I don't expect to get much response from the men on this...

[lilsexii]

Love, as most people know it, is simply an emotion. The problem is that people don't understand that it takes more than that to make a relationship. Love without the commitment or agape love is fleeting. When the feeling sometime fades - especially in the midst of turmoil, you don't have anything concrete to hold the relationship together. When you're truly, seriously and completely dedicated to the relationship, the love you share is just the icing on the cake.

Even if you're not particularly religious, the following is true about real love:

1 Corinthians 13:4-8
4. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
6. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
7. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8. Love never fails.

If you have that, you have the real thing...

 

[jdjay]

I believe in love..It's understanding..it's respect for one another as individuals...it's making that feeling you had from that first kiss last as long as you both want it to..been with my lady 4 years...love her to life..i feel like a real man needs and want's love in his life..however the problem is alot of people both men and women have a distorted picture of what love is because of the bombardment of fantasy from movies and music..they are reaching for perfection and that does not exist

 

[Built4Life]

Personally, it is pretty silly to try to define love. No one has ever really succeeded in doing it. Usually when we make attempts to define feelings we give attributes of that feeling, but we can't give a concise definition of the feelings. How can one put those emotions in words since we do not possess the vocabulary to accomplish such a thing.

Also, love is different for everyone and concepts about love vary from culture to culture. Emotions aren't a good way to gauge a relationship. It can depend on something as simple as the weather.

Remember the same endorphins are released when eating a peice of chocolate as the euphoria you feel when you are in love.

 

[deezchocnuts4ru]

Yo. I think I looooove LilSexii's mind!!. Peace.

 

[34real]

QUOTE] what do you guys think "love" means?[/QUOTE]
I cant define what love means but I know that there isn't a word,an object or thing that means love because its an untrainable human emotion that cant be tamed,it just is.

Do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being "in love"?

Of course there a difference

What behaviors do you think 2 people who are in love should exhibit, if any?

I cant say nor can anyone else because its like a beast(love) and it changes,it has ups & downs but the love is still there,no matter what.

And does love force you to have expectations and obligations.

Do you even believe in love?[/

QUOTE]Yes to a certain point and Yes I do believe in love.

 

[Threefeetunder]

I'll chime in...

I am by no means a bibliophile or religified, although I do believe in GOD, Jesus, Holy Spirit.

Definition of love, read I Corinthians 13th chapter.

That's the true definition. I truly believe in it...

Do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being "in love"?


being "in love" you see nothing else, you do things you would not normally do just to please whomever. Being "in love gives that warm feeling inside when you hear the other persons name mentioned. Being "in love" usually means that you put that person before all others, even when you shouldn't.

Just to love someone, well... I love my mother, my father, my children, my sisters and brothers. I have just a few friends that i can say i love and will do what i can for them, if i can.

What behaviors do you think 2 people who are in love should exhibit, if any?

They should display whatever they feel, when they feel like...as long as it isnt too overtly inappropriate when in public.

And does love force you to have expectations and obligations.

It does, but by defintion, true definition, it isn't supposed to.

Do you even believe in love?

OH MOST DEF...

Three...

 

[AlexandMorgan]

Yes i believe in love.

When i love someone i look out for them and will do anything within my power to help them. I care about their emotional, physical and mental well being.

When i am in love with a woman now i want to be in her life. I want to wake up beside her and see her smile when she wakes up and sees me. I want to be able to hold her/kiss her whenever i want and let the whole world know she is mine and only mine. I want her to be happy as long as it is within my abilities/finances i will give it to her.

 

[femmenoire]

Yes i believe in love.

When i love someone i look out for them and will do anything within my power to help them. I care about their emotional, physical and mental well being.

When i am in love with a woman now i want to be in her life. I want to wake up beside her and see her smile when she wakes up and sees me. I want to be able to hold her/kiss her whenever i want and let the whole world know she is mine and only mine. I want her to be happy as long as it is within my abilities/finances i will give it to her.

It's hard to find men like you.

Men say they are in love but don't even want to be in the same room with you.

They say they are in love and will cuss you in a minute.

They say yhey love you and are up in another woman's pussy as soon as she gives the go ahead.

