Have any of ya'll ever told a guy in a relationship that you needed a "break"? What purpose do you feel the break would serve? Why would you request a break if the purpose of having a significant other is to support you through the good and bad times?
I have a question for the women
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you ladies on this side need to set up a paypal for all the advice your giving these lames. They are coming out the woodwork like roaches now with their life issues.
you ladies on this side need to set up a paypal for all the advice your giving these lames. They are coming out the woodwork like roaches now with their life issues.
...and I guess it's cool for a guy to read the threads made by other guys here so he could learn some tips n tricks on getting laid. You some gay cat that looks at the rate my penis threads.
This thread isn't based on anything I'm going through. I don't ask for advice on a forum like the frequent above me.
Hey Bro from one man to the next i had a bitch tell me that same shit. (What did i do?) I started fuckin everything mov'n fat girls ugly girls, her friends. I think we stayed together another 10 months. When they see u going crazy and really show'n yo ass they wanna go back to control'n you. I don't know the answer to yo post but don't let women phase u Bro.
Plus i'm try'n to get my post-game up
Plus i'm try'n to get my post-game up
I would assume that taking a "break" would be a time for the female to assess herself, where she wants to be at that time. Sometimes people require a certain amount of space and time to deal with things. This does not mean that they would not still accept support from the S/O. Giving them that space can also be supportive.
I could be wrong.I took a break to get myself together seperate from him. Sometimes you need that alone time or you need to see other ppl in order to fully appreciate what you have. In my case we came back stronger than ever and we haven't really had the problems that we used to. Not just because of the break though.
Hey Bro from one man to the next i had a bitch tell me that same shit. (What did i do?) I started fuckin everything mov'n fat girls ugly girls, her friends. I think we stayed together another 10 months. When they see u going crazy and really show'n yo ass they wanna go back to control'n you. I don't know the answer to yo post but don't let women phase u Bro.
Plus i'm try'n to get my post-game up
Whatever you do, don't listen to him lol
c/s Men are so stupid when it comes to this subject. Just because a woman wants a break does not mean she wants to see other men. A break gives a woman the time needed to see where she is in life and peace of mind needed to find out where she wants to go. I'm sorry but some relationships can be more like a job sometimes and that gets hard when you already have so much on your plate already. A break is not a pass to cheat but more like a vacation from that particular aspect of your life. Let her go, if she loves you she will come back to you and things will be stronger than ever.
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Then you shouldn't even be with that person if it feels like that.
Who did your sig? Those little characters near "BGOL" are nice.
LoneStar29
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you ladies on this side need to set up a paypal for all the advice your giving these lames. They are coming out the woodwork like roaches now with their life issues.
Be nice Doggish ... aint nothing wrong with asking for some advice ... personally ... I enjoy these questions cuz they open dialogue and actually have taught me a couple things too
I would think when someone wants a "break" wether it's a man or a woman it's because the relationship is too much for them at the time ... I would assume that if everything was going ok the person wouldn't want a break ... I think if you really love someone you should tough it out with them ... cuz these break I think usually lead to a fling with another person wether that was the intention or not ... if a man I'm with wants a break I'll assume the relationship is over and I'll move on to another
I used to be against taking a break in a relationship but now I feel like sometimes its necessary. If during the break you dont feel the relationship is worth it then you can let the person know and move on. It doesnt always mean a break up tho, sometimes a person just needs a lil break.
Then you shouldn't even be with that person if it feels like that.
Who did your sig? Those little characters near "BGOL" are nice.
Memphis thug did it. thanx
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LoneStar29
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But why
I would assume if everything is going ok you wouldn't need a break ... right
I can't lie...I've taken a break in a particular relationship at one point or another...why? because I was afraid to say, "no, I don't want to be with you anymore...and maybe you'll get the hint when I tell you I want a break."
This was some time ago, and I wouldn't do that now...but, yes, I think that is a large reason why women AND men ask for that break. Cause, let's be real...both males and females may ask for this in a relationship.
This was some time ago, and I wouldn't do that now...but, yes, I think that is a large reason why women AND men ask for that break. Cause, let's be real...both males and females may ask for this in a relationship.
But why
Well sometimes. Things may not be necassarily goin bad but it might be too much. Sometimes people just need personal space.
LoneStar29
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My homegirl was in a really good serious relationship with this guy a while back ... she really loved him and from what I saw it looked like he loved her too. To make a long story short he came across some personal problems that had nothing to do with her and their relationship. He told her he needed a break to get his shit together. It broke her heart cuz she was willing to tough it out with him. Needless to say she moved on and found another man ... now she is in an even better realtionship and her ex is ass out talkin' bout "I want you back" .. she said "you should have never asked for the break" so now it's his loss
It was fucked up cuz I thought they were gonna get married ... I still don't unerstand why he couldn't have had her by his side when he was going through his difficulties
It was fucked up cuz I thought they were gonna get married ... I still don't unerstand why he couldn't have had her by his side when he was going through his difficultiesMy homegirl was in a really good serious relationship with this guy a while back ... she really loved him and from what I saw it looked like he loved her too. To make a long story short he came across some personal problems that had nothing to do with her and their relationship. He told her he needed a break to get his shit together. It broke her heart cuz she was willing to tough it out with him. Needless to say she moved on and found another man ... now she is in an even better realtionship and her ex is ass out talkin' bout "I want you back" .. she said "you should have never asked for the break" so now it's his loss
Sometimes people wanna deal with things on their own first. Its messed up for him the way it happened but that one thing you also have to take into consideration when you ask for a break. You must also realize that the other person may not be there if you decide you want to be in the relationship again.
