My boy's girlfriend broke up with him in February, they got back together in middle of march than got married at the end of march. His new wife confess to him that she had slept with another guy during the breakup and he asked her all the time when they first got back together did she do anything and she said no. He now has doubts about ending the marriage and/or if he stays can he trust her. I don't know what to tell him. Do you think its a possibility that she could in fact cheat in the future?
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LoneStar29
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I can understand why your boy would be pissed ... she probably didn't tell him before so that he woulda still gone through with the marriage ... sneaky ass
This is a tough one to call cuz she may have cheated and realized other men aren't worth it so she went back after learning that lesson ... or she may be a sneak triflin' liar and do it again ... really only time will tell so your boy is gonna have to go with his heart on this one ... personally I think they should give a fair and honest shot from here and see how it goes cuz it would be a waste to be married for a few months IMO ... he needs to keep an eye on her though ... that lying shit sorta irks me
This is a tough one to call cuz she may have cheated and realized other men aren't worth it so she went back after learning that lesson ... or she may be a sneak triflin' liar and do it again ... really only time will tell so your boy is gonna have to go with his heart on this one ... personally I think they should give a fair and honest shot from here and see how it goes cuz it would be a waste to be married for a few months IMO ... he needs to keep an eye on her though ... that lying shit sorta irks me
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she's probably getting worn out as we speak. how the fuck are you going to break up with someone, then decide you want to marry them one month later? she decided to try it out with some guy(s) she was intrigued by, they probably saw her for what she truly was, and she limps back to the guy that she knew would take her back. SMH
With all due respect, your boy is an idiot.
She broke up with him and they got back together then got MARRIED in 2 weeks?
Da fuck?
On the 15th of March, she tells him she didn't fuck anyone and he believes it, marries her on the 31st and then she says she did.
Seriously. WTF.
Now he has doubts. Naturally.
ol' Dr. Phil, "maybe it'll work out, maybe it wont, only time will tell, mmm-kay" Stetson cologne three-quarter Windsor knot teal and brown 65% rayon nondescript tie wearing lookin' ass ..."
LoneStar29
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ol' Dr. Phil, "maybe it'll work out, maybe it wont, only time will tell, mmm-kay" Stetson cologne three-quarter Windsor knot teal and brown 65% rayon nondescript tie wearing lookin' ass ..."
Ol' Nancy Grace passin' judgement "I woulda married her after 3 weeks not 2" Juwannaman fiance lookin' "lets get married and have a son named Eric" ol' EPMD wannabee proposing with an onion ring then eating it off her fingers while she is asleep glutton horse belly lookin' mofo
Really what happened in the past shouldnt matter-They are married. Its an easy way out to try to end it now (even if they shouldnt have in the first place). I guess my question is is she is still showing shady behavior?? Or is it that his pain from her screwing someone else fucking w/ his conscious?
True.true.......
That was pretty stupid on both their parts... like someone else said, this is why marriages don't last...
but now that they are in it.. and made that commitment.. **sigh**
they need to work through it.. marriage is to have and to hold.. and if they were broken up she didn't cheat... she is wrong for lying.. omission is betrayal and she needs to realize that... How they should handle only they know.. maybe they need some counseling..
but now that they are in it.. and made that commitment.. **sigh**
they need to work through it.. marriage is to have and to hold.. and if they were broken up she didn't cheat... she is wrong for lying.. omission is betrayal and she needs to realize that... How they should handle only they know.. maybe they need some counseling..
I am a guy. But your boy is tripping. They were not together so there is nothing to talk about. But she already slept with someone two weeks after they broke up us crazy. Me personally I would be very upset and probably file for divorce because she trappped the dude.
I guess I dont get it...2 days or 2 weeks after a break up...What difference does it make? They were not together
It makes a difference to most people because they look at it like the person already had someone they planned on fucking beforehand. To be honest, I do think thats a lil soon after a serious relationship. And then after she denied it in the beginning and to come back and admit it once they are married is pretty shady too. Might not have been that much of a problem if she had just fessed up to it at first. She should have been truthful about it before they got married even tho I think ol dude is dumb for marrying her that quick after a breakup. If it wasnt right before, a ring aint gonna change that
I guess I dont get it...2 days or 2 weeks after a break up...What difference does it make? They were not together
fucking someone 2days or a couple weeks days after a break up is not
suspicious to you? it calls the person's character into question. then to
lie on top of it means she knew she messed up. its fucked up that they
are now married. thats something they will have to deal with. hopefully
they both learn from this.