I personally don't believe in it anymore. I think when a man decides he is ready for love and ready to give it to a woman, it is the greatest thing on earth. But they are rarely ready and rarely that generous.

 

[Pussy Krook]

Yes i believe in love.

When i love someone i look out for them and will do anything within my power to help them. I care about their emotional, physical and mental well being.

When i am in love with a woman now i want to be in her life. I want to wake up beside her and see her smile when she wakes up and sees me. I want to be able to hold her/kiss her whenever i want and let the whole world know she is mine and only mine. I want her to be happy as long as it is within my abilities/finances i will give it to her.

End of thread.

 

[smoove2k6]

From smoove perspective....

Whats love? Love is ....

Waking up next to you in the morning and kissing you before you brush your teeth.

cutting all the other women off, (Unless your bi, then its game on)

Giving you the last bite of food on my plate (especialy when it tastes good as hell)

letting you beleave your right about some things (when we clearly know your wrong)

getting up at 3 in the morning to get you something to drink, cause your thirsty.

letting you drive my car.

actually putting up with you for that one week a month that you become the devils spawn and cant give us no pussy to make up for it.

paying any bill that has your name on it

putting you on the lease.

actually cuddling with you after sex

breaking out the chocolate sauce, handcuffs, paddle, swing, 4 cans of redbull,a bb gun, and the liquid latex (wait....thats not love, but it is one hellava good night)

 

[AlexandMorgan]

Too many people make the mistake of rushing into things nowadays. If we slowed it down a lot more and took our time and got to know the other person a lot more things would work out better for a lot more people i believe.

Making love i believe is the physical and mental demonstration of the way you feel about your partner but if you go right to the end (sex) before you get to the beginning (developing the relationship and your emotional connection) you will always feel as if you are walking backwards.

I know i am in love when i can sit down with a woman and just be intimate with her and not need to have sex with her for me to be satisfied. If i have to have sex with her for me to be satisfied that is just lust i am feeling.

 

[Harvard Blu]

...but clearly men and women see things differently especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

But I still want to know, what do you guys think "love" means?

Do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being "in love"?

What behaviors do you think 2 people who are in love should exhibit, if any?

And does love force you to have expectations and obligations.

Do you even believe in love?

There is a difference in my opinion.
Love is an emotion of extreme attachment to someone...In love is a choice, with the foundation of love, of being affectionate+intimacy+romantic involvement ie the loving acts.

Love doesn't force anything....its the person that has expectations and obligations...ones belief system + love = whatever that obligation and/expectations exist.

I do believe in love.

 

[Duece]

Dang Duece

and that aint the worst part.

 

[sakinnuso]

I personally don't believe in it anymore. I think when a man decides he is ready for love and ready to give it to a woman, it is the greatest thing on earth. But they are rarely ready and rarely that generous.

Have faith, Fem. That's the greatest sacrifice in order to receive love - faith. Don't let someone's actions take that away from you. It exists, and it's real. Some people go their whole lives without ever feeling it because they never really open themselves up to it. That said, when you're one of the few that has truly been in love - and I mean that in that deepest most spiritual bond that you can have with another person - trust me, it'll have been worth the wait.

 

[Chicutie]

...but clearly men and women see things differently especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

But I still want to know, what do you guys think "love" means?

Do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being "in love"?

What behaviors do you think 2 people who are in love should exhibit, if any?

And does love force you to have expectations and obligations.

Do you even believe in love?

I'm really not sure if I believe in love anymore. I feel like love makes people compromise when they don't want to, sets expectations that become an obligation. I think that "love" has a certain phoniness to it, that many people believe they experience it, but really it is some other emotion. I believe in the unconditional that one may have for family and God, but when it comes to experiencing love in a relationship, I'm not sure that type of love really exists anymore.

 

[DLateshow]

Loving someone is the greatest thing in the world. Having them not love you is the worst. Love is when I want to spend time with you and only you, love goes beyond sex. If I love you I can stare at you for hours while you sleep. I am willing to let every guard have down just so that you can feel what I feel. I will give all that I have willingly because I want to not because you want me to. What women need to understand is that you can't make a man love you. Either he does or he does not. It's very hard for a man to let a women into his interworld because we protect with all we have. If you have to ask a man does he love you he in most cases do not. It is not common but it is out there. For the few that find it the question does not have to be ask.

