Just tell her you've been too busy with _________________ [fill in the blank --- school, your girlfriend, life, not bothering with little girls with emotional problems and narcisstic tendencies, not being her simp]
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Just tell her you've been too busy with _________________ [fill in the blank --- school, your girlfriend, life, not bothering with little girls with emotional problems and narcisstic tendencies, not being her simp]
LoneStar29
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Well I think you have 2 options ... if you really care then you should tell her the truth ... that you feel she is having issues with "Charles" and that you are giving her space to get over him ... if you don't care then just be like you're busy ... straight up
ok, im officially a simp.
im studying and shorty called me, i didnt pick up the phone. so she came to the room where i was studying and was talking to me and shes asked. "why didnt u pick up the phone?" i was like "im studying", so she gave me a yeah right look. so she was drunk, (lost story short).
she was telling me i should call her more often(i never do, only once) because she always calling me and texting me.
so our convo got real serious. i told her she gotta stop talking about that guy because its annoying and she needs to move on. she said shes trying to but its kinda hard and thats why she aint looking for no man. i told her she needs a man but she was like she sees no man on campus and i was like your looking at him. then she was like pop alot of syht but i need to back it up(in a good way). i was like time will tell.
i was kinda flirting with her unintentionally. so i said i liker her whole demeanor ans syht. she was like she she think im cute when i smile but she sees me as a friend. then after a few small dialoges and syht i was like "im a unique guy" shes was like "im a woman". then she was like give her a call tomorrow.
what does this mean? this kinda feel like a task or maybe a test or something. because when she said "i only see you as a friend" after she said i look cute smiling, she was like thats the time when guys back off from her.
im studying and shorty called me, i didnt pick up the phone. so she came to the room where i was studying and was talking to me and shes asked. "why didnt u pick up the phone?" i was like "im studying", so she gave me a yeah right look. so she was drunk, (lost story short).
she was telling me i should call her more often(i never do, only once) because she always calling me and texting me.
so our convo got real serious. i told her she gotta stop talking about that guy because its annoying and she needs to move on. she said shes trying to but its kinda hard and thats why she aint looking for no man. i told her she needs a man but she was like she sees no man on campus and i was like your looking at him. then she was like pop alot of syht but i need to back it up(in a good way). i was like time will tell.
i was kinda flirting with her unintentionally. so i said i liker her whole demeanor ans syht. she was like she she think im cute when i smile but she sees me as a friend. then after a few small dialoges and syht i was like "im a unique guy" shes was like "im a woman". then she was like give her a call tomorrow.
what does this mean? this kinda feel like a task or maybe a test or something. because when she said "i only see you as a friend" after she said i look cute smiling, she was like thats the time when guys back off from her.
LoneStar29
Banned
ok, im officially a simp.
im studying and shorty called me, i didnt pick up the phone. so she came to the room where i was studying and was talking to me and shes asked. "why didnt u pick up the phone?" i was like "im studying", so she gave me a yeah right look. so she was drunk, (lost story short).
she was telling me i should call her more often(i never do, only once) because she always calling me and texting me.
so our convo got real serious. i told her she gotta stop talking about that guy because its annoying and she needs to move on. she said shes trying to but its kinda hard and thats why she aint looking for no man. i told her she needs a man but she was like she sees no man on campus and i was like your looking at him. then she was like pop alot of syht but i need to back it up(in a good way). i was like time will tell.
i was kinda flirting with her unintentionally. so i said i liker her whole demeanor ans syht. she was like she she think im cute when i smile but she sees me as a friend. then after a few small dialoges and syht i was like "im a unique guy" shes was like "im a woman". then she was like give her a call tomorrow.
what does this mean? this kinda feel like a task or maybe a test or something. because when she said "i only see you as a friend" after she said i look cute smiling, she was like thats the time when guys back off from her.
OMG ...