I guess I dont get it...2 days or 2 weeks after a break up...What difference does it make? They were not together
OK. Seriousy. WTF?
Is there something I'm missing here?
All the responses above, especially the last one ...
, completely ignore the fact that these two broke up in FEBRUARY, got back together in the middle of MARCH, and then got MARRIED TWO WEEKS LATER! Please read that last sentence again. Wait for like 30 seconds. Then read it again. Then think about for a minute.
Now if you can't get it after this then never mind.
Onyx, you ask what difference does it make. Seriously?
P5ych3 you're right about what you said. My only wish is that people that have this notion of marriage never breed. Because then they introduce an innocent child into their fuckery.
Exactly. She got game.
She wanted another/new man, so she conveniently 'breaks up' with her steady.
So she can 'get her groove on' - guilt free.
After she does her thing... decides to go back to her old man...
most likely because the new guy was just a 'one-hitter-quitter'.
Or he didn't want a whole relationship (with her).
So they both got what they wanted.
But hey OP... it's ok... because they 'were not together' at the time... get it?
Btw, I'd ALSO place bets on the fact that either...
- There was MORE than 1 guy. Maybe 2.
- Or maybe just 1 guy who smashed SEVERAL TIMES. And they did it ALL. Even stuff your boy hasn't tried yet
- Or maybe the 1 dude she admitted to 'being with'... is probably NOT THE SAME DUDE she actually slept with.
If so, the dude she 'admitted to' is the guy who is 'most forgivable'.
i.e. The guy who your boy will convince himself: "It's gonna take some time to get past this... but I'll still marry her anyway"
She wouldn't DARE mention the ONE name that would make your boy say:
"Awww .. HELL NO!! NOT HIM!!! PACK YO' SHIT!!"
Plus, I think the REAL guy is 'still in the picture', somehow.
Like a co-worker. Or Boss. Or 'just a friend' to her.
(Who might have even attended their wedding.
)Or she still talks to him. Trust.
(The OP never mentioned if his potna discussed whether she still in contact with him.)
If he stays in the relationship... it's gonna take a loooong time for him not to feel a certain way about her.
Cuz if the shoe was on the other foot... she might not EVER get past it.
Women forgive. But they never forget.
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Exactly. She got game.
She wanted another/new man, so she conveniently 'breaks up' with her steady.
So she can 'get her groove on' - guilt free.
After she does her thing... decides to go back to her old man...
most likely because the new guy was just a 'one-hitter-quitter'.
Or he didn't want a whole relationship (with her).
So they both got what they wanted.
But hey OP... it's ok... because they 'were not together' at the time... get it?
Btw, I'd ALSO place bets on the fact that either...
- There was MORE than 1 guy. Maybe 2.
- Or maybe just 1 guy who smashed SEVERAL TIMES. And they did it ALL. Even stuff your boy hasn't tried yet
- Or maybe the 1 dude she admitted to 'being with'... is probably NOT THE SAME DUDE she actually slept with.
If so, the dude she 'admitted to' is the guy who is 'most forgivable'.
i.e. The guy who your boy will convince himself: "It's gonna take some time to get past this... but I'll still marry her anyway"
She wouldn't DARE mention the ONE name that would make your boy say:
"Awww .. HELL NO!! NOT HIM!!! PACK YO' SHIT!!"
Plus, I think the REAL guy is 'still in the picture', somehow.
Like a co-worker. Or Boss. Or 'just a friend' to her.
(Who might have even attended their wedding.
Or she still talks to him. Trust.
(The OP never mentioned if his potna discussed whether she still in contact with him.)
If he stays in the relationship... it's gonna take a loooong time for him not to feel a certain way about her.
Cuz if the shoe was on the other foot... she might not EVER get past it.
Women forgive. But they never forget.
heres a update on somethings, when she broke up with him, my boy moved back to his org state, she said that she was done when she broke up with him and that really in her mind that it was over, claims once she did what she did she realized the dating scene wasnt for her and she missed my boy, i didn't know at the this time, he started calling her after a couple a weeks and trying to win her back, also found out when he went back to his state he slept with his ex and if she found out about that she would prob end it since he was with her for 8yrs, sorry i didn't know the full details about all this, i just found out
These 2 sound like 2 people who don't need to be married...if you were together for 8 years, why are you rushing into marriage??? If you do this after being broke up for a few weeks, what makes either party think they aren't still doing it while they are together, or were together before???
like I previously said, the marriage was dumb on both their parts... you just can't rush into it. If she comes up preggers any time soon, they better call Maury
sorry for the confusion, he slept with his ex who was with for 8yrs prior to gettin with her
Really I just dont get it. What is done during the break up is during the break up. She was wrong for what lying but....To me really that is it.
