I may have gotten this chick pregnant? (HELP)
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Yes, sadly, there are 34 year olds on facebook, to my detriment.
I called and talked to her this morning.
Now, we were intimate on October 10, 2007. I know this because of the emails we were sending each other back & forth. That is almost 1 month to the day. We both verified this is the exact date we were together and she told me that she hadn't had her period two weeks before we were together, and it has arrived since then.
She then said that this past Monday she took a home pregnancy test and it came back positive and she wanted to take another one.
I then asked her about going to the doctors appointment tommorrow (Saturday) and she said that she took off to spend time with her kids but she wanted to ask me if she could take another home pregnancy test which i said to her (without trying to piss her off and she roasting my ass) that that couldn't pinpoint the exact date of conception. She said to me that she doesn't have Health Insurance so going to the doctors for a test (which she already knows the results of) & ultrasound is going to be difficult.
I'd like to think i'm a good judge of character and that she is being honest & forthright with me. She's not a hoodrat but her babby daddies are trifling. One is hooked on drugs, the other is on the lamb. By the tone in her voice, i can tell that she dead serious and that she apparently is very very fertile!
Should i wait until she is about 2 or 3 months then force her hand to take her to the doctor or what?
I called and talked to her this morning.
Now, we were intimate on October 10, 2007. I know this because of the emails we were sending each other back & forth. That is almost 1 month to the day. We both verified this is the exact date we were together and she told me that she hadn't had her period two weeks before we were together, and it has arrived since then.
She then said that this past Monday she took a home pregnancy test and it came back positive and she wanted to take another one.
I then asked her about going to the doctors appointment tommorrow (Saturday) and she said that she took off to spend time with her kids but she wanted to ask me if she could take another home pregnancy test which i said to her (without trying to piss her off and she roasting my ass) that that couldn't pinpoint the exact date of conception. She said to me that she doesn't have Health Insurance so going to the doctors for a test (which she already knows the results of) & ultrasound is going to be difficult.
I'd like to think i'm a good judge of character and that she is being honest & forthright with me. She's not a hoodrat but her babby daddies are trifling. One is hooked on drugs, the other is on the lamb. By the tone in her voice, i can tell that she dead serious and that she apparently is very very fertile!
Should i wait until she is about 2 or 3 months then force her hand to take her to the doctor or what?
Yes, sadly, there are 34 year olds on facebook, to my detriment.
I called and talked to her this morning.
Now, we were intimate on October 10, 2007. I know this because of the emails we were sending each other back & forth. That is almost 1 month to the day. We both verified this is the exact date we were together and she told me that she hadn't had her period two weeks before we were together, and it has arrived since then.
She then said that this past Monday she took a home pregnancy test and it came back positive and she wanted to take another one.
I then asked her about going to the doctors appointment tommorrow (Saturday) and she said that she took off to spend time with her kids but she wanted to ask me if she could take another home pregnancy test which i said to her (without trying to piss her off and she roasting my ass) that that couldn't pinpoint the exact date of conception. She said to me that she doesn't have Health Insurance so going to the doctors for a test (which she already knows the results of) & ultrasound is going to be difficult.
I'd like to think i'm a good judge of character and that she is being honest & forthright with me. She's not a hoodrat but her babby daddies are trifling. One is hooked on drugs, the other is on the lamb. By the tone in her voice, i can tell that she dead serious and that she apparently is very very fertile!
Should i wait until she is about 2 or 3 months then force her hand to take her to the doctor or what?
I sincerely hope this is a joke topic... Offer to pay for the test even if she doesn't have health insurance.. You're already getting bullshitted, first she offers to take you to a visit, then she suddenly decides she can't go because of no health insurance?
I wish this was all a joke. I'm praying that she either emails me or calls me to say sike, or that her period has come down on her but i've been given a lot of chances to clean up my act and i now have an epiphany 
She's in good spirits and so am i. Funny, because i got myself tested for hiv two weeks ago and i came back negative, so while it seems that i've eluded running from a damn grizzly bear, only to have run my silly ass smack dab into a lion!
I'm not losing my cool, because in a way i do want a seed, just not in this manner, not from no quickie, but from a good wife, but i guess i can toss all that aside by the looks of it.
I pray that she just trying to screw some christmas money out from under me, or something like that and that's all that this is.
She's in good spirits and so am i. Funny, because i got myself tested for hiv two weeks ago and i came back negative, so while it seems that i've eluded running from a damn grizzly bear, only to have run my silly ass smack dab into a lion!
I'm not losing my cool, because in a way i do want a seed, just not in this manner, not from no quickie, but from a good wife, but i guess i can toss all that aside by the looks of it.