Dlateshow

 

[ladyscorpio]

Too many people make the mistake of rushing into things nowadays. If we slowed it down a lot more and took our time and got to know the other person a lot more things would work out better for a lot more people i believe.

Making love i believe is the physical and mental demonstration of the way you feel about your partner but if you go right to the end (sex) before you get to the beginning (developing the relationship and your emotional connection) you will always feel as if you are walking backwards.

I know i am in love when i can sit down with a woman and just be intimate with her and not need to have sex with her for me to be satisfied. If i have to have sex with her for me to be satisfied that is just lust i am feeling.

Woah....you from my island in truth?? A & M you are a rare gem of the island for sure. Respect bredren.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

It's hard to find men like you.

Men say they are in love but don't even want to be in the same room with you.

They say they are in love and will cuss you in a minute.

They say yhey love you and are up in another woman's pussy as soon as she gives the go ahead.

I personally don't believe in it anymore. I think when a man decides he is ready for love and ready to give it to a woman, it is the greatest thing on earth. But they are rarely ready and rarely that generous.

^^^Love in its purest form is sacrifice that considers the needs and feelings of another as well as caring about ones own emotional, psychological and physical well-being.

Love is knowing when to draw close to or distance oneself from the object of ones affection ad at its rawest, love is the pain that cuts the deepest when it's gone or lost in a careless fit of inconsideration.

I love my parents, sibling and other extended family members, I care deeply for my true friends and I have been truly in love with at least one woman from my past.

Dont know if I'll ever be that open again, but I like to believe that my heart wasn't so shattered as to be incapable of letting someone else special into it again.

Love is a beautiful thing that doesn't cheat, disrespect or devalue another persons feelings and desires.

It respects, cherishes and nurtures and never seeks to pull down, consume or destroy.

Love is not to be confused with lust. (though many do seem to think the two emotions are interchangeable)

 

[lilsexii]

More often than not, we give our love to the wrong person and it turns out badly...but that doesn't mean that LOVE itself doesn't exist...that's the only reason why I haven't given up on it. I don't believe in a single soul mate, but I believe that there are certain people who are right for you mentally, spiritually and physically. It wouldn't make sense if everyone you met was the "ONE" - how else could you recognize the right thing if you hadn't experienced the wrong thing? And shouldn't there be more bad experiences than good ones? If they were ALL good, you wouldn't be single.

But when it doesn't work out - all that means is that particular person just wasn't for you. Get past it and keep it moving. Use common sense, but judge each relationship by its own merits...don't sabotage a new good thing because you're still pissed about an old bad thing.

 

[sexynbi976]

I think loving someone refers to the amount of empathy you feel for them. Being IN love with someone refers to how much you're willing to sacrifice for that person.

That's really what love is, in my opinion: Your willingness of selflessness for another person. Even TRUST, i.e., the willingness to let your guards down and allow another person to see into the 'real' you requires a certain amount of you being less selfish and allowing someone the inconvenience of entering your space. It's uncomfortable, it's difficult, it's time consuming - and most people don't have time for it and settle for emotionless lust, comfort with the familiar, or some approximation in-between.

Co-sign...

 

[blackmouth]

Love is an extension of superficial emotions and personal preferences. Love only exists for some who are foolish enough to trust it and believe and those who they‘ve been lucky enough to experience it. Love is a small immature emotion that is dictated by the fad of the day. If people would learn this we could live in a more peaceful world, but people don't learn this, they chase a shooting star that they'll never reach, sit by a phone waiting for a ring that will never come, cry themselves to sleep, and go through life like zombie until they've descended into a reprobated mind and began to act illogically and eventually bizarre and violent.

yeah, that about sums it up. folks do tend to go crazy with the whole "being in love" thing.

Yes i believe in love.

When i love someone i look out for them and will do anything within my power to help them. I care about their emotional, physical and mental well being.

