytime time I get with a with a girl at first she's fine and everyone wants her. Then she gets comfortable and gains wait. What am I doing wrong? How do I tell her im tired of her looking fat. Its like she's happy weighing as musch as me and im 6' 225, she's 5'8 200lbs wtf. When I met her she was 130.

You should have dumped her after she passed 150. These days you really have to stick to your guns and let these lazy broads know that they will get dumped like a hot potato if they don't stay in shape.

 

[badboyyawdie]

I've been with her for around 6 years now and I find myself looking at every girl just because there skinny and got an ass. I know my girl is a dime and would beat out any of these chicks but she just wont lose the wait. She doesnt really like to by clothes b/c she says that shes going to lose the weight, but that shit is getting real old. I wont leave her cause I have values, but its real hard not to stare at everything that crosses my path.

Today I got fed up, and out of the blue I told her Im signing her up for jenny craig. She looked at me like "wtf". Was this a little to harsh?
After I saw Kristie Ally on oprah I was like some things gotta change.

 

[JD Walker]

I've been with her for around 6 years now and I find myself looking at every girl just because there skinny and got an ass. I know my girl is a dime and would beat out any of these chicks but she just wont lose the wait. She doesnt really like to by clothes b/c she says that shes going to lose the weight, but that shit is getting real old. I wont leave her cause I have values, but its real hard not to stare at everything that crosses my path.

Today I got fed up, and out of the blue I told her Im signing her up for jenny craig. She looked at me like "wtf". Was this a little to harsh?
After I saw Kristie Ally on oprah I was like some things gotta change.

Man, I don't know how old you are, but life is much to short to be burdened with a broad who obviously doesn't give a damn about herself. Get rid of her fat ass, being obese is her problem, not yours.

 

[superman2004]

Man, I don't know how old you are, but life is much to short to be burdened with a broad who obviously doesn't give a damn about herself. Get rid of her fat ass, being obese is her problem, not yours.

 

[Birdsfoot]

Why is it everytime time I get with a with a girl at first she's fine and everyone wants her. Then she gets comfortable and gains wait. What am I doing wrong? How do I tell her im tired of her looking fat. Its like she's happy weighing as musch as me and im 6' 225, she's 5'8 200lbs wtf. When I met her she was 130.

Your woman fit gaining weight "letting herself go" is a sign that she no longer values you as highly as before and will soon cheat or leave!

When a woman realy wants you she wants to please you and be attractive to you ... What you will notice is that when she leaves you she will suddenly get in shape to hook the next dude...lol

 

[Birdsfoot]

I've been with her for around 6 years now...

Yup she is cumming upon her "7 year itch" so watch out for problem in your relationship very soo...

 

[SPECTRE1]

Women and men will gain some type of weight over time. The older you get, the slower you metabolism gets, so it will be harder to keep weight off if you are used to eating a certain way. So don't expect who you marry to look the same 20 years from now.

 

[badboyyawdie]

Man, I don't know how old you are, but life is much to short to be burdened with a broad who obviously doesn't give a damn about herself. Get rid of her fat ass, being obese is her problem, not yours.

Im 26. I cant leave her. She is a ride or die chick from day one.

 

[badboyyawdie]

Your woman fit gaining weight "letting herself go" is a sign that she no longer values you as highly as before and will soon cheat or leave!

When a woman realy wants you she wants to please you and be attractive to you ... What you will notice is that when she leaves you she will suddenly get in shape to hook the next dude...lol

I feel you mayne

 

[mozartte]

stop taking them hoes to buffets, and they wont get fat. Nah, its best to let them know upfront that you are attracted to chicks who take care of their bodies. If youre already in a relationship with them give them time to improve, and if they dont leave. If her weight is an issue she wont have a problem shaping up, or you wont have a problem leaving.

 

[DADDY4HOES]

Just fuck 'em ......don't feed 'em

 

[Jagi]

Just like supa said, you gotta put in some groundwork so she know's if she starts slackin then your liable to bounce!

truth

plus if your active and excercise and eat right ..

do that with her.. it's like raising a child at times when it comes to women..

 

[m2m]

A lot of that shit is ingrained in the female and can't be reprogrammed; so don't burden yourself with those kinda chicks just move on now before she traps you.

It's not even a weight issue, it's a personality problem. If they're letting themselves go in one aspect of life and they make excuses instead of trying to fix it; the mentality is going to spill over into other areas.

Next thing you know, she making excuses about everything and not wanting to an effort to do shit and will get pissed at you for not supporting her lazy ass lifestyle.

You can try and intervene early but leopards don't change their spots, you'll be fighting an uphill battle the entire relationship.

Sooner or later, she'll be weighing you down and making your life worse. Get out now and find you a chick who actually cares about herself.

 

[MissMighty]

Why is it everytime time I get with a with a girl at first she's fine and everyone wants her. Then she gets comfortable and gains wait. What am I doing wrong? How do I tell her im tired of her looking fat. Its like she's happy weighing as musch as me and im 6' 225, she's 5'8 200lbs wtf. When I met her she was 130.