Now since the tables turned and he slept w/ his ex during the break up whats up now????
Contrary to what some of ya'll may believe women do not just break up w/ a dude because she plans to sleep w/ someone else. Dayum we are not that coniving(sp) if that was the case she wouldnt have just did it while they were still together. They have been together for 8 years so personally I understand why they got married.
They broke up saw what was out there wasnt for them and was like-you the one for me fuck all the other stuff.
Now that we have more information-I think that they should work it. They have been together this long. Neither one of them are not going anywhere.
Now since the tables turned and he slept w/ his ex during the break up whats up now????
Contrary to what some of ya'll may believe women do not just break up w/ a dude because she plans to sleep w/ someone else. Dayum we are not that coniving(sp) if that was the case she wouldnt have just did it while they were still together. They have been together for 8 years so personally I understand why they got married.
They broke up saw what was out there wasnt for them and was like-you the one for me fuck all the other stuff.
Now that we have more information-I think that they should work it. They have been together this long. Neither one of them are not going anywhere.
I am starting to think this whole thread is bullshit. So dude moved to another state, waited a few weeks to call his girl, slept with his ex, and moved back to be with his girl and marry her 2 weeks later and he did all this within a month?
Everyone wants to dog this girl but IMO he's wrong and very naive. Why did he think she wanted to breakup so she could sing in the church choir? He was crazy to ask her anything about what happened during the time they were not together.
But is she guilty? Yeah of not keeping her damn mouth shut. There was no reason for a confession on her part, they had split up. All that needed to be said was, I'm sorry I made a mistake will you take me back?
As for her early lies about what happened be honest, would you ladies actually be up front about your sexual encounters while separated from your former mate and your trying to get back together? Let's be real.
But is she guilty? Yeah of not keeping her damn mouth shut. There was no reason for a confession on her part, they had split up. All that needed to be said was, I'm sorry I made a mistake will you take me back?
As for her early lies about what happened be honest, would you ladies actually be up front about your sexual encounters while separated from your former mate and your trying to get back together? Let's be real.
Not me...Most men cant handle the truth about your sexual past...
I notice that men always want to be the 1st, best or the only to do "something" sexual to the woman they love or want to be with.
Hell naaaw I wouldnt tell what I did while separated...If I gave an answer you may want to multiply by 2
I notice that men always want to be the 1st, best or the only to do "something" sexual to the woman they love or want to be with.
Hell naaaw I wouldnt tell what I did while separated...If I gave an answer you may want to multiply by 2
Everyone wants to dog this girl but IMO he's wrong and very naive. Why did he think she wanted to breakup so she could sing in the church choir? He was crazy to ask her anything about what happened during the time they were not together.
But is she guilty? Yeah of not keeping her damn mouth shut. There was no reason for a confession on her part, they had split up. All that needed to be said was, I'm sorry I made a mistake will you take me back?
As for her early lies about what happened be honest, would you ladies actually be up front about your sexual encounters while separated from your former mate and your trying to get back together? Let's be real.
LoneStar29
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Damnit
I would end up telling for sure ... it would eat away at me and I would feel bad and it would spill out
I would end up telling for sure ... it would eat away at me and I would feel bad and it would spill out
Not me...Most men cant handle the truth about your sexual past...
I notice that men always want to be the 1st, best or the only to do "something" sexual to the woman they love or want to be with.
Hell naaaw I wouldnt tell what I did while separated...If I gave an answer you may want to multiply by 2
Perfect responses! That's exactly why I said he had to be very naive. Now he finds out she had sex with someone else. Gee what a surprise.
What a woman did in the past is in the past. Women rarely ask that question and men should never ask that question.
Onyx, knowing you you would probably boost the number anyway.
Damnit
I would end up telling for sure ... it would eat away at me and I would feel bad and it would spill out
Let's get this straight, your trying to get back with your ex so you think telling him you been screwing someone else is a good idea. Am I missing something?
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