I got love for the dark skinned sisters...

[Mo-Better]

My question is when are we going to stop judging (black only) others based on something as superficial as skin color. This mentality dates back to the 1800s. It's time to wake up.

It’s not about a person’s skin color it’s about their character. Who they are, where have they been and where are they going. Give me a woman who's responsible, can carry an intelligent conversation with me and others and love me the way I need to be loved. I’m good!

I have never closed my mind to anyone based on their skin tone. You may miss out on someone very special because their skin tone wasn’t what you wanted.

 

[followup]

My question is when are we going to stop judging (black only) others based on something as superficial as skin color. This mentality dates back to the 1800s. It's time to wake up.

It’s not about a person’s skin color it’s about their character. Who they are, where have they been and where are they going. Give me a woman who's responsible, can carry an intelligent conversation with me and others and love me the way I need to be loved. I’m good!

I have never closed my mind to anyone based on their skin tone. You may miss out on someone very special because their skin tone wasn’t what you wanted.

But what if their skin color truly turns you off? I mean serioiusly, I need to be attracted to a man and I prefer brown to burnt toast skin color Can't help what I'm attracted to

 

[jucurious]

But what if their skin color truly turns you off? I mean serioiusly, I need to be attracted to a man and I prefer brown to burnt toast skin color Can't help what I'm attracted to

that is a strong statement follow...damn

what exactly about that person's skin tone turns you off?

for some reason i imagined you sitting on a stage of a dating show and you were vibin with a guy and he came from behind the wall and he was light skin and your response turned from to to and you said "yuck your light" lol:...yeah i have a wild imagination)

 

[Crown&Coke]

But what if their skin color truly turns you off? I mean serioiusly, I need to be attracted to a man and I prefer brown to burnt toast skin color Can't help what I'm attracted to

What reason do you have to prefer that skin color other than something superficial?​

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

damn I must be real high.... a blunt post making absolute sense...

I got some goooooood shyt!!!


and who cares what folks think, I also prefer the chocolate deluxe honey dipsies,

but if someone prefers redbones or white girls, I consider that less competition...

though I dont have to compete... heh heh heh... fo real bitchs!!!

 

[followup]

that is a strong statement follow...damn

what exactly about that person's skin tone turns you off?

for some reason i imagined you sitting on a stage of a dating show and you were vibin with a guy and he came from behind the wall and he was light skin and your response turned from to to and you said "yuck your light" lol:...yeah i have a wild imagination)

I don't know. But definitely it's not my preference. Not saying it would never happen cuz there are plenty of good fair skinned men around.

What reason do you have to prefer that skin color other than something superficial?​

No real reason man. That's like asking "Why do people find Halle Berry to be beautiful and Whoopi Goldberg to be ugly?" Or "Why do people think that Charlize Theron is beautiful and Jewel isn't?". It's just the way it is. There is no objective or scientific way to define beauty or preferences.

 

[Mo-Better]

But what if their skin color truly turns you off? I mean serioiusly, I need to be attracted to a man and I prefer brown to burnt toast skin color Can't help what I'm attracted to

Why would someone's skin tone be a total turnoff? I'm not saying one should not have a preference. We all have preferences but to dismiss someone without getting to know them I feel is wrong. The one your most attracted to maybe the one who dogs you and shows you no respect.

Whereas the one you dismissed because of skin tone might've been the one who had your best interest at heart. But you would never find that out because you viewed his light skin was a turn off. All I'm saying is give a guy a chance.

 

[Crown&Coke]

I don't know. But definitely it's not my preference. Not saying it would never happen cuz there are plenty of good fair skinned men around.


No real reason man. That's like asking "Why do people find Halle Berry to be beautiful and Whoopi Goldberg to be ugly?" Or "Why do people think that Charlize Theron is beautiful and Jewel isn't?". It's just the way it is. There is no objective or scientific way to define beauty or preferences.