Well if you got with her because of her personality and not her looks all of that wouldn't matter right?

 

[Autobot8655]

Why is it everytime time I get with a with a girl at first she's fine and everyone wants her. Then she gets comfortable and gains wait. What am I doing wrong? How do I tell her im tired of her looking fat. Its like she's happy weighing as musch as me and im 6' 225, she's 5'8 200lbs wtf. When I met her she was 130.

It's too late now.

You should have told her from the jump.

Women and men will gain some type of weight over time. The older you get, the slower you metabolism gets, so it will be harder to keep weight off if you are used to eating a certain way. So don't expect who you marry to look the same 20 years from now.

Totally disagree

Weight gain has more to do with self perception and personal standards than metabolism.

If someone uses their age as a scapegoat for neglecting their health, then they should try being frank instead and substitute the term "laziness" in place of "old age".

My damn mother is 50+ years old and believes in exercising every fucking day, yet her sisters (my aunts) who hover in the same age range are all fat slobs.

Getting fat with age is nothing more than a personal goddamn choice.

 

[trinity]

the good news is that often happens when a woman is happy with the man she has and isnt trying 2 attract the attention of others, she becomes comfortable and doesnt focus as much effort as she use 2 in looks, keeping up is something u have 2 be heavilly inspired 2 do & ud be amazed how much time women will put into it 2 make sure they have a competing chance w. other females when it comes to selection of men, of course the bad effects is u might not longer find her as attractive as u once have, i would confront her mildly about it & since it seems she really respects ur opinions shell prob wanna change but its u thats gotta push her so the notion jus doesnt result in depressing or angering her...

 

[The Gamee]

make sure yo ass aint gained alot of weight during the relationship, cuz if you aint got yo shit together you cant fuss at her,and if she dont wanna lose the weight then bounce, she supposed to lose the weight for herself anyway, not for you, remember there is always a nigga waiting to replace you and wax that fat asss nigga.

 

[badboyyawdie]

Well if you got with her because of her personality and not her looks all of that wouldn't matter right?

When I got with her she had a body and ass like yours with a full c-cup. She was sexy as hell. Her personality was definately a plus. But now she about 200 in your body frame. This board doesnt help much either. All I see is slim ass model chicks, i cant take it.

 

[badboyyawdie]

remember there is always a nigga waiting to replace you and wax that fat asss nigga.

 

[SPECTRE1]

I am not making excuses for a person to get fat, I am just stating a scientific fact. If you want to stay in the same shape you are when you was 20 when you are 40, you will have to cut more calories or exercise more.

For example, If I am 200 pounds, eat 2500 calories, workout 3 times a week and this mantains my weight when I am 18. However, you will have to reduce your calories to 2000 or workout 5 days a weight when you get to 40 or 50. If you maintain what you are doing than you will gain weight.

Look at Shaq and Shawn Kemp having problems when they got older, they play ball everyday, workout, and still gained weight. Shaq was used to eating what he wanted and not putting on anything but that changed when he got older.

 

[superman2004]

the good news is that often happens when a woman is happy with the man she has and isnt trying 2 attract the attention of others, she becomes comfortable and doesnt focus as much effort as she use 2 in looks, keeping up is something u have 2 be heavilly inspired 2 do & ud be amazed how much time women will put into it 2 make sure they have a competing chance w. other females when it comes to selection of men, of course the bad effects is u might not longer find her as attractive as u once have, i would confront her mildly about it & since it seems she really respects ur opinions shell prob wanna change but its u thats gotta push her so the notion jus doesnt result in depressing or angering her...

i hear ya, and then you have some women who rather just not let themselves go, it's a personal choice a woman makes. some get complacent and some keep themselves up into old age and don't have a problem with looking good and keeping herself up and fit into old age, nothing wrong with that.

 

[XavierBlack]

I am not making excuses for a person to get fat, I am just stating a scientific fact. If you want to stay in the same shape you are when you was 20 when you are 40, you will have to cut more calories or exercise more.

For example, If I am 200 pounds, eat 2500 calories, workout 3 times a week and this mantains my weight when I am 18. However, you will have to reduce your calories to 2000 or workout 5 days a weight when you get to 40 or 50. If you maintain what you are doing than you will gain weight.

Look at Shaq and Shawn Kemp having problems when they got older, they play ball everyday, workout, and still gained weight. Shaq was used to eating what he wanted and not putting on anything but that changed when he got older.

genetics might have something to do with it too. i always make it a point to check out a chick's moms and aunts. if moms is overweight then your girl has the potential to go the same route.

 

[max-dawg]

Just fuck 'em ......don't feed 'em

but when it's cold outside, i make SURE i get me a big one... feed her a whopper combo meal about 8:30 p.m., break out my comforter, snuggle up, and TURN OFF THE HEATER AND SAVE ON THE ELECTRIC BILL.