When i am in love with a woman now i want to be in her life. I want to wake up beside her and see her smile when she wakes up and sees me. I want to be able to hold her/kiss her whenever i want and let the whole world know she is mine and only mine. I want her to be happy as long as it is within my abilities/finances i will give it to her.

nice move, player, i ain't mad at ya. but i pray that you NEVER catch her doing anything wrong to hurt you. those that love deep, tend to hate deep.

you come home and find another nucca fucking, you're gonna skin the bitch.

Too many people make the mistake of rushing into things nowadays. If we slowed it down a lot more and took our time and got to know the other person a lot more things would work out better for a lot more people i believe.

Making love i believe is the physical and mental demonstration of the way you feel about your partner but if you go right to the end (sex) before you get to the beginning (developing the relationship and your emotional connection) you will always feel as if you are walking backwards.

I know i am in love when i can sit down with a woman and just be intimate with her and not need to have sex with her for me to be satisfied. If i have to have sex with her for me to be satisfied that is just lust i am feeling.

you should write for harlequinn romance novels.

women like to hear that you can be intimate and NOT fuck them, but you'd better fuck them.

btw, i'm an emotionless robot that is incapable of 'falling' in love. i'd rather walk logically into a good situation (eyes wide open) than to 'fall' into anything.

 

[mr_good_wood]

I think that love is a combination between obsession, lust, fear, and ignorance. I have yet to find true unconditional love, but when I do i'll let my wife know.

 

[lilsexii]

Yo. I think I looooove LilSexii's mind!!. Peace.

Ooooohhh.....thank u baby, that's the best kind of foreplay

 

[0utsyder]

...but clearly men and women see things differently especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

But I still want to know, what do you guys think "love" means?

Do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being "in love"?

What behaviors do you think 2 people who are in love should exhibit, if any?

And does love force you to have expectations and obligations.

Do you even believe in love?

I think love is generally an action, feeling and the highest level understanding. I can't tell a woman a bunch of times that I love them just because the word is so easily said nowadays. Every now and then, and if you can't tell by my actions how I feel then you don't "understand" me. That is just it you can't love someone if you don't understand them, how they are, their fears and dreams. To understand why they are and except them as they are is the highest form of love to me.

Loving someone and being in love is very different just depends on the person. Publicly loving someone a perversion of love. Which is why everyone uses the word so loosely, why divorce rate is so high, why people express themselves through abuse.

Behaviors of two people in love... People are to random and or stupid to say what is expected.

Love doesn't force you to have expectations or obligations, the relationship does

"Do you even believe in love?" Two quotes "I don't believe in GOD but I am afraid of him" -Usual Suspects and "I am deathly afraid of Love" -Me. Afraid of love in the sense what people will do in the name of it, kill, rape, pillage etc, etc...

 

[BigATLslim]

Femme, "love" is seen and not heard. Being "in love," in my humble opinion, is a misnomer for INfatuation. The man or woman does not posses control of their own feelings and emotions which lead to character traits, when things go south, that neither partner wants to see. I believe in love and I know love is real. It's just, in this day and age, harder to define because the culture uses it so loosley. Love is often lust and in love is often irrational. If I am with you, you would never have to ask if I love you...you should see it in everythig I do concerning you. It's an action verb, period.

 

[Izayoi]

Wow, there's a lot of woundedness in this thread and also some very illuminating answers. Great question Femme.

I'm on board with lilsexii (yes, she's so wise! I too love your mind ) and Sakinnuso and AlexandMorgan.

Swat, we touched this before in another thread. You are like me (or like I was) being vulnerable and getting hurt is to be avoided at all costs.
There's a teaching about suffering in some eastern philosophy. Suffering is a part of life, but that's not to make your life gloomy rather to soften you to be a more compassionate and gracious person and prevent you from holding on too tightly to expectations (of others or ourselves) that are often born of a need to nurse our fragile egos.

Love is about freedom imo. Freedom to value the moments for what is, and not feeling bitter when its time to let go. There will always be a time whether death or just change to let go.

Soul mate- definitely believe we have many all over the world in different ways not limited just to "romantic" love. I believe in reincarnation so the idea of soul mate has a different meaning to me. I know my ex is one of mine, just not in the way we thought it should be!