So what if you found a good guy who had all the qualities you wanted except he was light skinned?​

 

[followup]

Why would someone's skin tone be a total turnoff? I'm not saying one should not have a preference. We all have preferences but to dismiss someone without getting to know them I feel is wrong. The one your most attracted to maybe the one who dogs you and shows you no respect.

Whereas the one you dismissed because of skin tone might've been the one who had your best interest at heart. But you would never find that out because you viewed his light skin was a turn off. All I'm saying is give a guy a chance.

So what if you found a good guy who had all the qualities you wanted except he was light skinned?​

I don't think I'll ever get the chance to find out Just about off the market for good. I like to think that I would give the guy a chance.

 

[Crown&Coke]

I don't think I'll ever get the chance to find out Just about off the market for good. I like to think that I would give the guy a chance.

Soooooo.........the topaz and sniper rifle finally worked for you huh?
​

 

[followup]

Soooooo.........the topaz and sniper rifle finally worked for you huh?
​

Boy you know that's just for show on Xat I got other tools offline. Dang that was so funny. I'll always have my memories

 

[Crown&Coke]

Boy you know that's just for show on Xat I got other tools offline. Dang that was so funny. I'll always have my memories

XAT MAFIA
​

 

[LeroyDibiase]

First, I'd like to state that people (especially women) only get mad when a man prefers a lighter-skinned woman. What about the reverse??

The only reason some of us are color struck is because we live in America and are brainwashed by the European standard of beauty. If we all stayed in Africa and Europeans weren't fuckin' with us, we would more than likely all be a shade of brown. Do you think that black men would go without pussy just because they couldn't find a light-skinned chick? Hell no, they would fuck around with the only thing they had available....a dark-skinned chick.

Ok, but I prefer a darker-skinned woman, so I'm colorstruck too??? Fucking has nothing to do with a preference. I don't think anyone would not have sex with a beautiful woman if she was a lighter or darker tone.

My question is when are we going to stop judging (black only) others based on something as superficial as skin color. This mentality dates back to the 1800s. It's time to wake up.

It’s not about a person’s skin color it’s about their character. Who they are, where have they been and where are they going. Give me a woman who's responsible, can carry an intelligent conversation with me and others and love me the way I need to be loved. I’m good!

I have never closed my mind to anyone based on their skin tone. You may miss out on someone very special because their skin tone wasn’t what you wanted.

When will be stop judging other based on something as superficial as weight (or income or job or car driven or clothes worn or hairstyle or breast size or ass size). Its time to wake up. See how that works. It's a preference. Just like all the other things I listed are preferences. We are human. We have them. This one just like all the others. Yeah, personality is great, but you tell me you walk up to unattractive women and try to get to know them???

 

[Blunt]

It's a preference. Just like all the other things I listed are preferences. We are human. We have them. This one just like all the others. Yeah, personality is great, but you tell me you walk up to unattractive women and try to get to know them???

But what makes skin tone the root of the UNattractiveness?? That seems silly. It's not skin tone that makes certain woman attractive or unnattractive, and yet (mostly black) folks tend to link that factor in with the overall look (whether positively or negatively).

Whoopi Goldberg has been used as an example of unnattractiveness here, even though she's had no shortage of male companions, but whatever it is that makes her seem unnattrractive to some has nothing to do with her skin color. It's obviously her other features. Using skin tone is just a shortcut when in fact it's about lots of other things. If you're predisposed to dislike dark women you'll use the "ugliest-featured" one as an example, rather than the most beautiful. Likewise with light skin haters.

In other words, be honest about the whole facial package when voicing a preferance for light or dark skin.

 

[Mo-Better]

I don't know. But definitely it's not my preference. Not saying it would never happen cuz there are plenty of good fair skinned men around.


No real reason man. That's like asking "Why do people find Halle Berry to be beautiful and Whoopi Goldberg to be ugly?" Or "Why do people think that Charlize Theron is beautiful and Jewel isn't?". It's just the way it is. There is no objective or scientific way to define beauty or preferences.