 

[Alumni]

Why is it everytime time I get with a with a girl at first she's fine and everyone wants her. Then she gets comfortable and gains wait. What am I doing wrong? How do I tell her im tired of her looking fat. Its like she's happy weighing as musch as me and im 6' 225, she's 5'8 200lbs wtf. When I met her she was 130.

Playa I feel you 100%. I dated a broawd that by everyone’s account was a 9 out of 10 at least. Pretty, nice body, 5'8", 140 lbs., and a size 8. In two years she gained 15 pounds and continued to gain weight. I told her from the jump that I was about fitness and that I would not tolerate weight gain and she agreed. A year in she started picking up weight. 4 pounds here, 3 pounds there.... at 1st I didn't say anything when I noticed the weight increase. When she'd ask me I'd tell her she was still attractive, but that she needed to tone up. The weight kept coming. I bought a membership to a local gym for her and even went to help her workout. The weight kept coming because she had a million reasons why she couldn’t go to the gym. I made an agreement with her about her weight and the weight still kept coming. Finally I was like fuck it... I'm out the door I can’t do anything else and if I don’t leave this is going to end UGLY. She was/is a good lady, but I know I couldn't be a good man to her because her weight was becoming a bigger and bigger issue to me. I felt that I had to let her go so she could find a cat that would be happy with her weight the way it is. To date she's a size 14 and going... so I made the right call.

 

[badboyyawdie]

Playa I feel you 100%. I dated a broawd that by everyone’s account was a 9 out of 10 at least. Pretty, nice body, 5'8", 140 lbs., and a size 8. In two years she gained 15 pounds and continued to gain weight. I told her from the jump that I was about fitness and that I would not tolerate weight gain and she agreed. A year in she started picking up weight. 4 pounds here, 3 pounds there.... at 1st I didn't say anything when I noticed the weight increase. When she'd ask me I'd tell her she was still attractive, but that she needed to tone up. The weight kept coming. I bought a membership to a local gym for her and even went to help her workout. The weight kept coming because she had a million reasons why she couldn’t go to the gym. I made an agreement with her about her weight and the weight still kept coming. Finally I was like fuck it... I'm out the door I can’t do anything else and if I don’t leave this is going to end UGLY. She was/is a good lady, but I know I couldn't be a good man to her because her weight was becoming a bigger and bigger issue to me. I felt that I had to let her go so she could find a cat that would be happy with her weight the way it is. To date she's a size 14 and going... so I made the right call.

I tried that gym membership last year. I spent 340 for the whole year upfront. Even got her a personal trainer and that still didnt work.

 

[cocobeauty]

Playa I feel you 100%. I dated a broawd that by everyone’s account was a 9 out of 10 at least. Pretty, nice body, 5'8", 140 lbs., and a size 8. In two years she gained 15 pounds and continued to gain weight. I told her from the jump that I was about fitness and that I would not tolerate weight gain and she agreed. A year in she started picking up weight. 4 pounds here, 3 pounds there.... at 1st I didn't say anything when I noticed the weight increase. When she'd ask me I'd tell her she was still attractive, but that she needed to tone up. The weight kept coming. I bought a membership to a local gym for her and even went to help her workout. The weight kept coming because she had a million reasons why she couldn’t go to the gym. I made an agreement with her about her weight and the weight still kept coming. Finally I was like fuck it... I'm out the door I can’t do anything else and if I don’t leave this is going to end UGLY. She was/is a good lady, but I know I couldn't be a good man to her because her weight was becoming a bigger and bigger issue to me. I felt that I had to let her go so she could find a cat that would be happy with her weight the way it is. To date she's a size 14 and going... so I made the right call.

I honestly didn't get any further than what I bolded. wtf????

 

[richlove]

I thought this post was about Cherokee, Skyy , and Beauty. The last scene posted with those lazy bitches was disgusting. I still watched it, cause I am apparently nastier than I thought. But wtf is up with letting hoes that are getting paid to fuck get cottage cheese and golf ball texture all on the back of their thighs and ass. You would think all that squating on dicks would keep them tight. And Cherokee needs to be straight up banned from the valley ( or wherever they shoot) until she loses about 50 lbs cause that Oprah's fan club member has gone too far.

 

[Alumni]

I guess I'm confussed, since you said she was a "ride or die" chick and that you aren't going to leave her what difference does it make how much weight she gains... you ain't leavin'. Are you just looking to vent?

 

[A to Dah K]

70 lbs weight gain???? 200 lbs....u sat there and watched gain 70 lbs thats takes some time to do, u should have said something long time ago.......ur fucked now u and shamoo have to just have a happy ending now

 

[badboyyawdie]

I guess I'm confussed, since you said she was a "ride or die" chick and that you aren't going to leave her what difference does it make how much weight she gains... you ain't leavin'. Are you just looking to vent?

I just needed to vent. The truth is I feel im partly to blame. When we were in school, I introduced her to ganja. Thats when shit when down hill. I highly recommend to keep your girls away from that shit. That green made her lazy as shit. We havent smoked in about a year.