I don't have time to link right now, but Lee has a very good theory about the different types of love.

C/S lilsexii! Amen, girl!

More often than not, we give our love to the wrong person and it turns out badly...but that doesn't mean that LOVE itself doesn't exist...that's the only reason why I haven't given up on it. I don't believe in a single soul mate, but I believe that there are certain people who are right for you mentally, spiritually and physically. It wouldn't make sense if everyone you met was the "ONE" - how else could you recognize the right thing if you hadn't experienced the wrong thing? And shouldn't there be more bad experiences than good ones? If they were ALL good, you wouldn't be single.

But when it doesn't work out - all that means is that particular person just wasn't for you. Get past it and keep it moving. Use common sense, but judge each relationship by its own merits...don't sabotage a new good thing because you're still pissed about an old bad thing.

 

[UnoBetter2]

...but clearly men and women see things differently especially when it comes to matters of the heart.


But I still want to know, what do you guys think "love" means?

Do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being "in love"?

What behaviors do you think 2 people who are in love should exhibit, if any?

And does love force you to have expectations and obligations.

Do you even believe in love?

Deep Thread Femme!

I would say that when it comes to matters of the heart most men are the same as women. We just tend not to let it show for fear of appearing weak. It's the ego that's the problem and you ladies know as well as I do that we have very large ego's.

What Does Love Mean?
Love is patient, Love is kind, Love says no matter what I'm here for you! Love say's whether you get fat, broke or disabled, I still Love you. Love not only takes the time but makes the time to make sure you have the time you need to be all that you can be. Love says if your down no matter how down I may feel I will find a way to bring you up and in turn lift us both to a higher level. Love always see's the best and when the worse is evident finds a way to help you become better and in turn builds you without braking you. Love holds and never lets go no matter how prickly the thorns, that the rose he holds will bloom, blossom and prosper. Love lays a foundation that is stable, rich, and fertile. In short Love is Unconditional!

Is there a difference between loving someone and being in Love?
There are many types of love. A love a brother has for a sister or a mother for son, a father for a daughter, this love is family love. Then theres love of friends and those we are close too. But, personally I've found that theres a love that still cares but is not a passionate love. Passionate love is a love that comes with complications and in some cases pain. Real passionate love is love that can hurt to the core but, still you follow through and love anyway. I would say that being truly in love means that I do it passionatly! But if I just love you then when the pain starts I gotta go because the passion is not there!

What behaviors do you think 2 people who are in love should exhibit, if any?
I think I've answered this one already.

And does love force you to have expectations and obligations.
To Love is to love without expectations always feeling obligated to make sure the one whom your love is poured on is satisfied. Although this only works if both parties in the relationship are doing the same. This way I never want for nothing because giving is more important than getting. It's akin to filling a glass full of water and pouring it out. I'm always pouring into you out of my glass because you're always filling me out of yours. This way we are never empty only full-filled.

Do you believe in love?I believe in love, yes but, it must believe in me. Many people can stand to be loved in this fashion but, question is, can we return this love in the same way.

 

[Legrand]

...but clearly men and women see things differently especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

But I still want to know, what do you guys think "love" means?

Do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being "in love"?

What behaviors do you think 2 people who are in love should exhibit, if any?

And does love force you to have expectations and obligations.

Do you even believe in love?

I Can't Say That I Know What It Is To Be In Love With A Woman Because I Don't Think I Ever Was In Love With One But I Do Think That There Were Woman Who Were In Love With Me.When Someone Loves You Its Not Something That They Have To Tell You In Order For You To Know That They Love You.I Believe That Love Has To Do With Honoring And Respecting Your Lover.The Love That A Person Has For You Manifests Through There Actions.When A Person Thinks About Your Response Before They Make Decisions ,Or Is Honest When They Are Asked Questions That Might Compromise The Relationship, This Shows That The Person Loves And Respects There Mate. When People Lie To There Mates I Have To Say That There Is A limit To There Love Because When You Lie To A person You Don't Give Them The Free Will To Make Decions Based On Factual Information.When You Love Someone I Believe That You Should Want ThemTo Be Happy Even If It Means Not Being With You.
Come On Sis.Us Brothas Have Emotions To Why Would'nt We Want Respond On Such A Huge Topic Like Love?