... you are so young ... and so cute ... I love it
... your vulnerability is so genuine and sweet .. you're lucky you don't live in the T.Dot boy
I'm too drunk to think right now ... I'll hit you up in the morning for sure when I can think straight and give you some good advice ... in the meantime ... just chill homie ... you're not a simp ... you're still learning
ok, im officially a simp.
im studying and shorty called me, i didnt pick up the phone. so she came to the room where i was studying and was talking to me and shes asked. "why didnt u pick up the phone?" i was like "im studying", so she gave me a yeah right look. so she was drunk, (lost story short).
she was telling me i should call her more often(i never do, only once) because she always calling me and texting me.
so our convo got real serious. i told her she gotta stop talking about that guy because its annoying and she needs to move on. she said shes trying to but its kinda hard and thats why she aint looking for no man. i told her she needs a man but she was like she sees no man on campus and i was like your looking at him. then she was like pop alot of syht but i need to back it up(in a good way). i was like time will tell.
i was kinda flirting with her unintentionally. so i said i liker her whole demeanor ans syht. she was like she she think im cute when i smile but she sees me as a friend. then after a few small dialoges and syht i was like "im a unique guy" shes was like "im a woman". then she was like give her a call tomorrow.
what does this mean? this kinda feel like a task or maybe a test or something. because when she said "i only see you as a friend" after she said i look cute smiling, she was like thats the time when guys back off from her.
My .02 on this:
A woman will make it but so hard to let you know that she's interested....obviously you're not dealing with a woman. A female who constantly talks about an ex in another man's presence is a cardinal sin....I would have 86'd her ass after that.
Remember, not every female will fuck a dude she finds attractive. I don't know what you would like to happen between the 2 of you (my guess is you are really feeling her), but she's got u in the "Friend Zone". If I were you I would stop wasting my time telling her what type of dude I am.
My advice to you is put her at the very bottom of your to do list. Unless she's gonna straight up throw you the nana, fallback off her till you disappear from her radar.
ok, im officially a simp.
im studying and shorty called me, i didnt pick up the phone. so she came to the room where i was studying and was talking to me and shes asked. "why didnt u pick up the phone?" i was like "im studying", so she gave me a yeah right look. so she was drunk, (lost story short).
she was telling me i should call her more often(i never do, only once) because she always calling me and texting me.
so our convo got real serious. i told her she gotta stop talking about that guy because its annoying and she needs to move on. she said shes trying to but its kinda hard and thats why she aint looking for no man. i told her she needs a man but she was like she sees no man on campus and i was like your looking at him. then she was like pop alot of syht but i need to back it up(in a good way). i was like time will tell.
i was kinda flirting with her unintentionally. so i said i liker her whole demeanor ans syht. she was like she she think im cute when i smile but she sees me as a friend. then after a few small dialoges and syht i was like "im a unique guy" shes was like "im a woman". then she was like give her a call tomorrow.
what does this mean? this kinda feel like a task or maybe a test or something. because when she said "i only see you as a friend" after she said i look cute smiling, she was like thats the time when guys back off from her.
Okay, some serious talk.
1) You're not a simp -- but you're on that slippery slope.
2) You're letting her control you and it's time to get that power back.
3) Why the Hell is she seemingly always drunk? Is she using that as an excuse to say what she wants and then to elicit your sympathy?
It's good that you got serious with her, now you need to give her the ultimatum:
Tell her that if she is a "woman", she needs to sober the fuck up, and tell you straight up where the two of you are at. You do not have time for phone tag, or texting games, you have shit to do yourself, and you're ready to move the fuck on. She needs to cut the bullshit and let you know are you in or not. She needs to get over "Charles" and move on. If she gives you the "I'm confused" speech and "I'm not looking for a man now" and "But you're such a great friend" speech, say "FINE", and walk the fuck out -- MOVE THE FUCK ON --- DO NOT SPEAK TO HER, DO NOT ANSWER HER CALLS, DO NOT LET HER COME TO YOUR ROOM (except under one circumstance which I'll mention in a bit).
Hell, you sound like a cool young brother, focused on school and the future and looking for a nice lady to share it with. I'm sure that there are plenty of REAL WOMEN on campus who would be lucky to have you -- you just need to let them know you are available.
It may sound a bit harsh, it will be tough on you, and that you are losing her -- but shit, you cannot lose what you never had. It is fucking GIRLS like her that cause men to have negative opinions of all the future women they meet, they think that all women will be trifling as her.
The result? If she really "woman up" she'll come to your room (ask her specifically why she is there -- tell her she's not there to talk, you want to see some action on her part -- otherwise, tell her to get the fuck out). She'll probably throw that pussy at you so hard that the two of you will knock the walls off the dorm. Or she'll remain that girl and you can move on to other women. Hit a few parties, talk to other girls, shit hit some other pussy -- the word will get back to her quick and she'll realize what she missed -- and by that time you'll not want her trifling ass anyway.