I pray that she just trying to screw some christmas money out from under me, or something like that and that's all that this is.
Well said Jam, To the poster if this is indeed an accurate story and you HAVE had this happen to you before where females have tried to claim to be carrying your child and you seemingly are NOT ready to become a father maybe you should think about I don't know "strapping up"?
Yeah dude. How many times you need someone to possibly be pregnant with your kid. A condom works wonders. Now, if she really is pregnant, there's nothing you can do but wait.
1) Pulling out does not work. Pre cum: learn about it.
2) The bro didn't have enough self-control to pull over to a store and buy a rubber ahead of time and you think he has the strength of will to pull out of some trim right before he busts? C'mon...
3) He should have worn a rubber to prevent STDs, especially messing around with something strange.
But you are right about skeetin up loser ass hoes. Thats stupid beyond belief. Still, I hope the broad aint pregnant by him.
Kinfolk you gotta pull out, if you gonna hit em raw. 2-3 min ahead of time and have a jack-fest. I dont care. but, you CANNOT skeet in these loser ass hoes. guess what? you just ruined your life! if she is preggo she is gonna attatch herself to your success. .... you gonna be the "good" baby daddy... the one she been waiting on.. she is gonna wanna push the whip. she gonna try to make you watch her other kids & shit. you might be fucked homey.
I'm like, dudes is advising him on HOW TO HIT RANDOM BROADS RAW???? I know you meant well bruh but...
No wonder HIV rates are destroying the black community.
Move to Canada, Cuba, Mexico, or England. RUN Forest Run!!!!! Dont give a SSN, Birthdate, place of birth........nothing!!!!!! Break out you simp!!!
Goddammit our people are in baaaaad shape.
I know you figure it's the internet and dudes are just goofing off but still...
We GOT to do better. GOT to.
No i ain't running, why would i? That's a real bitch, punk boy move. I would love to be there for my seed. Damn, i'm here looking at these mini motorcycles to see which one i can buy him when he gets a lil older. (if it's a boy and all, God Willing) My mom & dad were the best parents to grace the face of the earth, although they were not without their flaws and misteps.
I just pray that if she is being honest and it's mine, i can step up to the plate
With the help and strength of God, i'm straight. No fear, i just want to know if it's true. I wish it was some way i could tap her phoneline to see what she's talking about, or if she is dealing with, or have dealt with some other dude and i'm being taken for a ride.
That's all.
I just pray that if she is being honest and it's mine, i can step up to the plate
With the help and strength of God, i'm straight. No fear, i just want to know if it's true. I wish it was some way i could tap her phoneline to see what she's talking about, or if she is dealing with, or have dealt with some other dude and i'm being taken for a ride.
That's all.
Allright homey I was fuckin around on the first post to see where your mind was at and what your intentions were. Really all you can do is wait, pray and soul search.
1. If she is pregnant you may wanna get the dates that she is on her period because that can give you some insight as to when she is fertile in the month and may give some insight to your dilemma.
2. Look at her relationships with her other baby daddies as that may be a guide to what you are in for if she is pregnant. If it is some shit (how they interact) you aint ready for let her know!
3. While shit is good between yall and the lines of communication are open get all of her pertinent info and an understanding of what her expectations are from you and what you expect from her.
4. Be upfront with her that you are completely surprised with the happenings.
5. Don't cause her any stress as it will undoubtedly hurt the child and leave a bad taste in her mouth.
6. Be the cat that you are if you aint cool wit some shit LET HER KNOW without drama!
7. Research the child support laws in your state and become familiar with them.
8. If the child is yours and you guys have a good relationship push her to agree in writing to never put you on child support or you guys come up with your own agreement or suggestion for the courts to consider and adhere to the agreement.
9. Approach the parenting of your child as a team.
10. Let her know without a doubt you are there for your child.
These are things to get you started on a productive path.
Now strap yo soldier up!
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lmao, you're doing a good job at making light of the situation, keep your head up bro
First, you need to do what's called a "Hail Mary." That means, you sit her down and explain to her why having your baby is a bad idea. 1) She already has two kids 2) This isn't a good financial decision for her 3) You're trying to make moves, in a couple of years your shit will be on point and you both can settle down and make a family together (this lie is important, because it will make her think you'll be around in a couple of years) 4) Offer to pay for the abortion.
2) If the hail mary doesn't work, you need to ride it out and get a paternity test as soon as she drops the baby. This does sound like some Maury Povich shit, but she chose you.
2a) If it's not yours, be out. You learned your lesson and you know to keep a box of condoms in your car from now on.