 

[Lick]

...but clearly men and women see things differently especially when it comes to matters of the heart.


But I still want to know, what do you guys think "love" means?

I had to give this some time before I answer your questions… As you know my lady is in London right now and I want my answers to true from my heart… This is what I have learned over the years and know what is true for me, you have to be unconditional with the love you have for your partner. For me it must be absolute and unrestricted if you truly love that person… Trust is key and you must be confident in it. You picked each other out of everyone else on this Earth… Anything/one else was there for your enjoyment and enchantment to this journey that the two of you are sharing.

Do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being "in love"?

Hell yeah… I love all of the women that I have had sex/fucked/sucked/kissed and wanted to have sex, etc. However, I am in love with my wife. I made sure I did NOT have ANY children with all before her.

What behaviors do you think 2 people who are in love should exhibit, if any?

That depends… I treat everything as business… My life, relationships with my wife and kids… It is a business and if I do not receive what I feel I should I take it to the parties or party and if I still do not receive what I should take place then I do what is mandatory to get the job done.

And does love force you to have expectations and obligations.

Yes! I am the man and it is my job to provide and protect.

Do you even believe in love?

Yes. Love doesn’t love anyone. People can love and must believe in love for it to work… If not then don’t waste your time. Life is too short for that!

 

[Thick Johnson]

Some women have a fantasy image of what love is and once that's shattered
they are like fuck love all together.

Poor babies.

Poor choices

You shoudla picked the darkskin nappy head ass African looking nigga like me.

Life is like a game of musical chairs.

Don't you be the one left standing looking stupid.

Bitter.

 

[Thick Johnson]

Love is knowing your baby would beat the ambulance to the hospital when ur hurt.

If you aint lovable you need to stop wasting your fucking time looking for love.

Just get as many nutts as you can and stop frustrating and disappointing yourself.

 

[Thick Johnson]

Damn I just noticed im on the ladies side.


Merry Christmas Ladies!!!!!!

 

[OakLane22]

this question alone is too deep for most men as it requires us to dig deep into our feeling and emotions. You know I love you because i show you everyday. all that i do for you, all that i sacrafice. I may not say but i try to show it.

being in love. i can only be in love with my daughters as that is unconditional.

everyones love has conditions therefore in my opinion you can not be in love with your mate.

It is very rare that we as people experience that Agape love.

 

[O.G BAMM]

A rough draft of a blog I wrote on the subject.(Colin Powell Approved).


Love

A subject of much controversy throughout time. I must say that all my life I have had many loved-ones throughout my travels. I have found most human beings exist in a state of love when it is something they are receiving during an exchange of daily activities. I have found,after close observation, that most love is conditional and subject to change in a whim. The human ego is the greatest culprit in preventing people from experiencing true,unconditional love. Its just that most people lack the maturity to see outside of themselves and become considerate and compassionate towards others. We often become complacent and dismal as the novelty of our new found love wears off. I feel if one could be open to the idea of continued spiritual growth there wouldn't be so much failure in romantic relationships. Perhaps if we would use more of our faculties when making these life decisions(heart,mind and body), and stop blaming others for our misfortunes,the amount of situations we end up in would decline. I feel that maybe we have to regard all others with the same unconditional divine love we would like to attract into our lives.
"If you want to change the world become the change in the world".

 

[Smut_Marley]

yeah...I believe in love. Most people can't comprehend love so they don't believe in it. The reason most can't is because with love one has to be in the state of ultimate vulnerability and complete courage. Who want to be in that state, most can't bear their all to a boyfriend/girlfriend. I see all the time, people develop some self-image when their in different relationships. You have to bear your soul (ultimate vulnerability) in the relationship to ever discover love and that takes complete courage.

Yes, theirs different forms of love. Loving someone would be under family/friends. And of course being love could mean two things such as in a relationship between a man and women or to live love (Like the representation of Jesus in the Gospel of John).

People have murdered love and replaced it with objectification and rather satify their ego. But love will return again the only question is will we kill it to continue with what we know...peace