I guess I said something wrong...

[actinanass]

As some of you know, I just got out of a relationship about a couple of months, or so. I'd admit that I was in love with my ex, and it took me sometime to get my mind right about dating again. There was this chick on my facebook that was fairly attractive. However, she always complain about "no good dudes this", and "no good dudes that". That's the only thing she actually post on her wall. I know, red flag right? I'm a type of dude who likes a little challenge, and I look at myself as an above-average good dude. So, I'm like.....WHAT THE HELL, might as well try to date the black chick that's trying to be in a relationship, yet can't find a "good" dude.

Fast forward to monday, we went on a date. Shit was cool, we drank, bowl, had good discussions, hell everything a good date can have. We both agree that we wanted to have another date. So, me, being the good cancer, ask her have she ever went to a mavs game. She agreed that she wanted to do that, and if I could her bday is next week. So, she is basically telling me to take her to the game next week. Hell, I wanted that because the mavs play the Lakers next week. I bought some tickets off stubhub.com, we continued to talk about real shit throughout the week.

Fast forward to last night, as anyone on here know I like to enjoy myself. I might crack a joke every now and then. With that being said, yesterday evening, she was on facebook. Me and her been joking all day about random shit. So, I fb message her "ole facebook ass nigga" as a joke. Then, I started to talk about the game, and if she had any mavs gear she is going to rock, ect. She stopped the whole conversation because of that comment I said at the beginning. Had my ass confused because she has said far worst joking wise, and I've said far worst things *in my mind*. She went off to a point where she ask if I can get my money back for the tickets. Of course, I'm not taking back the tickets. So, if she don't wanna go because of something like that, then I have an extra ticket to the mavs vs lakers game......

 

[doggish_098]

the games children play...

 

[actinanass]

the games children play...

oh look there's serious eagles fan!!

Childish or not..... That shit wasn't a big deal in the grand scheme of things...

 

[doggish_098]

oh look there's serious eagles fan!!

Childish or not..... That shit wasn't a big deal in the grand scheme of things...

it is like playing poker sometimes you read the cards wrong and lose a lot of money. you read her wrong and said something you and i may have found as small but it offended her. Say fuck it move on if she still wants to go to the game fine if she dont that is fine too.

btw how much those tickets set you back?

 

[actinanass]

it is like playing poker sometimes you read the cards wrong and lose a lot of money. you read her wrong and said something you and i may have found as small but it offended her. Say fuck it move on if she still wants to go to the game fine if she dont that is fine too.

btw how much those tickets set you back?

around 150

I agree with you on that end about me reading her wrong. Just like some cat said on the mainboard, she might just be making a situation big to test me. Therefore, that's why I would probably go with my kinfolk anyway. *well let her know that if she asked*

 

[Upgrade Dave]

around 150

I agree with you on that end about me reading her wrong. Just like some cat said on the mainboard, she might just be making a situation big to test me. Therefore, that's why I would probably go with my kinfolk anyway. *well let her know that if she asked*

Good move. Keep rolling.


Of course you will join the "Sorry Ass Nigga" Club, in her mind and everyone who she tells her version of the story to.

 

[actinanass]

Good move. Keep rolling.


Of course you will join the "Sorry Ass Nigga" Club, in her mind and everyone who she tells her version of the story to.

She got to next Wednesday to get her mind right....

 

[Crown&Coke]

Dont even worry about that. . . . .She is just playing a game and overreacting about nothin. I would just keep it moving and not worry about her​

 

[DeSiRe]

she clearly wasnt ready...

some girls do use silly reasons to dip...but it was another reason to begin with

but actin...u do know u have a tendency to say assholish shit...even with the nicest intentions

 

[greygoose]

Im telling, you...guy...she aint "the one".

.......so dont waste your time.

An interaction with a decent woman who could be "the one" would have gone like this:
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Brawd: "actinanass, you offended me with that "nigga" comment"

Actinanass: "Oh shit, I didnt know. Im sorry"

Brawd: "Thats cool, so are we still good on the game?"


Actinanass: "picking you up at 9"

-----------------------------------

Man, I have been with my current girl over a year....ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEMS

Comparing her to my ex is like night and day....seriously.

