I don't expect to get much response from the men on this...

[Izayoi]

yeah...I believe in love. Most people can't comprehend love so they don't believe in it. The reason most can't is because with love one has to be in the state of ultimate vulnerability and complete courage. Who want to be in that state, most can't bear their all to a boyfriend/girlfriend. I see all the time, people develop some self-image when their in different relationships. You have to bear your soul (ultimate vulnerability) in the relationship to ever discover love and that takes complete courage.

Yes, theirs different forms of love. Loving someone would be under family/friends. And of course being love could mean two things such as in a relationship between a man and women or to live love (Like the representation of Jesus in the Gospel of John).

People have murdered love and replaced it with objectification and rather satify their ego. But love will return again the only question is will we kill it to continue with what we know...peace

C/S Excellent excellent post/

 

[Blu Diablo]

Men aren't nearly the creatures of emotion that women are and love being emotionally based makes it fall more within woman's realm of expression, but here's my take Femme:

What do you guys think "love" means?

Love will mean different things to different people. The concept of love to me is generally what we draw on from the practical experience of growing up. It's the way that your family and true friends have treated you during your life and how you treat them in response. Love for most guys wasn't sold to them in a romance novel or a romantic movie. True unconditional love (again imho) is what you see between a parent and child (in most cases...because there are always exceptions). How a person loves you and how you perceive that love can be and is often two very different things based on both parties concept of love.

Do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being "in love"?

Not really but love does vary in emotional degree if that what the term "in love" means. Everyone that you love should hold equal importance although you do love differently. A romantic love would obviously differ from a familial love because there are different factors that create that love.

What behaviors do you think 2 people who are in love should exhibit, if any?

There are no set behaviors. If you truly love someone you love them for who they are flaws and all. If a persons flaws truly rub you the wrong way to the point that you can't overlook them then you should probably question whether you love this person or just like them a lot.

And does love force you to have expectations and obligations.

The only real obligation to love should be reciprocation, but even that shouldn't be demanded because real love doesn't require demands, expectation or obligation. Love is always and should always be a voluntary act on all parts, anytime you attempt to force love you are setting a situation up for failure.

Do you even believe in love?

Yes