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YH Dafirm Diplomat

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ok, as most of you know, i am YH. always have been, always will.

now when i ask this question, it is not out of hate, but out of wonder and true confusion.



if you and a person are talking, and they do something counterproductive towards what your are working towards, and you KNOW they wrong, but they just dont seem to get it, am i justified to be upset? i mean seriously, not tryna be immature, i want a real answer to this. and if it happened to you, would you do the same thing? your responses please.
 
Ain't no lady, but I'm not above spitting...


On a warm summers evenin on a train bound for nowhere,
I met up with the gambler; we were both too tired to sleep.
So we took turns a starin out the window at the darkness
til boredom overtook us, and he began to speak.

He said, son, Ive made a life out of readin peoples faces,
And knowin what their cards were by the way they held their eyes.
So if you dont mind my sayin, I can see youre out of aces.
For a taste of your whiskey Ill give you some advice.

So I handed him my bottle and he drank down my last swallow.
Then he bummed a cigarette and asked me for a light.
And the night got deathly quiet, and his face lost all expression.
Said, if youre gonna play the game, boy, ya gotta learn to play it right.

You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.
You never count your money when youre sittin at the table.
Therell be time enough for countin when the dealins done.

Now evry gambler knows that the secret to survivin
Is knowin what to throw away and knowing what to keep.
cause evry hands a winner and evry hands a loser,
And the best that you can hope for is to die in your sleep.

So when hed finished speakin, he turned back towards the window,
Crushed out his cigarette and faded off to sleep.
And somewhere in the darkness the gambler, he broke even.
But in his final words I found an ace that I could keep.

You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.
You never count your money when youre sittin at the table.
Therell be time enough for countin when the dealins done.

You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.
You never count you r money when youre sittin at the table.
Therell be time enough for countin when the dealins done.
 
I can see being upset if was something serious...However if they dont get it...Or if they are not trying to understand why what they did is wrong-that would frustrate me. It sorta depends on the scenerio. Can you elaborate?
 
depends on if it's even worth getting upset over sometimes it's better to just ignore them and let them stay where they be and just keep on with whatever you are doing the energy you waste being upset is counterproductive to whatever you are doing as well
 
OnyxFemme said:
I can see being upset if was something serious...However if they dont get it...Or if they are not trying to understand why what they did is wrong-that would frustrate me. It sorta depends on the scenerio. Can you elaborate?
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i can't. its just one of those things that im not gonna go into. but thank you for your advice.

bigirl said:
depends on if it's even worth getting upset over sometimes it's better to just ignore them and let them stay where they be and just keep on with whatever you are doing the energy you waste being upset is counterproductive to whatever you are doing as well
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bigirl, you always been my homie. thank you.


and leroy, your response was long as hell, so i aint quoting it, but :roflmao2: you funny and right at the same time....stop tryna school me yo i feel like im behind a desk
 
I guess it would depends on what the something is and how serious the "talking" was :dunno:

I definitely think that if you are upset and you haven't spoke on it with the person you definitely should.
 
hey chi, whats gud.

as for your response, thats not happening.

im kinda steel hearted when it comes to shit like that.

its like, to be truthful, i dont trust women. i refuse to. you know me and you are tight, but as far as alot of other people, i really dont trust them. and she was really the first woman i have trusted in a long time. she broke that swiftly. she only knows of a stupid and trivial thing she did, but she doesnt know about the other things i had found out. and she tried to make it seem like she was down, when she wasnt. women wonder why they end up alone. its because of shit like that. there is no turning back, she is history. its just the fact of the matter that it went down fucked up as hell. she had her chance to speak. i didnt hear nothing from her. when the shit went down, i found out myself. and then she tried to flip it like its MY fault. fuck that. one thing im not, is stupid. so she can shove it.

but um....how yu dooooooooin? :D
 
YH Dafirm Diplomat said:
hey chi, whats gud.

as for your response, thats not happening.

im kinda steel hearted when it comes to shit like that.