Never had an argument....NEVER

She steps on my toes...I tell her...she apologizes...and then we move on cracking jokes

(men...we have to let these women know when they offend us..we HAVE TO..we have to make women culpable for their mishaps...thats a very important ingredient in a good relationship)

I step on her toes...she tells me...I apologize...and then we move on cracking jokes.

Man, follow your instincts, but DONT waste your time

i dont know exactly what transpired between OP and the woman, but communication is key. talk about whats bothering you offer a solution (or a solution is offered) and you keep it going. it shouldnt happen again.

 

[PrettyToney]

Got to next Wednesday?

You are putting the ball in her court.

Never do that with women.

Men are so used to women complaining about our behavior that we believe that we are wrong even when we are not!

She overreacted not you.

I tell you what...I used to be the same way.

You tell that broad that you sold her ticket and that you went alone.

or

You tell her that she owes you the money for the ticket.

Im telling, you...guy...she aint "the one".

.......so dont waste your time.

An interaction with a decent woman who could be "the one" would have gone like this:
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Brawd: "actinanass, you offended me with that "nigga" comment"

Actinanass: "Oh shit, I didnt know. Im sorry"

Brawd: "Thats cool, so are we still good on the game?"


Actinanass: "picking you up at 9"

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Man, I have been with my current girl over a year....ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEMS

Comparing her to my ex is like night and day....seriously.

Never had an argument....NEVER

She steps on my toes...I tell her...she apologizes...and then we move on cracking jokes

(men...we have to let these women know when they offend us..we HAVE TO..we have to make women culpable for their mishaps...thats a very important ingredient in a good relationship)

I step on her toes...she tells me...I apologize...and then we move on cracking jokes.

Man, follow your instincts, but DONT waste your time

COSIGN...u gotta look at it like, "this bitch is lucky for me to even consider takin her to a Mavs game" And now she wants to come w/ that bullshit? When you tell her that you sold the tickets or went w/ someone else, she'll respect the shit outta you for not puttin up w/ her shit.

 

[actinanass]

COSIGN...u gotta look at it like, "this bitch is lucky for me to even consider takin her to a Mavs game" And now she wants to come w/ that bullshit? When you tell her that you sold the tickets or went w/ someone else, she'll respect the shit outta you for not puttin up w/ her shit.

more than likely me and my kinfolk will be going. I'm not about to deal with her bullshit...

 

[Cleopatra_J]

She is definitely over reacting for what you've said... I agree with this:

Brawd: "actinanass, you offended me with that "nigga" comment"

Actinanass: "Oh shit, I didnt know. Im sorry"

Brawd: "Thats cool, so are we still good on the game?"


Actinanass: "picking you up at 9"

I hate when people make a big deal outta nothing.

 

[owl]

When was the last time you two talked/chatted? Did you communicate that you felt she was overreacting(in whatever "smooth" or euphemistic terms necessary)? Did you ask her exactly what was offensive about the comment? Did you ask her was the cognitive dissonance created by actually being an "above-average good guy" going to cause her to continue to look for support for her belief that "there are no good men" in you?

Eh...just some thoughts that came to my mind while perusing this thread...

anyphuck...

enjoy the game...

 

[actinanass]

Last night she called me, and we talked about that situation *reluctantly*. It was a case where she took something I type to a whole different level. That's the problem I have with making jokes via facebook/texting like that. I explain what I meant, she chuckled a little bit *yet still trying to be mad...I don't get women sometimes*, and we had a good convo after that.

As for sensitivity, hell yea she is way too sensitive to little things. Right now, I'm trying to figure out if that's bad, or good.....

 

[SoopamanLuva]

Women will do that sometimes. I can say something to my wife in a joking manner and she dont pick up on all the time and think im serious. It just seemed like yall needed some clarity to the situation. Or it could be what awol said. You messing up her notion that there are no good men left so shes trying to turn you into a bad one to support her belief rather than change her belief

 

[ThreeStacks]

because she has said far worst joking wise

i never understood that about females



they can dish it out but cant take it

and they say us cancers are sensitive

 

[actinanass]

i never understood that about females



they can dish it out but cant take it

and they say us cancers are sensitive

lol thats what they say...

 

[Mr MajestiK]

She got to next Wednesday to get her mind right....

Terminate that shit and go with kinfolk.

If she's gonna trip over something like that then you're better off rolling with fam.

Next time, be a lot more tactful.

