I Got A Question For The Ladies Of S.O.L

[jaykross]

I dont start to many threads but for the last few weeks somthing has been on my mind.

I have not long come out of a relationship and when I look back on it and other relationships I have had I notice these little things about how women act in a relationship.

Now my ex when I was with her I found on her computer some convo's she had with her ex mans before me and they were really sexully motivated talks, now when I asked her about it and thing she aplogised and I forgave her and thru out the relationship I forgave her for things that she did which upset me.

Now I am not saying im a perfect man before any one trys jumping up on here trying to say I am acting like I am. But I made one mastake (which was not cheating before you think that) it was a argument we had over somthing stupid and we ended up splitting up. Now I really liked this women and thought there might be a future but she didnt want to forgive me for this one little mastake and we havn't spoke sense.

SO my question to the ladies of s.o.l is why is it you have double standards diffrent expectations or rules for yourself and expect your partner to forgive you for minor thing's that you have done thru the relationship but you stay mad at your man when he dose somthing that has no repucsions to the relationship yet you dont forgive him and want to stay mad????

Thanks for any answers.

Guys feel free to jump in if you think the same thing.

 

[b0010100]

forgiveness isn't reciprocal. You can't expect someone to forgive you. they'll forgive you if they can. some shit is unforgivable to one person and considered nothing to the next person.

just because you have forgiven somebody doesn't mean they appreciate it or will forgive you the next time you make a mistake.




everybody has double standards. nobody sees themselves as the consummate villain. What you call a "mistake" on your part she probably perceived as you exacting cold and callous revenge for "simple mistakes" she had made and apologized for in the past.


forgiveness is a gift, you cannot demand it from anyone, if you get it value it.

 

[thighsneyez22]

the first response is on point...but honestly since its the internet... nobody knows who you are... its hard to give advice unless you know specifically what you are advising...what specifically did u do to her?

 

[jaykross]

the first response is on point...but honestly since its the internet... nobody knows who you are... its hard to give advice unless you know specifically what you are advising...what specifically did u do to her?

She wanted to have sex in front of one of my friends and her man and I said no. and we argued about it and i just ended up saying fuck this shit and walking out.

 

[jaykross]

forgiveness isn't reciprocal. You can't expect someone to forgive you. they'll forgive you if they can. some shit is unforgivable to one person and considered nothing to the next person.

just because you have forgiven somebody doesn't mean they appreciate it or will forgive you the next time you make a mistake.




everybody has double standards. nobody sees themselves as the consummate villain. What you call a "mistake" on your part she probably perceived as you exacting cold and callous revenge for "simple mistakes" she had made and apologized for in the past.




forgiveness is a gift, you cannot demand it from anyone, if you get it value it.

Ok thanks for your input

 

[DigitalAngel2007]

Do you know how hard it is to read through all those typos

 

[JofromthaNO]

She wanted to have sex in front of one of my friends and her man and I said no. and we argued about it and i just ended up saying fuck this shit and walking out.

I can understand you feeling totally blown about that! I know that, even though I consider myself a "freak," I would never consider that option and talk about something like that with my boyfriend. He is not into things like that, but neither am I. A huge part of it is knowing your partner's limits. She should have known something like that would have not be cool with you, and that you would take it hard.

 

[jaykross]

Do you know how hard it is to read through all those typos

for the last time yeah im dyslexic so sue me.

 

[thighsneyez22]

She wanted to have sex in front of one of my friends and her man and I said no. and we argued about it and i just ended up saying fuck this shit and walking out.

thats what i call sexually incompatible...

dont bellyache over it...it would have costed a lot more serious problems down the road when she couldnt have gotten her freak on the way she liked ... she would have blamed it on you...

for now accept what has happened and pray to god that she remembers what you guys had and will at some point ask you watch or join in with her new exploit...lol

 

[outlaw]

for the last time yeah im dyslexic so sue me.

well type your next response in microsoft word before you submit it here

j/k bro

 

[thetipisthick]

wow so you feel you made a mistake my not giving your woman the opportunity to get a foursome started you think you would feel better remembering her with her girlfriend's man's dick in her mouth cause that was what she was trying to get started just move on to the next chick man fuck that ho

 

[puertorock2005]

I dont start to many threads but for the last few weeks somthing has been on my mind.

I have not long come out of a relationship and when I look back on it and other relationships I have had I notice these little things about how women act in a relationship.

Now my ex when I was with her I found on her computer some convo's she had with her ex mans before me and they were really sexully motivated talks, now when I asked her about it and thing she aplogised and I forgave her and thru out the relationship I forgave her for things that she did which upset me.

Now I am not saying im a perfect man before any one trys jumping up on here trying to say I am acting like I am. But I made one mastake (which was not cheating before you think that) it was a argument we had over somthing stupid and we ended up splitting up. Now I really liked this women and thought there might be a future but she didnt want to forgive me for this one little mastake and we havn't spoke sense.

SO my question to the ladies of s.o.l is why is it you have double standards diffrent expectations or rules for yourself and expect your partner to forgive you for minor thing's that you have done thru the relationship but you stay mad at your man when he dose somthing that has no repucsions to the relationship yet you dont forgive him and want to stay mad????

Thanks for any answers.

Guys feel free to jump in if you think the same thing.

damn, that has to be thee dumbest shit I've ever heard. Damn, nigga did you just graduate eighth grade or something? seriously asking stupid question like this with the hoes that watch porn on here is not a good look. Seriously.

 

[DigitalAngel2007]

damn, that has to be thee dumbest shit I've ever heard. Damn, nigga did you just graduate eighth grade or something? seriously asking stupid question like this with the hoes that watch porn on here is not a good look. Seriously.

 

[KillaKookie]

Sounds like she did you a favor. You catch her talking freaky to her ex and other things that you did not specify then she tops all of that off by asking you for a foursome with your friend.

She doesn't seem like she is lookinfg for something serious and if she is it is with someone featured on HBO's Real Sex.

 

[lilsexii]

Sounds like she did you a favor.

Co-sign.

True - forgiveness isn't reciprocal, but one would think that someone in a relationship would want to give as much as they get - try to understand just like they want to be understood. She didn' know where to draw the line with her ex's (only the ones who can respect your current situation should remain friends). Then on top of ALL that, she didn't respect you or your limits?!? You're good, trust.