When I say I need a break, it's because I'm thisclose to dumping you but I want some time to clear my head before I give you the boot. Or it's because you're way more serious about me than I am about you, so I'm trying to distance myself.
IMO, breaks are never good.
IMO, breaks are never good.
lol for the last time...I AM NOT ASKING FOR ADVICE NOR AM I GOING THROUGH THIS WITH ANYONE NOW! lol i'm only asking because someone I know was going through this and it gave me an idea for a decent thread on here....
but in summary, people go on breaks for their own reasons, there really isn't an answer set in stone.
but in summary, people go on breaks for their own reasons, there really isn't an answer set in stone.
I'm new to this "break" thing, never done it and never will, shit, if I feel the relationship is too stressful and overbearing might as well we call it quits, no need to cry over spilled milk!
I did that whole "break" thing once. Our lives were becoming too stressful (work, school, family, etc.) and it was creeping into our relationship. We took the break so we could get ourselves back on track. It wasn't much of a break; it lasted for all of about three weeks. But we needed it to keep ourselves from driving each other crazy with the other person's issues when we had our own personal things to take care of.
I think the "breaks" come in the relationship when there isn't proper communication on both sides male and female.If either side is being burdened with things outside of the relationship, you should let your partner know whats going on instead of trying to take on everything yourself.Your partner should be willing to help find a solution so that things shouldn't be so tense, and that might be a way of avoiding things to get so hectic.
it shows a sign of weakness or being afraid to commit to a relationship if you really love that person.(depending on how serious the situation) i know i'm gonna get attacked but fuck it
Cause if i was the one to hear i need a break.. im gonna be like next..it was nice while it lasted.take care
it shows a sign of weakness or being afraid to commit to a relationship if you really love that person.(depending on how serious the situation) i know i'm gonna get attacked but fuck it
Cause if i was the one to hear i need a break.. im gonna be like next..it was nice while it lasted.take care
i learned the hard way, when a woman says i need a break, it's pretty much she's on the verge of breaking up with you. one more fuck up and she's done, speaking from experience. of course not all women are the same.
Hold it! Do you understand the shock value of throwing out the "I need a break" phrase has on a relationship? Be real here!
This goes both ways, more often than not when those words are muttered the person being spoken to is always caught off guard. If you think about it there's usually a long conversation once these words are spoken.
On the other hand, you have been pondering this over a period of time, yet you never said a word. Your mate has no clue what your thinking. So you throw those words out there and expect your mate to just sit there and say, "oh sure no problem."
Just like that he/she is expected to understand. ARE YOU FOR REAL? Your mate doesn't know whats on your mind. It comes off as possibly a major step towards a permanent breakup. The bottom line is when your on the recieving end of "I need a break" you can't help the feeling of despair. You can't help wonder what you did wrong, where did I fail?
I have a few questions on this matter. How long is this break supposed to last? What is the mate supposed to do while your taking your break? What if someone else steps in while your taking your break?
Maybe not for you. You shouldn't make generalizations.
exactly
I'm new to this "break" thing, never done it and never will, shit, if I feel the relationship is too stressful and overbearing might as well we call it quits, no need to cry over spilled milk!
Never say never. And you will cry if that milk is the most nourishing milk you've ever had but it just gives you stomach aches as of late.
I think the "breaks" come in the relationship when there isn't proper communication on both sides male and female.If either side is being burdened with things outside of the relationship, you should let your partner know whats going on instead of trying to take on everything yourself.Your partner should be willing to help find a solution so that things shouldn't be so tense, and that might be a way of avoiding things to get so hectic.
it shows a sign of weakness or being afraid to commit to a relationship if you really love that person.(depending on how serious the situation) i know i'm gonna get attacked but fuck it
Cause if i was the one to hear i need a break.. im gonna be like next..it was nice while it lasted.take care
Hold it! Do you understand the shock value of throwing out the "I need a break" phrase has on a relationship? Be real here!
This goes both ways, more often than not when those words are muttered the person being spoken to is always caught off guard. If you think about it there's usually a long conversation once these words are spoken.
On the other hand, you have been pondering this over a period of time, yet you never said a word. Your mate has no clue what your thinking. So you throw those words out there and expect your mate to just sit there and say, "oh sure no problem."
The bottom line is when your on the recieving end of "I need a break" you can't help the feeling of despair. You can't help wonder what you did wrong, where did I fail?