 

[actinanass]

Terminate that shit and go with kinfolk.

If she's gonna trip over something like that then you're better off rolling with fam.

Next time, be a lot more tactful.

its hard to be tactful when someone is uber-sensitive..

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Dude.

All she is doing is setting precident. That's all. She wants to see if you will back down from her when she is pissed. She know you got those tickets and in her mind you bought that ticket for her and only her and you have no intention of going with anybody else so now that you have so called pissed her off she wants to see how far you will go to make it right with her.

Shit is classic.

What I would do is ask her point blank if she is still going and if she's not tell her that you will take somebody else. Don't tell her who even if she asks but tell her you will make other plans. Get that shit off of you and throw it back to her. She's not sensitive at all she is damn smart if you ask me. Don't fall for it.

 

[BlackSmurf]

this is very simple .... you were being too nice from jump and it. turned her off... also you were to transparent in you intensions.... women are not logical so the don't respond the the way we think they should to things we have done that are nice.

women want to be unsure, off balance, insecure , anxiouse all the things we as men hate to be.... lol make sure she feels those things and ur in

 

[actinanass]

*update*

I took one of my female friends to the game. We had a good ass time.....

When I canceled with ole girl, she act like I was suppose to ignore everything she was doing. It was fucking surreal how she couldn't just chilled out. On her facebook, she was talking in subliminals about me being "ain't shit" which was kinda funny. BTW, Dallas beat that ass.....

 

[Firefox]

*update*

I took one of my female friends to the game. We had a good ass time.....

When I canceled with ole girl, she act like I was suppose to ignore everything she was doing. It was fucking surreal how she couldn't just chilled out. On her facebook, she was talking in subliminals about me being "ain't shit" which was kinda funny. BTW, Dallas beat that ass.....

Good shit homie.

 

[ThreeStacks]

It was fucking surreal how she couldn't just chilled out. On her facebook, she was talking in subliminals about me being "ain't shit" which was kinda funny.

fcking subliminals message .. That's shit it so funny

 

[Upgrade Dave]

*update*

I took one of my female friends to the game. We had a good ass time.....

When I canceled with ole girl, she act like I was suppose to ignore everything she was doing. It was fucking surreal how she couldn't just chilled out. On her facebook, she was talking in subliminals about me being "ain't shit" which was kinda funny. BTW, Dallas beat that ass.....

I told you.

 

[dHustla]

As some of you know, I just got out of a relationship about a couple of months, or so. I'd admit that I was in love with my ex, and it took me sometime to get my mind right about dating again. There was this chick on my facebook that was fairly attractive. However, she always complain about "no good dudes this", and "no good dudes that". That's the only thing she actually post on her wall. I know, red flag right? I'm a type of dude who likes a little challenge, and I look at myself as an above-average good dude. So, I'm like.....WHAT THE HELL, might as well try to date the black chick that's trying to be in a relationship, yet can't find a "good" dude.

Fast forward to monday, we went on a date. Shit was cool, we drank, bowl, had good discussions, hell everything a good date can have. We both agree that we wanted to have another date. So, me, being the good cancer, ask her have she ever went to a mavs game. She agreed that she wanted to do that, and if I could her bday is next week. So, she is basically telling me to take her to the game next week. Hell, I wanted that because the mavs play the Lakers next week. I bought some tickets off stubhub.com, we continued to talk about real shit throughout the week.

Fast forward to last night, as anyone on here know I like to enjoy myself. I might crack a joke every now and then. With that being said, yesterday evening, she was on facebook. Me and her been joking all day about random shit. So, I fb message her "ole facebook ass nigga" as a joke. Then, I started to talk about the game, and if she had any mavs gear she is going to rock, ect. She stopped the whole conversation because of that comment I said at the beginning. Had my ass confused because she has said far worst joking wise, and I've said far worst things *in my mind*. She went off to a point where she ask if I can get my money back for the tickets. Of course, I'm not taking back the tickets. So, if she don't wanna go because of something like that, then I have an extra ticket to the mavs vs lakers game......

she clearly wasnt ready...

some girls do use silly reasons to dip...but it was another reason to begin with

but actin...u do know u have a tendency to say assholish shit...even with the nicest intentions

I think I do, too.

Finna make a thread about it..like to see? Hea' it go!