its like, to be truthful, i dont trust women. i refuse to. you know me and you are tight, but as far as alot of other people, i really dont trust them. and she was really the first woman i have trusted in a long time. she broke that swiftly. she only knows of a stupid and trivial thing she did, but she doesnt know about the other things i had found out. and she tried to make it seem like she was down, when she wasnt. women wonder why they end up alone. its because of shit like that. there is no turning back, she is history. its just the fact of the matter that it went down fucked up as hell. she had her chance to speak. i didnt hear nothing from her. when the shit went down, i found out myself. and then she tried to flip it like its MY fault. fuck that. one thing im not, is stupid. so she can shove it.

but um....how yu dooooooooin? :D
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Ok I see now. Well. . .good for you not accepting bullshit.

With this situation look at it as a learning experience. . . because people like that are not uncommon. . And it's not just in relationships. . friendships too.

Just keep doing you :)


And I'm good hun. Thanks for asking ;)
 
Yo, I still feel kinda lost as to what happened YH. I think laying it all out on the table and telling us exactly what this woman did will allow us to make informed decisions and offer advice. That being said, if you feel you can't trust the person you're with, what's the point of the relationship? Anyway, drop science and folks will be able to comment on the situation...
 
Chicutie said:
Ok I see now. Well. . .good for you not accepting bullshit.

With this situation look at it as a learning experience. . . because people like that are not uncommon. . And it's not just in relationships. . friendships too.

Just keep doing you :)


And I'm good hun. Thanks for asking ;)
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thank you. i know i always got a homie in you.:)

p.s....21 now.... :lol: im still a youngn?

CT's Finest said:
Yo, I still feel kinda lost as to what happened YH. I think laying it all out on the table and telling us exactly what this woman did will allow us to make informed decisions and offer advice. That being said, if you feel you can't trust the person you're with, what's the point of the relationship? Anyway, drop science and folks will be able to comment on the situation...
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sorry ct...can't do that. even though the person fucked up, i got respect enough not to go deeper into it, even though they dont respect themselves. ima leave it where it is. and to be honest, i wasnt with them, it was like we were on a level that was like in between. where the bullshit that happened still shouldnt have. but they stuck to it, and its cool with them, so its cool wit me. but thank you for trying to help.
 
YH Dafirm Diplomat said:
thank you. i know i always got a homie in you.:)

p.s....21 now.... :lol: im still a youngn?



sorry ct...can't do that. even though the person fucked up, i got respect enough not to go deeper into it, even though they dont respect themselves. ima leave it where it is. and to be honest, i wasnt with them, it was like we were on a level that was like in between. where the bullshit that happened still shouldnt have. but they stuck to it, and its cool with them, so its cool wit me. but thank you for trying to help.
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No doubt... I respect you not wanting to put the whole thing out there. Seems like you have a good grasp on how things went down, and made a decision about what you want and don't want to deal with. That's a good thing. As I tell people, sometimes it's just as good to see/experience what we don't want in life as it is to see what we do want. If nothing else, now you at least can learn from this, and possibly recognize the same kind of activity if/when it comes around again. That could help you rid yourself of the bullshit a lot quicker than you were able to this time. Whatever the case keep doing your thing out there. Learn from this and keep it pushin'. There are plenty of good women out there who won't put you through drama...
 
YH Dafirm Diplomat said:
ok, as most of you know, i am YH. always have been, always will.

now when i ask this question, it is not out of hate, but out of wonder and true confusion.



if you and a person are talking, and they do something counterproductive towards what your are working towards, and you KNOW they wrong, but they just dont seem to get it, am i justified to be upset? i mean seriously, not tryna be immature, i want a real answer to this. and if it happened to you, would you do the same thing? your responses please.
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I am old school. It took me a LONG time to realize that you can't change people. "Not saying thats what your trying to do" The older I get the more I realize that two pople will NEVER see eye to eye. You have to pick your battles. If the person you are with is not trying to complete you then you have a choice to try and work it out or leave.