I have a few questions on this matter. How long is this break supposed to last? What is the mate supposed to do while your taking your break? What if someone else steps in while your taking your break?
The break lasts as long as you need it to. Both ppl should work on themselves and reflect on what is positive and negative about the relationship and see if one outweighs the other. That may be a positive. Seeing other people may make you realize what you had and send you running back.
OK your saying, "Both people should work on themselves and reflect on what is positive and negative about the relationship." Why both people when only one had the problem? Only one asked for the break. The other had done no wrong yet got blindsided by this, "I need some time to myself request." Just like Hottmixx said, "Men are so stupid when it comes to this subject." You damn right we are. Men rarely make these type request. Men don't trip like that. If the relationship is working we don't sit around thinking, "how can I screw this up?" Oh I know, I need some time or space to myself.
The break maybe positive for the one requesting it but to the other its anything but. So the thing is whatever the reason one might be to ask for a break, if its me that break better not last very long. Especially if I know I've done nothing wrong, and had been there for that person.
The problem with these request is only one person is getting what they want. To the other person they can only wonder why?
I think the "breaks" come in the relationship when there isn't proper communication on both sides male and female.If either side is being burdened with things outside of the relationship, you should let your partner know whats going on instead of trying to take on everything yourself.Your partner should be willing to help find a solution so that things shouldn't be so tense, and that might be a way of avoiding things to get so hectic.
it shows a sign of weakness or being afraid to commit to a relationship if you really love that person.(depending on how serious the situation) i know i'm gonna get attacked but fuck it
Cause if i was the one to hear i need a break.. im gonna be like next..it was nice while it lasted.take care
i gotta agree with you bro! that's what i'm experiencing right now with a man, he's showing me signs of weakness and all I ask is for him to communicate with me so i can better understand what he's going through and HOW I CAN ASSIST him so the relationship will bear fruit. it's hard when the other is not communicating effectively!
@ Harlem Angel, you're right sis, this milk is getting stale for me right now! I'm giving up.
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OK your saying, "Both people should work on themselves and reflect on what is positive and negative about the relationship." Why both people when only one had the problem? Only one asked for the break. The other had done no wrong yet got blindsided by this, "I need some time to myself request." Just like Hottmixx said, "Men are so stupid when it comes to this subject." You damn right we are. Men rarely make these type request. Men don't trip like that. If the relationship is working we don't sit around thinking, "how can I screw this up?" Oh I know, I need some time or space to myself.
The break maybe positive for the one requesting it but to the other its anything but. So the thing is whatever the reason one might be to ask for a break, if its me that break better not last very long. Especially if I know I've done nothing wrong, and had been there for that person.
The problem with these request is only one person is getting what they want. To the other person they can only wonder why?
baby, i feel you right now on this!
i'm talking to this man and i don't know where we stand, i don't know if we're on a break or we're at a crossroad or we're at a dead end, shit is so draining!
i just don't get it!
then [some] men wonder why women are so angry, not that i'm angry, but i put myself out there for him and he's not reciprocating, that makes me feel like a fool to even try anymore!
OK your saying, "Both people should work on themselves and reflect on what is positive and negative about the relationship." Why both people when only one had the problem? Only one asked for the break. The other had done no wrong yet got blindsided by this, "I need some time to myself request." Just like Hottmixx said, "Men are so stupid when it comes to this subject." You damn right we are.
Men rarely make these type request. Men don't trip like that. If the relationship is working we don't sit around thinking, "how can I screw this up?" Oh I know, I need some time or space to myself.
The break maybe positive for the one requesting it but to the other its anything but. So the thing is whatever the reason one might be to ask for a break, if its me that break better not last very long. Especially if I know I've done nothing wrong, and had been there for that person.
The problem with these request is only one person is getting what they want. To the other person they can only wonder why?
spunx that doesnt sound like a fruitful relationship at all. its not worth it if youre giving 100% and he's giving 25% you already lived through it now learn from it and move onca
communication, honesty and respect is vital..(and good sex)
communication, honesty and respect is vital..(and good sex)
OK your saying, "Both people should work on themselves and reflect on what is positive and negative about the relationship." Why both people when only one had the problem? Only one asked for the break. The other had done no wrong yet got blindsided by this, "I need some time to myself request." Just like Hottmixx said, "Men are so stupid when it comes to this subject." You damn right we are. Men rarely make these type request. Men don't trip like that. If the relationship is working we don't sit around thinking, "how can I screw this up?" Oh I know, I need some time or space to myself.
The break maybe positive for the one requesting it but to the other its anything but. So the thing is whatever the reason one might be to ask for a break, if its me that break better not last very long. Especially if I know I've done nothing wrong, and had been there for that person.
The problem with these request is only one person is getting what they want. To the other person they can only wonder why?
There should be communication as to why you guys are on a break in the first place. Then while you're on this break the other person can think about whether they want to be in this relationship anyway or what they want to do to fix the relationship when they get back together.
PS. What you do is not necessarily what all men do.
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