@ "Why do people find Halle Berry to be beautiful and Whoopi Goldberg to be ugly?"

I wouldn't call Whoopi ugly but lets be real if neither were famous and you saw the 2 in a club who would you first ask out? Whoopi doesn't work at her looks, Hallie obviously cares about how she looks so Hallie gets the nod.

But I hear what your saying however I still feel judging black people by the color of their skin is wrong but to each his/her own.

 

[Blunt]

I wouldn't call Whoopi ugly but lets be real if neither were famous and you saw the 2 in a club who would you first ask out? Whoopi doesn't work at her looks, Hallie obviously cares about how she looks so Hallie gets the nod.

"Caring" about looks has nothing to do with it. One is conventionally attractive and the other isn't. Skin tone isn't anywhere close to the deciding factor between those two.

Which proves my point. People compare apples and oranges and then conclude that SKIN TONE is the difference.

 

[followup]

Excuse you, I was using subjective beauty as an example between Whoopi & Halle--NOT skin tone. Same with Charlize & Jewel.

 

[Blunt]

Excuse you, I was using subjective beauty as an example between Whoopi & Halle--NOT skin tone. Same with Charlize & Jewel.

The previous poster wasn't. He used them as examples of dark and light, and mentioned "working at [their] looks," as if Whoopi could ever look like Halle. They're fundamentally different (skin color aside).

 

[APOPHIS]

Where have you been? We NEED you around these parts

Managing my time, finances, and personal life carefully.
BGOL isn't exactly making me any richer.

 

[followup]

Managing my time, finances, and personal life carefully.
BGOL isn't exactly making me any richer.

I can understand that for real

 

[TheIntelCritic]

Before we delve any further into this topic, something needs to be understood here:


The dark/light skin complex was inherited and passed down through slavery, and it still functions well today.

If we hate each other (as black people), we hate ourselves. We are all black, no matter what shade you are. When we hate each other, or hate the way we look, there can be no unity. If you cannot unite, you can't mobilize. If you can't mobilize, then you certainly can't make a difference pertaining to the things that matter most; life, love, equitable opportunity, and happiness. And trust me, there's a whole lot more to list. The list is long. But there are plenty of things out there that warrant more attention than skin color.

The dark/light skin complex is akin to the "house ******/field ****** paradigm.

The field ****** hated the house ******, because the house ****** didn't have to work as laboriously outdoors as the field ****** had to work indoors. The house ******, content with their position (but still a slave) began to feel like they were superior to the field ******, because they didn't have field ****** duties. The slave master upheld the tension, because divided ******s are conquered ******s.

The dark skin/light skin nonsense is bullshit, but above all, it's disheartening. I've met dark skinned women who only want to date light skinned men because they don't want to have a dark skinned child, WTF? This is self hate at it's worst.

Light skinned people who only date other light skinned people, because they want to ensure that they don't have a dark skinned child, again WTF? This is more self-hate, because we are all black. And no matter how you slice it at the end of the day, the white man is still going to look at you like a ******, no matter what shade you are.

This one goes out to all of you that suffer from the color complex, either way: stop hating yourself. You want to call it preference, but it's self hate.

I've dated the spectrum of color, light, dark, brown women, etc., and I've never looked at color as a prerequisite for interest. Stop the nonsense.

 

[Blunt]

The dark skin/light skin nonsense is bullshit, but above all, it's disheartening. I've met dark skinned women who only want to date light skinned men because they don't want to have a dark skinned child, WTF? This is self hate at it's worst.

That seems more like a legitimate survival tactic than an example of "self-hate," if one believes that a parent is gonna try to look out for the best interests of her child (whether sociologically misguided or not).

The term "self-hate" is thrown around way too easily, and usually for the wrong things. Downplaying education or encouraging violence is far more about "self-hate" than simply trying to negotiate real world "color" issues or dying your hair blonde.