2b) If it is yours, congratulations!!! You're the father of THREE kids!!! Be ready to cash this chick out. She's on easy street, now she only has to work at the movies part-time, because your ass will be paying child support along with the other two simps to support her weed habit and getting her nails done. Smoke a cigar and get ready to dig in for 18 years. Try to see your kid as much as you can.
2) If the hail mary doesn't work, you need to ride it out and get a paternity test as soon as she drops the baby. This does sound like some Maury Povich shit, but she chose you.
2a) If it's not yours, be out. You learned your lesson and you know to keep a box of condoms in your car from now on.
2b) If it is yours, congratulations!!! You're the father of THREE kids!!! Be ready to cash this chick out. She's on easy street, now she only has to work at the movies part-time, because your ass will be paying child support along with the other two simps to support her weed habit and getting her nails done. Smoke a cigar and get ready to dig in for 18 years. Try to see your kid as much as you can.
Thanks for the replies fellas.
I keep praying that i'm going to check my voicemail and i hear that her period came down, or that she just wanted to teach me a lesson.
She's not a hoodrat, she has a real pleasant personality but she not into me, and i'm definitely not into her, which we agree on. I was lonely/horny and evidently, so was she. She not a dumb girl as she attended Morgan State University and had to leave when she got pregnant with her son. He 15, her daughter is 8.
I learned from experience never to trust a woman, as a woman is a woman. I can tell that there is something she loves about me which she thinks i can't see and yes i do believe that she sees a future/stability with me. She can see that i'm sorta vulnerable, as i'm 33, kind've attractive & with no seed.
Even if i find out she is indeed pregant, then the question remains, is it mine? Like i said, it was no struggle penetrating her, as she informed me that she hadn't been intimate in like a year, which is a b.s line that a femm is quick to put out there. It was no struggle, but maybe two kids & horniness/wetness will open a femm right up.
I mean within 5 minutes of meeting her (we went to highschool together, she graduated a year before i) she was giving me head in my car. 5 minutes?!?!?! We were right there in her apartment complex parking lot. As i recall it now, she wanted to go back in and put her kids to bed and she called me back at around 10:30pm that night. I went over there and got her (Capitol Heights/Walker Mill area) and within 10 minutes we was goinng at it, all for a total of maybe 3 minutes tops!
She had been tryning to call me after and pursue a relationship, i felt and i was igging her. I chatted with her about absolutely nothing and made our conversations real quick, as i'm not a phone person, especially if we have nothing in common.
She humbled my behind wednesday though, lol...
In my heart i feel that she is lying but what can she gain from me by doing this, as she won't see 1 damn dime from me until the baby is here. I take that back, as if she calls me for a ride somewhere, i'm there, but i'm not gonna let it go no farther than that.
I keep praying that i'm going to check my voicemail and i hear that her period came down, or that she just wanted to teach me a lesson.
She's not a hoodrat, she has a real pleasant personality but she not into me, and i'm definitely not into her, which we agree on. I was lonely/horny and evidently, so was she. She not a dumb girl as she attended Morgan State University and had to leave when she got pregnant with her son. He 15, her daughter is 8.
I learned from experience never to trust a woman, as a woman is a woman. I can tell that there is something she loves about me which she thinks i can't see and yes i do believe that she sees a future/stability with me. She can see that i'm sorta vulnerable, as i'm 33, kind've attractive & with no seed.
Even if i find out she is indeed pregant, then the question remains, is it mine? Like i said, it was no struggle penetrating her, as she informed me that she hadn't been intimate in like a year, which is a b.s line that a femm is quick to put out there. It was no struggle, but maybe two kids & horniness/wetness will open a femm right up.
I mean within 5 minutes of meeting her (we went to highschool together, she graduated a year before i) she was giving me head in my car. 5 minutes?!?!?! We were right there in her apartment complex parking lot. As i recall it now, she wanted to go back in and put her kids to bed and she called me back at around 10:30pm that night. I went over there and got her (Capitol Heights/Walker Mill area) and within 10 minutes we was goinng at it, all for a total of maybe 3 minutes tops!
She had been tryning to call me after and pursue a relationship, i felt and i was igging her. I chatted with her about absolutely nothing and made our conversations real quick, as i'm not a phone person, especially if we have nothing in common.
She humbled my behind wednesday though, lol...
In my heart i feel that she is lying but what can she gain from me by doing this, as she won't see 1 damn dime from me until the baby is here. I take that back, as if she calls me for a ride somewhere, i'm there, but i'm not gonna let it go no farther than that.
Alright man, time to just say "Thanks for the advice!" and try to use it. You're starting to contradict yourself.
Man don't let her use your obvious desire to settle down and have a family against you. That's all. Make sure that shit is yours, bottom line.
Everything else, there's great advice in the thread. Example:
We doin better.