But please dont be bitter. It takes a strong person to move on without trying to get back at someone who wronged them. Trust me I know from experience. Should you be upset? Sure its natural. BUT NOT BITTER.
 
bigirl said:
a baby
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from you, i take that as a compliment :D

djpolo said:
I am old school. It took me a LONG time to realize that you can't change people. "Not saying thats what your trying to do" The older I get the more I realize that two pople will NEVER see eye to eye. You have to pick your battles. If the person you are with is not trying to complete you then you have a choice to try and work it out or leave.

But please dont be bitter. It takes a strong person to move on without trying to get back at someone who wronged them. Trust me I know from experience. Should you be upset? Sure its natural. BUT NOT BITTER.
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you know what, i was bitter when i first saw the shit go down, but after some time, i realized it just wasnt meant to be. i mean, i dont hate her, im not bitter, its just the fact that you ready to do certain things to let a woman know that she is the only one you trying to be with....then bam, some ole BULLSHIT happens. im not even pissed anymore, its just you think you know someone then they flip on you. i mean, you live and you learn. but like i said, starting over isnt hard, its the bullshit that made me start over is whats a bitch.

thanks bro, you gave me knowledge ima keep wit me.

and my shit is, women complain about men all the fucking time. i have never ever had a complaint. but i guess i just have a fucked up radar when it comes to finding that right one. when i look, i fuck up. when they come to me, i fuck up. im just like wtf now. i have alot of respect for the women that looked at this with no objections in their hearts, and helped me out.
 
Yeah I know women complain about us all the time. LOL. Their are some of us who are actually good men. You obviously are one if you let the bitterness in your heart go for her. You mentioned that you seem to attract women who are not right for you.

I felt the same way for so many years until I realized that instead of looking at the situation from the inside I looked on the outside. Doing so made me realize that I am attracting the same type of women because I am doing the same type of things in my life to attract them in the first place.

So I started trying to change myself. The thing about us men is that we want to be hard and not let a female get to our hearts. But YH you gotta let somebody in or you will be alone. Nothing wrong with being alone but if you find that special someone to share this short life with its a great feeling. Now when you do then you set yourself up to get hurt.

Lets face it when you dont care about someone who cares if they do or say something to hurt your feelings.

I always keep a small chunk of my heart for myself because getting hurt by someone is always unavoidable. That dosent mean that I expect for the relationship not to work, just cautious.

I dont live in a fantasy world of make believe. It helps me to live my life without too much drama. In other words expect what you put yourself into. For example. If you marry or get with a female who has kids expect some possible drama from the kids father and expect to take care of that womens kids as your own.

I believe in karma. If she wronged you oh trust me, it will come back to her.
 
djpolo said:
Yeah I know women complain about us all the time. LOL. Their are some of us who are actually good men. You obviously are one if you let the bitterness in your heart go for her. You mentioned that you seem to attract women who are not right for you.

I felt the same way for so many years until I realized that instead of looking at the situation from the inside I looked on the outside. Doing so made me realize that I am attracting the same type of women because I am doing the same type of things in my life to attract them in the first place.

So I started trying to change myself. The thing about us men is that we want to be hard and not let a female get to our hearts. But YH you gotta let somebody in or you will be alone. Nothing wrong with being alone but if you find that special someone to share this short life with its a great feeling. Now when you do then you set yourself up to get hurt.

Lets face it when you dont care about someone who cares if they do or say something to hurt your feelings.

I always keep a small chunk of my heart for myself because getting hurt by someone is always unavoidable. That dosent mean that I expect for the relationship not to work, just cautious.

I dont live in a fantasy world of make believe. It helps me to live my life without too much drama. In other words expect what you put yourself into. For example. If you marry or get with a female who has kids expect some possible drama from the kids father and expect to take care of that womens kids as your own.

I believe in karma. If she wronged you oh trust me, it will come back to her.
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and with that, i really got the advice i needed. real talk, alot of people are scared to be themselves on here. i can tell that was true spit. good looks playa.
 


1992...and still relevant today. :lol:

Let me clean this up a little bit ladies. I'm not saying all women are not to be trusted. But that trust has to be earned and not given off top. :cool:
 
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the timing of this thread is hilarious

umm y are yall being domestical lol

yall need to talk

and the two of you KNOW who you are


comedy

:lol::lol::lol::lol:
 

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