Worst comes to worst I know where you can spend Spring Break at
Hell, I'm envious, making me want to jump on a plane myself
yeah i think im going to minimize my contact with her. but what if she thinks im avoiding her because she looked at me like a friend. because last nite she said that when guys usually stop talking to her.
i want to fall back but not too much where she gets madd or completely forget about me.
i want to fall back but not too much where she gets madd or completely forget about me.
Is the reason that you will be minimizing contact with her because she looks upon you as a friend? No? Maybe it is because (and you should tell her this), that she is acting like a FUCKING MENTAL CASE. She rationalizes the reason to avoid facing the real reason why men are avoiding her.
No, this is exactly what you should do, fall back a lot. She will have to make the choice to either be with you or to forget you. If you still try to "hang in there", then she will know she has you in her power and she has won. She will string you along forever, or until the next "nice guy" comes along, she talks to him that she is conflicted over "Mariano42", tells him that he is a "good friend", they are chill, etc.
DO YOU NOTICE A PATTERN HERE?
You can be friendly without being acting like you like her. Aint nothin wrong with talking to her sometimes but you aint spend no time with her. Just keep in touch
i see, but she always come to me, like last nite. she knocked on my door when i wasn't there then she went to the study lounge because she saw me studying through the window.
LoneStar29
Banned
Worst comes to worst I know where you can spend Spring Break at
You are a trip NoirThe funniest part is that the youngin' can't even see thatso naive and innocent ... mmmmmmm ... it actually may be a better idea he stays where he's at ... I don't wanna corrupt him or anything
And therein lies your biggest test, remaining cool, and sticking to your guns in the face of her pressure. Do not crumble, too much depends on it.
I've been there myself, don't make me start breaking out my Police/Synchronicity references
[FLASH]http://www.youtube.com/watch/v/BRoUpDON0_0[/FLASH]
Either she wants you to be more than a friend and just doesnt what to say it or she is crazy and stalking you.
Sometimes a little corruption is good
Maybe you need to drop him a bigger hint I tried to PM him, but his mailbox is full . . .LoneStar29
Banned
Sometimes a little corruption is good
I hope it's not cuz of HER
Marion I'ma hit you up later with my advice ... these enw devolpments are too much for me to handle right now
I think I'm starting to hate homegirl
and I don't even know herBut Noir was right ... this is how it starts ... men meet a girl like this and she scorns him and fucks it up for the rest of us
when i approached her she said she wanted to approach me(i think she was shy, she mentioned about me in her counciling. she told her counsiler that she anted to know me because i was soooo quiet, but i think she said more than that). but when i first met her she said she be watching me outside her window when im in the study lounge and syht
. so anytime im studying she going to come to me.i wanted to see if she was hungry, but she said she sick(hangover) and she wished she never drank last nite. i didnt respond back
.when i approached her she said she wanted to approach me(i think she was shy, she mentioned about me in her counciling. she told her counsiler that she anted to know me because i was soooo quiet, but i think she said more than that). but when i first met her she said she be watching me outside her window when im in the study lounge and syht
i wanted to see if she was hungry, but she said she sick(hangover) and she wished she never drank last nite. i didnt respond back
She is starting to sound a lil crazy. Nobody does that to just a friend. And why the hell she so drunk all the time?
Truth! I've been where you are, and in your mind you want to see things through to see if she comes around. Stop worring about her feelings, protect your feelings, cause your feelings come first. Between Crown&Coke, LoneStar and Noir there's nothing else for me to say. You know what u gotta do.
*Subs for reading entertainment later*
im not sure. she just recently started to do it. i think its because of this guy shes crazy about.
Is she just desperate for someone to talk to?
i dont think so. she talks to her friend back at home over the celly.
watch later on im going to study in the lounge and shes going to call me or make her way from her room right to me.
I dont know what to make of her. Just be friendly with her. Tell her you are tryin to stay on top of the books but dont do too much more than that
Okay, tough talk (Crown&Coke makes very good points) for you here . . .
If she approaches you or calls you, tell her that you are busy studying and that you do not need the interruption. Then tell her you are tired of the bitchy way she is acting and she needs to get her fucking life in order. Tell her that if she wants to even be in your "company", she needs to "woman up". She needs to:
1) Quit whining and bitching
2) Get serious with her counseling (I hope this is a professional psychiatrist she is seeing and not some student counselor)
3) Quit drinking and sign up for substance abuse rehabilitation as well.
Tell her not even to talk to you until she has followed those three steps.
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